Announcing your orgasm

[Sundazzled]

When receiving oral sex, do you tell your partner that you're about to cum?

In my limited experience giving blowjobs, I've discovered that there appear to be two groups of guys; those who announce that they're about to cum, and those that just orgasm without any advance verbal warning. I guess I prefer guys who will excitedly gasp "Fuck, yeah, I'm gonna cum" or words to that effect a few seconds before they go over the edge. This gives me the option to pull away, or prepare to receive that first blast of semen at the back of my throat.

Fortunately, the majority of guys I've brought off orally -- seven or eight in all -- tend to vocally telegraph their orgasms, although I'm not sure if this is a matter of courtesy, or just an involuntary exclamation of pleasure. Indeed, there are certain physical signs that tell me a guy is nearing the brink of orgasm, but these tend to be less reliable and harder to read than the obligatory "Oh, god, here I come" pronouncement just before the critical moment. I have on at least three occasions been taken by surprise.

Which are you, or which do you prefer? If you announce you're about to cum, is it a matter of courtesy, or an involuntary exclamation of joy?

[19biman61]

I let him know that I'm about to cum out of courtesy and I appreciate the same. If he asks during the blowjob if I swallow (I usually do) then it's not a big deal if he doesn't announce it, though most guys still do.

[KDaddy23]

I always announce that I'm about to cum and thanks to girls "beating" this courtesy into my head (and the heads of other guys who failed to warn them). I... do it out of habit even when being sucked off by someone I know wants my cum in their mouth. Like, I'll tell my lady I'm about to cum and she has stopped long enough to say, "Yeah, I know..."

[Jazminedress]

its always polite to announce

[Sundazzled]

One divorced fellow I briefly played with, Greg, would never make an announcement before cumming. I suspect that was all a part of his plan to keep me from pulling away at the critical moment. I could tell when he was close because his ball sack would draw up tight, his breathing would become ragged, and he'd start bucking his hips slightly. However, the first sign that he was actually orgasming was when his cock would go super-rigid and begin pulsing and throbbing. By then, however, I already had several jets of his semen in my mouth. Greg would always claim that he was lost in the moment, or that his orgasm arrived so suddenly that he didn't have time to warn me. Come on, no guy has that much of a hair trigger! In reality, I think cumming in my mouth was just a part of Greg's fantasy, and I guess I indulged him because he was, in fact, a pretty intuitive sex partner.

Okay, I'll concede not knowing when he was going to go off on my mouth made sucking him kind of an adventure ... kind of like playing Russian Roulette, ya know. Just the same, I'd have preferred a courtesy announcement.

[biguycancun]

Common courtesy to announce it.

[Blondeblowjob7]

I’m a male cocksucker. As a cocksucker I strongly prefer when a feeder announces that he is getting close to cumming. First of all, as a cocksucker having my feeder announce that he’s getting close to achieving his orgasm lets me know that I need to change the pace of the blowjob I’m giving. I need to increase my suction on the penis, and to rapidly bob my head up and down my feeder’s penis as he approaches his orgasm, which most men love when receiving a blowjob. Now most the time as a cocksucker it’s obvious to me that a feeder is getting close to cumming, because his penis noticeably becomes harder in my mouth. Many of my feeders over the years prefer to really fuck my mouth hard as they get close to cumming. Letting me know that I need to prepare myself for a harder and more forceful mouth fucking is always a nice courtesy towards your cocksucker.

[cornholejoe]

like to let a man or woman know

[Sundazzled]

Yes, judging from your description of events immediately preceding orgasm, you're obviously experienced in this area. Most of the guys on whom I've performed oral sex tend to buck their hips vigorously in the last 30 seconds or so before orgasming. This seems particularly true when they're in a standing position and I'm kneeling before them. In the last few seconds before cumming, their cocks generally become very rigid, then start pulsing rapidly as their orgasm overtakes them. By that point, however, it's usually too late to pull away.

[Jozyxt]

I moan and mutter a lot and there is no doubt about it for me. I do prefer it when a guy I'm sucking makes it clear so I can moan to encourage him and get ready to slow down and not over stimulate his dick. It is also easier to savor his cum.

[querty]

My partners know when I am getting close - I start to moan and breath differently, and my physical movements (which depend on the position) become more deliberate, more powerful, or pronounced. Then....watch out! I am blessed with really really strong orgasms, very physical. For new partners I will typically warn them so they are not taken off guard. So, he/she know what's cumming.

Would I want a warning? I wouldn't mind either way. But if I had to pick, let me know so I can have fun with it vs just reacting to it.

That said...... I rarely cum from oral.

[Lemonade1184]

I think it’s a nice courtesy. That said I usually give a head tap or pull their ear as a sign. I’m not a porn star so I don’t need to be grunting and saying foul stuff haha

[Tj726guy]

I had only ever cum from oral a couple of times before id met my wife. She loves sucking til i cum, and swallows. Ill always tell her so she has the option...

[dicktrobing]

Yes, I try to let the person giving me a BJ that I'm close to cuming, they might want tease / edge me

I also like to know when giving a BJ that he is close to cuming I might want to tease / edge him

[Sundazzled]

Oddly, I've never bred sucked to completion by another guy. I tend to cum sooner than I want when receiving oral sex
But, over the years, I've received plenty of blowjobs from women. When I sense my orgasm is imminent, I'll generally say, "You'd better stop now!" Fortunately, most women will go right on sucking til I cum. I truly love coming in a woman's mouth. I find it incredibly intimate act. There's something psychologically gratifying about a woman accepting the gift of my semen and taking it into her body.

[Warmnsalty]

When a girl is sucking me off I always announce, so few women like cum in their mouth. With guys I almost never do. Most guys can tell, I know I can when I'm sucking cock. The non verbal clues are a total turn on. Breathing chance, balls tighten... mmmm then the release and that delicious seed goes into my mouth.

[wifekinky4husband]

In our group I already know the answer, the men always let us know. At some level it is a curtesy, it is how our men are but as I took this question a step further everyone agreed it is extremely stimulating for us all to hear, "I about to cum. I'M CUMMING! UUUUUUHHHHH!" Now, I have been paying attention to when others are cumming while I am sucking and oh my word I had no idea how much it turns me on to hear it (I did but I didn't if that makes sense). It creates even more of a yearning for the guy I am sucking to explode in my mouth. I didn't know all that was working hand in hand. What a nice discovery. Thanks Sundazzled.

[Piobear]

I do. Not everyone enjoys swallowing like I do. It's courteous.

[csreef]

Its either Oh Godddd, or various grunts and growls.