querty
May 16, 2023, 4:01 PM
Is there such a thing as gay sex?
Over the years I have had a few fuck buddy dudes, either as part of a couple of one on one sorta thing. The 'Bi sex' was (mostly) good, and fun, and erotic, especially since it wasn't that often, so it was more of a kinky 'event' on the down low. Last year or so ago, I reconnected with the guy half of a couple from our swinger days. The wife and I had never played with them as a couple (too bad to cause his wife is really sexy). Somehow through another Swinger Girl Friend I learned that he was Bi Curious with just a little experience. I forget the details of how we got in touch, but we did and we went for it. He was nervous about it cause it was his first 1:1 with a guy (not mine though). It was a fun experience for us both and we agreed to get together again as soon as we could. It's a little difficult because his wife doesn't know he is Bi, and my wife knows I am but doesn't like it and doesn't want to hear about it. My journey with the wife and the growth of my Bi side is for another post, probably longer than this one.
Anyway, we have gotten together three or four times now, I'll skip the first two as they were explorative for us both. Before, it was as I said above fun and erotic (I love giving head), but it was still a bit reserved on his part and he struggled with staying hard. There wasn't passion connected with it, not alot of body contact, no kissing. But... the last two times, holy shit. Unlike any sex I've had with a guy before.
So about two months ago we get together for I think our 3rd time and it was GOOD sex. Passionate, relaxed, go with the flow. We experimented with kissing (he had never kissed a guy before). Lots of oral and I topped him beautifully, so he said over and over. Now I have topped guys before, but it was just something to do that was more like returning the favor. But this time, I was fucking him in a much different way, MUCH more like I would fuck a woman. Were we making love? .......No. I make love to my wife and my GF. With women other than my wife it's more than just sex, but it's not making love.
So then we got together again last weekend, and blew the roof off of it. Lots of body contact, running our hands over each other (we are both very fit), the oral sex was passionate, the fucking was passionate, we were both relaxed. We took short breaks and chatted. Some of it might have been the jean skirt I was wearing, or the black mini dress (he loves that). :)
On the ride home I thought to myself, Man o Man that was amazing gay sex! And then I thought, why does it need to be categorized as Gay Sex, and not just Great Sex. Why must I frame it up around the gender of the person I had sex with. I'm not commenting on doing away with pronouns, stripping away gender identifciation, etc etc. or any of that. But, do I need to differentiate?
So did I have Gay Sex, or just great sex. When my wife and I get together, does it have to be "Straight Sex", or just great sex, or passionate sex, etc.
Anyway, there you have it.
Over the years I have had a few fuck buddy dudes, either as part of a couple of one on one sorta thing. The 'Bi sex' was (mostly) good, and fun, and erotic, especially since it wasn't that often, so it was more of a kinky 'event' on the down low. Last year or so ago, I reconnected with the guy half of a couple from our swinger days. The wife and I had never played with them as a couple (too bad to cause his wife is really sexy). Somehow through another Swinger Girl Friend I learned that he was Bi Curious with just a little experience. I forget the details of how we got in touch, but we did and we went for it. He was nervous about it cause it was his first 1:1 with a guy (not mine though). It was a fun experience for us both and we agreed to get together again as soon as we could. It's a little difficult because his wife doesn't know he is Bi, and my wife knows I am but doesn't like it and doesn't want to hear about it. My journey with the wife and the growth of my Bi side is for another post, probably longer than this one.
Anyway, we have gotten together three or four times now, I'll skip the first two as they were explorative for us both. Before, it was as I said above fun and erotic (I love giving head), but it was still a bit reserved on his part and he struggled with staying hard. There wasn't passion connected with it, not alot of body contact, no kissing. But... the last two times, holy shit. Unlike any sex I've had with a guy before.
So about two months ago we get together for I think our 3rd time and it was GOOD sex. Passionate, relaxed, go with the flow. We experimented with kissing (he had never kissed a guy before). Lots of oral and I topped him beautifully, so he said over and over. Now I have topped guys before, but it was just something to do that was more like returning the favor. But this time, I was fucking him in a much different way, MUCH more like I would fuck a woman. Were we making love? .......No. I make love to my wife and my GF. With women other than my wife it's more than just sex, but it's not making love.
So then we got together again last weekend, and blew the roof off of it. Lots of body contact, running our hands over each other (we are both very fit), the oral sex was passionate, the fucking was passionate, we were both relaxed. We took short breaks and chatted. Some of it might have been the jean skirt I was wearing, or the black mini dress (he loves that). :)
On the ride home I thought to myself, Man o Man that was amazing gay sex! And then I thought, why does it need to be categorized as Gay Sex, and not just Great Sex. Why must I frame it up around the gender of the person I had sex with. I'm not commenting on doing away with pronouns, stripping away gender identifciation, etc etc. or any of that. But, do I need to differentiate?
So did I have Gay Sex, or just great sex. When my wife and I get together, does it have to be "Straight Sex", or just great sex, or passionate sex, etc.
Anyway, there you have it.