Does fingering indicate he d like penetrate me?

[stephmtl]

Just looking for a consensus. Bi male here. Recently had the pleasure of finding a safe local guy as a bj bud and we have given each other head a few times now. Last session he encouraged me to get on top in a 69 and he kept inching his finger to my butt. Felt great but i wasn't ready for that so just stopped him. I ve never done anal. But could be open to it. Does trying to put your finger in a person indicate you re interested to fuck them? I've never really felt that urge... So i m not sure. What do people think? Thanks for any input...

[KDaddy23]

Not always and some find it "kinky" to give a guy "da finger" but that depends on how the guy is going to react and since a lot of guys don't like having their hole messed with, at best, it's tempting to finger a guy and wonder what it would be like to slide their dick in there - but for some, it's a thought that never gets acted on... but you never know. I've been with guys who "out of the blue" gets to either rubbing my hole or trying to stuff a dry finger in there and I've said, "If you're gonna do that, you're gonna need some spit or something..." and I don't mind being finger-fucked as long as the guy isn't trying to put his whole hand in there or is being rough.

I've had some guys do it and, I'd guess, because I didn't pitch a bitch about it, now they want to try to fuck me and, well, okay or, depending on the guy, nope - not feeling that with you. If you really want to know, ask him if he's thinking about fucking you. Then it's up to you to decide if you wanna give it a shot or not. But sometimes, he just wants to finger you and nothing more than that.

[cornholejoe]

if hes using lube chances are he wanting yo fuck you in the ass if not just seeing how you react

[Jozyxt]

Maybe. Ask him. Good sex requires good communication that results in trust.

I have a gay male friend that gives wonderful PSpot massages. He has never asked to fuck me and I doubt he would if I asked him as he has told me he is a pure bottom.

So maybe you will enjoy being fingered more if you can trust him not to escalate it to fucking. Or establish that you will ask him to fuck you when you feel like it.

[IncuBI slut]

In my experiance, usually a finger in my asshole signals a direct interest in penitration (fucking) and is "testing the waters" or just getting my hole warmed up and lubed up.

Personally I find getting fingered while I'm sucking cock gets me in a really slutty state of mind, it's fucking hot.

[stephmtl]

Thanks for replies all! Good points. It has been so good to finally have a steady bj bud that I'm trying to keep things uncomplicated. Communication hasn't always been ready to get to this point. Thanks for the feedback!

[1funguy]

Been there, have had that done. Right when I was getting into a regular partner. He started without lube. It's not the best feeling, so I said to him "If you're going to do that we have got to have lube" Immediately he opened a drawer and there was lube. I told him to slow down, I'm willing for about anything you want to try as long as there is no pain. From there he gave me a prostate massage that blew cum and my mind. It turned out to be a very long term affair. Jozyxt and KDaddy23 are right communication is vital to having good sex.

[Tight1-4u]

in my experience when a guy starts to finger me while I suck him he is doing a few things.. he is first getting me very sexually warmed up.. secondly he is sending me a message that he wants and intends to fuck me.. thirdly he is preparing my pussy for penetration.. he is opening up my pussy, stretching things a little to ensure that I am ready for his impalement of my pussy.. and yes could be starting the lubricant process..
all I know is when this happens I get heated up and start to moan and involuntarily start to move my hips and pushing back agents his advance..

[dicktrobing]

Just looking for a consensus. Bi male here. Recently had the pleasure of finding a safe local guy as a bj bud and we have given each other head a few times now. Last session he encouraged me to get on top in a 69 and he kept inching his finger to my butt. Felt great but i wasn't ready for that so just stopped him. I ve never done anal. But could be open to it. Does trying to put your finger in a person indicate you re interested to fuck them? I've never really felt that urge... So i m not sure. What do people think? Thanks for any input...

Fingering your butt is not an indicator he wants to fuck you; he probably knows where the prostate is a guys 'G spot' :oh: stimulating it should lead to a very intense orgasm.

If you are interested in being fucked raise the subject, if he's not keen don't make a big deal of it; just enjoy the blow jobs. You could consider adding toys to the play butt he may enjoy fingering a butt

[monaohio]

if a guy fingers my hole i want his cock in my hole breeding me

[KDaddy23]

I might finger a guy... doesn't mean I wanna fuck him.

[ajr12002]

In my experience it has been 75/25. 75 % wanting to fuck, 25% just playing. I get very aroused and slutty when my ass gets fingered

[stevelover]

I really like fingering and fucking butts! If the guy is me the answer is by default a resounding YES!!

[MidTownBob]

Actually, in my case it’s because I want to swallow a big load (I’m a bottom). Typically, what I’ll do is rim the other guy and then use the saliva as a lubricant to finger his ass and massage his prostate. This inevitably leads to an extra happy ending.

[hung4you]

When my guy fingers me it means fuck time.

[bnicks122016]

While I like ass play, when a finger starts in my butt a cock is usually not long to follow

[biguycancun]

I figure if he's playing with my hole he's interested. If he actually fingers me, he wants to fuck me. I'll push back and flex in an attempt to trap his finger and eventually, if nothing has progressed, I'll either ask if he wants to fuck me, or better yet just tell him I want to be fucked. There's nothing wrong with communicating your desires.

[stonebow]

That was how I came to take my first cock in my ass. My lady and I were in a four-way with another couple and as he's sucking me and I'm.....I think.... eating his girl's pussy I feel his finger start to probe my bunghole. I asked him straight out if he wanted to fuck me and, well.....the rest you can imagine. It's a cherished memory.

[Tight1-4u]

​yes it dose mean he wants to

[KDaddy23]

Well, Tight1-4u, if that's what it means, I know a lot of guys who... didn't get the email about it. If that were really "true," then I seriously missed out on a lot of times being fucked and "should have insisted" that they fuck me. I've fingered a lot of asses... and without a single thought about replacing my fingers with my dick so this is one of those "perspective" kind of things and more so if and when one is of a mind that if their hole gets fingered, it's in preparation of being fucked and that's what they want to happen and, I think, if they let it be known that they want to be fucked.

I could be wrong...

[Tight1-4u]

KD: I agree and yes I understand that you have done just as you have said.. I am just saying that from my experience and I am sure that things in my world are a bit different.. I would say that I get fingered a lot and yes it always leads or means that I am getting fucked.. well I am sure that there have been a handful of times that it didn’t happen do to putting a stop to things or them getting cold feet.. but I would say that 99.9% of the times I have been fingered that is where it lead.. now I also agree that communication is key.. now that doesn’t always mean the spoken word.. body language goes a long way too.. as in if someone starts fingering me while I suck them I will be moaning and most assuredly start grinding my hips at those fingers.. so ya sending the message physically.. so I am sure that I play a big part in it too.. so yes I can agree with you my friend