A question for Married "Mostly Gay"

[Lorcan]

This is something that is brought up too often in my conversations with Gays and Lesbians. I am not "mostly gay", so i can only speculate. For people who feel that they are "mostly gay; and only incidentally straight"(Kinsey 5), and married to the other sex, and choose not to end the marriage: Why do you choose to be married?

This is so i can stop speculating, and have real answers from real Kinsey 5's.
Don't speculate.

[Long Duck Dong]

the kinsey scale is about as accurate as a male penis meter made for males lol

seriously, the kinsey scale is biased and not a true indication of the true facts

I do know a few couples that can and do identify as mainly gay, yet they are married to a partner of the opposite sex, and I contacted one about your post
they replied that they love each other and accept the others sexuality. and its a non issue.... they sleep in the same bed, tho sex is not really part of there marriage.... but the sex part is only a small part of the whole picture and their love for each other is boundless
the reason they chose to marry, is to cement that love in the same way a heterosexual / bi / lesbian couple, marry

the same thing can be said about bisexuals..... why get married if they know that they need to have sexual relationships with others ???? and the answer is the same... its called love.... the love of somebody that fills you in a way that sexual satisfaction can't

[DiamondDog]

the kinsey scale is about as accurate as a male penis meter made for males lol

seriously, the kinsey scale is biased and not a true indication of the true facts

I do know a few couples that can and do identify as mainly gay, yet they are married to a partner of the opposite sex, and I contacted one about your post
they replied that they love each other and accept the others sexuality. and its a non issue.... they sleep in the same bed, tho sex is not really part of there marriage.... but the sex part is only a small part of the whole picture and their love for each other is boundless
the reason they chose to marry, is to cement that love in the same way a heterosexual / bi / lesbian couple, marry

the same thing can be said about bisexuals..... why get married if they know that they need to have sexual relationships with others ???? and the answer is the same... its called love.... the love of somebody that fills you in a way that sexual satisfaction can't
Agreed.

I think that the ratios (i.e. I've seen people online and friends of mine describe themselves as 80% gay or 80% het) are BS because ok I don't even know how you'd figure that out about yourself, and I can't think about something so complex as my own sexuality, let alone someone else's in ratios/percents or a number on a scale.

For example one of my good friends talked about being "bisexual but 80% gay" but then he told me how he really misses sex with women and wishes that he'd married an ex girlfriend of his and had kids with her instead of marrying a man. This isn't to say that he doesn't love his bisexual husband but if he could do it all over again he'd have married a bisexual ex girlfriend of his instead.

I also see the Kinsey scale as being outdated/biased, and I don't prescribe to it since I've been all over it with different people. I've actually read the study and may post the scale on here to show how outdated it is. This isn't to discount the study which I see the reasons why it needed to be done and published but more to show how you can't really fit all of human sexuality into 7 categories.

[Lorcan]

:flag1: Thank you for your reponses. I liked them... especially these two blurbs:



they replied that they love each other and accept the others sexuality. and its a non issue.... they sleep in the same bed, tho sex is not really part of there marriage.... but the sex part is only a small part of the whole picture and their love for each other is boundless
the reason they chose to marry, is to cement that love in the same way a heterosexual / bi / lesbian couple, marry


For example one of my good friends talked about being "bisexual but 80% gay" but then he told me how he really misses sex with women and wishes that he'd married an ex girlfriend of his and had kids with her instead of marrying a man. This isn't to say that he doesn't love his bisexual husband but if he could do it all over again he'd have married a bisexual ex girlfriend of his instead.
And this speculation was good too:

why get married if they know that they need to have sexual relationships with others ???? and the answer is the same... its called love.... the love of somebody that fills you in a way that sexual satisfaction can't

I do realise that the kinsey scale rolls all kinds of attraction into one number. If you want to you can ignore the fact that i said "Kinsey". I was just using another way of describing "mostly gay". And that, i think, you can tell about yourself.

[bigregory]

Its all about love.
I love my wife and have sex with men.
I also love to have sex with my wife.
Hell some times i masturbate.
But its the love that keeps us together..

[innaminka]

Its all about love.
I love my wife and have sex with men.
I also love to have sex with my wife.
Hell some times i masturbate.
But its the love that keeps us together..

Its all about love.
I love my husband and have sex with women.
I also have sex with my husband.
Hell sometimes I masturbate :eek:
But its the love that keeps us together.

Thank you Gregory. Perfectly put. :bibounce: