cyber and the chatroom

[Long Duck Dong]

i love the chatroom, its awesome, full of intelligent, friendly, warm and loving people..... :bigrin: :bigrin: :bigrin: :bigrin:

but there is one element of the chatroom that annoys me.....and despite drews best efforts.... we have no * ignorance * filter lol

so I have decided that I want a *Ignorance * filter that automatically blocks people that suffer from C.I.S... Chatroom Ignorance Syndrome ...

C.I.S sufferers are easy to notice.... they are the people that enter the room, sit in the corner like a week old turd and you are posting the full and well thought out theory of maximum sexual attraction for bisexuals,
your perfectly peaceful state of mind have just been disturbed by a uninvited PM.... you stop doing your einstein impersonation, long enuf to open the PM window and see the words * wanna cyber ??? *... so you promptly block the pm sender and shut down the pm window....and try to continue to dazzle the whole site with your intelligent words, only to find that to your horror, your next words are * fuck, i hate C.I.S people *

honestly.... I don't mind PM's.... I have had some of the best intelligent chats thru PM.....met some brillant people..... and sadly noticed that there are a number of C.I.S sufferers that think that the need for them to wank over words in the PM window, far outweights the rights of the reciever of the pm, for a little respect, chatroom manners and a politely words * may I PM you please *

after a few well placed and rudely explicit words to the C.I.S suffer that would make the sites worst swearer, cringe and faint with shock....you find that you have managed to offend the other 99% of people in the room with your language.... meanwhile the C.I.S sufferer is busy bruising their knuckles on the keyboard as they try to place their feet on their desk and reach orgasm in a record time

sighs... I know drew has done as much as he possibly can to keep the sex outta the main room.....and I understand the fact that he is not able to provide a ignorance filter, that stops people from entering the chatroom until they have learnt the meanings of the words * please * and * thank you *

so in future, if you hear a rude mouthful of words from me, its generally cos I have just recieved my 5 th PM for cyber in the same amount of minutes... and it has frustrated my attempts to dazzle the site of my 300 point IQ level ( said 300 points is actually the IQ level of my masculine and feminine sides, combined but please, feel free to think that I am actually albert einsteins love child with his gay bf ) :tong: :tong:

[Just_Gem]

:mad: DITTO!!!!! And also guys that figure just cause a fem comes in that automatically means she wants to cyber and PM's them. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

I did finally figure out how to block that - I just go under settings - hit the block PM box then hit apply and voila - no more unapproved PM'S :bigrin: Though if I turn it off so I can talk to someone in a private chat I still have to put up with those unsolicited and unappoved ones. :eek2: I still haven't figured out how to fix that problem. :(

Gem :bibounce:

[spirit_dreamer07]

:mad: DITTO!!!!! And also guys that figure just cause a fem comes in that automatically means she wants to cyber and PM's them. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

I did finally figure out how to block that - I just go under settings - hit the block PM box then hit apply and voila - no more unapproved PM'S :bigrin: Though if I turn it off so I can talk to someone in a private chat I still have to put up with those unsolicited and unappoved ones. :eek2: I still haven't figured out how to fix that problem. :(

Gem :bibounce:


Gem. you can always click ignore when you right click that persons name.

[darkeyes]

Cyber..neva quite sure bout cyber. Can b a pain in ne chatroom ..they think yas a girl so they try ther luck..an me dont.. so take note guys! But am not dismissive of or prudish bout cyber sex. Is a legit way of relievin the sexual tensions an needs we all hav at times. Ownin up now, cos me has in the past cybered an quite a few times found it excitin an a turn on an its no more 2 b condemned than masturbation or ne otha form of sexual activity. Its specially gud if ya lover is far away an at the otha end of the line!! Can hav its dangers like ne thin else an like wiv fone sex, we all know wot they can b.. but in itself its ok so long as its jus looked on as anotha activity an part of ya whole sexuality an not as an escape or a fantasy inta dreamworld an takes ova ya life! I dont do cyber ne more not cos I didn enjoy it, or at least some of it, but cos me jus don need it rite now an besides did hav a really bad experience wiv 1 person wich me prefers 2 forget an don wish it repeated. Neva say neva though cos who knows for the future? But really nuthin is an adequate substitute for the real thing an wile cyber sex has its place, like masturbation, more so fone sex it shud remain lower down on ya list of things ta do!!

[Tigerguy193]

I wish more PMs I got in chat rooms started as "wanna cyber?" That way I could weed them out quickly.

The ones I REALLY hate are the ones that pretend to want to have an intelligent conversation, then just when it's getting good, they start trying to cyber without asking if you want to.

Then when you don't want to, they act like you're the weird one.

[Herbwoman39]

What annoys the daylights out of me is having to explain WHY I'm not looking for cyber. I actually had one person that I had to spell it out for AND they repeated everything I typed as though it just wasn't quite sinking in!

Aarrgghhhh!!!

Ignorance can be educated, yeah, but I hate having to practically BEAT it into some people.

[arana]

I would like to add that "Hello" means JUST that. Not send me a PM. Although I guess the acknowledgment is nicer then the people who totally ignore your hello, go to the bedroom, find out there's no one in there they want to talk to then come back and decide the room full of people who said hello to you 5 seconds ago is now worth responding to.
:2cents:

[csrakate]

I would like to add that "Hello" means JUST that. Not send me a PM. Although I guess the acknowledgment is nicer then the people who totally ignore your hello, go to the bedroom, find out there's no one in there they want to talk to then come back and decide the room full of people who said hello to you 5 seconds ago is now worth responding to.
:2cents:

AMEN to that Arana!!! I try to greet people as they come into the room out of courtesy. That does NOT mean PM me!!! As for the bedroom goers...you get one hello only...not gonna waste my time saying hello and wb each and everytime you grace us with your presence before going back in to see who and what might be more exciting in the bedroom. A little hint...you can click the eyeball icon at the bottom to see who is in the bedroom...might save you a trip or two!
:2cents:

Hugs,
Kate

[DiamondDog]

this is one of the main reasons why I don't chat a lot since I get annoyed at people who will PM and just want to cyber when I'm not into that.

[arana]

this is one of the main reasons why I don't chat a lot since I get annoyed at people who will PM and just want to cyber when I'm not into that.
That shouldn't keep you from going to chat. If you really don't want to receive PM's just set your preferences to "Do not accept PM's" when you come into the room. Then no PM boxes will pop up while you're chatting. If you want to be in a private conversation with someone then you'll have to turn it back of course.

[texasman6172003]

AMEN to that Arana!!! I try to greet people as they come into the room out of courtesy. That does NOT mean PM me!!! As for the bedroom goers...you get one hello only...not gonna waste my time saying hello and wb each and everytime you grace us with your presence before going back in to see who and what might be more exciting in the bedroom. A little hint...you can click the eyeball icon at the bottom to see who is in the bedroom...might save you a trip or two!
:2cents:

Hugs,
Kate
Hey y'all, Ihave nothing for the main subject at hand here. But Kate allways has a nice welcome back, from one of my many boots,lmao. And i do appreciate all of y'all doing that each and evry blessed time im booted,lol. And thanks for bein patient with my old and outdated computer,lol. And do have plans in place to remedie the situation,just may take a little time...

[mistymockingbird]

I wish more PMs I got in chat rooms started as "wanna cyber?" That way I could weed them out quickly.

The ones I REALLY hate are the ones that pretend to want to have an intelligent conversation, then just when it's getting good, they start trying to cyber without asking if you want to.

Then when you don't want to, they act like you're the weird one.

My feelings exactly. I greatly prefer the direct approach. I have nothing against cyber, I've done it quite a bit, but I'm at a point where its not something I pursue, with the exception of a few select individuals who I already know quite well. If I'm in the chat room now, its because I'm looking for conversation.

And just to add another two cents...if we're in a private conversation (and the talk is sex related on any level) and you ask me if I have pictures...when I say, "sorry, you have to get to know me a little better before I send those out." That does not mean that you can ask me again in 5 minutes and expect a different response. Argh!! :2cents:

[TinTin]

I have found that if you "Name" the bastards in the main room it usually results in a rapid exit.
The Chat room is great and I thoroughly enjoy the conversation I have in there, cant they see there is the bedroom for all the sex shennagigans, maybe there should be a "cyber" room so if someone is in the mood they can go in there.

[Long Duck Dong]

lol tin tin... yeah i do name them.... and a lot of the time i get ignored....lol but its part and parcel of the chatroom experience...and yeah the bedroom is often empty..... it seems like most people want a intelligent chat and so the main chatroom is the place to go.....

[Lisa (va)]

* may I PM you please *

A few simple words. But it does show respect for others.

But a good man once told me a simple thing, "if you recieve an unwanted PM a simple no thank you usually works" and it does for the most part.

I usually try to be polite to other folks and respect them as the individuals they are and be nonjudgemental to them, but how respectful is it to get a window popping up in the corner of the screen from someone that won't bother to even say hello in the main room.

Lisa

hugs n kisses

PS, as a personal note, folks don't need to PM to ask questions, I don't say anything in private that I wouldn't in the main room.

[Boogie2u]

for some reason its never bothered me personally although i can understand why i would sometimes.....i guess i just feel flattered by it....even if its an 80 year old man with no teeth or hair! lol.....as long as they can take 'thanks but no thanks ' as an answer!

lifes too short to get angry with someone that is trying to get your attention because they find you attractive...i mean its not like theyve committed a major crime....lol although i suppose you never know!

[clairey271978]

regarding cyber and chatroom, i really love goin in teh main chatroom as ive made quite few friends in there now, i only eva pm if im talkin in private to a friend, i dont do cyber but aint got nuffin against ne1 who does want to, its their choice, its down to us to say no thank you, aslong as they aint goin to get the arseache when u say no! at the end of the day we dont all want teh same fing and we aint all on here 4 that!some are here 4 cyber some here for chat some finding themselves etc etc....weve al gota respect each other and learn to accept peoples answers..liked or not!! :rolleyes:

[Tynary]

oh the chatroom. I like it. b4 this site i'd never bin in a chatroom. not ever. to be honest I was afraid of them . my mother thinks they r bad so I was scared but curious. everytime she came in the room I'd have a fit and pray to god no one pmed me while she was there cas it makes thats beep noise.
I feel intimidated wen i first go in the room cas everyone is tlking and its fast and i wasn'tthere and the start of the conversation but people r so nice there. I dnt mind getting pms especially wen I'm nt being involved in main conversation but i wud like someone to say can i pm u first. altho I'd never say no cas I never want to offend peeps.
u c i used to nt mind peeps who wanted to cyber with me but now I'm just like jeez I've dun this its dull its nt real sex god cnt u get anyone which is mean cas I'm single and still sometimes like it but wen ur nt in the mood ur nt in the mood but cas I dnt wanna offend anyone I'd never say that.
when ur young and chatrooms seem scary and u've bin chased b4 by a creep online its a little worrying but then u think I want this person to like me and I'll seem boring ad they'll nt want to tlk to me if i dnt do this.
so i lvthe chatrrom but sometimes i makes me sad.