Does increasing age increase certain needs and desires as well

[silkyheels]

I am a 70 year old married white bisexual who has crossed dressed from an early age which It seemed that every year that passed I gained the need the desire to do more. Earlier than I should of I tried to and succeeded a few times in seducing boys into letting me touch them. Again as the years went by I needed more to be presenting as a girl, wanting more than touching a cock but tasting it, making love to it, needing it. Well I could go on and on but the jest of it is that now in my later years I dseire more to be with men more even to the point I enjoy it even totally naked no fem things start to finish (giggle though I do love the heels ) Just wondering if there are any other seniors out ther that feel the same way that the older you get the more you want to enjoy

[Jazminedress]

I am a 70 year old married white bisexual who has crossed dressed from an early age which It seemed that every year that passed I gained the need the desire to do more. Earlier than I should of I tried to and succeeded a few times in seducing boys into letting me touch them. Again as the years went by I needed more to be presenting as a girl, wanting more than touching a cock but tasting it, making love to it, needing it. Well I could go on and on but the jest of it is that now in my later years I dseire more to be with men more even to the point I enjoy it even totally naked no fem things start to finish (giggle though I do love the heels ) Just wondering if there are any other seniors out ther that feel the same way that the older you get the more you want to enjoy

I think it is multiple things. There is truth that men are conditioned, find the right girl, get married, have 2.1 kids and a dog ( women have a similar thing). I hope, as in I don't know the actual statistic as I never looked it up, but we go through marriage, we don't cheat, life goes on, but that desire is still there. As we get older people get divorced, widowed and the desire comes on stronger.

It could also be, our desires to do things we havent as we get older, we see our impending end and want more and more to experience things. I am just guessing as I have always had these desires, but, when I was married I am very very serious on the fidelity front, now, I am almost a senior citizen and able, I am experiencing more

[Jozyxt]

I am a 70 year old married white bisexual who has crossed dressed from an early age which It seemed that every year that passed I gained the need the desire to do more. Earlier than I should of I tried to and succeeded a few times in seducing boys into letting me touch them. Again as the years went by I needed more to be presenting as a girl, wanting more than touching a cock but tasting it, making love to it, needing it. Well I could go on and on but the jest of it is that now in my later years I dseire more to be with men more even to the point I enjoy it even totally naked no fem things start to finish (giggle though I do love the heels ) Just wondering if there are any other seniors out ther that feel the same way that the older you get the more you want to enjoy

I have found that my desire to be a suitable partner for a woman so I can have kids has diminished greatly. Because of course I have kids and don't want any more. This leave me free to act on other desires. Like being bi.

Right now if I found myself single, I don't know what path I would choose as far as being with women. But I know it would not be to promise to be exclusive with women so I would look for a wife that would be supportive of me practicing sex with men.

[KDaddy23]

It's like, "You've done all of the things a man is supposed to do - get married, have children, a career and retirement - and... now what?" I've always been sexually active as a bisexual but once the last kid moved out to seek his fortune, I got even more active and more still once I retired. Like Jaz said, at some point, you realize that the clock isn't running in your favor and now it's about doing whatever you can, to the best of your ability, and in whatever time you have left. Sometimes, one can have one of those "oh shit" moments that gives them a wakeup call that says, "If you have some stuff you haven't done yet, you might want to take care of that and the sooner, the better..." Or, as some folks have mentioned to me, you wake up one morning and ask yourself what you have really done with your life, realize that you've spent the majority of it running in the rat race and it's time to do... other things. Something new and different. Got any desires that have been set aside? Today might be a good day to attend to them. Some people travel, take on new hobbies and... get this urge to explore their sexuality in a more fuller context.

I used to say that a guy doesn't wake up one morning and decided that today's a good day to suck a dick... until I found out that some guys actually do that.

[darkeyes]

It is unlikely any of us go through life with the same needs and desires. It isn't just men. I had different desires and needs at 25 from those I had when first sexually active at 15. There were changes too by the time I was 35, and now at the ripe old age of 43 I want, need and desire many very different things from those I wanted at those earlier stages of my life. Many the same, many different. I fully expect those needs and desires to evolve throughout my life. I love life and the experiences it gives me, both sexual and non sexual and have grown as a person. I hope I always shall.

[Jazminedress]

at the ripe old age of 43

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I remember my 40's, kind of

[KDaddy23]

Shit, I barely remember my 40s...

[darkeyes]

Shit, I barely remember my 40s... I remember my 20s... I had a ball, espesh during the second half of them on... still do!!! 😋

[SilkyHoseLover]

I am a 70 year old married white bisexual who has crossed dressed from an early age which It seemed that every year that passed I gained the need the desire to do more. <snip> Just wondering if there are any other seniors out there that feel the same way that the older you get the more you want to enjoy

I'm a similar traveler, a year older, but way behind you in life experiences. I considered myself to be straight until around age 60, and have been into stockings/pantyhose since pre-teen years. I confided this to my wife decades ago and continued to enjoy this limited feminine expression in private, keeping it out-of-range for from my family & friends.

But I have enjoyed a descent down that slippery slope and eventually recognized my interest in cock, at first in sucking, and not long thereafter, being pleasured by one. But along the way, being more of a crossdresser entered the picture, enabled by my wonderful wife, who quite a few years ago told me that she was ok with my wearing pantyhose, but didn't want to see me sitting around the house in a dress. So I respected that.

But times change, and for me, they have changed for the better. She now embraces and encourages me to express my feminine side. She'll surprise me with new panties on occasion, accompanies me on trips to Janet's Closet (a nearby crossdresser supply store) and I'm free to lounge around in the evening wearing my hose and shorty women's pajamas. (Still wearing them as I type this!)

So the short answer to the OP's question is -- yes, definitely! I want - I NEED! - more interaction with other gurls and men. The primary difference between me and the OP is that there has to be femininity involved in my playtime. I may end up nude, but I will always start out in full or partial fem mode. (I really enjoy it most if I'm still wearing my nylons...) I'm not into the concept of two naked men playing together, either as a spectator or a participant. It doesn't disgust me, just not 'my thing'...

But I think about these needs every day and the feeling is stronger than ever before.

[darkeyes]

I am a 70 year old married white bisexual
The point of telling the world ur white is??

I'm generally pretty uncomfortable when people make a point of telling me on line what their ethnicity is .. Folk are folk are folk whatever their ethnic origin. What the colour of a persons skin happens to be should be of no more import than whether they have dimples or not of they have a gap in their teeth. I have been accused of over sensitivity about this before, but it does get my hackles up.

[Jozyxt]

The point of telling the world ur white is??



Because in the world of online hookups it is very common to disclose your race. I put MWM in all my online activity.

People have preferences, and whether they may not by legitimate in a most broader social context, they are legitimate in selecting sex partners. If for no other reason than to be able to identify the person on site.

[darkeyes]

Because in the world of online hookups it is very common to disclose your race. I put MWM in all my online activity.

People have preferences, and whether they may not by legitimate in a most broader social context, they are legitimate in selecting sex partners. If for no other reason than to be able to identify the person on site.

Because it is common doesn't mean it's right. People have preferences sure. I'm a human being, and if my ethnic origin is what attracts people then I just don't want to know. Arguably it is a form of racism which doesn't mean I am accusing you of being racist merely asking that you and others think about it because I know it is contentious among many.

[KDaddy23]

Things get down into the details of what's needed and desired. It's now about that which is preferred, and it just stands to reason that this will differ from one person to another. I don't care about race, body type, stuff like that... and some people do. It is what it is. People tend to fiercely protect and defend their preferences and are, generally, not of a mind to change them... but. One gets older and things do change and that could include preferences. It's not that big of a deal. I've been with guys who, before they got older, wouldn't consider getting with a Black guy but now? Sure - why not? We can add things to our list of things to do or we can remove things and all depending on what's going on in our heads as we continue to age and then you combine the other things in your life that may or may not contribute to the increased of needs and desires.

Yes - it is pretty common for me to see MWM or SWM or MBM or however one wants to "present" themselves. That's fine. It tells guys who are interested in a MWM that, well, this guy is in his wheelhouse and now it's all about what can be negotiated and that goes according to one's preferences, needs, and desires - and they can be different from when the MWM in question was younger. We all want what we want and in the way we want it. We are not all the same about this and that's to be expected and the way we can be about what we want can be frowned upon by others because that's not the way they'd go about things... and that makes sense and is to be expected. I "run into" a lot of guys who aren't of a mind to do anything with a Black man and the moment they find out that I'm Black, it's an instant deal breaker... or, sometimes, it isn't. Needs and desires change and when they do, preferences change. You get older and you see that if you had any such biases, well, it's pretty "silly" that you did and now is a great time to get rid of them in order to take care of, in this context, an increase in needs and desires.

It's not really that complicated or hard to understand... but when you write it, well, hmm. At the end of any day - and at any age - it's all about what you want to do and who you want to do it with and in the preferred way and all that good stuff. We are all like this but... different. Nothing to be fussing over. Yes, it can be annoying for me to be either singled out because I'm Black or kicked to the curb because I am. Ditto for being told that I'm too old or not old enough. Is it a bad thing? Only if you think it is. It is just what it's always been: What we want, how we want it, who we want it from and then when and where. Some get older and there's that inexplicable increase of needs and desires and it's inexplicable because it's not expected and... this can be some deep shit to write about.

[DD788Snipe]

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I remember my 40's, kind of

Wait, I was 40 once? LOL

[darkeyes]

Wait, I was 40 once? LOLTurning 40 scared me silly.. I expected to wake up to looking an old grannie bag an' desire diminished.. wot did I get? A bockle of hair colouring from me bruvva.. cheeky sod is oldern me.. but life is bettern ever and I'm no longer scared of aging! The bockle worked and grey hairs have gone... as for needs and desires they continue apace, new and even old. Discovering New and rediscovering old has been a joy. ��

[phalluster]

I don't know if it's my age as much as it is my wife's that has caused my desires to morph toward cocks. I do think that her general lack of interest in sex has made my longstanding and somewhat repressed desire for cock to reemerge.

[KDaddy23]

I remember being 35 and giving a 50-year-old his first experience and him asking me - and, perhaps rhetorically - why it took him so long to finally give into the urge to suck cock... and I couldn't answer him; in my experiences with men (and with some early exceptions), guys were either my age or younger and I hadn't had a reason to contemplate being older and having... certain needs and desires. His wife wasn't giving him any and I felt that this contributed to things but, also in my experience, older guys like him tended to turn to other women to take care of them but this encounter led me to see that that urge for cock... doesn't much care how old you are. The biggest mystery was wondering why some guys get older, get hornier - and despite what they say about us reaching our sexual threshold by age 20 - and it's not pussy they want - it's dick. I used to say that no guy wakes up one morning and decided that today's a good day to suck a dick until I started running into older guys who pretty much said they did - and many of them had no experiences when they were younger.

Being in a sexless relationship probably contributes to this; a woman's sex drive leaves the building but a guy's drive doesn't diminish unless some other health-related factors are in play like low-T... but what makes having sex with a guy when you're older the thing that'll take care of those certain needs and desires? I don't know - I just know it happens. One such guy said that he figured that getting with a guy was way better than the nothing he was experiencing at that point in his life and, as I recall, he was 54 or 55. Age and "other factors" I can't think of at this moment seems to come together and now, needs must and what will take care of that is sex with another man. Sexless relationships "explain" things with some men but not so much for older guys who are still having sex with women but one such guy did tell me that the reason why he wanted us to blow each other was that he'd done "all that could be done" with women and this was the next thing to do.

[csreef]

Wait, I was 40 once? LOL

When I turned 40, I was told that 40 is the NEW 30. Now that I'm 55 what do I get more grey hair?

[silkyheels]

Thanks KD, that was so sweet and sincere. Made a lot of sense as well

[KDaddy23]

@silkyheels, I have since learned that getting that urge, need, and desire for dick can hit a guy for a whole lot of reasons but I think that the key thing is that our need for sex doesn't really taper off once we get older; at 67, I'm just as horny as I was at 27, 37, 47, etc., but I'm one of those guys who became bisexual at a very early age so getting some dick wasn't a big deal and, well, I need to get laid and I got laid. So I don't personally know what this is like but I sure do know a lot of guys who've gotten older and "out of the blue," they now have a craving for sex with a man... and as many times I've seen this, I still don't really understand why this happens or why it makes sense to get some dick instead of going after different pussy if wifey ain't giving it up anymore.

Maybe it's a "bucket list" kind of thing? One's subconscious telling them that getting to know dick is a great idea? Some kind of biological thing? One's sex drive ramping up for "the final stretch?" Fuck if I know - I just know that it happens.

[phalluster]

I don't know how many other men think this way, but having sex with a man seems somehow less like cheating on your wife. For me personally, I got really close to hooking up with a very compatible guy but then it finally occurred to me that it would be cheating, and I'm not willing to put my marriage at risk, despite less sex than I want.

[KDaddy23]

@phalluster, yeah and "for the longest time," cheating on your wife with a man wasn't considered to be cheating because it was "defined" as, in this case, a husband cheating on his with another woman. Likewise, some men didn't consider it cheating if his girlfriend/wife slept with another woman and the guys I knew who were "okay" with their woman getting some coochie said that with her sleeping with a woman, they didn't feel threatened and felt that she wouldn't leave him just to be with her and, conversely, I'd heard a few women say similar things.

The truth, of course, is that it's still cheating, and this has caught up with the times so using the excuse of, "I didn't sleep with another woman!" isn't going to get you off the hook. Having these increased and certain needs and desires - and you're in a relationship - is, in my opinion, the worst possible situation ever because the rules and laws do not allow for anything to do be done about them if going outside of the relationship is required to take care of them. You either stay in the relationship and suffer quietly with these needs and desires or you do something about them and with the understanding that there will be consequences and lawyers could be involved. This is the point where a guy feeling this way has to decide if it's worth it to do something about those needs and desires and... yeah, biggest clusterfuck ever. A lot of men choose to not risk their relationship and some, well, needs always must and I have learned that when you leave someone - anyone - to their own devices, there's no telling what's going to happen and a lot of men and women get to the point where they feel they have no choice but to do something about the way they're feeling about this and it is, I've believed, more of an act of self-preservation than anything else since not doing anything leads to depression and that usually tends to have a long and lingering effect on the relationship they're trying to preserve. You wind up being damned if you do and damned if you don't.

[nu2curious]

Have to say I envy the guys on here who have the permission of wives to pursue this knowing their husbands need release and would prefer it not be with another woman. That's ideal no doubt.

[phalluster]

KDaddy and nu2curious thanks for the comments. Fortunately for me I'm not really in a damned if you do/don't situation. I'm definitely not suffering from not being able to suck a man's cock. Would my sex life be more fulfilling and exciting if I could - I think so. If I could do it WITH my wife I think even better. But that is just not something she would be comfortable with, so I don't go there. My relationship with my best friend (wife) has more to it than just the sex and my choice is not to put that at risk.

[Skuttfarkuss]

It's funny how I came to desire MM sexual pleasure. I was 60 years old when I sucked my first cock. I liked it and have learned I love to have a man cum in my mouth. It seems like an ultimate sexual pleasure to feel a hard cock pulse and fill my mouth with cum.

[KDaddy23]

@phalluster, it's not that one has that increase in certain needs and desires - it's what someone does about it that matters. If one can, then okay; if not, oh, well. Still the need and desire for more sex - including checking out what it's like to get some dick - doesn't seem to be unusual from where I'm sitting and given the number of men who, say, reach 50 and "all of a sudden" they have a very strong need to suck a dick or to do something with a guy that maybe crossed their mind somewhere along the time and even a long time ago.

It just seems to make sense and, again, I have yet to learn why it makes so much sense.

[sissyjackie]

I started when I was 14 stopped around age 23 got married had kids. in my 50's my desire for cock got strong. Met a married guy same age and he too wanted to suck. We do it 4 to 5 times a week. The last few years found a joy in getting fucked to. The wife and I stop having sex about 10 years ago

[Hubie]

We're a 66/55 year old cpl. I started sucking cock when in mid teens, stopped when I found women & sex, lol. Wife and I were engaged in a mfm a few years ago, and I tried fucklicking, and ended up with his cock going into my mouth a few times. Odd how that happens in a fucklicking position, lol. Anyways, was nice, and even though I didn't "suck", just inserted his cock back in my wife's pussy, it brought back memories. Since then, we've had fun with another man, he's bi, and wife and I shared sucking his cock. Fun for us both, and she enjoys. But, now I've started having just some M-M desires. Just want to suck some cock...

[RisingBi]

This has certainly been the case for me as well: the older I've gotten, the stronger my gay desires have become, to the point now, having just turned 60, all I want is to be with men--sexually and romantically. Gay sex is better than ever for me, though nowhere near enough of it, and a lot more fucking has to happen. The connection I feel with my male lovers, especially when anal play is involved, and not only at a deeper and deeper physical level, but emotional one as well, is becoming stronger and stronger for me. I used to not be attracted to guys on the street, but now I am. I used to never have romantic feelings for men, but now I do.

For the last couple of months I've been getting together with this gay social group every week, sometimes more than once a week, where we just go to a caf? or bar, sometimes 20 of us, sometimes 8. The reason that I've started doing this is because finding what I'm really looking for--at least a friend with benefits, if not a boyfriend--is just too hard to do using gay hookup sites and apps: there are SO many bi married guys (no cheaters for me, thanks), "straight" and bi guys that are only attracted to the cock and nothing else about a guy's body or person, and gay guys just wanting to hop from bed to bed.

Anyway, I can't tell you how comfortable I feel with these guys--all gay (but they do know I'm technically bisexual, but no longer have any interest in women): when I am with them, I feel like I've come home. I'm so attracted to so many of them as people--guys of all types and ages--and it's attraction at many different levels. I feel like I can be myself without self-censorship with them.

There's one of them that I am *SO* attracted to physically, intellectually, and emotionally, and he's single too (whereas more than half the guys are in couples). But he is half my age (60 versus 30, but looks even younger; he's a very cute, tiny guy, and I'm a gray-haired, balding big guy, both in height and 30 pounds overweight that I gained during Covid and have yet to lose). I know he likes me as a person very much, and sometimes I think he likes me "that" way too, but other times it doesn't look like he does, maybe because I'm old and overweight.

Oh my gosh, look at me! My self from just a year ago would not have believed that I would be thinking about a man like this--day and night!

I think what has happened with me, as I believe happens to many guys, is that I have just over the years accepted the gay part of myself more and more. At first a lot of internalized homophobia was operating, and actually doing so for the first 21 years of having gay oral sex and confused about it. But in the last 9 years I've made leaps and bounds on the path to acceptance, and even joy, with the gay part of myself. Also, a very rocky 3-year, on-again off-again, relationship with a woman that ended just before the pandemic hit helped a lot to solidify my new self-identity.

I think similar things happen to a lot of bisexual guys as they get older. The walls begin to come down that they have built up in their unconscious mind. As a result, more of their true desires for other men can really come to the surface. But I had and have the good fortune to be single most of my life, and completely free to pursue all of it (never married, and only one other girlfriend--another very rocky, on-again off-again, 3-year relationship with a woman, whose ending triggered my gay desires at 30).

I just wish that I started in my teens, fully accepted my bisexuality then, and allowed myself to find sexual and romantic relationships with guys right from the start. What a waste of my life being rejected by girls and women continuously. Sometimes I wonder whether they subconsciously saw homosexuality within me that I never let myself see. Oh well, 60 is still young, and although I'm a senior now, I think it's going to be the best part of my life.

[papasmurph]

I put my gay side away and did the "dream". Married, had kids, bought a home, adopted dogs, worked, went to the boys' games, went to church, got together with friends....
I knew I was bisexual, but I also thought I had to ignore those urges just as any married man does.
As my sex life with my wife slowly decreased after the birth of our last baby, I began to have a harder time ignoring my urges and I finally gave in.
There is a lot to say here - but for me, the one thing I miss and feel I need the most is having a companion who will show me some affection, touch me, hold my hand, etc. do things with me that we both enjoy, and of course, have sex.
I've lost that - and actually, only had any of that at a minimum with my wife. Once the kids were adults, it seemed to me there was little in common.
LTR or FWB are sometimes complicated. I have plenty of good times with random guys - but we are not friends. He may entwine his fingers in mine, or run his fingers through my hair when we are having sex - Some guys even have said that it was like making love with me. I appreciate that because to a degree it was.
But, in everyday life? I am alone. And even though my family is nearby and I see friends often... I am still hopeful for that guy who can handle me

[hung4you]

As a frequent business traveler I find myself in some very lucrative situations. I am an outgoing type of guy and being 60 yrs old have learned a thing or 2 about aging sex. Never mind the gay bar scenes, not needed. Never mind the awkwardness of real man talk. Every man I know thinks alike, that being said I was in a different Hotel this week, most traveling men are often at the same location for more than 1 night. At the bar in the hotel I noticed a older gentleman who had been there since Monday night, I noticed him as I walked in and there was an open seat next to him. I sat down, ordered a drink and struck up a conversation and found out he was an engineer and would be there for 2 more nights. As I listened and learned he told me everything that I needed to know without disclosing my intentions. Within a few minutes we were talking about how we like to be treated in bed. mmmm also a juicy conversation to have in a bar with 2 men drinking. He laughed and said I have a question for you, if you were stranded on a desert island with another man could you learn to sexually please him if he was willing. My answer was I hate flying solo so yes I would be up for that. he said you would swallow a cock, yes I said!!!!!!. He laughed and said well lets see if you are a bullshitter or the real deal. So I said let me get this straight, you want to play stranded on a desert island tonight, yes he said if you are not bull shitting me. I said you room or mine? He said he was in a small room, I had a suite so we went to my room. I always carry a bottle of booze with me, I made us some drinks and when I turned around he had his cock in his hands. He was stroking a very nice 8 inch cock and fuck he was shaved and trimmed perfectly. We sat soon the sofa and talked, stroked and when we both started leaking pre-cum I went for his cock, we undressed as his cock was working my throat. now both naked we got onto the bed 69ing fr at least 30 minutes before he erupted in my mouth as I did the same to him. Thats how easy it is boys.

[papasmurph]

@hung4you - I've heard and read this before. I think I need to start staking out some local business hotels. I love how easily that conversation went.

[DD788Snipe]

As a frequent business traveler I find myself in some very lucrative situations. I am an outgoing type of guy and being 60 yrs old have learned a thing or 2 about aging sex. Never mind the gay bar scenes, not needed. Never mind the awkwardness of real man talk. Every man I know thinks alike, that being said I was in a different Hotel this week, most traveling men are often at the same location for more than 1 night. At the bar in the hotel I noticed a older gentleman who had been there since Monday night, I noticed him as I walked in and there was an open seat next to him. I sat down, ordered a drink and struck up a conversation and found out he was an engineer and would be there for 2 more nights. As I listened and learned he told me everything that I needed to know without disclosing my intentions. Within a few minutes we were talking about how we like to be treated in bed. mmmm also a juicy conversation to have in a bar with 2 men drinking. He laughed and said I have a question for you, if you were stranded on a desert island with another man could you learn to sexually please him if he was willing. My answer was I hate flying solo so yes I would be up for that. he said you would swallow a cock, yes I said!!!!!!. He laughed and said well lets see if you are a bullshitter or the real deal. So I said let me get this straight, you want to play stranded on a desert island tonight, yes he said if you are not bull shitting me. I said you room or mine? He said he was in a small room, I had a suite so we went to my room. I always carry a bottle of booze with me, I made us some drinks and when I turned around he had his cock in his hands. He was stroking a very nice 8 inch cock and fuck he was shaved and trimmed perfectly. We sat soon the sofa and talked, stroked and when we both started leaking pre-cum I went for his cock, we undressed as his cock was working my throat. now both naked we got onto the bed 69ing fr at least 30 minutes before he erupted in my mouth as I did the same to him. Thats how easy it is boys.

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You get 5 thumbs up for that one

[RisingBi]

@hung4you - I have got to remember that desert island question if I ever find myself in a hotel bar and need to figure out if a guy is into guys. Great story!

[RisingBi]

I put my gay side away and did the "dream". Married, had kids, bought a home, adopted dogs, worked, went to the boys' games, went to church, got together with friends....
I knew I was bisexual, but I also thought I had to ignore those urges just as any married man does.
As my sex life with my wife slowly decreased after the birth of our last baby, I began to have a harder time ignoring my urges and I finally gave in.
There is a lot to say here - but for me, the one thing I miss and feel I need the most is having a companion who will show me some affection, touch me, hold my hand, etc. do things with me that we both enjoy, and of course, have sex.
I've lost that - and actually, only had any of that at a minimum with my wife. Once the kids were adults, it seemed to me there was little in common.
LTR or FWB are sometimes complicated. I have plenty of good times with random guys - but we are not friends. He may entwine his fingers in mine, or run his fingers through my hair when we are having sex - Some guys even have said that it was like making love with me. I appreciate that because to a degree it was.
But, in everyday life? I am alone. And even though my family is nearby and I see friends often... I am still hopeful for that guy who can handle me
I truly hope you find such a man soon, @papasmurph, because you deserve it.

[Long Duck Dong]

As a older man, I find that I am content with my partner, a intersex female with both a cock and a pussy but its more than just sexual......

We are in a closed group with another male and two females which suits my partner as she has a higher sex drive than I do....and I enjoy the conversations, time with friends and yes sex with them is nice, as a form of variety, and as they say the sex is complimented by hugs, kisses, conversation and friendship......

Times have changed, the world has changed, and so has society.....and once I fought for rights, now I avoid the fighting over who is right, and I am not sure if its age or simply finding the people with whom I am happy with......but I know for others in my town, they do bemoan the fact that casual sex is harder to find as more people choose FwB or long term sexual connections because its easier

[KDaddy23]

"Easier" is such a relative term. I can take a short walk over to the mini-mall next to my development and find no less than five guys at the barber shop who'd be willing to give me their dick to suck but the process of finding an FWB isn't all that easy and in my neck of the woods, there are a lot of men who aren't even interested in an FWB arrangement and the guys who are looking for one continue to wonder why they can't find a Mr. Right. The other guys my age in my development are easier to have casual sex with and even on an "if I happen to run into you" basis but nothing more regular than that but they all agree that when you're our age, the desires are still there and having them for dick is... all well and good. Too old to be worried about the shit that the young bucks are worried about; too old to be playing the games we had to play growing up. One such guy told me, after sucking me off, that he had to get into it because he didn't want to check out without taking care of his need to have sex and if that meant getting with a guy and sucking each other off, so be it. No muss, no fuss, no pressure. Let's do this and I'll see you when I see you.

[Nocockyet]

As I get older, the desires have become clearer. When I was younger I liked to play with dildos and liked my wife using a strap on (rare). I would never consider having sex with a man. I couldn't even watch gay porn. At some point my view changed and I started to become attracted to the idea of having guy fuck me. I still don't feel attracted to men but the desire to please a man grows every day.

[Biguyincolorado]

I am almost 70 and as I have aged I really felt the urge to explore more with men. I do enjoy sucking cock and having a man suck mine.... Stronger urge than ever... I has been good.