Gag reflex

[John1971]

What's a good way to train your gag reflex? I'm looking for something subtle I can do without worrying about getting caught practicing, and I don't think just jumping into sucking a cock or dildo is subtle.

[Jazminedress]

Mine is there always, I just dont stress it, seriously, if they have an 8 inch dick, and you can handle 4, just grip the base and squeeze as you go down as much as you can, I have never had any complaints

[BackyardShaman]

I used a smaller ratchet driver tool, the handle was 7 inches, not too wide but it helped. When I was at work by myself I’d get it out and put it in my mouth, slowly slide it deeper each time. I gagged at first but eventually I could hold just about the 7 inches with little to no gag reflex. Then I sucked some friends off and it was a lot of fun and they really enjoyed it.

[CockHummer]

What's a good way to train your gag reflex? I'm looking for something subtle I can do without worrying about getting caught practicing, and I don't think just jumping into sucking a cock or dildo is subtle.

I'm sorry I don't know your living situation, but for many people who are not attached, practicing on a dildo in the privacy of one's own bed carries little risk of being found out. Unless you share a bed with someone who you do not want to have know that you are preparing for a life of cock sucking or you live with roommates in an apartment with thin walls and cannot turn a lock on your bedroom door or trust other people to mind their own business and stay out, I would tend to think it subtle enough for the purpose, even if you started talking to the thing, telling it how big and hot it is, how you love sucking it, and how you want it to blast cum down your throat. Put on some quiet music, so they don't hear the associated sucking sounds. As long as they don't have X-ray vision, it seems you'd have little to worry about. You must know I am trying to be a bit funny in how I have worded this, but I have practiced sucking on dildos numerous times in my bed. I simply find it annoying that they are so unlike the real thing, but c'est la vie. It is also a good way to practice keeping your teeth out of the play when you are getting the most joy out of having another guy's cock in your mouth. That is my primary reason for doing it. I think it's sort of thoughtful to have practiced not biting or inadvertently forcefully scraping the surface of a very sensitive organ with other body organs in the area meant specifically for chewing food, especially when the aim is to try to make someone feel reeeeeeaaaaally good.

I've gotta stop for a second before I go on and say, it is so nice to talk and think about having fat, horny dicks in my mouth...throbbing, sliding, pushing in and out, cumming, feeding me. Mmm. Mmm.

Anyway, back on topic. I can't imagine what else you think might take its place without being somewhat obvious to other people anyway, even if it doesn't look a thing like an erect penis. "Hey, Roger, why are you sticking that tennis racket grip way down your throat and making sucking sounds, even while you seem on the verge of puking? Are you starving or something? Here, let me get you a nice, fat wiener on a bun. Oh, you don't want the bun. Okay." I honestly do not think there is a magic way to train your gag reflex without gagging yourself repeatedly on something, which means having something sort of penis shaped in a very suggestive position. You know, people use all sorts of things as dildos. How about a nice length of kielbasa? A fat carrot? A banana? A cucumber? A thin eggplant? I don't know. Any of them might work, but it seems to me that if you are going to use them for the stated purpose, it will seem at least strange if someone catches you, if not absolutely obvious, at least to an adult or teen. I mean, you can stick your fingers down your throat for that matter, but I'd be more embarrassed to be caught doing that without reason than to be caught with a real penis in my mouth and me sucking it away like mad and obviously enjoying the hell out of it.

Of course, there is nothing at all subtle about jumping into sucking a cock, but I thought that was your goal, anyway. You simply and understandably want to do it without the discomfort of gagging and the potential for ruining the event by puking, but there is no rule against telling another guy, "Hey, I've never deepthroated a cock before, and I don't know what to expect." He's probably been in the same boat, if you know what I mean, and if you're with someone who hears you gagging and retching, and they don't pull out and try to take it more slowly, you need to find a different fuck buddy anyway.

I would remark that in my experience, in fact, as long as deep throating is not part of the activity, and it needn't always be (or ever, for that matter), gagging generally is not a significant part of the picture. You might want to avoid going there until you've had experience just enjoying feeling a nice hard dick in your mouth, pushing its way between your lips and then sliding between your tongue and the roof of your mouth, while you suck it with more energy than you ever knew you had. Once you've gotten accustomed to that, trying deepthroating with a partner would be a perfectly good way to practice, and you could just let him know that you're not used to that yet, so you're nervous. That would not be subtle, but it would be reasonable and functional and more than likely very erotically enjoyable for both of you. You don't have to be an absolute expert the first time you ever have another guy's dick in your mouth, and well-known porn stars have publicized the difficulty they have tolerating a throat fucking.

That's right. Some people just can't tolerate taking an erect penis down their throat. It is almost the norm. We have a gag reflex for a purpose. There is plenty else you can do with your lips, tongue, and the roof of your mouth, along with a little help from your fingers and hands here and there, to bring an excited cock to erupt cum all over the place (or just down your throat if you're careful about it, and that's where you want it to go) and to give its owner plenty of erotic joy, and it won't have you on the verge of barfing or worried about the possibility of that while you're doing it. I don't know. How about you? Have you been unable to cum during your life unless someone had your cock down his or her throat? I've cum plenty masturbating, and I only managed to get the head of my cock in my mouth once (an amazing feeling), when I was in my mid-teens and extraordinarily supple. I've never deep-throated myself, and yet, I typically find jerking off satisfactory. I think most of us cum most of the time without having fucked anyone in the upper chest by way of the esophagus. Maybe we could have a vote on that? It's nice when it works for both parties, but it is absolutely not essential, and you don't have to be an expert the first time you see another guy's erect cock and know it's going to end up in your mouth.

Anyway, I'm going to use the focus of this thread at the end here to share one personal experience that just never fit in here before. It is not my intention to make anyone envious or to encourage anyone to come and shoot me dead for my good fortune. Neither am I encouraging people to seek surgery they do not need (the significance of that remark will become obvious shortly).

I was formerly a snorer, to the point that my ex wanted me to sleep in another room, so I saw a surgeon in otolaryngology (ears, nose, and throat), and he performed a multi-faceted operation, which effectively stopped the snoring. One of the facets of the operation was to remove most of my uvula, which is the small, bag-shaped thing that hangs down at the back of your soft palate, falling down across the entry to your throat. The big deal in this context is that the uvula contains the bulk of the nerves responsible for the gag reflex, so while mine is not completely gone, it is a mere shadow of its former self, and I have a quite limited gag reflex. Lucky me. That is why I use dildos primarily to practice keeping my teeth to themselves. In all honesty, I don't even know how well they work at practicing inhibiting gagging on a nice, long, hard, fat, precum dripping, sexy, swollen, throbbing, erect, perfectly shaped penis that you might just want to suck every last, ever loving drop of cum out of.

[KDaddy23]

One way I learned to get a grip on mine was to always breathe through my nose and not my mouth and stay relaxed. When I'm not sucking somebody's dick, I love making my wife get that look on her face by taking a peeled banana down deep - and breathing through my nose. Having said that, I always tell guys who are looking to suck dick to never do more than they're physically able to do and don't let the other guy make you do more than you're capable of. Being able to deep throat a dick is a cool trick and skill but it's also about using your lips, tongue and, yes, hands to bring him to glory.

If you're sucking his dick and you make that "urping" sound, you have too much dick in your mouth. Back off. Practicing on a dildo is "classic" but, yeah, explaining to a wife or girlfriend why you have a dildo hiding in a drawer could be embarrassing and prompt questions you might not want to answer. You can find the spot where your gag reflex can trigger by... brushing your teeth. Sure, the head of a toothbrush is way smaller than the head of some guy's dick but, yeah, who hasn't been brushing their teeth and gotten the head of the brush too far to the back? That might be a more innocuous way to work on getting your gag reflex under some kind of control. Just don't deliberately stick it to the back of your throat; just brush your teeth and, little by little, find out when it gets triggered - and breathe through your nose as much as you can.