Do you like him to be passive or aggressive while you are sucking his dick?

[Rest85]

Some years back, I was hosted by and sucked a married guy. The first time, he sat in a chair and I got on my knees. He was passive, in the sense that he just let me suck him how I wanted. I got good results. He didn't last long, and he spurted a nice load in my mouth. I swallowed and left. He said he'd be in touch. In the meantime, while waiting for him to beckon me back, I started thinking about how I craved being mouth fucked like I've seen in porn.

Although I had sucked quite a few dicks prior to his, I somehow had never been mouth fucked. Every guy I sucked had pretty much just let me enjoy his cock at my own pace and in my own way. It always turned out good. I always got that good thick cream, but I found myself wanting to be mouth fucked, wanting to be taken control of and be used as he wished, with me totally submissive.

I messaged the married guy that I sucked off the week before to express how much I wanted him to stand over me and fuck my mouth the next time. A few days later he messaged me to come back. He had me sit in front of him while he pulled his briefs down to expose his nearly hard dick. He guided it into my mouth and allowed me to hold it and suck it for a minute or so till he was fully rigid, and then he said, "I'm going to fuck your mouth now." I kept my head in place while he fucked his nice dick into my mouth. I tried to stroke it but he pushed my hands away. 'No hands' he said. He used me. I heard his breathing get heavier and felt his dick swelling even thicker than it already was. He seemed to hang on the edge of his orgasm as he maintained his pace and kept his thrusts at a depth that I could easily tolerate. I was finally being mouthfucked! Soon his legs started to shake and his cock head and shaft strained and swelled to a stone hard state, plump and ready ....then he spurted. I was the good slut I always am and made sure he was spent before I eased my lips softly off of his dick with my lips sealed around his cock all the way so I didn't let any cum escape my lips.

Here's what I discovered about myself. While I believe a proper cocksucker should always do his best to submit to a guy's desires, I prefer a passive feeder who will let me savor his cock at my own pace. Don't get me wrong. Being mouthfucked was nice but I much prefer that I be allowed to stop to lick...to look...to fondle and rub his dick around on my mouth, maybe my face. Sucking a dick is about his pleasure foremost but I like to do things that also arouse me and show my overwhelming lust for his cock. And if a guy drips precum, I very much want to stop sucking from time to time to milk the precum to the tip and have him watch me submissively lick it off or maybe drip it into my mouth, rub it over my lips, etc. Precum is a nectar that drives my lust for his cum to dizzying heights!

All that said, I always acknowledge my role as sub while sucking dick, but I have found that I much prefer to be allowed to pleasure a cock at my own pace rather than being mouthfucked with no control over being able to take a breather and show my love of his dick in other ways before he can't hold back anymore.
I'm fully into those last few moments when he's about to cum and he starts thrusting involuntarily before he squirts. That's always a magic moment when I know I'm about to get rewarded, but generally I just have a preference for serving passive feeders.

So, what do you say? Do you prefer passive or aggressive cum feeders?

[Rest85]

Just to clarify some of my comments above, I'm always happy to suck someone who is verbally aggressive. To hear a guy make comments like, "you like that hard dick in your mouth, don't you" or "suck it, slut" and "you want that cum in your slutty mouth, I can tell", etc. That sort of aggression is always more than welcome.

Also, if a guy just wants to change the pace for a period of time because he wants to be sure I know who's boss and because he gets turned on by holding my head and using my mouth to thrust into, I'm all for it, but I don't want that to be the whole session.

I am always a willing slut for variation.

[int0everything]

Nice stories. I like a slow and passionate sucking, and I like for them rub there hands through my hair and tell me what they want. I don't mind being directed because I want them to get the best they can have. It just helps me to know I am being good for them.

Personally, I am not a fan of face fucking, just not really any fun for me as much as I like to be a used sub.

[KDaddy23]

I'd rather not be mouth-fucked. I've always believed that as a cocksucker, my job is to... suck cock. I've spent the entirety of my life honing my skills in this and while I learned that it's very normal and natural for a guy's body to start fucking into my mouth, that's fine... but grabbing my head and fucking my mouth like it's a pussy? Not having any of it. Don't need his help. Just lie back and enjoy it. If you have a great need to fuck, well, there's my ass for that. Sure, I have to make it good for him so he can cum, but I also have to make it good for myself, too - and I have never been a submissive cocksucker so it's never about whatever he feels like doing to my mouth. Just lie back and enjoy it.

[Tinydinkle1970]

I’m a bi sub bottom and I only like to suck and be fucked by Dom males. I absolutely adore it when a Dom mouth fucks me and either cum in my mouth or all over my face and hair.

[Waylon]

If he or she is sucking my dick, I prefer passive but if I am sucking his dick, I like him to be aggressive and verbal! When I have a dick in my mouth, I am his cock whore bitch boy and he owns me.

[atxbi]

I’m one cocksucker that likes to get between a guys legs and go to work. I love to explore the new cock in front of me and admire its shape and responsiveness. I like to take my time and learn what feels good to him, and finally how to go about pleasing him to the point to where swallowing bursts of his cum are going down my throat.

[ILoveSuckingPenis]

I’ve been a male cocksucker now for many years. I’ve sucked many cocks over the years. Sexually I’m definitely a more submissive acting beta male type of cocksucker. I strongly prefer a feeder who knows how to put me in my proper place as a cocksucker. I remember the first time my first feeder had me hang my head off the edge of his bed to fuck my mouth nice and deep. Well to that point in time I don’t think that I had ever been so sexually aroused as feeling my feeder’s balls slap into my face over and over again as he fucked my mouth in that position. It was truly a beautiful moment of sexual awakening for me as a cocksucker! I learned that sexually I’m definitely a much more submissive male cocksucker who strongly prefers feeders who really take charge of the blowjob that I’m giving them.

[Fiddlestyx]

The only time I have any tolerance for someone thrusting into my mouth is when my "playmate" of three decades and I are in 69 facing each other and we get carried away a bit and both start gently going at it with the hips. That can get pretty exciting.

[licyou69]

Yes, absolutely to verbal aggressiveness, but not to being straight out throat fucked. Meeting my rhythm with some slow hip thrust motion from him because he's really enjoying it is okay though.

[rukiddingme]

More passive as I'm in between his legs. Gently holding my head, reaching down to play with my nipples, pulling me up for some passionate kissing, then guiding me back to his cock!

[nu2curious]

Passive or aggressive discussion misses the point entirely. Oral pleasure is supposed be sensual and pleasureful , nothing pleasurable about being called names nor rough play.

[DLazguy]

I've mostly been sucked, blow and go style. I've bottomed once and topped once. I'm married to a woman and last year I decided that I wanted to really experience being with a guy. That being said, I've really been wanting to suck dick. I sucked a few guys last year and it just makes me want to suck more. I prefer sucking cock at my own pace. I want to take my time to really enjoy being between another guy's legs and suck out every drop.

[Rest85]

Passive or aggressive discussion misses the point entirely. Oral pleasure is supposed be sensual and pleasureful , nothing pleasurable about being called names nor rough play.


Just as sexuality is on a spectrum, so are passive and aggressive preferences, imo. I don't think a discussion about it really misses the point.
I sure agree that oral pleasure is supposed to be sensual and pleasurable, though, and what makes it sensual and pleasurable varies from person to person.
This is simply another discussion about a certain aspect of oral pleasuring.

[Long Duck Dong]

I have a intersex female partner with a pussy and a cock.....she alternates depending on her mood

Sometimes she loves me slowly sucking her cock from head until its completely in my mouth, while I use my tongue to tease her pussy, other times she likes to hold my head in place as she slowly feeds me her cock.....and sometimes she likes to take control and fuck my face......

The same is true for myself, as well, it all depends on the mood......

One of her favourite things is to ride me, with my cock deep in her while she strokes her cock.... and we are in a closed group of another male and two females, so she indicates she wants her hair pulled back so the female behind her, can kiss her hard and deep while the other female or male deepthroats her cock and she cums in their mouth..... as for me, I get to enjoy feeling her pussy tighten around my cock as she cums hard....

For both of us, its more a mental / emotional thing rather than a sexual thing....a bit like how people can have sex, but adding in the passive or dominant aspects, enhances the experience, so its no longer just about sex, its about how we feel........

[Warmnsalty]

I LOVE a take charge verbal top. Love when a guy slaps my face with his hard cock and tells me what a slut I am.

[wifekinky4husband]

Do you like him to be passive or aggressive while you are sucking his dick?Both - but depends on how turned on we are. I love seeing my husband getting his mouth fucked and I love it when he fucks mine. But I also love making love to his penis with my mouth.

[Rest85]

Do you like him to be passive or aggressive while you are sucking his dick?

Both - but depends on how turned on we are. I love seeing my husband getting his mouth fucked and I love it when he fucks mine. But I also love making love to his penis with my mouth.


I was going to make that point in my original post...that it does depend on how turned on i am. I always like a guy who will talk dirty to me but generally I like to be allowed to shower my attention to a hard dick in my own way...as long as he's enjoying it.

Nice to see a lady commenting! I wish more would come to give their input.

Thanks! Your husband is a lucky man that you love to see him get his mouth fucked and also that you make love to his dick.

[KDaddy23]

@Rest85, yeah, I kinda/sorta hear guys talking dirty to me as I blow them and it adds to the experience. It's not him being passive or aggressive in that sense but being vocal and it just tells me that he's liking what I'm doing and I should keep doing it.

[sterculius]

As a cocksucker I feel it is my duty and my obligation to do whatever it is my feeder requires and expects me to do to encourage him to ejaculate into my mouth. Facilitating the feeder's orgasm is the basic purpose of a blowjob and the cocksucker's primary responsibility. I call myself a Cocksucker, but that's not 100% accurate. What I really, truly love and my personal preference is to be very aggressively throat fucked. I prefer having it done TO me rather than having it done BY me! It really turns me on to relinquish control and to passively allow men to hold onto my head and roughly force their cocks as far down my throat as they can possibly reach and then to aggressively fuck my throat the way they would fuck a woman's cunt, at a pace and at a rhythm of their own choosing until they ejaculate deep inside me. Just as it's difficult (if not impossible) to tickle oneself, or to give yourself a massage, this is something I want someone else to be in charge of. As a teenager, my best friend Larry, who indoctrinated me as his cocksucker, used to do this to me on a daily basis. He would take hold of my head in both his hands, and very roughly force the entire length of his abnormally large cock all the way down my throat, and savagely fuck my throat until he came! I LOVED IT!!! I would often cum in my pants while this was being done to me.
Larry was normally a very considerate person, but when he was in the throes of his orgiastic frenzy, my comfort or my safety was the last thing on his mind. With his cock stuffed all the way down my throat, I was utterly unable to breathe, BUT HE DIDN'T CARE!! He was oblivious to my distress and I had no choice but to hang on for dear life and hope that he would cum before I passed out from lack of oxygen. Fortunately he would usually cum very quickly. Am I a "freak"? Am I the only one who enjoys being "used" in this manner, or are there others out there like me who crave having this done to them?

[Kysquire]

I have a intersex female partner with a pussy and a cock.....she alternates depending on her mood

Sometimes she loves me slowly sucking her cock from head until its completely in my mouth, while I use my tongue to tease her pussy, other times she likes to hold my head in place as she slowly feeds me her cock.....and sometimes she likes to take control and fuck my face......

The same is true for myself, as well, it all depends on the mood......

One of her favourite things is to ride me, with my cock deep in her while she strokes her cock.... and we are in a closed group of another male and two females, so she indicates she wants her hair pulled back so the female behind her, can kiss her hard and deep while the other female or male deepthroats her cock and she cums in their mouth..... as for me, I get to enjoy feeling her pussy tighten around my cock as she cums hard....

For both of us, its more a mental / emotional thing rather than a sexual thing....a bit like how people can have sex, but adding in the passive or dominant aspects, enhances the experience, so its no longer just about sex, its about how we feel........

I'm a bit confused. Does your partner have a cock AND a real vagina? Or are you calling her pretty ass a pussy? Don't be mad, As I love guys, girls, guys with nice ass-pussy, and girls with huge clits! Sex is sex and such a turn-on.

[Glasscityguy]

Aggresive men (and women) 100%, at least for the first few hook ups. i dont like wasting time out with silly bitches that play games or dont know what they want.

[KDaddy23]

I've found that there's a thin line between assertive and aggressive...

[Blondeblowjob7]

As a male cocksucker I think by its very nature getting on my knees to allow another man to insert his erect penis into my mouth is a very submissive act. I think personally as a cocksucker I tend to be quite submissive to my feeders. I allow my feeders to choose their own pace with the blowjob that I’m giving them. I would say that 9 times out 10 when I fall to my knees before my feeders cock, then I know that I’m in for a pretty vigorous mouth fucking session. So I know that my head is almost always going to be shoved down hard onto that beautiful penis!

[cleanshaved50]

I prefer him to be aggressive physically and verbally

[KDaddy23]

I'm curious: Why does aggressive work for those who prefer aggressive?

[Veryoralniceguy]

Love verbally and physically dominate, aggressive guys.

[Rest85]

I'm curious: Why does aggressive work for those who prefer aggressive?

I often ask that same question of myself. Even though I love to be submissive, I can somehow relate to being aggressive better than I can understand my own desire to be sub.

[WillMitch]

As a cocksucker I feel it is my duty and my obligation to do whatever it is my feeder requires and expects me to do to encourage him to ejaculate into my mouth. Facilitating the feeder's orgasm is the basic purpose of a blowjob and the cocksucker's primary responsibility. I call myself a Cocksucker, but that's not 100% accurate. What I really, truly love and my personal preference is to be very aggressively throat fucked. I prefer having it done TO me rather than having it done BY me! It really turns me on to relinquish control and to passively allow men to hold onto my head and roughly force their cocks as far down my throat as they can possibly reach and then to aggressively fuck my throat the way they would fuck a woman's cunt, at a pace and at a rhythm of their own choosing until they ejaculate deep inside me. Just as it's difficult (if not impossible) to tickle oneself, or to give yourself a massage, this is something I want someone else to be in charge of. As a teenager, my best friend Larry, who indoctrinated me as his cocksucker, used to do this to me on a daily basis. He would take hold of my head in both his hands, and very roughly force the entire length of his abnormally large cock all the way down my throat, and savagely fuck my throat until he came! I LOVED IT!!! I would often cum in my pants while this was being done to me.
Larry was normally a very considerate person, but when he was in the throes of his orgiastic frenzy, my comfort or my safety was the last thing on his mind. With his cock stuffed all the way down my throat, I was utterly unable to breathe, BUT HE DIDN'T CARE!! He was oblivious to my distress and I had no choice but to hang on for dear life and hope that he would cum before I passed out from lack of oxygen. Fortunately he would usually cum very quickly. Am I a "freak"? Am I the only one who enjoys being "used" in this manner, or are there others out there like me who crave having this done to them?

Having your throat fucked roughly by your friend's big fat cock until he shoots a huge load down your throat, while holding your head in place, is freakin' HOT!

[Long Duck Dong]

I'm a bit confused. Does your partner have a cock AND a real vagina? Or are you calling her pretty ass a pussy? Don't be mad, As I love guys, girls, guys with nice ass-pussy, and girls with huge clits! Sex is sex and such a turn-on.

Ok my partner is in a very small group of intersex people in that she has dual genitalia ( cock and pussy ) .this happens when the person develops the genitalia of a male as the primary and the pussy as the secondary, where as in a intersex person the pussy may develop as the primary and the clit / penis as the secondary....
the correct term for somebody like my partner is actually hermaprodite ( dual genitalia ), but because its considered offensive to intersex people ( ambiguous genitalia ) she gets labeled as intersex and so most people assume she has ambiguous genitalia enlarged clit or she is transgender

My partner also has used hormone treatments ( estrogen ) since she was a teen, because her body does not produce enough naturally, she does produce enough testorone to get erections naturally.....

Sexually the best of both worlds ??? yes ... but a lot of people will not fuck her because of the way she is ( mostly gay guys and lesbians ) and a good number of the people that want to fuck her, are actually females....partly because she is sterile and secondly, because most guys would not bat a eyelid at their GFs staying overnight with another female, but would have a fit if it was with another guy.......sadly for most people she turns down the offers, reckons she gets enough sex at home ( me, the other guy and two females in our closed group )

When you watch the video, notice how the pussy is not fully formed and appears to be seperate from the cock, and the absence of any balls, its because they are mostly internal.. with my partner the pussy is formed but the top of the pussy goes into the underside of the cock and part way up it.....and her balls are internal, aka undescended testes if she was male....

Also the way that person cums, is about right, due to the lack of a prostrate and seminal fluid, meaning that there is not the back pressure as in a male and the cum can be thicker and less fluid than male cum, so less runny and its ideal for creampies as well.... her cum is neutral / sweet rather than salty

https://www.xnxx.com/video-iklr60/big_tit_hermaphrodite
(https://www.xnxx.com/video-iklr60/big_tit_hermaphrodite)

[Neonaught]

Ok my partner is in a very small group of intersex people in that she has dual genitalia ( cock and pussy ) .this happens when the person develops the genitalia of a male as the primary and the pussy as the secondary, where as in a intersex person the pussy may develop as the primary and the clit / penis as the secondary....
the correct term for somebody like my partner is actually hermaprodite ( dual genitalia ), but because its considered offensive to intersex people ( ambiguous genitalia ) she gets labeled as intersex and so most people assume she has ambiguous genitalia enlarged clit or she is transgender

My partner also has used hormone treatments ( estrogen ) since she was a teen, because her body does not produce enough naturally, she does produce enough testorone to get erections naturally.....

Sexually the best of both worlds ??? yes ... but a lot of people will not fuck her because of the way she is ( mostly gay guys and lesbians ) and a good number of the people that want to fuck her, are actually females....partly because she is sterile and secondly, because most guys would not bat a eyelid at their GFs staying overnight with another female, but would have a fit if it was with another guy.......sadly for most people she turns down the offers, reckons she gets enough sex at home ( me, the other guy and two females in our closed group )

When you watch the video, notice how the pussy is not fully formed and appears to be seperate from the cock, and the absence of any balls, its because they are mostly internal.. with my partner the pussy is formed but the top of the pussy goes into the underside of the cock and part way up it.....and her balls are internal, aka undescended testes if she was male....

Also the way that person cums, is about right, due to the lack of a prostrate and seminal fluid, meaning that there is not the back pressure as in a male and the cum can be thicker and less fluid than male cum, so less runny and its ideal for creampies as well.... her cum is neutral / sweet rather than salty

https://www.xnxx.com/video-iklr60/big_tit_hermaphrodite
(https://www.xnxx.com/video-iklr60/big_tit_hermaphrodite)

What a pleasure it must be to know such a unique person.

[marine20]

i like taking my time sucking cock ,but there are times when i want to be face fucked like a worthless whore . it gives me a sexy, sissy feeling !

[Tree Swallow]

I am with you 100 percent sterculius. It is the only way I can ever suck cock. I am the receptacle, the mouth cunt that accommodates whatever my feeder needs. During those moments, it is my only purpose.

[Long Duck Dong]

What a pleasure it must be to know such a unique person.

Sexually and relationship wise, it is amazing...and yes its led to some very fun times.... and not always easy as I tend to be monogamous natured and while I could be monogamous with her, we are both bi and so I can not fill all of her own desires and needs......and somehow we have managed with our closed group ( her, myself, another guy and two females ) to find a balance that works for everybody........

I will be honest, if I was younger and we got together, I would have fucked the relationship up ( we have known each other for around 30 years ) but in my 20s and 30s, I was not in the best head space for a relationship with her, and yeah I am bloody lucky she hung around for all those years.......

The hardest thing about being with her, is dealing with other people that are so nasty, offensive and rude, that I have ended up throwing punches, and on more than one occasion I have had to deal with miss hardcore hellfire ready to rip somebody a new asshole, and what bugs me the most there, is it has been mostly LGBT+ people....

You are right tho, its been a experience of a life time and if I could clone her, with her permission, so others could enjoy the experiences we are enjoying, we would do it in a heartbeat.........it would mean that she would be less unique as a intersex person but there would be a lot more people having the experiences of a lifetime....

[babyrmd]

I love it when men push me back on a bed, floor outside in the grass and straddle my face and face fuck me...and when they cum shove their cock to the back of my throat and shoot cum right down my throat. ,

[Footstep40]

There is certainly a time and place for the aggressive reaction. First times and a romantic session of love making are usually not, and will kill the mood for me, don’t try to choke me with your dick if I’m going down on you deliberately slow and caring. The worst, is the dead fish guy, lays there quietly with zero interaction until right before he cums. Those I’m not a fan of, it’s been my experience as well that those types are usually out the door in minutes with barely a word. I love giving head, so I put a lot of effort into it, I’m quite good at it too, respect for your partner goes a long way.

[Veryoralniceguy]

Nothing turns me on more than an aggressive guy pushing me to my knees and telling me to suck it as he pulls his cock out and shoved it in my mouth. I like the taste of his precum and feeling his hand holding the back of my head as he fucks my mouth. Like it when he tells me to take it deeper and tells me he knows how much he knows I like it. Most guys cum in my mouth, but my favorites are the guys that shoot all over my face and lips. Then they watch as I pick it up and lick it off my fingers. Love being used by a group of guys.