Jazminedress
Jul 4, 2022, 4:48 PM
I went on a date with a guy a little while ago (Nothing happened for the record except a hug at the end). He seemed like a decent person, polite, respectful, seemed intelligent. As usual, I ask a ton of questions. All the basics, are you Bi, Gay, Bi curious. There is a good reason for this. Number one being my safety, sadly, in the hetero and same sex community, there is a ton of hatred for people like me, a lot of loving people too, but, when meeting people, sadly, I always am prepared if things go south.
Many times, someone who is gay may be having conflicted feelings about their sexuality, and, people CD's /Trans can be kind of an acceptance thing to help them feel okay. I get this from speaking too many people and realized this. Generally I don't like to date them because, well, honestly, it makes me feel less accepted for who I am, and I am not sure it doesn't hurt the other person in some way.
Guys who are Bi, I am able to understand more and it makes sense since they enjoy the company of men or women, so CD's /Trans women are natural for them. I also try to make sure they are not looking for someone who is Trans. Sometimes guys will contact me and when I tell them I am not, they are gone, even though I am open and honest about it. Thats okay as people should go after what they really want. I am not into overly hairy "Bear" guys, doesn't make me bad, just means I like what I like
Anyways, we went on a date, technically two as we had coffee once. He knew I was traveling a lot with work right now but we kept in contact. He started getting, I guess clingy, with comments such as meeting his family, how long term a relationship would I be interested in, how do I feel about love, that kind of thing, making sure to ask that I am NOT seeing anyone else (Of course I am, duhhhhh). Then he had some sexually overt comments that were a little on the strange side and probably a little too graphic for a second date
I talked to him and was trying to be subtle and leave hints that he really isn't my type, and I really do not want a relationship......................
Then today he texted me like 9 times, I explained I was working, first half of the year done and I have financials to go over. He made comments about those assholes at corporations, and boards of directors, how they should all be shot as all they do is make money off the slave wages of others etc etc etc.
I was nice about it, but I did state "I am one of those assholes at corporate", to be honest, I started at the bottom when my company closed, I took any job I could get, even as a cashier (being older looking for work is not easy)
Our corporate people took some of my suggestions and realized, I understood business, I kept getting promoted, kept getting more and more money................and, the board of directors actually listens to me these days. Truthfully, I cannot complain, yes, sometimes they ask a lot, but, they take care of me, I am very very happy.
His next comment was........."So, I thought you were a decent person, it turns out you are a bitch that makes a ton of money while your employees dont right ?"
I still tried to be nice. I let him know, I had no options after high school, we didn't have the money for college, I wasn't getting a scholarship, and I didn't want a ton of student debt, so I ran to the Army for 8 years. Instead of partying on my down time, I took mail order corospndence courses. I also took night classes as I could. When I got out, I had 2 jobs while I finished my last year and ended with 3k in student debt.................I have also put in the extra hours and sacraficed time and enjoyment to get where I am.
I could afford a BMW or Mercedes, but I don't, I would rather save my money for retirement (If you do have one and love it, great you should have what you want), I buy clothes at Walmart and I prepare for the future, so yes, I do make more than someone who is 23 with no education.
After that he went batshit crazy on his comments and how he never wants to hear from me again (well, that was the hints I was giving anyways), he told me I should go suck Trumps dick since I am probably a homophobic racist corporate stooge anyways.
And it is obvious to him, I am probably self loathing and should never be a part of the LGBTQ community.
I mean, seriously ? I am for sure not self loathing, I actually enjoy and am very happy and at peace with who and what I am.................as far as the LGBTQ community, I don't buy into the notion I have to be part of any community, except the human race community. I am good with people from all walks of life.
But seriously, I am so glad I did not go on another date with this level of crazy
Many times, someone who is gay may be having conflicted feelings about their sexuality, and, people CD's /Trans can be kind of an acceptance thing to help them feel okay. I get this from speaking too many people and realized this. Generally I don't like to date them because, well, honestly, it makes me feel less accepted for who I am, and I am not sure it doesn't hurt the other person in some way.
Guys who are Bi, I am able to understand more and it makes sense since they enjoy the company of men or women, so CD's /Trans women are natural for them. I also try to make sure they are not looking for someone who is Trans. Sometimes guys will contact me and when I tell them I am not, they are gone, even though I am open and honest about it. Thats okay as people should go after what they really want. I am not into overly hairy "Bear" guys, doesn't make me bad, just means I like what I like
Anyways, we went on a date, technically two as we had coffee once. He knew I was traveling a lot with work right now but we kept in contact. He started getting, I guess clingy, with comments such as meeting his family, how long term a relationship would I be interested in, how do I feel about love, that kind of thing, making sure to ask that I am NOT seeing anyone else (Of course I am, duhhhhh). Then he had some sexually overt comments that were a little on the strange side and probably a little too graphic for a second date
I talked to him and was trying to be subtle and leave hints that he really isn't my type, and I really do not want a relationship......................
Then today he texted me like 9 times, I explained I was working, first half of the year done and I have financials to go over. He made comments about those assholes at corporations, and boards of directors, how they should all be shot as all they do is make money off the slave wages of others etc etc etc.
I was nice about it, but I did state "I am one of those assholes at corporate", to be honest, I started at the bottom when my company closed, I took any job I could get, even as a cashier (being older looking for work is not easy)
Our corporate people took some of my suggestions and realized, I understood business, I kept getting promoted, kept getting more and more money................and, the board of directors actually listens to me these days. Truthfully, I cannot complain, yes, sometimes they ask a lot, but, they take care of me, I am very very happy.
His next comment was........."So, I thought you were a decent person, it turns out you are a bitch that makes a ton of money while your employees dont right ?"
I still tried to be nice. I let him know, I had no options after high school, we didn't have the money for college, I wasn't getting a scholarship, and I didn't want a ton of student debt, so I ran to the Army for 8 years. Instead of partying on my down time, I took mail order corospndence courses. I also took night classes as I could. When I got out, I had 2 jobs while I finished my last year and ended with 3k in student debt.................I have also put in the extra hours and sacraficed time and enjoyment to get where I am.
I could afford a BMW or Mercedes, but I don't, I would rather save my money for retirement (If you do have one and love it, great you should have what you want), I buy clothes at Walmart and I prepare for the future, so yes, I do make more than someone who is 23 with no education.
After that he went batshit crazy on his comments and how he never wants to hear from me again (well, that was the hints I was giving anyways), he told me I should go suck Trumps dick since I am probably a homophobic racist corporate stooge anyways.
And it is obvious to him, I am probably self loathing and should never be a part of the LGBTQ community.
I mean, seriously ? I am for sure not self loathing, I actually enjoy and am very happy and at peace with who and what I am.................as far as the LGBTQ community, I don't buy into the notion I have to be part of any community, except the human race community. I am good with people from all walks of life.
But seriously, I am so glad I did not go on another date with this level of crazy