69... You or me first?

[jjourneyman]

Here's a quick question to the community... When you're doing 69 (male or female), do you cum first or do you want your partner to finish first?

From personal experience, I've done it both ways. Lately, I have found that cumming first gives my partners the cue that they've done a good job and they will finish soon afterward.

What has been your experience?

[19biman61]

I was the bottom in our regular hook-up. If we were just doing oral it didn't matter who came first because the other would continue until we both came. (We both swallowed) If we were going to do anal we would 69 until he got good and hard then I would either sit on his cock or he would take me from behind.

[jjourneyman]

I was the bottom in our regular hook-up. If we were just doing oral it didn't matter who came first because the other would continue until we both came. (We both swallowed) If we were going to do anal we would 69 until he got good and hard then I would either sit on his cock or he would take me from behind.

That's cool. Most guys I've been with lately are bottoms only (which is okay with me), but I was just curious as to why they don't want to be satisfied too?

[jem_is_bi]

When, I do 69 with my partner, I very much enjoy the sensations of having my dick sucked.
However, It is very difficult for me to achieve an orgasm because I am too distracted by the attention I maintain on sucking his dick
So after an enjoyable 69, he sucks my dick until I achieve a fantastic orgasm!!
So I am always last. His dick gets plenty of attention by me before 69.
Getting me to cum first would not work because my dick would be soft and I would not be able to do 69

[Waylon]

With a female I prefer laying on our sides giving each other oral love. I can see my dick slide in and out of her mouth as I suck and lick her clitoral loves button and tongue her vagina deeply. With a man I like to be on my back with his cock down my throat and his legs spread out on either side of my head. I can grab his butt to pull him deeper if I want and can suck his balls if I lift him up a bit but the feeling of his mouth sucking my dick up and down and deep usually gets me to cum in gushes and if he times his ejaculation into my mouth at or near the same time it is very very good.

[jjourneyman]

With a female I prefer laying on our sides giving each other oral love. I can see my dick slide in and out of her mouth as I suck and lick her clitoral loves button and tongue her vagina deeply. With a man I like to be on my back with his cock down my throat and his legs spread out on either side of my head. I can grab his butt to pull him deeper if I want and can suck his balls if I lift him up a bit but the feeling of his mouth sucking my dick up and down and deep usually gets me to cum in gushes and if he times his ejaculation into my mouth at or near the same time it is very very good.

hmmmm... I prefer to be on top with male partners for all of the same reasons! I get a lot of enjoyment out of watching them enjoying my cock and I have the option of stroking or sucking them.

I'm also with you on the female side-by-side position.

[jjourneyman]

When, I do 69 with my partner, I very much enjoy the sensations of having my dick sucked.
However, It is very difficult for me to achieve an orgasm because I am too distracted by the attention I maintain on sucking his dick
So after an enjoyable 69, he sucks my dick until I achieve a fantastic orgasm!!
So I am always last. His dick gets plenty of attention by me before 69.
Getting me to cum first would not work because my dick would be soft and I would not be able to do 69

That's where it get's good. Cum first. Then, when you work through that first orgasm and, by time you've finished him, you're ready to go again. He's totally satisfied that you gave him your load. You get his, and you're ready. He'll totally leave happy and so will you!

[Cum1st]

For some reason I haven't lost my enthusiasm after cumming while having sex with a man. So I made it a point during a 69 to not concentrate on emptying his cock quickly, but take it in my mouth for short mouthings between working from his balls to his asshole. If on the bottom, the hollow of my neck would receive quite a bit of his precum - a small sacrifice for the pleasure we were both receiving. All this attention to all his parts that I consider sexual turns me on, and he'll get off with the taste of my cum lingering where he wanted it.

With my one FWB this evolved into him fucking my well cleaned asshole after I came.

Sometime after he left I would finger out his cum and savor it while jerking off to early internet porn. 'A pleasant time was had by all.'

One memorable hook-up started in two adjoining booths. It was a fair distance to an ABS North along the Susquehanna River. Plexiglass? had sealed gloryholes at the time. 'You can watch, but you better not touch.'

My neighbor propositioned me. I followed him to a secluded boat launch. It was late into the night, and we weren't interrupted.

Before climbing into the back of his pickup, we took the dog greeting thing one step farther by tonguing each other's assholes.

He laid on his back so I took the top, and the sucking began. I came first. It wasn't a planned thing. He was very good.

After he swallowed he asked if I wanted his while pulling out and stroking himself tight to his belly. My silent response was to plant my tongue on his cock and stroking fingers while mustering and drooling all the spit I could on the action. He soon pointed his cock up so I could suck the cum with his cock pulsing deep in my mouth.

Regrettably, I never saw him again, but sometime after, I realized that he and I had met before. My wife and I were exploring the area after moving into PA. We went down to the river at that same boat ramp. He had just pulled his boat out of the water after a day of fishing. We talked boats as he readied for the road. If I had super natural foresight she and I wouldn't have made it home before she would have been savagely ravaged and totally orgasmed out. Assuming she would have known of my super power she would have had reasonable suspicions. It's been no secret to her that I am Bi.

[KDaddy23]

With a man or a woman, I've always worked to make them cum first. Not saying it always worked. I'd learned to 69 with one of the guys; he had said, "Wouldn't it be cool if we could do it at the same time?" I agreed and it took maybe two minutes of us looking at each other (naked, of course), before we figured it out. He laid down, I laid on top of him but with my head facing his feet and after some adjustments, we were happily sucking each other. He came first and I was lost in swallowing his stuff when I came a moment later. Whew! That was really something! Talked a girl into it the next day - with her on top - and she definitely made me cum first but I kept eating her until she told me to stop and stick it in.

There have been many times when it didn't matter which one of us came first when in a 69. If nothing else, it taught me how to keep giving head if I'm the one who cums first.

[Jazminedress]

doesnt really matter to me

[jjourneyman]

With a man or a woman, I've always worked to make them cum first. Not saying it always worked. I'd learned to 69 with one of the guys; he had said, "Wouldn't it be cool if we could do it at the same time?" I agreed and it took maybe two minutes of us looking at each other (naked, of course), before we figured it out. He laid down, I laid on top of him but with my head facing his feet and after some adjustments, we were happily sucking each other. He came first and I was lost in swallowing his stuff when I came a moment later. Whew! That was really something! Talked a girl into it the next day - with her on top - and she definitely made me cum first but I kept eating her until she told me to stop and stick it in.

There have been many times when it didn't matter which one of us came first when in a 69. If nothing else, it taught me how to keep giving head if I'm the one who cums first.

I agree. Mutual simultaneous orgasms are the best!

But, the reason I posed this question is that my young friend from downstairs can't seem to cum until after I do. We were doing 69 this morning. After I came, he finally relaxed and came for me. By that time, I was hard again and he wanted to fuck, so we did.

[jjourneyman]

doesnt really matter to me

Oh, sweetie, with you, there would not be enough towels or mops in the world to clean up our mess - at least mine! LOL

[licyou69]

I'll take it either way I can get it, but the thought of feeling a throbbing cock unloading inside my mouth at the same time I'm cumming definitely has an appeal. If not simultaneous I'd probably want to cum first so I could just enjoy his cock for a little while.

[KDaddy23]

I agree. Mutual simultaneous orgasms are the best!

But, the reason I posed this question is that my young friend from downstairs can't seem to cum until after I do. We were doing 69 this morning. After I came, he finally relaxed and came for me. By that time, I was hard again and he wanted to fuck, so we did.

Cumming at the same time is da shit! But the reality is... it doesn't always happen and, to me, it doesn't matter which one of us cums first... as long as it happens and, preferably, in my mouth or in my ass. The whole point is to make each other cum and by any means necessary. If he cums first, I'm not gonna be mad about that because he did what I wanted him to do and, no, I don't mind if it's sooner rather than later. I sucked his dick and he came in my mouth... because he's supposed to. If I cum before he does, well, I had to learn to get past that yucky feeling we all know about and hate with a passion... because I need to make him cum because if I'm not going to do that, why are we doing this? I don't... romanticize any of this. It's just how I've always been. As long as we both cum, that just works. Me first, him first, or we manage to do it at the same time.

[Veryoralniceguy]

Male or female, I like them to cum first.

[Jozyxt]

I don't often do 69 to orgasm. It is more often taking turns with oral as I don't find the position very comfortable.

During sex I prefer my partner to cum first. I have found that women are OK with this as I then fuck them and cum fairly quickly. With men, I have male partners that lose the willingness to swallow, suck or even touch my cock after they have cum and will stop without making me cum. Or even leave.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I don't often do 69 to orgasm. It is more often taking turns with oral ...<snip>... During sex I prefer my partner to cum first.

That's pretty much the way I do things, too. (The rest of Jozxyt's response is less pertinent to my situation...)

I've never done 69 to orgasm, in fact, although I'm not against it. :bigrin:

[Biguyincolorado]

I like to cum last.... I get so into it and so horny that I just want to stay in that zone as long as I can. I know my partner enjoys the level I maintain when I haven't cum. Sure works for me.

[jimkimball]

That usually cum first I am very talented at giving oral to both male and female .
Most guys cum in ten minutes or less .
Some women cum quicker then others .

[bibliss]

I absolutely adore 69. With a man or a woman, enthusiasm is the best quality one can have. 69 is the ultimate practice of giving and receiving.

Honestly, I prefer nice, slow deliberate sessions. Delay cumming for as long as possible. Pace ourselves. Make it last. Build up slowly and hold the arousal right along the razors edge. Cumming is great but it's not the only goal. Savor and enjoy.

[bmobius]

Personally, I LOVE to make my partner cum first, but only IF that's the intention of the session. Making my partner explode is so satisfying and so, so hot. Gets me aroused like nothing else., honestly.

Now with women, when they cum first, they tend to still be ready to keep going to help me cum as well. However, it's been my experience that most guys lose sexual interest almost immediately and can't quite bring themselves to get me off as well.

That said, I wouldn't give up the sheer erotic excitement of making my partner cum in/on my mouth or face for anything!

[beamish13]

I’m always on bottom when doing this with a man or woman. I had a woman squirt all over my face in said position-one of the best experiences of my life. Love being able to finger their ass from that position

[redngoldpride]

Almost always let my partner cum first unless requesting that I cum first

[dicktrobing]

With a female partner I always want to make her cum several times before I do and then go back and giver some more orgasms

with a guy it depends if its a young guy who has a short recovery time, I'm happy for him to cum and then go back for more hopefully we can then cum together with other guys itts always good to cum together and the snowball

[mtnmen2]

When 69 I try and have both of us cum at the same time. I can usually hold off till I feel them speed up and really get into it which gets me revved up ready to cum. If we don't cum together I usually like them to cum first so I know that they are satisfied. Most of the time my partner will finish me off and if they don't it's not as concerning to me.

[Tight1-4u]

for me sex with men is all about him getting it in me and unloading his balls deep inside my pussy.. sucking to me is foreplay.. i suck to get them nice and hard to fuck me.. so if we are 69ing I want to blow my load and then he can take a little rest fingering me or eating me out or what ever.. I want all his cum in my pussy..

[Veryoralniceguy]

Man or woman, like them to cum first as I suck their cock or eat her pussy.

[Fiddlestyx]

It really, really depends upon my partner. If I'm with a woman I know is multi-orgasmic I'll always make sure she cums first in 69 (or just oral) before intercourse of some sort and some more orgasms. In younger years when I could cum several times over an hour or two I'd cum in her pussy, then return to 69 again so we could both taste our mingled juices, usually ending with us cumming in each others' mouths. With a guy it is a lot more variable, but I never like cumming first if I can avoid it.

[1funguy]

Love 69 with either male or female. Interesting part is I like to have the woman on top in the 69 so I can nibble and suck on her clit, lips, and vagina opening. Once exploring her opening (and the space in between) carefully licking her anus. If she bears down, I keep pleasuring her. If she moves around my tongue, even better. Making my focus on her pleasure to cum first so I can enjoy her juices running over my taste buds as I swallow.

With male lovers I like to be on top or side by side (best for my neck). I like to see a cock up close as the texture changes from soft to hard in my mouth. It's almost like a drug of euphoria takes over to give pleasure and receive his come. Then hold his come and kiss to share taste and feel.

Got caught up in the visual there. I so enjoy either sex for any number of other yummy reasons.