Giving head and stds

[Bearcub719]

Hi all, as I go down this road of finding my first dick to suck it does not seem that people are concerned about transmission of stds. How do you active suckers come to grips with the possibility of getting an std or worse yet, pass it to a partner?

[cornholejoe]

only suck friends i know

[tongueteaser]

I dont think there is 100% way. I do think that you find one guy and stick with him like i did. Also find a married guy maybe like I did and his wife did not like giving oral. Dont jump from guy to guy. I was doing it for this one guy for many months whenever he could sneak away from his wife. I didnt like how he barely was getting out and also he came fast. I recently got a reply from another guy after posting an ad. He actually is married and younger, much younger and his cock is twice the size. He and his wife just moved from out of state and he is not getting sucked by her. He and I are supposed to meet and I will give him head and yes I am taking chances again. He claims that he just wants one discreet guy for weekly head. I hope to meet and suck him soon and lasts for a long time. This will be my second guy I sucked and hope to do it steady just with him and try to stay safe. Its always chances though in my eyes.

[Jazminedress]

There are no guarantees, you can always use a condom, but, I dont blow and go, I know the person first, but even that isnt 100%

[jjourneyman]

I agree with everyone else... there is no way to know absolutely, but there are definitely some warning signs. And these go for men and women.

Never suck or fuck anyone that has warts, bumps or sores around or on their junk.
Never suck or fuck anyone that has anything leaking out of their cock or pussy.
And, don't do anyone who has just been done by someone you don't know personally.

Condoms help, but then, they also defeat the purpose.

Internet hook-ups are ok, but make sure the guy is on the up-and-up. Do several Google or Zoom meets first and, above all, ask to see some pics first.

[KDaddy23]

I've been sucking dick since I was nine and I've never gotten an STD anywhere. You learn to know the signs and symptoms of the better-known STDs; for example, chlamydia tends to be asymptomatic, but a swab of your mouth (done when testing for it orally) could reveal its presence... but your saliva can kill the active parts of it. You choose the guys you want to suck as carefully as you can. You make double damned sure that your mouth is healthy - no cavities, your gums don't bleed when you brush your teeth, and you don't have any cuts or abrasions in your mouth. You always give the other guy's dick a close look for any sores, scabs, or fresh-looking abrasions and if he's uncut, you peel back his foreskin to make sure he's clean under there - no smegma, which occurs naturally but can harbor some STDs like a yeast infection and it's stinky.

I have remained STD over the decades by sticking to this mantra: When in doubt, do nothing. I hate sucking dick covered with a condom and the majority of the guys I've sucked don't like wearing one when being sucked... so you educate yourself first and foremost. It's okay to be spontaneous and hook up with guys... but do your due diligence and like jjourneyman said, make sure he's going to be safe. And, importantly, see a doctor or take advantage of any free testing places so you can be tested for stuff!

[Rest85]

My #1 choice is to suck married guys who aren't getting head at home. I feel like I've automatically reduced my chances of catching anything by being with a married guy who seeks no recip oral. If you can connect with a guy who'd not interested in anal (assuming you aren't either) and also with a guy who does not suck cock that's a huge plus, but, of course, this only works for those of us inclined to be sub no recip dick suckers.

Whether a guy is married or not, I insist on a face to face meeting prior to committing to suck anyone off. When talking, I also ask to see his cock. Obviously, there is no way to know if someone is telling the truth as to their sexual activities or their health status but you can often trust your senses about the vibe you get when talking with someone.

When I first connect with someone, I mention to them that I want to meet face to face and I also mention that neither of us is under any obligation or expectation. If things don't seem good, walk away.

Good luck...be safe. There are no guarantees but you can certainly improve your odds by taking some sensible precautions.

[BeauKnerr]

I've been sucking dick since I was nine and I've never gotten an STD anywhere. You learn to know the signs and symptoms of the better-known STDs; for example, chlamydia tends to be asymptomatic, but a swab of your mouth (done when testing for it orally) could reveal its presence... but your saliva can kill the active parts of it. You choose the guys you want to suck as carefully as you can. You make double damned sure that your mouth is healthy - no cavities, your gums don't bleed when you brush your teeth, and you don't have any cuts or abrasions in your mouth. You always give the other guy's dick a close look for any sores, scabs, or fresh-looking abrasions and if he's uncut, you peel back his foreskin to make sure he's clean under there - no smegma, which occurs naturally but can harbor some STDs like a yeast infection and it's stinky.

I have remained STD over the decades by sticking to this mantra: When in doubt, do nothing. I hate sucking dick covered with a condom and the majority of the guys I've sucked don't like wearing one when being sucked... so you educate yourself first and foremost. It's okay to be spontaneous and hook up with guys... but do your due diligence and like jjourneyman said, make sure he's going to be safe. And, importantly, see a doctor or take advantage of any free testing places so you can be tested for stuff!

That’s great advice and congrats on staying bug free over the years. Your comments imply that you’ve had occasions in which you were about to suck a guy only to discover evidence of a possible STD or other unappetizing condition and then removed yourself from the situation. Please share your experience and advice on how to exit those situations gracefully.

[KDaddy23]

That?s great advice and congrats on staying bug free over the years. Your comments imply that you?ve had occasions in which you were about to suck a guy only to discover evidence of a possible STD or other unappetizing condition and then removed yourself from the situation. Please share your experience and advice on how to exit those situations gracefully.

How to exit gracefully? I just told guys, "Nah, man - I can't do it. Sorry." The lack of grace usually came with having to explain why I wasn't going to suck his dick and most guys weren't all that understandable about it. Occupational hazard. No "nice" way to tell a guy that he doesn't feel right or that you feel that he's not being truthful about his state of health and then, to be real and honest, I've guessed and felt incorrectly about a guy - he was really safe to suck but, well, that's not what I thought and felt at the time. Sorry about that and it's not really personal but it is because I'm not trying to get an STD. Having said that - and knowing what the symptoms of having the clap are - I can't imagine a guy wanting to do something when he's experiencing the symptoms - that's just heinous and unbelievably so... but guys do it and I'll be damned if I know why.

When in any doubt, do nothing - it's the only way to avoid getting something in your mouth other than a nice load of cum and standing up for your right to refuse to suck them if you have doubts or you see signs that his dick might not be a good thing to suck... and no graceful way to do it that is going to be acceptable to him.

[Veryoralniceguy]

I started sucking older mens cocks when I was 8
years old and loved it from the start. I had fantasized about it since I had scene older mens cocks in the showers and changing room at the public swimming pool. I’m 73 now and I’ve easily sucked over a thousand cocks, swallowed all that cum and never had an STD. Most were married men.

[missn3njerry]

the real bogey out there is herpes - the gift that keeps giving....about 30% of transmissions occur asymptomatically - that is when there is no active lesion. community prevalence is also pretty high - i've seen several estimates that are in the 10% to 15% range in the general public. Unless you and your partner go through a full panel of STI tests, you don't really know. Sadly, one off hookups (which can be a lot of fun!) usually don't involve a trip to the community testing clinic.

condoms aren't a lot of fun, but I'd rather suck or be sucked with a condom than have to explain how I picked up an infection that can only be managed, not eliminated

my $0.02

[BeauKnerr]

the real bogey out there is herpes - the gift that keeps giving....about 30% of transmissions occur asymptomatically - that is when there is no active lesion. community prevalence is also pretty high - i've seen several estimates that are in the 10% to 15% range in the general public. Unless you and your partner go through a full panel of STI tests, you don't really know. Sadly, one off hookups (which can be a lot of fun!) usually don't involve a trip to the community testing clinic.

condoms aren't a lot of fun, but I'd rather suck or be sucked with a condom than have to explain how I picked up an infection that can only be managed, not eliminated

my $0.02

Add the monkeypox to the list of goodies one might bring home to mama from some bro-2-bro time. Interesting that the CDC specially calls out online hook-up sites as a contributing factor.

“Suspicion for monkeypox should be heightened if the rash occurs in people who 1) traveled to countries with recently confirmed cases of monkeypox, 2) report having had contact with a person or people who have a similar appearing rash or received a diagnosis of confirmed or suspected monkeypox, or 3) is a man who regularly has close or intimate in-person contact with other men, including those met through an online website, digital application (‘app’), or at a bar or party. Lesions may be disseminated or located on the genital or perianal area alone.”

https://emergency.cdc.gov/han/2022/han00466.asp

[dowmass]

the real bogey out there is herpes - the gift that keeps giving....about 30% of transmissions occur asymptomatically - that is when there is no active lesion. community prevalence is also pretty high - i've seen several estimates that are in the 10% to 15% range in the general public. Unless you and your partner go through a full panel of STI tests, you don't really know. Sadly, one off hookups (which can be a lot of fun!) usually don't involve a trip to the community testing clinic.

condoms aren't a lot of fun, but I'd rather suck or be sucked with a condom than have to explain how I picked up an infection that can only be managed, not eliminated
my $0.02

Is there a test that will show the presence of the Herpes virus?

[BeauKnerr]

Is there a test that will show the presence of the Herpes virus?

There is a blood test that detects the presence of antibodies to HSV-2 and HSV-1, two of the most prominent strains of STD grade “Herpes”. HSV-2 is more commonly associated with genital herpes. So, yea, there is a test that reveals whether one has been previously exposed, but there is no “on the spot” test, other than the obvious presence of oozing blisters. There’s your sign. But even in the absence of a blistering outbreak, a herpes carrier still may “shed” the virus to other recipients. So, just because it looks “OK”, isn’t a guarantee that it is.

All of that said, I had an exclusive female partner who I learned was HSV-2 positive after being with her for over 3 years, to my shock. I got tested and was still negative. After letting her know how much of a fucking bitch she was for having concealed this information, I continued to fuck her steadily for the next 4 years without ever testing positive for it. I assumed that if I hadn’t caught it after 3 years from her that I never would and fortunately I was right. But I never would knowingly take that bet with anyone else.

[ct_sounder]

the real bogey out there is herpes - the gift that keeps giving....about 30% of transmissions occur asymptomatically - that is when there is no active lesion. community prevalence is also pretty high - i've seen several estimates that are in the 10% to 15% range in the general public. Unless you and your partner go through a full panel of STI tests, you don't really know. Sadly, one off hookups (which can be a lot of fun!) usually don't involve a trip to the community testing clinic.

condoms aren't a lot of fun, but I'd rather suck or be sucked with a condom than have to explain how I picked up an infection that can only be managed, not eliminated

my $0.02


Agree. If i am to enjoy a hard dick in my mouth, it will be covered by a condom. Not worth the risk as a semi-active bi guy.

Not saying bare skin is not better - it is! But I have not sucked without a condom in years to be safe.

[dowmass]

There is a blood test that detects the presence of antibodies to HSV-2 and HSV-1, two of the most prominent strains of STD grade ?Herpes?. HSV-2 is more commonly associated with genital herpes. So, yea, there is a test that reveals whether one has been previously exposed, but there is no ?on the spot? test, other than the obvious presence of oozing blisters. There?s your sign. But even in the absence of a blistering outbreak, a herpes carrier still may ?shed? the virus to other recipients. So, just because it looks ?OK?, isn?t a guarantee that it is.

All of that said, I had an exclusive female partner who I learned was HSV-2 positive after being with her for over 3 years, to my shock. I got tested and was still negative. After letting her know how much of a fucking bitch she was for having concealed this information, I continued to fuck her steadily for the next 4 years without ever testing positive for it. I assumed that if I hadn?t caught it after 3 years from her that I never would and fortunately I was right. But I never would knowingly take that bet with anyone else.

The right thing would be for both partners to:

1) Get all tests done (HIV, STD?s and Herpes) and share results.
2) Then both must stay monogamous and periodically share test results.
Step 2 may not be needed if the parties are live in boyfriends.

Does anyone have a different perspective ?

[KDaddy23]

Yeah, methinks I smell bullshit on the monkey pox thing because it suggests that it's an STD and specifying M2M sex makes me wonder what the fuck is going on. Here's the thing, guys: If you spend more time worrying about stuff like this, guess what you won't ever be doing? Okay, those two things Dowmass mentioned. I agree with #1... but staying monogamous? The #2 thing should be to always practice safe sex and even if live-in boyfriends are involved because why take chances... and do really know for a fact where his dick has been or what's going on with his ass? I know that I'd not want to be monogamous with just one guy... but I'm not stupid or careless, either; being monogamous guarantees nothing, in my opinion.

Sex is inherently risky and always has been. There are two things you can do to ensure your sexual safety with anyone: Use protection for everything... or don't have sex. Pretty cut and dried, I'd say. If you're highly active with da fellas, get on PrEP to lessen your chance of catching the HIV virus. Don't give or get head without condoms being used and most definitely do not have anal sex without them. I don't know why this is so "difficult." When in doubt, do nothing or use protection if it's readily available.