Being newer or little experienced bottom seems like its so difficult to find a play p

[tongueteaser]

So I am not the type of guy to have a bunch of sex partners. I have only had one man I sucked for so far. He had issues of meeting and getting out and also had ED issues. So I have tried to find another steady ongoing friend locally that I can give oral to or HJ on weekends. I work way too much on weekdays to meet. I posted on different sites explaining the at I only have experience with one guy and sucked and did fine and guy came fast. I explained that I was looking for one discreet guy that I can bottom for and I only sucked so far but will try anal if not to big as I am tight. So it seems guys dont like an inexperienced guy?? Maybe because I want to try anal? Or is it because they want to swap places and I am not a top type? Looking for info from any experienced guys as to why I cant find a top to use me

[Jazminedress]

It can take time, I ma seeing a lot more bottoms out there now for some reason.................don't sweat it, things happen in due time

[Grant_Norman]

It is difficult to find new guys even for those of us who've sucked regularly for years. The old Craigslist was my goto site for years. Could find 4-5 new guys a week. When Craigslist changed, my hookups changed. Now lucky to find a couple a month.
Once you do find a regular, stick with him. I had a bi/gay couple for years. And could meet them several times a week and even take new guys with me and we'd double 69. Unfortunately, I ne died and the other had a stroke. I'm in Ecuador now and different culture is hard to work. Have used Grindr here but like USA, it attracts a lot of flakes. Just keep trying and you'll find something that works for you. Good luck.

[friesbaconnekkid]

I have never had a problem finding guys to suck off. It is tops that are more rare. I have been fortunate enough to have been fucked quite few times. I kept contact info for the best fuckers. I've guided them through proper foreplay of stretching and lubing my ass properly before they fuck me. My favorite fuck uses Viagra, and he will fuck me for a couple hours at a time, just taking breaks to rest and re-lube my ass.

[KDaddy23]

In my experiences, some guys don't prefer less experienced guys while, crazily, there are some guys who do prefer less experienced guys. Even I've noticed a major uptick in the number of bottoms and many have wondered and complained about not being able to find tops. My protege tells me that while he's not a bottom, he's running into more tops who want to top another top or they want a top to top them... so I don't know what's really going on with this but I do know that when you're looking for that one special guy, patience is the watchword. It can be a "problem" in that the way to be more experienced in these things is to have more opportunities to gain that experience but passing up those opportunities won't get you the experience you need.

Now you're casting about for that one guy who can give you the experience you need but also has the patience to... teach, for lack of a better word. He's out there somewhere so keep looking.

[dowmass]

In my experiences, some guys don't prefer less experienced guys while, crazily, there are some guys who do prefer less experienced guys. Even I've noticed a major uptick in the number of bottoms and many have wondered and complained about not being able to find tops. My protege tells me that while he's not a bottom, he's running into more tops who want to top another top or they want a top to top them... so I don't know what's really going on with this but I do know that when you're looking for that one special? .

you are absolute right.
my observations:
1) The most preferred age group: 19-35
2) The most preferred body type : height-weight proportionate or muscular,
3) The most preferred : TOPS. Versatile is okay, but if you are a total bottom, the chances of getting topped, becomes very low.
4) you must host or else you lose out on hung tops.

[jjourneyman]

you are absolute right.
my observations:
1) The most preferred age group: 19-35
2) The most preferred body type : height-weight proportionate or muscular,
3) The most preferred : TOPS. Versatile is okay, but if you are a total bottom, the chances of getting topped, becomes very low.
4) you must host or else you lose out on hung tops.

You're very accurate in your assessment, downmass.

There's an old saying in the porn industry that... "You have to start at the bottom and work your way to the top." That's probably true (although I didn't stick around long enough to find out). But in hindsight (no pun intended), I think that would be true.

Someone else recently posted on this site about "Unicorns". Tops, it seems are becoming extinct, which I find kind of funny.

When I first started experimenting with men, it seemed everyone was a top. Now it's just the reverse.

[KDaddy23]

Yep - dowmass is spot on with his assessment of how the dynamic works these days... and is part and parcel to why so many men aren't having the sex they want to have. When I started having sex with my friends, we were all versatile because it just seemed to (a) be the right way to be and (b) it was... fair. You fuck me, I fuck you and we're both happy and satisfied. But when I saw things being "divided" into top, bottom, and versatile, okay, I got it but there were more tops than guys willing to bottom - and versatile guys like myself seemed to be extinct and I guess it was just my luck to run into a lot of gay bottoms who were 100% dedicated to being a bottom - and complaining about there not being a lot of guys who wanted to top them.

With those preferences, I get it... and I don't. With the exception of hosting - and not everyone can or wants to - the rest of those preferences are differences that, in my mind, shouldn't make a difference. Do you wanna do something? Does your dick work? No diseases? Your age doesn't matter to me; your body type doesn't matter and being totally blunt and honest, I have always felt that if you're man enough to shove your dick in my ass, you should be man enough to get my dick shoved into your ass... but that's not the way things are any more. Guys are too... picky and specialized and that causes less sex when more sex is what we want to experience even if all we do is suck each other's dick until we can't get it up anymore.

If you're not that experienced, I'm happy to give you some more experience... because it doesn't matter if you're experienced or not. What does matter is your desire to have sex and not being afraid to step out of whatever box you've put yourself into. I don't care about the size of your dick... because it really doesn't matter, you know, as long as it works like it's supposed to. But this is just me and how I feel about this and because things are the way dowmass correctly said they are, this is pretty damned frustrating...