Children and sex issues

[Grant_Norman]

We have laws that are supposed to protect children from 1) Having sex 2) Sexual predators. For all intents this is probably good, but for reality of humans, an arbitrary number, such as 18 in a lot of places isn't necessarily the best.

When I was 7 years-old I began sucking cock...experimenting like a lot of kids but I really did enjoy it. I sucked with guys throughout my childhood until I was 16 when I got my 1st wife pregnant. Got married and fell into the hetero life routine. As long as I was getting pussy, sucking cock was secondary. I didn't stop because I didn't like sucking, rather pussy was available so sucking became secondary.

I know as a child I was very, very sexual. I always walked around holding my cock a lot and would play with it a lot when alone, as early as 3 years-old I'd get excited seeing my mothers tits and not even understand why.

As children we are developing in a lot of ways and sexuality is just one...it is human nature.

I am strongly, very strongly against sexual predators forcing children or anyone to have sex. It is definitely terrible for anyone at anytime to force it.

However, by the time I was n9 or 10 I was sure I liked cock sucking and always loved the chance to do it. I was never forced to or encouraged by and older man, but if I had been ever asked to, I would have gladly sucked him. My sexual desires had really fully developed at a very young age and at puberty they only kicked into higher gear. When I could masturbate and cum I was in heaven.

All this said, I feel some children, like myself, develop and want sex at earlier ages - say 9 or 10 - while others may not until 16, 17 or 18. The human body in each individual is strange and can vary a lot.

All this said, I clearly did not fully understand my full sexuality until looking back at it from now 72 years old. I've been bisexual my entire life, but didn't really start fully acting on it until 65. That's well over 50 years of inactivity that I now wish I had had. Lots of cum I could have swallowed in 50 years...just need to try and make up for it now.

If you feel you may be bisexual then by all means be bisexual. You really do not want to be in a looking back situation.

[Jazminedress]

Usually I avoid these conversations as I have very strong opinions on them, but I do try to stay respectful.

I don't consider 18 to be an arbitrary number. We know the development of the human mind, we have 100's of years of learning about it. The fact some people develop faster, or some can use the big boy potty at an earlier age makes no difference at all, unless we intend to test every single kid, every 6 months for maturity, intelect, decision making, then make them all wear a wrist band or a colored marking on their forehead showing what level they are.

But say we lowered the age of consent, then why have child labor laws ?
Or use an arbitrary age to go in the military ?
Voting, gun ownership, signing contracts ?

It would all need to be tossed, just like these morons that want the voting age for national decisions lowered to 14, what could go wrong ?

[louther]

I would say 18 is an arbitrary number. You can honestly believe that a 17 year old is that much more immature than an 18 year old? I would agree that most things are 18 for a reason, but if prosecutors are allowed to toss that out the window to put 14 yr olds on trial as an adult then in my opinion that sets a precedent. You can?t or at least shouldn?t be able to have it both ways.

In either case, most states have set the age of consent at 16, not 18 and most of Europe is the same, contrary to popular belief. In some countries the age is even lower. I do understand that some develop faster, I believe I was one of those. I can remember being 10 and younger hoping an older man would see my outside and ask me to come in his house to play with my cock and me with his. It never happened but I can say for myself that if it had I would?ve loved it and never said a word. I knew it was something that wasn?t allowed but still wanted it.

[KDaddy23]

Eighteen isn't that arbitrary a number since in many states in the US, you turn 18, you're a legal adult. The last time I looked at the laws here where I live, they were... confusing since they don't just say "you gotta be 18 to consent to any sex" - they actually break it down into hetero- and homosexual sex and the youngest you can be to consent to any sex is... 16 but 18 is prominently stated. I was like, "Okay - which is it?" Every state has differing laws but what the law doesn't allow for is for kids to be very damned sexual before "being legal." I'm not talking about predators; this is plain old "regular" experimentation that parents have a lot of fear over because they know that they can't watch their offspring 24/7.

I maintain, however, that a lot of us discovered sex and sexuality at a young age. For some of us, eh, it's no big deal - no harm, no foul. For some, no harm, no foul but the adult mind thinks back and one might be feeling... guilty or, as a member wrote in a similar post, he was relieved to find that he wasn't the only one who had sex with his friends when he was young. I don't see age of consent laws being lowered although I remember reading something years ago suggesting that they be lowered because a lot of kids were having mad sex before they were legal and if it went to court, the laws weren't really that clear or some other legal clusterfuck but that got kicked to the curb because being able to enforce such a thing was, I guess, deemed to be impossible and a lot of parents argued against it.

I'll be honest. I always thought that the adults around me and my horny peers knew what we were doing with each other and unless someone got caught or there was a "major complaint," not a whole lot was done to stop us from having sex other than to keep telling us not to do it until we were old enough - and whatever that meant. If I've learned nothing about bisexuality, it's that we all don't find out about it when we're 16-18 or even into our early 20s. The laws are what they are. No debating it. The reality we can't deal with is that they aren't always obeyed. It is very much like a sergeant used to tell us before we'd head out for the weekend: It's only illegal if you get caught - so don't get caught. I know this sounds fucked up but it's the reality. However, as adults ourselves, we can obey the laws and we damned well better obey them but, yeah, we can and should talk about how we got to be bisexual because if we can't talk to each other about it, who can we talk to about it? Makes no sense to argue about something that happened long ago and whenever "long ago" happened for someone. It's like I said to Tenni once: Today's laws did not apply or exist in their current form back in 1964 and when I got hooked on dick. I know how I did. I'm okay with it because it doesn't make sense to me to not be okay with it. It happened. Over and done with. No harm, no foul. So talking about what's legal today is great for knowing what they are today and wherever we live since none of us want to be accused of being that guy.

It is exactly how I discovered bisexuality even if I didn't find out the word existed until three whole years later. Oh, okay - so that's what I've been doing! Not a problem and still isn't. No shame at all about any of it. Loving this conversation because it's real-life shit and we need to keep it real.

[Jozyxt]

18 is not the legal age of consent in all places. Some US states have 17 as the age of consent. Like all law, this is a compromise, a point at which most people should be able to understand the consequences and deal with the emotions of sex. Many could earlier. While some haven't yet reached the level of maturity. But we need a legal point as there is no way to say on an individual basis.

Age of consent is younger in a few states and some other counties.


18 seems to be the legal age for porngraphic photography alomst everwhere. So you can have sex with someone, but if you take a photo of it you can go to jail. But hold that thought, the nannies are trying to raise age of photography to 21.