How do you feel about having just one discreet partner to do your thing with regulary

[tongueteaser]

I have only played and pleased one guys cock so far. Playing with it and sucking the head and going down. Thing is it seems hard to find a compatible partner. The one I do has very little time to get out because his wife. His wife has no sex with him. He also is very tiny down there and has ED issues. So back to the steady partner thing. How many have a regular that can participate at least a few times a week.

[travelingman5000]

What you are asking about is what I have been looking for for years. Just can't seem to find the guy.

[1funguy]

I was lucky enough to find that regular partner. It lasted for 12 years until he passed away at 81. As he aged he to had erection challenges so many times would be soft yet never lost feeling to cum. Enjoy the soft cock as we all need to have feelings of being cared for. My partners mouth still worked fine as he still sucked my cock, nipples. licked my ass and kissed with pleasure. So hang in there and enjoy the time together.

Now if that happens again for me I don't know. At least I'm grateful of all those pleasurable hours together.

[MAcpl69]

I would prefer to have a bunch people to play with!

[void()]

It would be nice. Some can divorce sex & love. Can myself at times. That's not what I prefer. Enjoy having both with someone. Unfortunately, that is rare to locate in seemingly any locale.

I'm not saying anything negative regarding anyone enjoying sex for its sake. It is simply different than having love & sex. I prefer having love & sex. Enjoy what you enjoy.

[lancer525]

I have only played and pleased one guys cock so far. Playing with it and sucking the head and going down. Thing is it seems hard to find a compatible partner. The one I do has very little time to get out because his wife. His wife has no sex with him. He also is very tiny down there and has ED issues. So back to the steady partner thing. How many have a regular that can participate at least a few times a week.


As others have said, this would be my ideal situation. One guy I can trust, who isn't one of those overly aggressive domineering types, who is interested in getting his balls drained, letting me practice deep throating him, and maybe fucking me once in a while. And I'll be darned if I can find that guy either. At least, one who's within my travel range.

[Jozyxt]

I would definitely like to have a guy that was similarly situated and could make regular playdates. Someone to experiment and try new things with. So many men seem to have a fixed role or routine for getting together.

[bikurinpa]

I been looking for years as well, it seems no one on these sites has any real intentions of meeting, all seem to just want to get on t o chat when horny, then get rocks off then they are GONE!!!!

[happymouthandtongue]

I’d like to find a regular partner, but I’m a little concerned that they might become attached to me. Plus, it’s a real turn on to suck someone new each time. I find a lot of guys on the DL at our local park. They all recognize my car and know I’m there to suck cocks.

[ClassicPaCpl]

As a cpl, We have been looking for quite a while for another BIsexual CPL to share with. We have chatted with many and yes we have tried singles too but our hope is to find another bi cpl to spend time with and develope a good relationship with.
Will it happen, Who knows. But we will continue to look

[Neonaught]

I am fortunate enough to have a bi wife that I have been out to since 2001. Over the years I have developed a small circle of 5-10 regular playmates. Several times a week is pretty ambitious and my experience has been more along the lines of once a week but I am NOT complaining! They are all closeted, married bi men so finding time is always a bit difficult. Getting to where I am has always required much searching online but there are pearls to be found among the swine! ;>P

[SilkyHoseLover]

If I could find a single playmate who checked off all the boxes on my shopping list, I'd be very happy to have such an arrangement. As things currently exist, it's a compromise.

* I have one friend that I've played with several times, including a couple of times when my wife was present. He and I like to play as 'gurlfriends', but he's married and not-out, so he can't dress the part as much as I like to. I like a fully-shaved partner who loves to wear lingerie, as I do.

* I'm about to begin to experiment with a man who's more gay that straight, and isn't interested in my cross-dressing. We have other things in-common, though, including a passion for giving and receiving oral pleasure. I'm optimistic that we will enjoy each others' attention.

* I've been trying to connect for nearly two years with another gentleman, with whom I've exchanged a ton of emails. From what I've learned of him and his desires, he appears to be the most compatible potential partner who's every contacted me. Except for one thing, and it's age-related: inability to achieve a strong erection. Still, everything he's written about his desire to 'make love' to me is exceptionally hot, and pretty damned close to what I would get if I filled out an order form for someone to play with.

* I've been in contact with another potential partner in recent months who is masculine, a bit younger and fit enough so that 'everything works' as it should. He is interested in my feminine side, with him assuming the masculine role, treating me as if I were his female lover.

They all have one thing in common: they are all decent, respectable people, who have made the effort to communicate openly, clearly and candidly in an effort to get to know one another before playing together. I don't do hasty, anonymous hookups, no matter how horny I get. Tempting? Sure. Of the 4 men I've mentioned, I have met and played with one (more than once) and have enjoyed in-person conversation with another, who I'm planning to get to know more intimately soon.

So, for the time-being, it's not likely that I could settle on a single, discreet partner. But this doesn't mean that I'm promiscuous, by any means. Call it an exploratory phase, looking to find a good fit.

[nu2curious]

A regular FWB is the only way to go just wish I could accomplish it.

[KDaddy23]

This is the "holy grail" of male bisexuality, to find that one guy to explore this aspect of sexuality with and, dare I say, avoid the shame that has been attached to jumping into bed with different men. Yep, bi guys are subject to slut shaming just as much as women who freely sleep with different men get shamed because they don't have that one person to exclusively have sex with. At times, I've had that one guy... and it was very good to not have to be out there playing the game with other men but, sheesh, sometimes it wasn't always a bowl of cherries and our exclusive interest in each other would go by the wayside because too much of the same thing, no matter how good it is, gets to be quite old and to the point where something different is needed and that usually means "hitting the streets" to once again find that one guy we can exclusively be sexual with - and inasmuch as that can really be.

If you can find him, all well and good but if this isn't your cup of tea - and because there is always that chance of becoming attached to each other happening and it's not a preferred change to things or such attachment presents a problem for those who are already attached to someone - "interviewing" other men for the singular position is, I think, warranted unless one has some issues with casual sex... and a lot of men these days do and this, along with some other stuff, makes finding The One even more important and desirable and the more frustrating.

Is it the only way to go? No, it isn't. There are a lot of guys who'd want to have sex with you but there aren't that many guys who would be willing to commit to anything that even smells like a relationship... and FWB is a kind of relationship and it gets "complicated" when exclusivity is now being mandated. I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade: Having The One is a good thing, hands down... but I am the guy who will speak to the reality of things. Some men just ain't interested in being "tied down" to one guy and a lot of guys don't like situations that are... clingy. They don't mind throwing it down with you and if it was good, sure - let's do it again and if we can be regular, fine... but if things feel like they're getting too snug - for lack of a better word - they're gonna be in the wind faster than you can say boo... because that relationship thing just ain't working for them and as I've heard a lot of guys say, it's too gay for their sensibilities. They just wanna have sex. Don't necessarily want to have a "boyfriend."

It's a good thing that, more often than not, can turn into a not-so-good thing and I'm the guy who will probably burst your bubble by pointing this out. I'm not against it one bit... I just happen to know how this works and sometimes it's not a good thing.

[SuckerMC]

I chat with someone who has multiple regular cocks that he sucks sometimes several times a week. Not very often does he not have a cock to suck in a weeks time. If he does not suck off one of his seblveral regulars he goes to his own local "hunting" spot where he will always find a cock or more to suck in a night. I quite admire him with his confidence and forwardness to always find a cock to suck. He has been sucking cock for many years. A few guys have asked him to become their personal loyal cocksucker but he politey turns them down. He doesn't want to suck just one cock. He wants to suck as many cocks as possible and not be tied down to just one.

He could very well be my idol cocksucker.

[Tag200]

I would like to find one main playmate that I see often but also try some different cock here and there.. but first I need to try sucking for the third time and see about taking his cum. No set guy yet but a few potential ones

[jem_is_bi]

I have had one discreet partner for more than 15 years.
I do not volunteer any details of my sex life unless there is a need to know.
However, I am not hiding my relationship with him from others.
Also, our relationship is not exclusive
We can have sex with other men or women and keep each other informed of such activity.
We have an understanding that other sex activity does not include blow and go sex with a large number random partners.
Our relationship works very well for us.

[Cum1st]

I had a weekly get together around the turn of the century. It ended when he was transferred out of state. I'd like the same again. If it doesn't happen, oh well. I've still got my memories, this site, and porn.

The pick up scene is tempting, but riskier than it was many years ago.

[RisingBi]

This is the "holy grail" of male bisexuality, to find that one guy to explore this aspect of sexuality with and, dare I say, avoid the shame that has been attached to jumping into bed with different men. Yep, bi guys are subject to slut shaming just as much as women who freely sleep with different men get shamed because they don't have that one person to exclusively have sex with. At times, I've had that one guy... and it was very good to not have to be out there playing the game with other men but, sheesh, sometimes it wasn't always a bowl of cherries and our exclusive interest in each other would go by the wayside because too much of the same thing, no matter how good it is, gets to be quite old and to the point where something different is needed and that usually means "hitting the streets" to once again find that one guy we can exclusively be sexual with - and inasmuch as that can really be.

If you can find him, all well and good but if this isn't your cup of tea - and because there is always that chance of becoming attached to each other happening and it's not a preferred change to things or such attachment presents a problem for those who are already attached to someone - "interviewing" other men for the singular position is, I think, warranted unless one has some issues with casual sex... and a lot of men these days do and this, along with some other stuff, makes finding The One even more important and desirable and the more frustrating.

Is it the only way to go? No, it isn't. There are a lot of guys who'd want to have sex with you but there aren't that many guys who would be willing to commit to anything that even smells like a relationship... and FWB is a kind of relationship and it gets "complicated" when exclusivity is now being mandated. I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade: Having The One is a good thing, hands down... but I am the guy who will speak to the reality of things. Some men just ain't interested in being "tied down" to one guy and a lot of guys don't like situations that are... clingy. They don't mind throwing it down with you and if it was good, sure - let's do it again and if we can be regular, fine... but if things feel like they're getting too snug - for lack of a better word - they're gonna be in the wind faster than you can say boo... because that relationship thing just ain't working for them and as I've heard a lot of guys say, it's too gay for their sensibilities. They just wanna have sex. Don't necessarily want to have a "boyfriend."

It's a good thing that, more often than not, can turn into a not-so-good thing and I'm the guy who will probably burst your bubble by pointing this out. I'm not against it one bit... I just happen to know how this works and sometimes it's not a good thing.
KDaddy, you continually astound me with your wisdom! Thank you for sharing your understanding of how it is out there in general. It certainly informs my own situation of wanting and searching for a FWB, something that I have desired most greatly, in my head anyway, since breaking up with my girlfriend shortly before the pandemic hit. That relationship really brought up stronger gay feelings in me, especially after it ended. I feel like I want closer connections with guys, or a guy. But it is also still only a fantasy.

I'm also a little different from most bi guys here and everywhere: I only play with other single guys, something that is rare in the bisexual community. But there are some, and I did get together with one such guy during this pandemic a couple of times a year ago, but it didn't work out. Otherwise, the pandemic really curtailed the tons of gay sex I was so looking forward to after the break-up. I've also gained a lot of extra Covid weight (30 lbs!) that makes me self-conscious now, and my honesty with that might also be dissuading guys from replying to my emails or texts on gay hookup sites and apps.

I've also written to a number of gay guys, but my preference is bi, like me. Perhaps there is a greater chance finding a regular friend fuck buddy in the gay community, but there seems to be a split between the vast majority (in my area) driven by a hunger for fresh cock and ass every week, and a small minority looking for love. I've experienced the latter a few years before meeting my ex-girlfriend, where the guy that came closest to a FWB for me was this gay man who had recently come out to his family and divorced his wife. I really liked this guy a lot, as a friend, and enjoyed our sex a lot, seeing him a number of times over a few months, and doing nonsexual things together like having dinner (restaurants and home), watching TV, and having long conversations about everything. He was such a super nice guy, and would've been a perfect FWB. But he was looking for love, a boyfriend, and even a husband. But unfortunately, even though I really wanted to be in love with him, I just wasn't, so I wasn't the guy for him. I have yet to have romantic feelings for a guy, but I'm not against the idea.

But for now, I still hope for a FWB, a regular fuck buddy that I can also hang out with as a friend and do friend things together, like hiking, canoeing, camping (where of course so much wonderful sex would also be happening), going to the theatre, cinema and concerts, and so on. But your helpful thoughts, KDaddy, also help me to loosen my strong grasping onto this desire. Reality might never provide me such a friend. But time will tell.

[RisingBi]

I have had one discreet partner for more than 15 years.
I do not volunteer any details of my sex life unless there is a need to know.
However, I am not hiding my relationship with him from others.
Also, our relationship is not exclusive
We can have sex with other men or women and keep each other informed of such activity.
We have an understanding that other sex activity does not include blow and go sex with a large number random partners.
Our relationship works very well for us.
That sounds like a good compromise. I'd be open to having such a relationship, with a single guy, where we are totally honest with each other about other male and female sexual partners we enjoy, regular or one night stands. The one thing about a regular FWB fuck buddy idea that I'd like is to be able to go bareback and cum in each other's assholes. I want the intimacy of sharing each other's seed and feeling that deeper connection between two men. But since monogamy is rare anyway, I would go on PrEP with him anyway. So both of us being on PrEP and getting regular STD tests when we're not exclusive would work out well.

[dowmass]

It is wonderful getting so many perspectives on having one dedicated person to be with. I know it soubds crazy, but should I be with one, I’d call him my “lover”.

My problem is this: I can’t find a top to be with. Be it a NSA or a long term lover, I can’t find one. I’ve tried Double list, and all I’ve got is fake, flakes and maybe bot.

I wouldn’t mind becoming a member with Grindr or any other paid site, but wouldn’t like to use my credit card.. I am not sure they’d let me use a pre-paid card.

I’ve never been to a gay bar.. it’s kind of awkward and I wouldn’t know what to do and how to respond if someone (that’s a top) approached me.

Does anyone here have other ideas about finding a top partner? (I live in Dallas TX)

[Modude]

That's pretty much the situation I'd like to have, BUT.........if it's anything like the lifestyle, it's a hard thing to find

[DD788Snipe]

I had it for a couple of years then he went sideways on me. It was the best of worlds. He was divorced and I'm married but not out to the wife. Wish I could find that situation again. Few and far between as most of you know.

[Rest85]

I have never had a regular. I am seeking a (preferably) married guy who isn't getting sucked at home...and someone who doesn't want to reciprocate. I only want to be a submissive cocksucker for someone straight. I thought I found that ideal combination a couple of times but in one case, the guy got very arrogant and I couldn't tolerate him so I give it up. In the other case, the guy wanted to reciprocate.

I used to prefer finding different cocks but now I'd like a regular thing. I'd still like to find a new cock every now and then but sure would love to have a guy who would email me to be his on call cum swallower.

[Tag200]

I have never had a regular. I am seeking a (preferably) married guy who isn't getting sucked at home...and someone who doesn't want to reciprocate. I only want to be a submissive cocksucker for someone straight. I thought I found that ideal combination a couple of times but in one case, the guy got very arrogant and I couldn't tolerate him so I give it up. In the other case, the guy wanted to reciprocate.

I used to prefer finding different cocks but now I'd like a regular thing. I'd still like to find a new cock every now and then but sure would love to have a guy who would email me to be his on call cum swallower.

Been reading some of your posts , thanks for sharing them. Why no reciprocation? Just curious as to why , like what reason or feeling ?

[jimmiejoe]

am looking for a regular as well here in the Mother Lode near Jackson,,,please do let me know and we'll chat some and meet... jimmiejoe

[twilde1952]

I would love to have a regular SUCK buddy living next door, it's my dream cum true (if Only). haha

[emerging]

After many years I found a great FWB. I tried 2 blo-n-go's, hated them!!! We met online, both married, and we both wanted only one friend. We met during early Covid, went outside for hikes and a little biking. We could see that we were both careful about Covid. We always used masks, outside only meets, and stayed away from large gatherings. We both cancel meets because we were exposed to people that had Covid. This made me feel more comfortable with his judgement and honesty.

So we got to know each without any sex, kinda like we were dating. Then we decided to get an STD blood test and share our results. Once we got our results (both of us were disease free) we also got Covid test and then let our passion take over. We do not use any protection and are exclusive. This took many months to evolve. After we make love, we lie in bed talking, hugging, and laughing. We can only get together once or twice a month, have to rent a room but the passion is worth the wait. We are friends and lovers, IMHO: this is the only way to go. I think engaging in sex immediately is not the best way to find a FWB, take the time to get to know each other,let the bedroom stuff wait.

[Rick469]

I HAD A FWBS...
And now I'm missing having one, I'm 48, Bi and craving a discreet friend that I could socialize with do dinner, beers, fests, movies. AND discreetly enjoy each other sexually with foreplay, 69, making out, oral, j O, not a relationship but FWBs ������

[hung4you]

I’m lucky enough to have a loyal private bud that I have played with for 8 years, he is very private and discreet, loves giving head as much as he loves getting head. When we have lots of time he tops me. We enjoy each other’s cocks about every other day sometimes twice in a day.

[SlowNEZ]

After many years I found a great FWB. I tried 2 blo-n-go's, hated them!!! We met online, both married, and we both wanted only one friend. We met during early Covid, went outside for hikes and a little biking. We could see that we were both careful about Covid. We always used masks, outside only meets, and stayed away from large gatherings. We both cancel meets because we were exposed to people that had Covid. This made me feel more comfortable with his judgement and honesty.

So we got to know each without any sex, kinda like we were dating. Then we decided to get an STD blood test and share our results. Once we got our results (both of us were disease free) we also got Covid test and then let our passion take over. We do not use any protection and are exclusive. This took many months to evolve. After we make love, we lie in bed talking, hugging, and laughing. We can only get together once or twice a month, have to rent a room but the passion is worth the wait. We are friends and lovers, IMHO: this is the only way to go. I think engaging in sex immediately is not the best way to find a FWB, take the time to get to know each other,let the bedroom stuff wait.

Now THAT is the ideal arrangement/relationship. It is built on trust, communication and mutual respect. I can imagine that the sex is awesome. Nirvana

[thickneasy]

Would be nice just haven?t found him yet

[emerging]

Now THAT is the ideal arrangement/relationship. It is built on trust, communication and mutual respect. I can imagine that the sex is awesome. Nirvana

Sex can get rather steamy.Not perfect but as close as it can get.

[Bi-Rõnin]

I'd love to find a fellow married fwb. Someone I know I could eventually let bareback and get breed by. Until then condoms and day dreams

[Rvdude05]

I would love that, a steady FWB that I can pleasure often. That would be the best ever!

[xdoorb]

I've had a handful of things like this over the years, but they never lasted long. I think men still have a lot of internalized stigma over it, and are scared of the idea of being in any kind of "relationship" with another guy, even if it's just for sex.

[P-Henry]

I've been getting together with a particular guy on a fairly regular basis -- probably about once a month or so -- for about the past four years. During that time, we've been mostly exclusive (with one or two digressions). I think it's worked well for both of us. It's nice knowing I have a reliable and compatible guy I can get together with now and then for some good hot sex. It's also been nice to to see how our our sex play has evolved and expanded. I do miss the excitement of meeting new guys and their cocks, because once in a while you'll meet a great guy, with a great dick, who is a lot of fun in bed. But, from my experience, many of the new guys are duds. And so I've been content to stick with my buddy, knowing we're going to give each other what we want -- safely, reliably, and without drama.

[Calismooth]

I'd like to find that one discreet guy to have fun with. It's really hard to find someone who's even within short driving distance. I'm still hopeful.

[hung4you]

I am lucky to have such a private discreet friend whom I play with a lot, He is recently divorced and now has the house to himself so playing privately is easier now. He lives 3 house down from me and he puts a blue light on in the window that I check every morning when I get up, he too is an early riser and when the light is lit is my signal to come over where he is already naked, and I walk in as we head for the shower, and as we lather each other up he turns me around and pushes his soapy cock into my ass crack and reaches around to stroke me. Christmas Eve morning we were in the shower when he said I need to cum before I fuck you. I washed all the soap off and swallowed his cock balls deep and it didn't take long before he was pressure washing my throat. We finished in the shower and headed for the bedroom where he had all the stuff we needed. Lube, dildo and condoms. He sucked me as he lubed up the dildo and eased it into me. he climbed on top of me putting his cock and balls into my face as his cock grew harder. As his cock get rigid again he got up pulled out the dildo and his cock slid in so easily and with my legs up on his shoulders I felt that awesome feeling of cumming without touching my self. I shot a huge load all over my chest, if you have never had an orgasm through anal sex, you don't know what you are missing. After 20 minutes of constant thrusts he pulled out ripped off his condom straddled my chest and spilled his load all over my face. Mmm we only get to do that about once a week, but we service each other orally almost daily. I really do enjoy his cock and he is a good cock sucker as well. Having a private discreet buddy definitely has its perks.

[Christopher South]

I prefer to have one steady guy. Before I recently changed jobs I had one guy I would meet weekly near my office. We met up for five years. I changed jobs and found another guy close to my new job that I'd meet weekly but if I have an appointment near my first guy, I stop by to play with him.

[Neonaught]

If one partner was all I could get he would just have to do but I find variety is the spice of sex life!