Great sex with no orgasm

[Alex_rose]

I didn't think sex can be so good without cumming. I was a lil disappointed I couldn't get him off especially after sucking on him for awhile. But I think he found my g spot cause every push I had the feeling like I was going to orgasm. Took awhile to found but its worth it.

I wanted to ask any tips to cum from a bj? I felt I tried everything.

[KDaddy23]

Don't "expect" it - just relax and let it happen. I've found that when guys have this locked into their minds, they often can't cum and no matter how much they want to. They're thinking about how they want the blowjob to end for them and that can create a mental block that will prevent them from cumming. Just be in the moment and let it take you where it's gonna take you; don't think about cumming - just be into what the other guy's doing and how wonderful it feels having your dick sucked and it just might happen and like it's supposed to. You betcha - it feels incredibly good to have your dick sucked and you're nowhere near being able to cum but I think you just have to relax and let it happen and not think so much about wanting to do it.

Other than this, I got nothing.

[Jazminedress]

actually, not every guy comes from a BJ, some just dont, we are all different

[SilkyHoseLover]

actually, not every guy comes from a BJ, some just dont, we are all different
Yup, we are, and that's not necessarily a bad thing.

I've always considered myself to be an inadequate lover for my wife, as I tend to climax too quickly. It's not exactly premature ejaculation, but it's not the prolonged, passionate lovemaking that I would like to be able to provide for her. (I make up for it by being very patient with foreplay and assuring that she cums first...)

Oddly, however, I seem to usually be able to last much longer when being fellated. And this doesn't make her happy, because she doesn't really enjoy sucking cock, so she's ready to move on after just a few minutes. Knowing that she's not a fan, I've let her know that it's ok to forego it entirely. I'd rather get a blowjob from somebody who enjoys doing it than from my wife, who doesn't.

Given that I do have a hall pass to play with other men and gurls who DO enjoy pleasuring me orally, it can work out a couple of different ways. Sometimes, the feeling is too exquisite and I will have trouble holding back. That can work out well for those who like to suck, but want their reward right away.

My ideal is being with someone who loves to suck, but isn't in a hurry to get it over with. I love to be able to hold back so that we can both achieve maximum enjoyment.

[Alex_rose]

And now that I think of it this guy I've been seeing might have performance issues where he doesn't seem rock hard and he seem to go limp when we were fucking.

[csreef]

Maybe he was just very nervous? :2cents:

[Alex_rose]

Could be since it's been awhile since we saw each other. But it's weird how he asked me to get a hotel to fuck for hours. Was the first he went soft. Thought to suggest to fuck him but not good at asking. I guess I can jus try it and see he's reaction.

[brokeralhson]

The problem is that you are expecting an orgasm, and you just need to relax and have fun, and everything will happen as it should. By the way, for a long time, I couldn't get an orgasm from sex because when I was a teenager, I watched a lot of porn. Because of this, sometimes ordinary sex did not excite me. I had to try something hard to cum, but it all went away when I started having sex with the person I love. Although, I sometimes go to watch porn on the site secretstash.in (https://secretstash.in/?Studio=SexMex&Page=1). It happens extremely rarely because I'm not as interested in it as before.

[Neonaught]

And now that I think of it this guy I've been seeing might have performance issues where he doesn't seem rock hard and he seem to go limp when we were fucking.

Studies have shown that the average length of a vaginal intercourse session for the man is approximately 6 minutes. I last much longer than that! When you say you cum quickly doing it with the wife what kind of timing are we talking here? As for men going limp when getting fucked, that's pretty normal.

[foundpuppy]

When being sucked I have orgasm without ejaculation. I have the feeling of ejaculation but not the cum.

[dowmass]

Sex without orgasms? Well I have had internal prostate orgasms without me dripping any cum at all.
Thats thanks to my dick that stayed soft. I “Cummed” many tines inside my pussy snd it felt great.. lasted longer than an orgasm where I dripped cum.

[jjourneyman]

A lot of men, especially older gents, experience orgasm without ejaculation or even an erection. That's the great thing about sex... it happens in our minds first. Yes there is usually some physical stimulation, but it doesn't always require oral, vaginal or anal intercourse.

[jjourneyman]

I didn't think sex can be so good without cumming. I was a lil disappointed I couldn't get him off especially after sucking on him for awhile. But I think he found my g spot cause every push I had the feeling like I was going to orgasm. Took awhile to found but its worth it.

I wanted to ask any tips to cum from a bj? I felt I tried everything.

I have been with a few guys who couldn't cum from a bj. I know that sounds strange given that they somehow end up in your apartment with their dick in your mouth... but it happens.

Some men require more physical or visual stimulation. And for others, it's a mental block because they don't want to cum in someone's mouth. Keep in mind, when you cum, it's a mental as well as physical relief. It's all about conditioning... very much in the same way we are potty trained.

The best approach is just to look them in the eye and tell them it's OK to cum. After a few seconds, they get it and relax and will pump their load into you.

[KDaddy23]

One of the things I learned about guys who can't cum when being sucked is that women condition us not to cum in their mouth when they suck us. You have enough women not sucking you off - and potentially being very pissed off with you if you cum in their mouth, yup - you get sucked, you can't cum even when you want and need to. Not cumming, well, it happens. Way too many reason why from having that mental block to being overstimulated or not enough stimulation. I've been sucked and couldn't cum to save my life... but I've had orgasms so strong that I just knew that I came... but I didn't. Feels fucking incredible. Sometimes better than it feels when you cum. But a lot of this is in your head and, again, women condition us not to cum via a blow job and that's a hard thing for some guys to get past and more so when a guy's sucking your dick, he's doing it to make you cum. Like I said early, just relax. Be only in the moment being sucked. Just let it happen and don't "sabotage" yourself by thinking about cumming before the fact. The more you think about it, the less likely you are to do it. If you can't cum from being sucked, get inside your head and try to figure out why you can't... then "fix" it. I've had a lot of guys tell me before the fact that they can't cum being sucked... and I've made them do it. I've told them to relax. Just pay attention to what I'm doing and try not to think about the end before we get to the end. If I sense or feel that they're tense, I'll stop and let them "calm down" for a moment or two; I learned that a lot of guys can't cum from being sucked because they get overstimulated and sometimes they're not really aware that they are. When someone is overstimulating me, I'll stop them so I can... adjust; I can't think of what might be the right word but "taking a break" is a good thing provided you have the time to but, if not, clear your mind and relax; let him work his magic and, hopefully, he can get you to cum.

Don't put the cart before the horse. When I'm about to be sucked, I'm not thinking about cumming or anything else, really. It's again being only in the moment when he's got his mouth on you and doing what he knows how to do. If your mind is there and not at the end of things, you might be able to cum. Being sucked off is a mind/body thing and, more often than not, your own mind is your worst enemy and is preventing you from cumming.

[jjourneyman]

One of the things I learned about guys who can't cum when being sucked is that women condition us not to cum in their mouth when they suck us. You have enough women not sucking you off - and potentially being very pissed off with you if you cum in their mouth, yup - you get sucked, you can't cum even when you want and need to. Not cumming, well, it happens. Way too many reason why from having that mental block to being overstimulated or not enough stimulation. I've been sucked and couldn't cum to save my life... but I've had orgasms so strong that I just knew that I came... but I didn't. Feels fucking incredible. Sometimes better than it feels when you cum. But a lot of this is in your head and, again, women condition us not to cum via a blow job and that's a hard thing for some guys to get past and more so when a guy's sucking your dick, he's doing it to make you cum. Like I said early, just relax. Be only in the moment being sucked. Just let it happen and don't "sabotage" yourself by thinking about cumming before the fact. The more you think about it, the less likely you are to do it. If you can't cum from being sucked, get inside your head and try to figure out why you can't... then "fix" it. I've had a lot of guys tell me before the fact that they can't cum being sucked... and I've made them do it. I've told them to relax. Just pay attention to what I'm doing and try not to think about the end before we get to the end. If I sense or feel that they're tense, I'll stop and let them "calm down" for a moment or two; I learned that a lot of guys can't cum from being sucked because they get overstimulated and sometimes they're not really aware that they are. When someone is overstimulating me, I'll stop them so I can... adjust; I can't think of what might be the right word but "taking a break" is a good thing provided you have the time to but, if not, clear your mind and relax; let him work his magic and, hopefully, he can get you to cum.

Don't put the cart before the horse. When I'm about to be sucked, I'm not thinking about cumming or anything else, really. It's again being only in the moment when he's got his mouth on you and doing what he knows how to do. If your mind is there and not at the end of things, you might be able to cum. Being sucked off is a mind/body thing and, more often than not, your own mind is your worst enemy and is preventing you from cumming.

Yep. I couldn't agree more. In the immortal words of John Lennon... "Just let it be..."

[RisingBi]

I agree with KDaddy myself as well, and perhaps need to take his advice personally. The last guy I was with, a single bi guy, a couple months ago, wrote to me first that he was ready to finally have a guy cum in his mouth. So we did a lot of body contact first, some mutual cock touching, and eventually my cock was in his mouth, with him against the headboard and me fucking his mouth while squatting in his face, which went on for maybe 4 minutes. It felt great, though he was pretty passive in his cocksucking. But I wasn't able to cum.

Then we moved on to other things, like me sucking him in turn. I didn't think that we were done with him sucking me. I was expecting some back-and-forth perhaps. It was our first get-together, and we really didn't know each other. But I'm one that never likes to rush things, because I really enjoy having sex with a man. But I don't think he is really into guys like I am. So maybe that was a factor for me. I want gay passion from the guy I am with. That was especially the case because the guy previous to him, a month before, was totally straight from all I could see, and just wanted a blowjob: I couldn't even get hard with him.

Anyway, from the signals I was getting from this bi guy, he wanted to finish during that first blowjob I was giving him, so he came and I swallowed his load happily. But then he was done. He jumped up, went to the bathroom, put his clothes on, and I said, "OK, I guess we're done." When I was driving home, I stopped briefly and texted him how great a time I had, and thank you, hoping we could try again and get better at it. He texted back in obvious anger, expressing his great disappointment that I didn't give him my cum like I promised. Holy crap!

Yes, I realize a lot of guys are sucking cock to get the reward of the man's semen. I'm the same. I just hope after that encounter I'm not going to get all into my head about needing to cum quickly when future guys are giving me a blowjob. On top of that, I jerk off A LOT, for many hours per session, often not cumming either. So I think my cock might be desensitized. So I'm kind of freaking out, and I have not tried finding another guy on my hookup site as of yet.

[dowmass]

I must share my experience with a middle eastern guy from 2016. I met him on double list and after a brief chat, he popped the question. He asked “so you want to suck my dick ” ? I said yes and before long he got naked and said “ take this”. He was between 6 and 7, cut, but solid lard like a granite stone.
Before long I was sucking him, abd he kept saying “you aren’t new to this - you are a pro for you don’t gag”. This was correct and incorrect. I wasn’t a pro. That was the first cock I sucked without a condom. Yes I deep throated him but didn’t have a gag reflex. I can’t explain that.

20 minute later I was still sucking, but he didn’t cum at all. Should I be disappointed? It’s been 5 years so I don’t remember what my feelings then were.

Any thoughts?

[Kysquire]

I started taking flomax recently because of enlarged prostate. When I orgasm there is no cum as it flows back into the bladder. I know some cocksuckers want the 'money shot'. A man has to do what he can.

[bbginva]

I started taking flomax recently because of enlarged prostate. When I orgasm there is no cum as it flows back into the bladder. I know some cocksuckers want the 'money shot'. A man has to do what he can. Kysquire - I took am taking flomax and it is causing my cum to go back into the bladder as well. My urologist says that this happens with about 25-30% of the men on this drug. I wonder if someone will be disappointed if I have an ejaculation but fail to ejaculate cum for them.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I've heard a lot of similar comments about retrograde ejaculations being a frequent side effect with Tamsulosin/Flowmax. I started taking it last spring, and it had an almost immediate effect on my orgasms, which had already started to diminish in intensity and volume. I unilaterally discontinued taking it after comparing a couple of real-life experience with guy/gurls who complained that it permanently affected their ability to cum and enjoy an orgasm. For me, it seemed like the 'cure' was worse than what I was trying to treat.

I told my doc about giving it up and have experimented with OTC solutions, like Super Beta Prostate, since then. They have proven to be no better or worse than the prescription medication, at least in my experience.

Yes, most of those I play with want to suck me, whether they consider it my clitty or my cock, and they look forward to swallowing my cum. I wish I could still hit myself in the chest with it, but it's not happening. It's more like an ooze these days, with far fewer surges putting the propulsive force behind it.

[RisingBi]

I must share my experience with a middle eastern guy from 2016. I met him on double list and after a brief chat, he popped the question. He asked ?so you want to suck my dick ? ? I said yes and before long he got naked and said ? take this?. He was between 6 and 7, cut, but solid lard like a granite stone.
Before long I was sucking him, abd he kept saying ?you aren?t new to this - you are a pro for you don?t gag?. This was correct and incorrect. I wasn?t a pro. That was the first cock I sucked without a condom. Yes I deep throated him but didn?t have a gag reflex. I can?t explain that.

20 minute later I was still sucking, but he didn?t cum at all. Should I be disappointed? It?s been 5 years so I don?t remember what my feelings then were.

Any thoughts?
Way to go sucking his cock! Perhaps you're just a natural cocksucker, without that gag reflex. Having a cock all the way down your throat is always a wonderful experience, though I like to bring it up to my mouth when he's ready to cum so that I can taste him, and then swallow, allowing his beautiful male essence to merge with my body. But the fact that he didn't cum was normal. A lot of guys can't orgasm through oral alone. Sometimes you have to alternate between handjob and sucking. But even then some guys don't cum--for many different reasons.

As for how you "should" feel, there's no such thing. You either feel disappointed or you don't feel disappointed. Certainly the last guy I was with a couple of months ago, who really wanted to take a guy's load for the first time into his mouth, was very disappointed that I wasn't able to cum. But he also didn't want to prolong our sex, to go back-and-forth taking turns sucking each other, even for hours, alternating with stroking with hands and perhaps sensual body touching--all somethings that I need in order to cum. Instead, after he sucked my cock for 5 minutes (or more like me mouth- and throat-fucking him), he just wanted to get his cock sucked and cum in my mouth, which I was happy to do. What I wasn't happy about was how quietly pissed off he was that I didn't keep my "promise" (what promise?) to cum inside his mouth. But it was our first (and last) time together, so you need practice together to see what each other likes and gets turned on by. I personally hate one night stands, but that seems to be what most gay & bi guys are into.