Bisexuality as a form of bonding

[icarus24]

New to this website. Thanks for letting me join. I would like to hear from others who might be in the same situation as me. I am a male and I consider myself as softly bi. In fact yes, I can find a male attractive but not to the point of having sex with another male. I've never been attracted by male genitals for example. I like the male butts a lot though!! The further I will go will be to masturbate with another male (No oral, just hands) althought I've never done it. Therefore, making love with a man is definitely something that I want. Be romantically involved with another man is also impossible for me. That brings me to my point.

I have a desire for male friendship in which there is a great deal of bonding and intimacy in a non sexual fashion. For example, I would like to become comfortable enough with another man to exchange massage ( even a bit sensual, the person being massaged should be naked) and do some spanking play for example. Things that you won't normally do with your usual friends. I think this kind of relationship is more common among women.

If there is any other people who have these feelings, please share your stories.

Regards,
Icarus

[smokey]

read D.H. Laurence...specifically "Women in Love" or watch the movie. Your post is one on the undercurrents running through it.

[DiamondDog]

what you are describing is very common. I believe that even het men want the sort of relationship you are talking about even if they won't admit it.

fyi, lots of gay/bi guys (including myself) see mutual masturbation as being sex.

There are j/o clubs in lots of cities and lots of people are into it since it's pretty much 100% safe, and even a "look but don't touch" scene can be hot.

I was kinda like you were when I was younger only in the fact that I thought that I could never love a guy but that changed and I realized that I had past crushes/infatuation on guys before but I just didn't know that's what it was since society tries to program men into thinking that they can't be intimate or love a man.

I dunno I've done way too much thinking on the subject and I've pretty much always been attracted to both men and women both sexually and romantically.

[icarus24]

Hey members, please respond in greater numbers. Your opinion is important to me. Thanks

[BiMale]

It sounds like maybe you should try and find a jack off buddy. Just someone that you can share same sex intimacy with but without touching. It's really just enjoying male eroticism together. A j/o buddy is not really a "relationship", which seems to be what you have implied that you want to avoid. If you find that you are comfortable with that kind of intimacy, then you can take it to the next step, which would be touching each other.

I think it would be real hard to find someone who you can enjoy massage with, but not then have sex with them. Let's face it, naked massage is foreplay, and the person you would be doing that with would be pretty disappointed if that was all you wanted.

Also, a j/o buddy is quite frequently someone who is along the same path that you are, and wants to be "with another guy" but is not sure that they want to have sex with another guy. This may be because masturbation with another guy is something that many males experience in puberty, that is, someone teaches you how, and so it's not really considered "gay" per se. So a jack-off bud is a form of experimentation with same sex interest, but without being defined as homosexual.

Give it a try. Sorry for the rambling.

BiMale :male: :) :2cents: