Do couples prefer to swing with other couples and why?

[swingcpl57]

We are a couple that swings. We happen to prefer to swing with other couples. We have discussed playing with singles but have yet to act on it. We also prefer bi couples simply because we feel more comfortable not having to worry about who touches who. We're interested to see if other couples feel the same way. :flag3: :bibounce:

[ambi53mm]

When we've explored the "lifestyle" our preference has always been couples. It just brings the balance we look for for that sort of intimate fun. We're both bi and have pretty much taken a step back until a bi couple comes along that would make us reconsider our desire to further explore. If that happens great...if not then we're just as happy with one another.

Ambi :)

[Biboz49]

We too prefer to be with bi couples for the same reason, that we can feel comfortable not worrying about who touches who. But also socially we like to be with other bi couples because we don't have to worry about what we say or do. Having bi couples as friends with benefits is very appealing.

[Avocado]

Well I'm bi, my fiancee is straight. We wouldn't want to do anything incase it ruined the relationship, but if our relationship wasn't serious I think we'd both be up for a 3some with a single man, maybe even a 4some with a male-male couple :bigrin:

[wanderingrichard]

yeah, i've noticed, as a single man, that couples who swing usually prefer other couples almost exclusively. in fact i couldnt begin to count the number of couples profiles in my groups' memberships that actually scream "NO SINGLE MEN" or words to that effect..

used to piss me off, but after a while i figgered it's they who are missing out on the fun. never been a homewrecker or any of that other stuff, but you'd be surprised at how many couples in that lifestyle still arent secure enough in their relationships or trust of each other to truly be in that lifestyle.. or have the fear of losing thier home life if they dont participate, but, then, that's just from my observations..

[pasco_lol_cpl]

While we do play with bi singles we must admit that we prefer bi couples. There are no fears that one of us is gonna take off with the other. Its just that we prefer to have more friends along for the fun and we find that it is easier for us to connect with other couples.

[matterinhand]

I think that the issue of 'who touches who' is a strange one for a discussion on swinging on this site.

Yes, on a straight site a man talking about a MMF 3som might stress that he didn't touch the other man.

But on this site I would assume that if a bicouple involved another bi member of either sex that you touch who and when you want.

The first 3som my wife and I ever had was with a man who'd come across as bi but more into women, like myself. In practice he spent all bar a few minutes of the night doing things to me, when I wanted him to treat us both equally. (Actually, as an initiation of my wife into my bisexuality it was probably good, but both of us commented the next day that we wished he hadn't been so selfish.)

The latest 3soms we've had have been with bi men who did show her at least as much attention.

We've had a 4som with a bi MF couple, my wife and the other man were both fairly inexperienced at the start of the weekend. But, for me, there was too much going on, I wanted to watch the two women together, I wanted them to watch me and him, everything happening at once was too much distraction.

[AndrogynousLuv]

I find this topic to be of great interest right now in that the person dearest to my heart and I are getting together for our very first moments together. We are in essence bringing our union to the next level; sexually and sensually. In other words, we've yet to be together physically. Of course, in anticipation, I can't wait. But we did consider since we really do know one another so well about bringing others into our initial experiences and it looks like at this point it is going to happen. If we choose to continue,it will be with another male. As our relationship continues in the years to come, MMF and FFM situations will be part and parcel of our life together. I myself very much like the idea of being with couples as well as of course it allows the aforementioned situations to be completely realized all at once with extra twists and turns and experiences too. There's no doubt in my mind that having like minded couples over for the experience of the sensual/sexual can add a richness and depth to our own experiences as a couple. Naturally, the relationship has to be healthy first before anything else can happen. But to answer the why of having a preference, I would only say that the preference might be for a given moment than permanently as the MMF and FFM have their own quality of experience too as does even the group dynamic. Again, for the reason that both sexes in the couple get to experience the entire spectrum when with another truly bi couple is the advantage if everyone is at ease and comfortable.