How on earth do I get to find men attractive? I love cock, but the rest, na!

[CockHummer]

I am in a sick place in life I've been on here enough that some will possibly know where I am going before I start, just from the title.. I am bisexual, yes. I have had wonderful relationships with women with marvelous sex and enjoyed the shared interaction in life. The problems are two for me, and they conflict to a point that is literally making me sick. I can't sleep. I can't get things done, because I am always thinking about sex and how I can fix the glitch in my system. You might notice that I started out, well, somewhere in there by commenting that i am bisexual, but you might wonder why I described experience with women but made no mention of men.

I just looked at two images I found simply by looking haphazardly on the web. They were both more or less soft porn--there were genital organs in each, but neither of them was imbedded in another. One was a picture of a couple facing each other. She was quite attractive, had ass=length brunette hair, had a very curvaceous figure, with a bottom that was shaped just perfectly and breasts large enough they looked like they should have appeared ill-proportioned but didn't. They were hot--about the hottest feature on her body. My eyes were drawn most immediately to her. The fellow turned me off. I don't know how it cannot have. I don't find men even with an athletic build attractive. He had facial hair that turned me off. His clothing did nothing. There was one more feature to the picture that I will get back to, but the visual bulk of the photo was a really hot woman that I found attractive but did not turn me on (that could be, in part, because she was fully dressed, but for the build she had, I was surprised), and then there was a fellow who, as usual for me, actually turned me off.

The second was a picture of a gal's pussy, point blank, in high resolution. Unlike so many such photos, it was well defined and well-focused, and it did not look, as they so often do, like she had just suffered some bloody wound in the area that is never going to heal. It was attractive. The labia were full. The clit was unfortunately obscured by a random position of her hand--it was not like she was fingering herself, or anything. The color was a nice pink. I could imagine turning her on and bringing her to climax, and it seemed like it would be enjoyable, but there was no hard erotic feeling to it. Enjoyable and hotly erotic are two different things. I want some hotly erotic.

Back to the first picture. The gal was absolutely gorgeous. I don't know. I may be just tired for the reasons I described above, but aside from me finding her so attractive, I don't feel aroused to look directly at her, at all. On the other hand, there is the one thing in that photo I delayed mentioning. The fellow who stands facing her has his zipper down, and out of that zipper extends an enormous, really sexy cock. He is uncut, and i don't ordinarily like that, but with this one, I enlarged the image and found I would be perfectly happy sucking his foreskin right along with the rest of the gorgeous organ. I see the woman's hand wrapped around it, and I am envious of her. Beyond that, I immediately, at least if I can just focus on the cock, have this urge to drop to my knees and start sucking it and encouraging it to fuck my throat (and I am just as tired and warn looking at the cock as I am at the girl and the pussy). Of everything in the two pornographic pictures, it is the one thing that gets my cock to stir.

The primary problem, and it is what just drives me crazy over time, is the irony, that while the cock most excites me, and I truly wish I could find myself having fun with such organs a fairly regular part of my life, the thing I found most offensive in the photo, and this is always the case, is the guy attached to the cock. He's not ugly or anything. i just don't find guys, aside from their cock, attractive, and in fact, they generally represent a turn-off, even if they are handsome and athletic. I mean, I'd be a perfect candidate for a tranny who still has a functioning cock, but I know how unlikely that is to come to be.

When I was a teen and a younger man, I could find some men attractive, and I had some of the most exquisite sex in my life with my teenage years best friend, a gay male. I could have had amazing sex with my professional school best friend, who was bi, but I was married and very into the business of being trustworthy regarding faithfulness. and I had my eye on a bunch of our female classmates at the time, too. I had a wonderful marriage with great sex, and I just spiced it up with gay fantasies among others, but I am now divorced . I don't mean to close the door on straight sex necessarily, but for lack of experience over my adult life, I am just extraordinarily cock-hungry, and I want to start hooking up, get some dick in my mouth, and see what it's like. But wherever I look, whether it's in real life or in photos of people that are ironically actually meant to be seen as especially sexually attractive, I just don't see it. It's the weirdest thing to be so turned on by the genitals and so reliably turned off by the individual they're attached to, and I am getting sick to death of it. Has anyone else had this experience? Any ideas of how to get around it? Thanks for taking the time to read and any consideration.

[Timmyy9966]

I don’t find very many men attractive but as soon as I see his cock I’m all in

[Jazminedress]

I think back to when I was younger, I had sex with some girls, that honestly I didnt find very attractrive, but their breasts or between their legs did attract me, so yeah, I dove in.

I would guess you are simply attracted to the sexual part. Have you ever been with a woman you really didnt like spending time with, but still enjoyed the sex ? kind of the same thing

As I am older, now, I can look at a guy and think, wow, he is a great looking guy, but I may have zero sexual attracion, or I may look at an average guy, and think, he is decent looking, but for some reason I would want to be with them.

Same with women, I can be like wow, totally hot, but no attraction, then some mommy comes along, average and I am really lusting

I honestlly dont see it as a problem, you like what you like and enjoy what you do and move on. Hey, I dont like classic Mustangs, but I do enjoy driving one here and there, but a Transam will always get me wet everywhere

[KDaddy23]

The issue is that it is believed that if you like sex with men, then you find them attractive as well... because no one is supposed to have sex with anyone they don't find attractive. I've heard so many men say, "I don't like guys like that..." and/or "I'm not attracted to men like I am women" and I've asked them, "Who says you have to be? You just gotta like him enough to want to have sex with him and as far as being attracted to his looks are concerned, what... you gonna marry the guy or something?" And, yet, a lot of guys will dispute this and insist that they must be attracted to the guy... because that's the it's supposed to work. I've had some very damned amazing sex with both men and women who others say are unattractive - and, sometimes, I've agreed that they're not the best looking person I've ever met... but that's not the thing which has the most importance since, in nature, the most prettiest things are some of the most deadliest things. That and I learned that people who think they're unattractive compensate for their lack of good looks by being very damned good in bed.

Or, just because it looks good doesn't always mean that it is good. I don't look at guys and start drooling all over myself but if he's my idea of good looking, he just is... and so are a lot of guys. Now, if a guy is of a mind to get naked with me, now he's got my attention because I'm very much attracted to having sex and if it's with an "ugly" guy and he's willing to give up the dick, I don't give a shit what he looks like as long as (1) he's legally old enough to consent to sex, (2) is healthy enough to have sex and (3) not my idea of an asshole. Anything else is just window dressing and it's just my opinion but if you're not looking past what the other person looks like to "see" what they're like on the inside, you just might be looking at the wrong part of them.

Not attracted to men? Don't sweat it and know that you're not the only one who isn't. Like the dick? If it's working for you, no need to sweat that, either.

[Jazminedress]

I don't look at guys and start drooling all over myself

Unless its Matthew Mconaughey.................then he can do what he wants as long as he wants, for some weird reason I always had a boner over him

[CockHummer]

Okay. Thanks to all. Excellent pointers to hopefully get me over this silly shit and get some cock in my fucking mouth. I'll be honest. After I found the one photo of the guy and the gal last night that I wrote about and she was a hotty, and he turned me off, aside from his dick, which was really the only thing in the photo that turned me on (and I had found that photo haphazardly, and it triggered those thoughts), and after I put up my message here, I went back to the same site that basically collected photos of girls holding their guys by the erect cock (couldn't think of a better handle), and I found about half a dozen, where the girls were all cute enough, but I actually found the guys hotter, and their dicks were still the thing I craved most in the photo. I think I've just had enough distractions in life that my brain has decided it's time I sort this out. There is a subconscious part that is telling the rest of my brain we are overdue the thrill of an erupting, throbbing cock, and we're going to get it.

[BiPornFan]

Not my thing, but do you find transsexuals attractive? Seems like best of both worlds, body parts wise...

[CockHummer]

Not my thing, but do you find transsexuals attractive? Seems like best of both worlds, body parts wise...

I'm sorry. I've answered a simple question with a response that could readily be a chapter from a book, that being my biography, which is not exactly what you were looking for, but it puts my answer to your question in very clear context and extends my own discussion of the issue that had me start this link. Trust me, that I do answer your question, and if you can't be bothered to read through all of this, it comes among the last few paragraphs and extends practically to the end. I hope at least a few people find this interesting, after the time and work that went into typing up the response. I can be an open book, as long as I am an unknown soul in a blog space like this.

I've had a funny and contorted, rabbit hole experience in that regard. When I got my first PC, to put it in perspective, with a hard drive that held 975 MB of data and that was supposed to be a big deal at the time, there was not a whole lot of porn on the Web as yet. The craziest thing is that it was mostly hot, naked gals, hot, naked gals in bondage, hot, naked gals fucking horses and dogs, hot naked gals in lesbian relationships, hot naked gals getting fucked by a dildo attached to a repetitive dildo plunging machine, looking like they were about to get fucked to death, and an occasional video of a guy jerking another guy off or giving another guy, with a cock about a mile long, a blow job, in about that order of decreasing frequency. My only interests were the first group, somewhere in the middle (the lesbian stuff), and at the end (the gay stuff), and it was mostly just the photos and videos of hot babes in all sorts of imaginative contexts that have sort of disappeared from online porn altogether.

I was happily married, we had a great sex life together, and I really thought I had no use for online porn. My entire adult life I had used even printed porn mainly when something in life required (or allowed) me to be away from my love for a few days. Most often, it was hot straight porn in magazines. Once, I practically flipped out when I went to Manhattan for a three day weekend (she had no use for that city) and one late evening as I walked along a busy street, I came across a huge open single room business, about the size of my entire house, and it was wall-to-wall tables, covered with porn magazines and books about just about any perverted topic you could want. I got so horny, when I actually allowed myself to walk up to a total stranger at the register with two blatantly gay porn magazines and bought them. I went back to my hotel and jerked off so powerfully, especially with one magazine where every single page was the image of another hot guy's upper body, in good lighting and good focus, with his enormous cock erect and extending up over his belly. I tore out a bunch of the pages I really adored (i.e., the cocks turned me on the most), so I could cast my vision from one to the next without removing my hand from my cock, and I imagined lying on my side, with my head on a fellows belly, facing south, and eating his gorgeous organ. I came very, very hard, several times that night. I chickened out and threw it all away before I headed home the next day, where I knew it might come to cause problems and I wasn't really going to need it anyway.

Again, for the most part, porn had been an infrequent part of my life, and I was on the PC for quite some time, before even giving the idea of seeking it online a second thought. One day, we found a couple of folders of very hot, straight porn on the computer. The images turned me on as they flipped from one to the next, but I didn't like the idea, and I deleted them. We could never figure out which of our sons had downloaded them, and my ex always presumed it had been me, anyway.

One day, I read that parents should check the cookies on the PC to see where their kids may have been looking. I found the craziest site looking at those cookies, that I cannot imagine exists anymore. I've never found anything like it with much time scouring through porn in the meantime. It was a site specifically for teenage boys, that my oldest son had found, and on it, it was like a weekly reader for teenage boys, with articles of interest at their age, but at the top of the home page, there was a window with curtains drawn, and if you used the mouse to pull the curtains home, they would have an image of just the cutest, at least apparently teenaged girl, beaming brightly as she smiled, and below her face, her blouse was opened to expose a very nice pair of teenaged girl breasts. I knew that somehow I was supposed to use having found that to drive me to have a talk with my son, which never happened (and he's okay as an adult), but that was the thing that finally turned me on to online porn. I jerked off at my home office desk, ogling several of these young cuties, and never went back to that site again, but I was hooked on online porn, and that was when I went on the excursions that found all the stuff I mentioned above, in the message that started this thread.

Again, I was mostly on the straight and lesbian sites. I had my favorites bookmarked. I found an occasional gay site, but most of them turned me off for the reason that I started this thread. An occasional one would really get me hot, though, and I always felt "naughty" allowing myself to enjoy the gay porn, which was something that added to the zing when I came.

So, months go by and I'm looking primarily at straight porn and really getting turned on by it. Then one night it happened. I'd been looking at zillions of images, getting more and more turned on, but I came to one that somehow struck me in an unusual way. There was nothing at all masculine about her. Perhaps it was just me and had nothing to do with the image, but I copied it and opened it up in a graphics app I was reasonably capable in, PaintShop Pro, and I selected out a chunk of one of her thighs, so it would be the right shape, the right color, and roughly the right size, in the form of a cock and balls. I rotated it so it would be at the right angle to make sense being her erect cock in this image, and I pasted it in place. I had created my first tranny, long before they could be found online. I used her to jerk off, came so hard I was amazed, and I was hooked.

In the beginning it was hard. Most of the cocks in online images were partial shots, either extending from out the side of the photo, or covered either by being wrapped by the hand of the gall, or by her mouth, or by being up her ass or buried in her pussy. It drove me crazy to see a full length front exposure (my favorite) shot of a gorgeous, long, fat, cock, with succulent balls hanging below, and the head would be buried up a gals ass--sometimes just a part of the head was gone, but it sort of ruined the effect of my trying to create realistic images of women with dicks. I got good at hunting down pieces that were similar enough and gluing them together. or using my skill with the graphics app to reshape and recolor something that was a little off. Sometimes, if half of the head of a cock was obscured, I would select the image of the other half, flip it like in a mirror, and work it back into the image to replace the missing part. Of course, on top of working to collect images of dicks, I had to spend time finding images of women that would turn me on especially hard if they had dicks, and I looked for photos where adding a cock in the right place would create an interesting story for me to add to the stimulus while I jerked off, sucking her cock and her tits, of course, in my mind. I would frequently play this game of looking and allowing myself, again, to feel naughty by acknowledging that, yes, she has gorgeous breasts, but if I had to pick between the two, I'd much rather be sucking her cock than her tits. Occasionally, it became much easier to find full length cocks shot from different angles, with the balls reliably hanging in place (in fact, now it is absurdly simple, and there was a period of years you could google images of hard cocks by the length you wanted them to be! That's long gone now), and I had folders full of cocks labelled according to their position and exposure direction, and I would be on a field day, fucking these gals with cocks that had not yet otherwise appeared online for several years.

The first time I found one created by someone other than I, it was actually a cartoon, but she was hot. Somehow, and I haven't a clue what it was, but she made me think of my teen best friend, with whom I started having gay sex, and I modified the photos to allow me to imagine that she was a female version of him. Now it occurs to me that her cock must have reminded me of his, so I wanted to really make her look like him in some other ways. When we were that age, we used to be out walking our neighborhood street in the middle of the night, waiting for everyone to turn the lights out, so we could basically screw out in the middle of his back country road, where he lived. As we walked, we would typically be smoking and having a beer, so I found images online of very finely detailed glowing cigarettes and bottles of beer, turned so the beer was pouring out, and I selected them out and resized them to fit in her hands, rotated them until the angle was perfect, and pasted them in place, pasting over them, where necessary, bits of the dick-girls hands, where the hand or a finger would naturally be covering part of the bottle or the cigarette. She was waddling around naked and erect in some deep urban context, so that didn't quite match, but it was hot as hell to have this cartoon girl with Jimmy's dick, smoking a cigarette and chugging a beer, and I got off on those images so hard. The other bigger thing for me about it, though, was that I realized I was not alone in the world and entirely weird for getting off on the idea of fucking girls with big, fat cocks and balls.

The next thing I found were photos called futanari. If you don't know, that is taken from a Japanese porn tradition of having photos of women that have both a cock and a pussy. It may be a bit telling, but those images are still readily available, and they do nothing for me. The pussy, of all things, just doesn't belong there. Is that ironic, or what? I had finally found the perfect sex partner for me--a woman, with a beautiful, true woman's face without a hint of male features, huge breasts, a shapely ass, and a gorgeous, very suckable cock and balls. I was in heaven and hell at the same time. I now had a name for what I had been creating. It was clearer, yet, that I was not crazy, and that presumably many other men found the concept at least intriguing, if not absurdly satisfying. The hell side was two-fold. For one thing, I felt like I had found the perfect sort of life partner, but there was truly no such thing. The other, much worse one, was that my wife was aging and distracted by studies to get a license to take on work as a dental hygienist, so she stopped taking care of herself and got pretty chubby and she had little time or interest in sex. That was the start of my having a hard time getting turned on by her, even at the rare time she was interested, and things devolved from there. I had always had a hard time sleeping, and the one thing that could relax me was a nice orgasm, so once she fell asleep and was sawing down trees snoring, I'd escape downstairs to my office and create my futanaris (or use one from online, but I mostly used them as a source for nice cocks to put in my own). She found me using porn, fortunately never realizing in what form, and she did not tolerate that well, and we did battle on that ground for several years before it finally led to our divorce. Just to put it on paper, I have had two wonderful relationships with women since, and sex was great, because they were actively interested and they took great care of themselves and looked young for their ages, but without going into detail, I had good reason to break off with both of them. It is probably worth remarking here, though, that once I was in a somewhat successful relationship, and the sex was hot, porn promptly went out the window. I didn't need it and far preferred the real thing. That was in spite of one of the gals expressing understanding and tolerance of the fact that men were more visual and commonly enjoyed porn. It was sort of like permission from her, but I just didn't need it (the porn or the permission).

Somewhere along the line, an artist showed up online by the chosen name of Azriel, far away in quality and capacity to convince relative to what I had been looking at, and he or she created amazing futanari images of artistic quality, and those were the first where I could often cum readily just imagining being with one of his creations. You can find them at imagefap.com, if you are interested. I also used those, again, as another source of nice cocks for my own futanari. There were times that I had thousands of cocks saved to my PC, so I could find just the right one for a given girl! It was sick. In fact, at one point, an ad went up on a porn site for artists who could create futanari images, and I thought about actually doing it for a while. I never had the capability of Azriel (I presume he/she/it/they used Photoshop, which I could not afford and did not know how to use), but I produced images far better than 90% of what I could find online, and I decided to give myself a bit more time perfecting my craft, before of course, those ads disappeared.

I don't recall exactly when they came online or I found them. I suspect I missed it possibly even for some years, because I didn't know they existed. I mean, I should have. I certainly knew transsexuals existed as people, but it never occurred to me they would be found in porn. Is that not silly? The one thing about transsexuals, and I finally get to the answer of the question posted, but I wanted to put it in clear perspective (I suspect it couldn't now be any clearer), is that many if not most of them make the decision and go through the change at a point in life where their facial bony structure has already got masculine features to it, and despite the hormones and all the makeup in the world, the manliness in their face jumps out at me. I love seeing a woman with a cock and knowing that, finally, the cock is real, as are the boobs and the feminine ass and all, but they just can't (or I should say, couldn't) turn me on the same way as the futanari, where it was a real woman's photo with a hot cock pasted in place, varying only in degree of artistry and talent of the creator.

In fact, in some part of more recent time--I've lost track of nearly exactly when--months? years?, I haven't a clue, but I got to a point where I finally accepted I was tired of imagining sex with unreal things I could never be involved with, and I started looking at tranny porn more seriously and allowing myself to believe I would date a tranny and let things go where they might. I still prefer the images where the faces are the most feminine by far, and if they are adequately masculine (which doesn't take a whole lot), I promptly skip by them, or steal their cock for my collection first. In fact, I've stopped creating the futanari and deleted my folders full of cocks. It's come to feel like a sorry waste of time and human interaction. I've also started to think how unlikely, as I expressed in my commentary when I presented this thread, I might ever find myself in a lasting or even brief relationship with an attractive tranny who has a functional cock, given that I live in a fairly rural/suburban area of CT near no large cities.

So I am thinking now (I am so sorry to acknowledge how absurdly recently this epiphany has struck, but it is the exact reason I am in such a whirlwind of distress at the moment), "Hey, dude. You love cock. You haven't had enough of it, but when you have, it was hot. Where in the fuck does it make sense to go looking for cock? You go where the money is, right?" and that is what has me where I am now, pulling my hair out, trying to figure out how I am going to get with a real human being and this time, a man, with a cock, who likes having sex with other men and will do so with me, allowing me to do with his cock and body all the things I've imagined with these stupid, imaginary creatures that got started beginning somehow from me checking my son's cookies on our first computer., twenty odd years ago. How nuts! And now I am collecting photos of hot, erect cocks with just the essential local body parts and the balls hanging in place, of an occasional man, fully exposed, who I can look at without being turned off (and not carefully, graphically cutting the beautiful cock, alone, free from the surrounding image, in order to paste it somewhere else), of some men's cocks popping out of women's lingerie, and of photos I can find where in a straight couple, the man strikes me as more attractive than his partner and he has a really hot cock. I shouldn't fail to mention, but I do collect images of gorgeous women, too, with shapely breasts and butts, but I've done so much of that, I am feeling like I missed on the other half of me, and as I have said, I am really (as if it's not obvious) absurdly cock-hungry.

I predict an army of responders pointing out the one most obvious thing in all of this, and that is that I let things drive me to where I spend way too much time (no where near what this report would suggest, but still too much) devouring porn. I might find it easier to get turned on by a guy and have the time and need to go on the prowl if I just let the porn go. I am not getting from it what I want or need, except maybe it has finally led me to this understanding that I've got to let it go and stop trying to solve things with seeking answers about sex in that area of what's online. I need sleep. I need to take better care of myself (that is another long story, in and of itself), and I need to take some time away from glossy images of perfect bodies I never really wanted and can't have. Maybe I will come out of it--I hope so--with a clear idea of how I might connect with another guy who has similar interest and see where it leads. So, yes, to answer your question, I was deeply invested in the idea of tranny porn, because it did incorporate the best features of both sex in one person (and more so in the futanari that can be an addictive source of absurd stimulation), but in the end, it occurs to me, there is no reason whatsoever you have to have it all in one. There just isn't. Most people have the sanity to relate to real people, with real sex organs, and just go back and forth between the two, if that is what works for them, of share time with both together, occasionally, too.

[rcd556]

First, most porn sucks so you shouldn't take how it makes you feel that seriously

Second, even if you are bi and can be attracted to guys it takes a long time to get comfortable with it

Third, attraction is complex. Men and women turn me on equally but I have different tastes and desires for both and it took a long time to figure them out.

Last, some people just have a preference unrelated to their sexuality. I'm 40-60 bi with a preference for women and I've pretty much only been into cock my entire life. I realized eventually it wasn't a fetish or a phase and had nothing to do with being bi, it's just how I've always been. I've had sex with a handful of guys and plenty more girls and almost everyone of either gender had a dick. There's nothing wrong with liking what you like

[CockHummer]

First, most porn sucks so you shouldn't take how it makes you feel that seriously

Second, even if you are bi and can be attracted to guys it takes a long time to get comfortable with it

Third, attraction is complex. Men and women turn me on equally but I have different tastes and desires for both and it took a long time to figure them out.

Last, some people just have a preference unrelated to their sexuality. I'm 40-60 bi with a preference for women and I've pretty much only been into cock my entire life. I realized eventually it wasn't a fetish or a phase and had nothing to do with being bi, it's just how I've always been. I've had sex with a handful of guys and plenty more girls and almost everyone of either gender had a dick. There's nothing wrong with liking what you like

I appreciate your response but am a little confused. Regarding your first comment, I don't take porn seriously in any sense. It was just a tool to stimulate me for masturbation when no one else was in the picture, and for reasons that I didn't go into, I am bound to spend considerable amounts of time with no one else in the picture.

Regarding your second comment, when I was a younger man, I was readily attracted to guys, and it really didn't take me any time at all to get comfortable with it. I dove right into sex with my best friend as a teen, and in my mid-twenties, I would have readily bedded my at that time new best friend (a member of my class in my professional studies), but I was married and I wanted to remain faithful to her. In fact, at one point (I present this just because I think it is an interesting picture), I had mentioned to him that I was very attracted to several girls in our class, as I was, and after he and I had watched a fantasy film focused on marital infidelity, I thought I might like to try it after all. He vigorously talked me out of it. The next thing I know, he and I are, of all things, just playing Scrabble at his apartment one afternoon, and despite his approach to my reaction to that movie, at least when I was considering cheating with a gal, he comes out of nowhere and asks me if I want to go to his room and blow him. I had not changed my mind about fidelity after all, but I got so intensely excited, I had to excuse myself and leave, and the entire 45 minute ride home, I was jerking off imagining that I was fucking my best friend, and it was hot, hot, hot (and somehow I managed not to cause an accident, while one hand and at least half of my brain was not paying any attention to the road). It would take me no time to get comfortable with it, at all, I do not believe, just only if I could find men attractive as readily as I did when I was younger. That change drives me crazy, and I don't understand where on earth it came from.

Third, I agree that attraction is complex. When I consider the Kinsey criteria, I am dumbfounded. Everything about a woman who I find attractive turns me on, while with men, as I have complained here ad nauseum, the penis, alone, stimulates me more than anything else in either gender, but the idea of having sex with a man turns me off (and I am working to get around that; I don't know why I felt so much different about it when I was a younger man, but the feeling and its power over me is astounding). In a weird sense, even though I am more turned on, at least by the idea of sucking cock, I have to put myself more on the straight side, in terms of what actually works for me, and that makes no logical sense to me, at all, so I'm not even sure about that and haven't a sure clue where I belong. I just know I'm not entirely straight and I'm not entirely gay. It leaves me curious as to whether I'm about 50/50, and I'm just so hung up on cock because I haven't had any for so long, or I'm really more on the gay side, while plainly not gay, but even after copious experience loving cock, if I can get there, I might still find myself thinking about, yearning for, and stimulated by playing with cock far more than pussy.

Finally, the way you word your last paragraph is entirely confusing to me. I don't understand what it means to say you have a preference for women and you've only been into cock your entire life. That strikes me as logically contradictory, and perhaps you could clarify it for me. Then you go on to say you've had sex with a small number of guys and plenty more girls, and almost all of them had a dick. Do you mean to say you live in a context where it is easy to hook up with trannies, and you've been primarily with guys and trannies (I do not mean in any way to put down transsexuals, but there is a very real difference between a female transsexual that has kept her cock and a girl, and it's called, at the very least, a cock)? That, it strikes me, would be amazing, but it is not a situation that most men could hope to find themselves in, if they wanted to, and what are typically accepted as just "girls" plainly do not have a dick.

I think in my openness about all of this, it is clear I agree with you, that there is nothing wrong with liking what you like. Again, I have no qualms about the fact that I'm dying to gag myself on a nice fat boner. I just have been bogged down with wanting to look at the person attached to it and think, "Wow, would I like to get him in bed," and that's just not happening like it did when I was a younger man. I find it hard to get around the fact that looking at a man and thinking about bedding him turns me off so soundly, even though I crave cock, but I am just repeating myself now. Thanks, again.

[DJBiNudist]

Many years ago my wife and I were visiting the Triangle Bookstore in Cincinnati to pick up a bisexual book she wanted. As we were walking around I noticed a calendar showing about six naked women laying face down on a beach. It was a beautiful picture showing those sexy tanned smooth buns with the sun glistening off of them. It took me a few minutes to realize it was actually a picture of men and not women! I had never been attracted to guys either, but realizing my first thought that they were sexy women did not change the fact that they were sexy, even though they were men. I made the choice at that moment that I should be open to the possibility that some day I might find a guy that I was attracted to.
I have recently changed from calling myself bi to being pansexual, as I also am crazy for a hard sexy cock and if the person it is attached to has a connection with me then cool. Just as I love everything about women, but some of the craziness turns me off, especially how they use sex...but again not all women are like that.
I have found that if I was attracted to any guy it is one that has a lot of the same body type as mine, slim, smooth, cute butt, and a big cock.

And also CDers that are passable and have a big cock are a big turn-on. You can check out my pics of me dressed fully with all my fem features, and me nude with some nice features too you might like...
https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/cd-angel-14065168
https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/me-nude-4-24-20-14065128

[Jazminedress]

Many years ago my wife and I were visiting the Triangle Bookstore in Cincinnati to pick up a bisexual book she wanted. As we were walking around I noticed a calendar showing about six naked women laying face down on a beach. It was a beautiful picture showing those sexy tanned smooth buns with the sun glistening off of them. It took me a few minutes to realize it was actually a picture of men and not women! I had never been attracted to guys either, but realizing my first thought that they were sexy women did not change the fact that they were sexy, even though they were men. I made the choice at that moment that I should be open to the possibility that some day I might find a guy that I was attracted to.
I have recently changed from calling myself bi to being pansexual, as I also am crazy for a hard sexy cock and if the person it is attached to has a connection with me then cool. Just as I love everything about women, but some of the craziness turns me off, especially how they use sex...but again not all women are like that.
I have found that if I was attracted to any guy it is one that has a lot of the same body type as mine, slim, smooth, cute butt, and a big cock.

And also CDers that are passable and have a big cock are a big turn-on. You can check out my pics of me dressed fully with all my fem features, and me nude with some nice features too you might like...
https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/cd-angel-14065168
https://xhamster.com/photos/gallery/me-nude-4-24-20-14065128

Oh shit, I had seen your pictures before

[KDaddy23]

"When I consider the Kinsey criteria, I am dumbfounded."

It's not that complicated, actually. Kinsey doesn't as much speak to attraction as it does how someone is likely to behave. We've always been of a mind that to want to have sex with someone, we must be attracted to them but we can't all agree on what that attraction has to be and it's different for all of us and based on what we've been taught and told about attraction and combined with our experiences. Armed with this... arbitrary information, the moment we get interested in sex with men, it gets confusing to some because it is assumed that we are attracted to men as we would be with women and, as many guys say, the attraction to the other guy has to be there before any sex happens. The facts of the matter are that some guys just don't find other guys attractive "like that;" but show them a dick they find pleasing to look at and, oh, yeah - it's gonna be on with him if he's down for it. It gets "complicated" because a lot of guys who are "only attracted to the dick" thinks there's something wrong with them because they're not looking at a guy and ready to cum all over themselves and getting all weak in the knees and like other guys can have happen to them.

I've lived my life hearing other guys saying that they don't like men like that, which means that they don't like men as they do women and, again, with the implication that it's supposed to be that way. I say to them, "Who says you have to like men like you do women?" - because you don't have to; you just gotta find something you like about a guy and enough to want to have sex with him and to make shit even crazier in this, you can look at a guy, don't see anything you like or find attractive about him... but you sure do wanna have sex with him. Why? Because your body is reacting to not only what your eyes see, it's reacting to things about him that is triggering some stuff that you're not really aware of and that no one really has any control over. You see a full body pic of a naked man and you may or may not find him pleasing to the eye... until your eyes drift down to his cock... and now he's very pleasing to the eye... and that's a lot more normal than we'd like to believe because it doesn't conform to what everyone thinks about how attraction has to work.

I know about this because I used to sit and think about why I can look at other guys and nothing about the way they look gives me thrills... but if I saw their dick, oh, yeah! I want it! But while it's easy just to have sex with a guy "just because," I couldn't get away from finding something about him that I liked or otherwise found attractive and for me, it's a lot of things that have nothing to do with his looks. I can look at a guy and say he's good looking or he isn't - and according to the sense of aesthetics I've developed over my lifetime... and that's not enough to spur me into wanting to have sex with him; he's attractive but not that attractive but, yeah, if he were to (1) make it known to me that he doesn't mind guys having fun with guys and (2) gets his dick out and (3) meets my three requirements, sure - we can get naked and do something and his physical appearance doesn't mean a whole lot... but I find their mindset about M2M sex attractive and who among us doesn't like seeing a dick?

The Kinsey scale "fucks guys up" because it doesn't really or fully address how one feels or how they're thinking. A lot of bi guys are either a 2 or a 3 on the scale... but where our thoughts and feelings are concerned? The can go from 0 to 6 on the scale - which is also normal - but being a 2 or 3 is where we are when we do... stuff and provided one is doing anything other than thinking about where they are on the scale. But when it comes to being attracted? That depends on what that means to you and the best thing any of us can do is to not let anyone else tell us how we're supposed to be attracted to someone. If cocks are what you find the most attracted - but not the guys they're attached to - no one can tell you that you shouldn't be attracted in this way.

[BackyardShaman]

I’m not attracted to males at all, but I do like cock balls and ass, sometimes their nipples too. I’ve been hoping to find a guy I find so attractive I want to French kiss but it’s just not happening. So, like you I’m in the same boat, but I do appreciate guys that look decent and are clean.

[wifekinky4husband]

We are back to 4 couples in our group with this whole covid thing getting sorted out. We know how to stay safe as always and the sex is going right back to the normal bi sex fun. We have 4 more couples who are still only in pairs but we talk all the time. That is 8 men and every single one of our men say they are not attracted to men. As backyard mentioned, a nice looking person is a nice looking person, that's easy to acknowledge by any gender.

I ask my husband all the time, "That's a good looking couple, what do you think? I bet that women has a nice looking man, yep there he is, what do you think? He always let's me know, doesn't mean he is attracted to them and unless I present that man's cock to him he wouldn't even want it but get us in a safe and trusting setting, present that cock to him and he will tear it up getting the guy to perform things he never knew he could (Yes you can see that I am very proud of him, so much fun).

Back to the other 7 men, they are the same. Same settings same results. The only difference is that they will all give it orally & anally as much as they take it orally & anally, my husband does not do men anally. They all take as much cum is offered in either hole (yes everyone is trust worthy and they all clean properly and well in between any noncondom sex) but none of the men are into hand holding, kissing, cum swapping or cum play with the other men only the women. None of the men as far as we know has any attraction to another male whatsoever but have absolutely no problem fucking, sucking, & cum eating all weekend long when we get together. There are however a few of the wives who are attracted to me and each other but more so out of sexiness than lust (that typically only happens when we all get hot and bothered - lol).

For my man I can clearly say, he'd rather have a female any time than do anything with a male and he does so love taking it anally, his orgasms are mind blowing he states. From my perspective, sex is sex, cock is cock - also a sexual organ that can do things that a woman cannot, pussy has it's many attributes, as do breasts, and anuses, oh and men have balls, I almost forgot to say that.

Cum is absolutely fascinating as is a cock penetrating any hole, anyone's holes, add the cum filling, leaking, drenching, cum full, cum packed, cum over flow and you have overly powerful multisensual sex filled time bomb. Honestly, who in their right mind could resist? I have lesbian friends who still like cock for its benefits but have no attraction to the men attached to it but are great friends with them. Get it?

[CockHummer]

Have you ever been with a woman you really didnt like spending time with, but still enjoyed the sex ? kind of the same thing



First, I apologize for such a late response to your prompt and helpful reply to my thread.

Second, I must laugh at myself, which is fortunately something I love doing, because after stating that I was surprised of have taken so long to return such a brief and focused response, for me, I went on and wrote yet another chapter to my personal biography to explain my answer in absurdly unnecessary detail, so I decided to take a fresh approach and deleted it, just to start over and answer your fricking question. I hope you are not sorry for the lack of any explanation.

The fact is, that while I can understand the analogy as you presented it, in fact, no, I have never in my life "been with," in the Biblical sense of the expression "to be with" that I presume you mean, any woman that I didn't like spending time with.

[CockHummer]

For my man I can clearly say, he'd rather have a female any time than do anything with a male and he does so love taking it anally, his orgasms are mind blowing he states.



You've said so much in so little time. Some of it is confusing as worded and seems somewhat contradictory, but that is okay and almost seems intentional.

The first thing I'd like to say to you is that I am so happy to have your voice in this. For a bisexual site, not that I've counted up and done the math, or anything, but it seems well over 99% of what comes up is purportedly bisexual men describing primarily man on man sex, with a very infrequent female voice and very little mention of man on woman/woman on man sex. Often times, one might find it hard to wonder how it is any different from a gay site, in that regard. I am thrilled to have your input on this.

I must further state, I suspect much of the difference in our life experiences, aside from our genders, of course, is that you come from, or at least currently inhabit, I believe I can safely trust, a large, cultured city in the deep south, with a large population, which characteristic is prone, as I understand, as a rule, to draw people with a much broader view of life and a tendency, then, to approach life in line with that broader view, than the smaller, much more suburban and even rural areas from which I and the people with whom I have been involved stem. It is ironic that your sexually liberal experience originates from a notoriously conservative region of the country, while my more restricted experience arises here in the Northeast, a fountain of liberalism. How much easier it all might have been for me and flowed through my life, if i had a woman at my side who appreciated the value in sex between both genders and encouraged me to enjoy what a man can offer to a man, in the way you appear to have done with your (at least from anything I can suspect in this regard) very fortunate husband.

My ex wife, my primary and unique sex partner through most of my adult life, told me when we were on vacation in Orlando in our early adulthood, that the night before, she had dreamt of having sex with a female neighbor of ours. It turned me on so much, I managed to figure out how to fuck her in a public pool at the hotel where we were staying in that day, right in the middle of a brilliantly sunny afternoon, despite our being surrounded by numerous other people, but it meant nothing to her more than a curiosity, and it was never mentioned again. I lived through that same "most of my adult life" afraid to let on my own liberal views and desires regarding sex with both genders, and it was not more than a few years after I let her know, late in our game, just at last to feel like the love of my life really knew a bit more about the real me, and within a few years, it had led to our divorce. Despite our having had a wonderful shared sex life, aside from and despite that limitation, with my attraction to her and my sexual attraction growing, rather than receding with the years, my regularly expressed wish that we celebrate a restatement of our vows in our fifties, and a constant effort to assist her in improving her own enjoyment of sex, she went as far as presuming, in the end, that I was actually gay and using marriage to her as means to hide it from the world. I mean, there were plenty of times I was so excited I'd end in premature ejaculation and other times I was so excited, I'd blow my load and still have an erection five minutes later. We'd almost always have sex at least four times a week, but now I had become likely gay because I acknowledged being, to a degree, bisexual. That experience has left me fearful to broach the subject with women that I approach now, so I fear ending up in similar circumstances again or just burying that part of me, like I always had.

A big part of the problem is that I am old enough to have come from a generation where homosexuality and bisexuality were still thought to be terrible personal faults, and I married as a young man at I time I would have been scared to death to be honest about it. Anyway, I wish I knew how now, at this point in my life, to find a woman as open minded and broadly sexually interested and interesting as you appear to be, because regardless of the fact that I am definitely interested in cocks and balls and cum, I do find myself entirely more romantically and fully drawn as a person to women as a potential life partner, in the bigger sense than just having people to play around with sexually. While the latter is important in life, it takes a distant second seat to the former, as far as I am concerned.

Anyway, for what it's worth, I selected the portion of your quote that I did for the following reason, just to potentially enlighten you a bit in regard to the point that you had made regarding anal receptive sex by men, which would certainly apply, at least to a significant degree, I must imagine, as well to women. I hope not simply to embarrass myself by offering info of which you are already keenly aware, but if so, c'est la vie. I recently read a response to a question about receptive anal sex in Quora, where it was answered by a gay man, and he stated, in not exactly these words, that anal receptive sex is for him and many who take part in it correctly the most effective form of sex whatsoever. He averred that the most important aspect, whatsoever, was adequate lubrication to avoid pain, and that it should begin with a copious amount of lubricant that is replaced attentively and repetitively during the act, as it is pushed away by bodily movement and rinsed away by the dilutional effects of sweat and sexual fluids. His primary point was, that provided adequate lubrication is maintained and the involved parties find the concept adequately erotically stimulating, it provides the most intense of all erotic sensations and, at least in his own case, can provoke a most powerful and enjoyable orgasm, with a most forceful and productive ejaculation, even without any direct contact with the sensory surfaces of his penis, whatsoever.

I found that very interesting, because while I find videos of men having anal sex at least as unattractive as I find men (a decidedly peculiar characteristic, I suspect, of a gay man), I do watch them from time to time, hoping some sort of a switch will be thrown, and I will suddenly start finding the viewing of anal sex between men stimulating. Putting all that baloney aside, I imagine it good to know, that should I ever find myself in position to give it a try, it would be wonderful to know how to experience the most erotically joyful effect. At the same time, I am always dumbfounded to observe men sharing anal intercourse in a film, acting as if they are really enjoying it, but looking at the fellow on the receiving end and finding his penis, rather than markedly erect, suggesting an excited state, otherwise, nearly or fully limp. Of course, I must wonder whether that was the fifth film he'd taken part in that day, and the only reason he is on the receiving end is that he could not get it up yet again.

Anyway, I'm sorry. The breadth of your response invites me to go off on all sorts of tangents, so let me end just by thanking you for taking the time to respond as you did. I have time to do some head scratching, and perhaps I will dream up a reasonable approach to finding someone as broadly interested in sex and open-minded about sex as you. That sounds to me just wonderful.

[rcd556]

I'll do my best to clear some of it up -

Yes it is kind of contradictory to be attracted to women but somehow find vagina itself barely arousing, I don't know why it's like that for me but it is. I enjoy women's bodies otherwise and I'll have sex with women still but the scenario has to turn me on and she has to have a really hot body because just the actual sex isn't arousing the way it is with a dick.

To answer your other question, I hang around the alternative crowd and on dating apps in a large city with a big lgbt population. I've dated and slept with a lot of trans girls because I'm pretty good at flirting and I'm familiar with real life queer sex rather than the stuff in porn. I'm just open about being bi and open to different identities but other than that I don't have a fetish or seek anyone out just for their genitals so I talk to a good mix of cis and trans people.

My situation is kind of weird but it's not that out of the ordinary to like dicks and sex with dicks but not be attracted to men or vice versa from what I've seen, but sexuality doesn't always make sense

[CockHummer]

Okay, thank you. I was being a bit nosy, in a sense, but your wording confused me, while it may be perfectly ordinary for the crowd you hang out with. That's cool Sounds like fun. And yes, the biggest point is that sexuality doesn't always make sense. thanks. I don't think I've hidden at all here the fact that I think the perfect girl for me would be a trans female with a cock (I get another opportunity to laugh at myself, which I live for, because I gave you shit for calling trannies with cocks "girls," and now I've just done exactly the same, without giving it a second thought! hahaha), but I just live nowhere near a big urban center, so its' just not an ordinary part of reality to find such people here. If I can just fantasize "on paper" for a moment, I would love a very feminine, knock 'em dead hot woman, who changed early enough that there is nothing at all masculine about her facial features, but she has a really hot dick hidden in her panties. If I could find such a woman that shared a significant part of my interests in the world and had her head on straight, I could picture it being like magic for me. Anyway, good luck. Life is so weird, now. I picture Indiana being so conservative--one of the Blue states and all. It's hard to remember that cities are cities and act like cities, pretty much wherever they are.:) I find it encouraging to have a reminder of that from communicating with you.