So Confused

[Goodgirl87]

I'm 19 years old, in college, and I just realized that I'm bisexual. I had my first sexual experiences with a close girlfriend of mine in high school (actually before I had sex with a guy), but I didn't think much of it. I basically just assumed that it was curiousity and nothing more. Since then I haven't done anything more than make out with girlfriends and I haven't pursued any. Recently, I've been thinking a lot about it and I realized that my feelings are changing and becoming stronger towards girls. I really want to explore this part of me. Unfortunately, I'm really not ready to "come out" about it to everyone I know. I told my friend from high school (who is also bisexual) and my boyfriend, and they've been nothing more than 100% supportive of me. But I still want to be more open about it somewhere besides the internet and I don't know how. Also, I want to meet other girls who understand me, and I need someone to talk to. I'm trying to come to terms with all this and explore it in the best way possible. I'm looking for encouragement and advice...

[Herbwoman39]

First, let me say welcome. You've found a great place full of caring folks.

Does your college have a Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender support group? Many colleges have access to these groups on campus. That way you can meet likeminded people in a safe space.

It's been a long time since I've been in college sosomeone else will probably be able to give you more info than I can.

As for comming out, the only person you *really* need to come out to is yourself and your S/O because those are the people who are affected by it most. I think it's fantastic that you do have supporters in your friend and boyfriend.

Good luck and let us know how things go for you.

[shameless agitator]

As far as coming out, I say just let it happen naturally. Don't force it. For meeting like minded people I think Herbwoman is right LGBT or GSA groups at your school would be a good place to start. You could also see if there's a GLBT center or PFLAG in your town. If you're into political activism you could work with groups like HRC, Don't Amend, Equal Rights Coalition or a bunch of others.

[DiamondDog]

your college/university probably has a GLBT resource center or someone you can at least talk to. The university I went to had an excellent resource center and there were helpful people there, books/magazines to read, movies/documentaries to watch, and they even planned social events for undergraduates. I was involved with the student run GLBT group but I'll admit I did get bored and found it to be more helpful making friends in the local GLBT bar.

[Goodgirl87]

How do you all go about meeting girls...or telling a girl that you are interested as more than a friend? I know it may seem like I am rushing things, but this thought has been in my head for much longer than I have admitted to myself...

[shameless agitator]

All of the GLBT related things we mentioned would also be good places for meeting prospective dates. As far as letting girls know you're interested, if people understand your orientation you just need to flirt with them the same way you would with a guy.