Vue Weekly: "aren't you either just gay or straight"

[glantern954]

So by his logic, because I Married a woman and choose to stay with her I am straight and none of my same sex attractions mean anything.

I don't think so.


Title: TOTALLY GAY
Author: Luke Foster / totallygay@vueweekly.com
Source: Vue Weekly


Don't you think bisexuality is just a stopover on the way to Gaytown? My take on bisexuality is quite simple. In my opinion, it doesn't exist, at least not in polygamist terms of being able to be in a relationship with both a man and a woman at the same time. Bisexuality, to me, is more of a prolonged experimentation period. I think everyone is perfectly capable of being aroused to the point of orgasm by either sex, regardless of their established sexual identity. That experimenting can be fun and will eventually lead a person one way or the other. Will it lead to Gaytown?

Maybe. For bisexual guys, that's the assumption, as it is that bisexual girls will end up in Straightville. But ultimately, deep down, I think there is one side people prefer more than the other, and to be in a fulfilling relationship, they will have to pick that one side and go with it. Is there more to the psychology of bisexuality? Of course. But at the end, if you're in a relationship with one person, aren't you either just gay or straight?


To read the rest of the article:
Link: http://www.vueweekly.com/articles/default.aspx?i=4741

[multiplesofsix]

I read that too, and wrote to the author & editors in complaint. No response as yet.

If anyone else wants to, the addresses are totallygay@vueweekly.com, chris@vueweekly.com, carolyn@vueweekly.com, and ron@vueweekly.com.

[Herbwoman39]

I complained as well. As with MOS, I haven't heard anything back either. You'd think a national publication would have a decent fact checker and check information out before publishing something like that load of horse crap.

[miamiuu]

I always think it is funny that alot of times feminine gay guys are saying bi guys have an identity crisis. :rolleyes: I've never heard of this vue magazine. Anyone know if there are any bi magazines and I dont mean porn related ones?

[smokey]

personally I am polymorphic perverse. :bigrin:

[DiamondDog]

*groan* the author sounds really opinionated, way too uptight, very old, and highly monosexual. I know gay men who've known since they were kids that they were into guys, they didn't know that they were gay but they knew they were attracted/infatuated with guys. Even looking back I was this way too. I personally don't see anything wrong with gay/bi/queer men calling each other words like queer/fag/faggot/fence sitter. On one hand this could be internalized homophobia; but on the other hand I have sex with men so I don't see anything wrong with using these words in a joking manner with friends that also do.

Words that once were seen as "bad" don't really have the same effect anymore when people of the queer continium change their meaning and they're not seeing them as hateful words anymore which is a good thing.

I honestly don't care if people call me a fence sitter or I'll even joke about stuff like about being "as rare as a unicorn" because most people think I'm either gay or het when I'm neither.

I think it's fine if queer people use these words but not het people. I've gotten mad at het/closeted and in denial people I know for using them but I honestly could care less if another queer person uses them with me, or even if they're used to describe a het/bi/gay friendly person like the word fag hag.

Or what about people that are bi that have a husband and a girlfriend, or a wife and a boyfriend? Or even both?

miamiuu-There used to be a bi magazine called "anything that moves", I dunno if it was actually in print, it could have just been an online publication or a zine.

Also, apperances can be deciving. I've met guys that looked/acted the opposite of "femme" men and they can be more camp and queen-like than the femme men that they dislike.

[steve10557]

We're all entitled to our views, even this guy I suppose, all he's doing is exposing his narrow viewpoint. Someone go and write something better...

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