Any Clubs that cater to the bi community?

[bi2gether]

My hubby and I enjoy browsing the web and we have chatted with a few people but we were curious if there are any clubs, parties or what not that cater to bisexuals. We are a member of one of the local swing clubs but for the most part, they are only interested in female bi's and are not interested in any kind of male interaction(with other males) :( Although, we find this atmosphere very exciting and have a great time there, ;), we would love to find a place that is comfortable for us to express the bi side both male and female. Does any one have any advise? It would be greatly appreciated.

[DiamondDog]

I wish there was a club or a bar or some kinda social outlet associated with bisexuality that's NOT a swinger's club or a sex club. Also, I wish that more men were open about being bi and that they weren't closeted/furtive.

[12voltman59]

Diamond---I have a damned good idea why many people are reticient to be come out and be proud" about being bi, gay or anything else other than purely straight....

One reason that many people in many places all over America, not only men, are reluctant about fully identifying themselves as bi, gay or anything other than "straight"--is because they live in places where if you do so identify there are those who will violently hate you --you don't want to be woken up by a bunch of guys in a pickup truck who pull up in front of your house with baseball bats, crow bars or worse in their hands and pull you out of your house because you are a "fucking goddammed cock sucking, butt fucking faggot!!!!" or whatever and start to go to work on you----

It's a matter of survival---

Hate to say that is the case in many places, but it is the reality in far too many burgs all over the country----

[12voltman59]

Somebody needs to start a place that caters to bisexuals in all ways and call it "Bisexuals Are Us"

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[12voltman59]

hopefully my posting --two postings above--will be deleted from this thread--somehow it wound up here when I thought it was being posted in another thread--sorry to have it in here--

[pasco_lol_cpl]

Saly the most we have been able to find here in Florida are the occasional regular parties or clubs that rarely schedule a bi night. They are so infrequent that its impossible to develop friendships or a rapport with anyone. As for non swing clubs that caters to or is very welcoming to bis, I havent found one yet either. So all around we are screwed, and not in a good way.

[luvrnpa]

I wish there was a club or a bar or some kinda social outlet associated with bisexuality that's NOT a swinger's club or a sex club. Also, I wish that more men were open about being bi and that they weren't closeted/furtive.

Yes yes yes!! What you said!

[holydragoon]

hahaha bisexuals are us... now that's something, you should (TM) that name :bigrin: ... I would obviously go, but til then.... :(

[DiamondDog]

My hubby and I enjoy browsing the web and we have chatted with a few people but we were curious if there are any clubs, parties or what not that cater to bisexuals. We are a member of one of the local swing clubs but for the most part, they are only interested in female bi's and are not interested in any kind of male interaction(with other males) :( Although, we find this atmosphere very exciting and have a great time there, ;), we would love to find a place that is comfortable for us to express the bi side both male and female. Does any one have any advise? It would be greatly appreciated.

hmm, actually I do have some advice.
Have you tried gay/lesbian, or even GLBT mixed crowd bars/clubs? Those have been very accepting environments for me.

12volt-I don't know if that's true, lots of states do have anti hate crime laws, in small towns individuality is tolerated, and in some cases gay/lesbian/bisexual and trans people are entirely embraced ,no questions asked.

I think it's something of an urban myth that small town life for gay people is miserable.

When I lived in the middle of nowhere in a rural area, I was able to be more open and felt safer there than when I lived in a major east coast city. I could hold hands with a guy or kiss him in public. Also it sounds weird but there were a lot of open transgendered people in the area too. Or even the first guy I ever had sex with, he was openly bisexual and didn't have a problem with that.

I'm not arguing with you or nitpicking but I'm just saying how things have been based on my experiences.

[bi2gether]

hmm, actually I do have some advice.
Have you tried gay/lesbian, or even GLBT mixed crowd bars/clubs? Those have been very accepting environments for me.
Thanks for that advise. We have been to one g/l bar and got a bad taste for it.
We are very straight acting people who enjoy the company of same sex relationships. The people we found at this particular bar were very gay/lesbian. We prefer people who are not sooo........lets say flambouant in the behavior..... we like masculine men :male: and feminine women :female: .....not the other way around.
I am not trying to be critical but it is our preference. Anyway, maybe we need to try to find another club. This one could just have been what it was.

[pasco_lol_cpl]

/\ I udnerstand what you are getting at and thats what I waas refering to in my last post. Ive seen some clubs advetised as being bi friendly, but when you walk in as a couple you are looked at as a pair of lepers.

[canuckotter]

Ottawa used to have a bar called The Well, a little basement place that was pretty cool. They called themselves a Bias-Free Zone. It wasn't exactly a gay bar, lesbian bar, or bisexual bar, or a straight bar for that matter... It was basically a "whatever" bar. Bisexuals did tend to congregate there for a while until they changed the format. I don't know if we have anything like that any more.

[Biboz49]

.... We are a member of one of the local swing clubs but for the most part, they are only interested in female bi's and are not interested in any kind of male interaction(with other males) :( Although, we find this atmosphere very exciting and have a great time there, ;), we would love to find a place that is comfortable for us to express the bi side both male and female. Does any one have any advise? It would be greatly appreciated.

We were a member of a local swing club and found exactly the same: the males were homophobic and the female bi's were encouraged. While we met some good friends there over time it was just too frustrating for me, as a guy, to have to hide my being bi in such an atmosphere. Go figure. So we've been going to bars in "the village" in Toronto where there is a huge gay/les community. This is much better as we feel very relaxed to be ourselves there. So I agree with DiamondDog, go to gay/les bars.

[bunnybutt]

We were a member of a local swing club and found exactly the same: the males were homophobic and the female bi's were encouraged. While we met some good friends there over time it was just too frustrating for me, as a guy, to have to hide my being bi in such an atmosphere. Go figure. So we've been going to bars in "the village" in Toronto where there is a huge gay/les community. This is much better as we feel very relaxed to be ourselves there. So I agree with DiamondDog, go to gay/les bars.

I love the toronto gay bars. I can't wait to go back there again, I had so much fun the last time I was there. I think the atmosphere is a lot more open in that scene compared to many others (the one here anyway). I've been to a few gay bars where I am, and there's a lesbian bar but i've been warned that the lesbians there are very anti-bi. Really the best place I've found so far..if you can stand the seediness..is titty bars especially the ones where couples get in free. Not a lot of intellectual conversations though..lol