If being gay was the norm, how excited would bi men be after trying sex with women?

[Bisexual765]

Assuming that being gay was a norm just like being straight is right now. It seems like a lot of bi men who tried out doing anything with a penis really started CRAVING it right after. And as someone from this site said it, cock seems way more addicting than its female counterpart. You hear about bi men being married to women but missing sucking penis regularly.

So I wonder if it would be the other way around if most bi men were instead married to men and only discovered their attraction to women recently? Would they also feel like they "crave" female touch?

[sisboy]

Great question! Currently I get more satisfaction forma cock than I do from pussy.It has been about 20 years since I really made the switch.As much as my wife and I still share the same bedroom unless her friend is doing a sleepover I really have no desire for a woman.I still service two or three guys a month and wifey is fine with that.So for me I guess I would not chase pussy or even want to try it.Might be different if we wanted to have more kids but they are long gone.

[Bisexual765]

Great question! Currently I get more satisfaction forma cock than I do from pussy.It has been about 20 years since I really made the switch.As much as my wife and I still share the same bedroom unless her friend is doing a sleepover I really have no desire for a woman.I still service two or three guys a month and wifey is fine with that.So for me I guess I would not chase pussy or even want to try it.Might be different if we wanted to have more kids but they are long gone.

But I wonder what's the reason for this? Also thanks for calling the question "great" lol

[Jazminedress]

I can see one error in the thinking................."If gay sex was the norm", then we immediately go to cock, what about women on women ?
But, to get back tot eh original questions, I think for the bi men that are still more leaning to hetero, its because most men can have sex, NSA, and move on, its fun, not a relationship type of thing.
But, female mentality is changing so the younger generation are more like that now. For the bi men that lean more towards homo, the women are a change up. Truthfully, I think we are just in an age again where more people are expressing different sides of themselves.

In 25 years, maybe sex with another person will be abnormal, it will be solo or toys........................really, there are so many ways of expressing sexuality, god knows where we will go

[Bisexual765]

I can see one error in the thinking................."If gay sex was the norm", then we immediately go to cock, what about women on women ?
But, to get back tot eh original questions, I think for the bi men that are still more leaning to hetero, its because most men can have sex, NSA, and move on, its fun, not a relationship type of thing.
But, female mentality is changing so the younger generation are more like that now. For the bi men that lean more towards homo, the women are a change up. Truthfully, I think we are just in an age again where more people are expressing different sides of themselves.

In 25 years, maybe sex with another person will be abnormal, it will be solo or toys........................really, there are so many ways of expressing sexuality, god knows where we will go

I assumed the majority of people here are men.

[Jazminedress]

I assumed the majority of people here are men.

I think yes, I only brought it up because I take these type of questions as a hypothetical thinking exercise ( which I love BTW)

[Coastocoast]

I assumed the majority of people here are men. This is the case and over the past few years the site may have well changed names from Bisexual to GAY. It seems the site went from bisexual topics to a predominantly gay porn site. Many of us who have been here a while really miss Drew the founder of the site.

[Bisexual765]

This is the case and over the past few years the site may have well changed names from Bisexual to GAY. It seems the site went from bisexual topics to a predominantly gay porn site. Many of us who have been here a while really miss Drew the founder of the site.

He sounds like he was a good guy

[Greenie1]

Interesting question really. I just enjoy sex though, and love woman and certain things about a guy, so probably it wouldn’t change my whole thought or ways about it....maybe.

[Long Duck Dong]

mmmm puts on deep thinking hat........ I love questions that require me to think and look at situations from different angles and points of view......

I do have a few friends that originally IDed as gay and later as bisexual, one of them is my male lover and he is very very much turned on by being pegged by females. In his own words, cock and strap ons are different but its the energy and emotion of a woman when he is pegged or when my intersex female partner fucks him, that he finds he craves greatly.....
as he puts it, the energy is more fluid and flowing where as with males its more dense and solid..... and while he loves being deeply fucked hard, one thing he did find lacking with males was the passionate kissing that he also loves, and while he finds a females lips softer and more gentle, the way that they can kiss hard and passionately, is a great turn on for him.......

one of the ladies who is formerly lesbian, now bi, says she craves the female touch, feeling and body, and loves a good hard fucking with a cock or strapon, shes said that males tend to be more focused and dominating when fucking but can be distant and less passionate, like they are not fucking a partner but some random female that they met in town earlier that night while females are different in that they are dominating but focused on making her cum as much as she can until she is literally begging them to kiss her or suck her nipples or something....... as she has said, males are cockcentic, females can be about the passion and desire....

but for myself, yes I can relate to it from both sides but I am not a physical person, like if I am being fucked, its physical but the desire, the need, the craving in me??? oh hell yes.....with the original male lover in the group, he fucked me in the shower and it was more than just a cock fucking me, it was the water, the heat, the strong arms, the feeling of surrender, the passion, the intensity that actually surprised the hell out of me and I actually thought to myself, I do not need a woman in my life to sexually please me, if this is what sex is going to be like with just a male.....
but yeah my intersex feeling partner can be riding my cock and lost in her own world of pleasure, while I indulge myself with her tits, and suddenly I am going to get a hand in my hair, my head pulled back and her tonque beating the snot out of my tonsils and yeah its something only she can do, in the way that has me, locking my arms around her tightly, and driving her down on my cock, just to see if she will totally lose it and bite me, lol, she does that when she is cumming hard but the idea of suppressing the screams by biting me, turns her on a lot......

so yeah, what you say, very possible... it would depend on the person tho

[KDaddy23]

I think we'd see the reverse of what can be seen today when a formerly straight person finds out what sex is like in the same-sex mode of things. Scary. Exhilarating. Life-changing. I knew a couple of hardcore gay guys who had sex with a woman for the first time... and couldn't get enough of it. I've even had sex with a couple of lesbians who said that, hmm, it wasn't as horrible as they believed it to be and one said that she was pleasantly surprised that a guy could eat her pussy and make it feel good.

I think that people would get "sick and tired" of being gay and start breaking some rules to find out if the grass really is greener on the other side. I think many would be hooked on it... and many would not like it so much... and this isn't - and wouldn't - be any different from what we see today when someone stops being monosexual in their sexual pursuits. it's either the thrill of a lifetime... or it isn't.

[Bisexual765]

I think we'd see the reverse of what can be seen today when a formerly straight person finds out what sex is like in the same-sex mode of things. Scary. Exhilarating. Life-changing. I knew a couple of hardcore gay guys who had sex with a woman for the first time... and couldn't get enough of it. I've even had sex with a couple of lesbians who said that, hmm, it wasn't as horrible as they believed it to be and one said that she was pleasantly surprised that a guy could eat her pussy and make it feel good.

I think that people would get "sick and tired" of being gay and start breaking some rules to find out if the grass really is greener on the other side. I think many would be hooked on it... and many would not like it so much... and this isn't - and wouldn't - be any different from what we see today when someone stops being monosexual in their sexual pursuits. it's either the thrill of a lifetime... or it isn't.

These gay guys and lesbians could not be Kinsey 6. Gay people can not just become "bored" with gay sex

[KDaddy23]

Doesn't change the fact that if being gay was the standard orientation, they could be bored with it. Is this all there is? What's this I hear about some folks having - gasp! - straight sex or having sex with men and women? Maybe I should try it...? Real life, people get bored with the way they have sex; it's usually the same things every time and the only variety comes if/when they can have sex with different people. Don't know how many times in my life I've been with someone I've had sex with multiple times and despite being good (or whatever) a suggestion comes up to try something different or change the order of things; hey, let's do it with the lights on! In the middle of the day; in a different room or other place. So on and so forth.

What we assume is that once someone "picks" their place on the scale, they will never change from it; many assume that they can't change, aren't supposed to change; believe that they aren't allowed to be curious about what it's like to have sex in a way they don't normally have it. But it happens and that not only takes the strict adherence to the scale and tosses it out, it actually validates how fluid sexuality is. A lesbian woman says to me, "Make love to me..." and I'm shocked - is this some kind of trick? No; turns out she had always wanted to do it with a guy at least once and she said she liked it. Whether she did it again is another thing. The other one made a bet and a challenge: I bet you can't eat my pussy as good as a woman can! The bet: If I could eat her and make her cum, I could fuck her... and I won the bet. But there was a... trick: She really wanted me to fuck her because, as she said, "You're a really interesting guy..."

Hypothetically, if being gay was the norm, a lot of people would be excited to have sex in a different way, whether it's bi or even straight. It's different; outside of the norm; might even be an act of rebellion to break the rules in such a way. Real life again? Some straight folks go bi - even "temporarily" - just to have sex in a way that's not the usual because straight sex all of the time can be good but... boring. The same old, same old. The scale just isn't as fixed as it appears to be and even in a hypothetical discussion, one shouldn't assume that it's fixed and unchangeable - it makes for a more interesting conversation.

[RisingBi]

I totally agree with the comments in this thread and the wisdom being expressed. So I couldn't really improve on it, so I won't even try.

But I just wanted to comment on the provocativeness of the question. Because I'm a bisexual guy that was originally born out of a profoundly disappointing straight life, which led to ever greater powerful gay fantasies that started at 30 when my first girlfriend, after three years, whom I thought I was going to marry, broke up with me. That led to a lot of cocksucking, and eventually anal play with guys for 25 years. Now that I've had another very painful and rocky relationship with a woman, that just ended last December, I once again find myself in the ever-growing gay desires realm.

I've never had romantic feelings for a guy yet, but I fantasize about it all the time. Which brings me back to my starting point: I absolutely love the idea that gay is the norm. I find the idea of a gay world so sexy and erotic, normal beautiful same sex love between two men or two women so awesome. I even once wrote an erotic story based on this premise. And that I would have a husband, and we would be fucking each other, making love with each other, every day, turns me on so much. Everything gay turns me on so much.

But of course this is all fantasy, since I haven't yet met a man whom I'm interested in in his entirety, romantically and emotionally, and not just sexually. And of course in the gay world that you describe, I'm sure I would be fantasizing about and seeking out women after suffering from disappointment and hurt with men. It seems to be my pattern.

[Bisexual765]

So my theory is confirmed.

But I still disagree that you can't just "turn" from gay to bisexual because the gay sex gets boring. You had to be a little bit bi from the very start. It's actually a stereotype that all gay people try to fight because too many straight people believe that they can get them into bed whenever they want

[Bluehill]

You can't beat the taste, texture and smell of a wet excited pussy!

[Long Duck Dong]

So my theory is confirmed.

But I still disagree that you can't just "turn" from gay to bisexual because the gay sex gets boring. You had to be a little bit bi from the very start. It's actually a stereotype that all gay people try to fight because too many straight people believe that they can get them into bed whenever they want

not much difference than * once you try black, you never go back *, * a lesbian just needs a cock *, * once a person tries bi, hetero only, makes them cry *, * just suck and fuck, relationships mess it up *, * only wussies stay with pussy *, * real bis crave cock *.... I have heard so many over the years that I have forgotten most of them...... I personally have always had the opinion that we evolve and change, like desires and interests but we use bisexual and other sexuality labels to put people in boxes at times, like Men that have sex with men are bisexual but too closeted, ashamed, biphobic to admit it.... where as I have noticed that maybe what they do can be considered bisexual but they do not associate or connect themselves with aspects of the bisexual community that they disagree with, or in simple terms, they may see it as seperate like hetero and gay sex, depending on the partner......

there has been the argument in the forum over how seperate sex with males and females is still bisexual sex cos its sex with both genders, while others have said bisexual sex is like MFM cos they are having both at the same time...... and to be honest it just comes across as * how I identify sex and my own sexuality, is the rule for others to use *........

I have sex with a male, two females and a intersex female partner but to be honest, I generally do not think of it in terms of straight, gay or bisexual sex, mostly cos sex with my intersex partner blurs the lines, most females do not have both a cock and pussy......

[Bisexual765]

not much difference than * once you try black, you never go back *, * a lesbian just needs a cock *, * once a person tries bi, hetero only, makes them cry *, * just suck and fuck, relationships mess it up *, * only wussies stay with pussy *, * real bis crave cock *.... I have heard so many over the years that I have forgotten most of them...... I personally have always had the opinion that we evolve and change, like desires and interests but we use bisexual and other sexuality labels to put people in boxes at times, like Men that have sex with men are bisexual but too closeted, ashamed, biphobic to admit it.... where as I have noticed that maybe what they do can be considered bisexual but they do not associate or connect themselves with aspects of the bisexual community that they disagree with, or in simple terms, they may see it as seperate like hetero and gay sex, depending on the partner......

there has been the argument in the forum over how seperate sex with males and females is still bisexual sex cos its sex with both genders, while others have said bisexual sex is like MFM cos they are having both at the same time...... and to be honest it just comes across as * how I identify sex and my own sexuality, is the rule for others to use *........

I have sex with a male, two females and a intersex female partner but to be honest, I generally do not think of it in terms of straight, gay or bisexual sex, mostly cos sex with my intersex partner blurs the lines, most females do not have both a cock and pussy......

You cannot just assume that any lesbian can want penis because "sexuality is complicated" or "labels don't matter". They exist for a reason, and gay people fight against discrimination also for a reason.