I think I’m bisexual?

[Jsmitty077]

New to the site, just joined. I’m becoming more and more aware that I think I may be bisexual. Not sure if that is quite the proper term though. I do not find men attractive, I don’t want to make out with a guy or cuddle with one either, but I have a strong desire to engage in sexual activity with one.

It started when my wife (who was a virgin when I married her 14 years ago), told me that she was kind of curious as to what it would be like to have sex with another guy besides me. In discussing it further she said she wasn’t sure if she would want to go off with another guy alone and fuck him and instead would be open to the idea of having a threesome with me and another guy. So that sort of got me wondering about how I would feel about sexually engaging another guy. The more I thought about it (and watched the relevant porn) the more and more I found myself really turned on about having sex with another guy, preferably a bisexual guy joining my wife and I, but sort of think I would want to try playing with another guy by myself first to confirm it’s something I would enjoy. I very much think I would but would wanna try it first to be sure.

So I’m not sure if bisexual is the right term for me or not? I’m not attracted to males, only females, but I very much enjoy sex and trying new things in that context. For me it’s about the pleasure, not only giving, but receiving. I’m not hung up on labels really so if I’m bisexual that’s fine with me, I’m just not sure if that’s the right term for someone who is more or less straight, but finds the idea of sex with another male very hot. Anyways, not even sure why I’m posting here or whatever answers I’m looking for, but I have yet to share my desire with my wife as I’m not sure how she will feel about it. I don’t want her to feel like I don’t want her or am not interested, it’s just after 14 years of marriage we’ve pretty much tried it all in regards to sex and I’m always looking to incorporate something new in the bed and sex with another guy is not only something I’ve never done, but something I’m very interested in trying. Would it be best to jump right into a bisexual mmf threesome or should I maybe feel things out with another guy in my own first? And also, especially if any of you ladies here have any suggestions about how to broach the subject with my wife, I’d greatly appreciate it. Thanks!

[Long Duck Dong]

bisexual is fine..... some bi people only have a sexual interest not a romantic one..... so there is bi sexual and hetero romantic as terms that describe what you are saying but its just easier to say bisexual and later define your level of sexual desire with potential partners......


now it can be hard talking to a partner if there is no indication of how they think and even then they may be ok with bisexuality and bisexual males but draw the line at dating or marrying one..... or they may go the other way and say OMG, we could have being having MMF 3somes cos guy on guy is so hot... lol.......and I love the fact that you are considering how your partner may think, with feeling like she may not be enough or just no longer interesting, because often they are enough, they are interesting and in many cases, if they had a cock as well as a pussy, we may never get out of bed.....
but you raise a interesting issue, you are a top / giver where as most guys that post about talking with partners, want to suck cocks....

lol one of my friends said to his wife that he always wanted to experience things from a womans point of view, a few days later she surprised him with a strap on and pegged the hell out of him then said now thats a taste, the real thing is even better, but I think she already knew he was a semi regular bottom anyway....... never underestimate a woman lol

if you watch porn in the bedroom, try using pornhub and bisexual porn to see what reaction you get.....it provides an opening for her to express opinions because there are females interested in M/M and M/M/F sex and even swinging but there is also the concern of how would her male partner take a suggestion that he sucks another guys cock etc...... but there is a problem with porn and that can be that it can be hard to find porn that shows bisexual sex without the close up shots, and for some people watching two guys fuck is hot but close up shots is a turn off, or other sexual things like rimming / licking a persons ass......

now in regards to you, you have never had sex with a male and find the fantasy to be very hot..... well as many bisexuals can tell you, some sexual experiences are better in fantasy than reality... other times the reality is better than any fantasy wet dream ever was lol.... and you may want to actually try it for real before you say ok, time to talk to the wife and later find out that the fantasy was hot, the reality not so much, and the wife says OMG again, that was so hot.....

honestly I will give you one clear bit of advice, we are not in your shoes, its not our marriage and while we do hope that what you want, happens and you have a wife that is fully understanding and accepting... we also know it can go to shit just as easy and its not us that have to pick up the pieces....

[stonebow]

LDD gave you good advice and I don't really have a lot to add except that to reassure you that the labels are largely irrelevant and what matters is that you and your wife do what's right for both of you. You are off to a good start by having such an open minded partner. Keep that communication open and take baby steps toward a fuller knowledge of yourselves, not just sexually but emotionally as well. Do not 'jump into' anything. Unforeseen jealousy has ruined many an otherwise fun fantasy. I wish you luck and a long and happy journey together.

[GeorgiaGuy49]

It started when my wife (who was a virgin when I married her 14 years ago), told me that she was kind of curious as to what it would be like to have sex with another guy besides me. In discussing it further she said she wasn’t sure if she would want to go off with another guy alone and fuck him and instead would be open to the idea of having a threesome with me and another guy. So that sort of got me wondering about how I would feel about sexually engaging another guy.

Since she was the one that had the idea, you might want to do it with her. Also, let her know what you think. I'm pretty sure she has some idea of where you might go in your thought process if she brought it up. And since you are open to experimentation in bed, it wouldn't be a big leap to get you might want to try sex with a guy. I can say this because I am bi and the wife knows and we are headed ina similar direction.

[KDaddy23]

I knew a guy who was a swinger and he and his wife liked to play D/s games with her as the D and he'd wind up sucking a lot of dick and being fucked a lot and admitted to loving every moment... and insisted he wasn't bisexual; he was just following orders, as it were. I don't know a lot about D/s stuff but one thing I know is that if there's something the sub doesn't want to do, making them do it usually isn't a good thing and many of us, when talking with him about this, refuted his statement that he wasn't bi and because he said that just because he didn't get his dick sucked and didn't fuck any of the guys, that meant he wasn't bi. We all called bullshit on that one. He probably didn't like the bisexual tag but we were of a mind that if every time he and his wife hosted for a threesome or moresome and he was sucking every dick in attendance - and being fucked by them - that "I'm just following orders" crap just wasn't flying since he had already admitted that it was the favorite part of being a swinger.

Just saying - and given that a lot of guys would give anything to have a wife who'd make such a proposition - if she's really of a mind to do this, I'd agree - but I'd also mention the guy/guy thing to her if only to find out what her thoughts would be about it; some women are game for MFM threesomes but not for the guys to get involved with each other.

[zgay73]

Welcome to the club :)