cancer: update wife

[mr bill]

she passed away at 4 am. so no more posts.

[bikurinpa]

she passed away at 4 am. so no more posts.
Sorry to hear, Lost my wife 3 yrs ago.

[Danoamr]

Deepest condolences to you and your family.

[csreef]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[delpark]

My condolences on the loss of your wife.

[zgay73]

Sorry for your loss.

[GayGuy04]

Hey Bill sorry about your loss

[jem_is_bi]

I am sorry for your terrible loss.
Please take care of yourself.

[bibliss]

she felt your presence by her side...

[Long Duck Dong]

big hugs, mr bill..... I lost my partner about 5 years ago, she slipped into a coma and died 4 days later and our last contact was tears and " I love you" said repeatedly.....

I know from experience that the most important thing that I can ask, is are you coping and do you have support around you, cos there is a lot of things that will change, and need to be done, and turning to do them all on your own is no fun.......its easier to say sorry for your loss but if I was there, I would put on the jug and make a hot drink and just be there in any way you needed..... cos sometimes thats simply what is needed, is the knowledge that somebody is there for the times when shit just gets too heavy and too hard.....

I coped by burying myself in my online gaming company management work, as a way of dealing with things and now years later, I do have a new partner, somebody that I had known for years and we had always had a mutual connection, most of me is healed but part of me never will and I am ok with that, its like having physical scars that can limit us in some ways so we learn to live with them and find other ways to live life.... and yeah, I ended up ruining my health cos I failed to look after me, simply cos I stopped caring about me....... so thats something to watch out for, as its easy to live wild and free, and end up dying young.... tho ahhh we both may not be as young as that implies...

so you look after yourself, make sure that you have somebody around you, even if its just for sexual relief cos we each have our own ways of coping.........and again, big hugs.

[NakedInSeattle]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know what you are going through. I lost my wife to cancer in 2000 and thought if was the end for me too. I moved on, met a wonderful understanding woman and am happy as I've ever been. Take some time to grieve, brother, and know that the world still turns on its axis and you will move on.

[DD788Snipe]

Sorry for your loss Bill. Be strong. We are here if you need us.

[Yoyome100]

Sorry for your loss, take care of yourself please

[cyclone6]

I feel you pain. My wife passed a few months ago. Hugs to try and comfort you.

[NjbiGuy01]

Sorry to hear brother. Sending good thoughts and prayers to you.

[8163dbmy]

Sorry for your loss. Hang in there.

[1funguy]

Sorry for your loss however remember to take care of yourself in the readjustment to a new normal for life. Not that it truly returns to "normal" that you were used to. It's different as you realize that person is always with you in your heart, part of your soul.

Seek grievance counseling if needed from some one who has walked in similar shoes. The first of the year I had loss of people close to me that rocked my world. By people I mean it was 4 close inner circle friends. I took a pause to adjust my mental satate, reached out to those who work with loss as well as other friends who had similar experience in the multiple loss category. What I discovered was the American society does not discuss death as do other cultures. Be part of this change as it will actually help you understand the process. Positive energy to you my friend. We here on the site can be reached out to assist you in your process.

[SilkyHoseLover]

Hang on to the precious memories that you built together and embrace the opportunity to forge new ones as the hole in your heart begins to mend.

Sincere best wishes,
Silky

[dowmass]

First off, thanks to everyone who had beautiful things to say, sincere condolences, and heartfelt sympathies.

I come from a culture that believes that nothing is permanent in life - the only thing that is permanent is "Change". Every material thing, people, property, money - they come to an end some day. What remains with us is the good and not-so-good deeds we do. I know this comes like some weird philosoply, especially to someone that lost a dear one. No one likes death - even to discuss that, but the things we cling to are the memories, and the goodness of the person who left us. Time heals or at least reduces the pain - so let us pray that Bill gets the strength to bear this irreparable loss.

[bbginva]

I too want to add my sincere condolences. I know it is too soon to think about the coming weeks, but you need to find a support group. I hope that time and a support group help you to find a happy new normal for you.

[RisingBi]

My deepest sympathies to you, Bill, and all the family for your loss. May your wife truly have eternal peace, and you and her loved ones all have a peaceful mind during this difficult time and always. I can't imagine the loss you feel after being together for 41 years, and sharing so much.

As a Buddhist, I believe that we're all here to be of benefit to others, to bring others happiness. The great suffering that you're experiencing now is temporary and will eventually cease. No pain is ever permanent. When we're in the middle of it, we just think it is permanent, which makes the suffering even more unbearable. I know, I suffered with completely debilitating depression for decades, with many countless suicidal thoughts and plans, even with some near misses where I was saved by others. But those minds are past, and I'm done with them. I was fortunate.

But it is our wishing others to be happy and free from suffering that brings happiness to ourselves. It's strange that way: taking our mind off ourselves and onto others is what ends up making us happy. It's weird, but true. It's a scientific truth: do the experiment; just try it and see what happens. You've probably had many experiences already in your life that has demonstrated this truth.

As long as you breathe you can continue to pray for your wife's happiness, the happiness of all your family and friends around you, and the happiness of everyone else in this world who is suffering. Your mind and heart are much more powerful than you think.

Good luck! 🙏❤️

[menbi]

Sorry to hear your family sadness, be strong.

[Ebonybifemme7]

I'm sorry for your loss. Cancer is taking so many people. How old was she?

[icbtiaoh]

Condolences for your loss.