cancer: update

[mr bill]

found out my wifes cancer has spread. 5 months to 1 year and will be alone after 41 years. don't know how i will get along after.
probably just kill my self

[MAcpl69]

Sorry to hear that

[mr bill]

think i will got a lot pills hope i have enough. why live

[jem_is_bi]

think i will got a lot pills hope i have enough. why live

Why live?
Because, after you make it through the grief that goes with your loss, you will have the opportunity to experience the joy of life again.
It is normal to feel as bad as you do now, but, hang in there! Eventually you will be able to give joy to other peoples life as well as your own.

[playful808]

found out my wifes cancer has spread.

I am sincerely sorry to hear that, mr bill. It must be shattering.

I know it is hard, but please do not give in to despair.
Talking about suicide is not helpful, improves nothing.

Much as it hurts, right now, it’s not all about you. It’s about her.
While she is here, be there for her. Try to be at your best.

And yes, please take care of yourself. Get a therapist.
Talk to friends and family. Use your support system.
We are all glad to be part of that support.

Please keep us updated.

[Mitmer]

I lost my wife to cancer 10/31/17. Its" tough sometimes, but life goes on. I met my current girlfriend on a facebook widow group. There are lots of good facebook widow sites,with people who have gone through it. Prayers to you!

[delpark]

I'm sorry to read of your wife's illness. I almost lost my wife eight years ago, it was very difficult. Having had time to think about life without her, different thoughts have emerged, suicide in particular.

No one can know your threshold for pain, either physical or mental. If one reaches their limit, only you can decide. Keep in mind that most likely someone will find your body and it will be a traumatic experience for them. No need to for them to see blood, guts or brain matter. You appear to have taken that into consideration by thinking pills.

I hope your wife's suffering will be minimal. I wish both of you the best.

[sysper]

so sorry to hear. i can't imagine the pain u will be feeling or ur feeling now. or hers. please be there for her but accept this is gonna hurt like a motherfucker for both of you.

[csreef]

All I can say is be strong, and ask for God's strength.

[zgay73]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I wish you the best and hope that you've got the necessary support to help you through the times to come.

[dan.woodlawn]

Bill, i mean this compassionately, and text doesnt often lend itself that way.
But if you have the will to help her through this and no check out early...then you have the will to live past this. You can do new things like help others who are suffering through their moments. You can do things...beautiful things that bring that pain and compassion to alleviate others pain and sorry.
Only you get to define how you act.
But having read your posts over a buncha years...you are not done because your best friend passes...you are done when you quit. You dont strike me as a quitter.
I wish you the best.

[mr bill]

hey all. i wrote that the same day i heard.
day two-- feeling a little better.
thanks all

[bithunder]

Hi Bill,
Think of all the fine memories of life with your wife - all the joy. Talk to her and respect her wishes of your life after she goes. Many of us have to suffer similar losses.