Has the forum helped you with accepting or coming to terms with your sexuality?

[zgay73]

For me, yes. I was a lurker on Shy Bi Guys. Never posted just answered polls. I accepted my sexuality in October 2017 but couldn't actually express it straight away and by the time I was prepared to open up a little it was gone and I ended up here. I grew more comfortable sharing over the months and I ended up writing a few blogs about my experiences in coming to terms with my sexuality which while incredibly personal to me, helped me realised I should've accepted it a long time ago.

[playful808]

Well said. I also found shybi-guys very helpful in finding my voice as an actively bisexual man. Helped me to refine my thinking about sex, non-monogamy, ethics, many things. I wrote there a fair amount, daily. Bisexual.com has also been very helpful. I am grateful that so many of us washed up here. Glad we have a place to meet and talk and feel less isolated.

[Long Duck Dong]

When I came to the site ( aged 35 ) I was not sexually active tho I was sexuality active as a teen and it would be a couple of years ( 37 years old ) before I was diagnosed with a personality disorder..... so for a time I ided bisexual, then as biromantic / asexual... later bisexual and my partner who later joined the site, changed her label to flexisexual, she died about 6 years ago

A mostly gay male member was hell bent on relabeling everybody and driving off females, including some of our beloved bi female members... and arguing that people were dealing with internalised biphobia whenever he disagreed with their opinions, labels, even going after my own partner and trying to end our relationship.... it reached the point that she outed him in the site just before she died ( it was not the site troll with their multiple accounts, it was a site member that also joined shybiguy ) ....... it is in part, thanks to him and his constant accusations that I was bi phobic / not bisexual even tho I am bi/ pansexually active.. that I id as neuro diverse and neuro gender, they are terms that originated in 2014 to refer to people that deal with neurological conditions that affect their understanding and interaction with the world around them but I still enjoy male and female contact among others.......

Now ( I am 49 ) I am in a relationship with a female intersex and two females, we have a male lover but he is in palliative care now with terminal cancer, I love being pegged by the ladies, fucking and being fucked by my intersex partner and sucking her cock, the labels will not change.... but sadly the site has, it is no longer the widely diverse site it once was, the forums that once flowed with great threads that promoted discussion, now are just endless threads of naked pics and talk about male sex......

[SilkyHoseLover]

To be honest, the contribution from this site to my acceptance of bisexuality has been minor, and pretty much limited to learning from the posts of others that there's nothing special -- or wrong! --about my feelings and desires. They're shared by many men who regularly visit here. While we all have our own personal likes and dislikes, they are, for the most part, within a range of acceptable behavior in the modern age, and nothing to feel ashamed of or embarrassed by.

I comment fairly frequently, offering an opinion, or write of my own experiences on a given topic, but I don't often ask questions or seek advice from other forum members, so there's very little commentary from others seeking to counsel, assist or chew me out!

Guess I'm saying that I basically decided on my own that I'm a decent guy and ok with the things I like to do with other men (and gurls) regardless what some close-minded people might think.

[chargersfan]

To be honest, the contribution from this site to my acceptance of bisexuality has been minor, and pretty much limited to learning from the posts of others that there's nothing special -- or wrong! --about my feelings and desires. They're shared by many men who regularly visit here. While we all have our own personal likes and dislikes, they are, for the most part, within a range of acceptable behavior in the modern age, and nothing to feel ashamed of or embarrassed by.

I comment fairly frequently, offering an opinion, or write of my own experiences on a given topic, but I don't often ask questions or seek advice from other forum members, so there's very little commentary from others seeking to counsel, assist or chew me out!

Guess I'm saying that I basically decided on my own that I'm a decent guy and ok with the things I like to do with other men (and gurls) regardless what some close-minded people might think.


Well said !!

[biwmtrucker44]

Not really . I didn't find this site till years after I started exploring bisexuality. After finding it I was not much of a participant in the forums and chats . I mostly became a member because I had become more accepting of my bisexuality.

[KDaddy23]

While I accepted and came to terms with my bisexuality decades before the World Wide Web even existed, the forum helps me understand bisexuality in others and allows me to share what I've learned with others. SBG was a great place to interact with other bisexuals and this forum isn't bad but as with any forum, it would be nice to see more participation by those who lurk.

[playful808]

I think this venue is especially important to newbies who feel out of their depth and just need a little support.
In these forums, some guys are honest about themselves for the first time ever.
And they get support.
In real life, LGBT men often treat each other like shit. Not here.

Noobs can see how other bi guys live. And think and feel.
Knowing that you are not alone is important. Changes your perspective.
Maybe gives you more choices about how your life could be.

[fredward]

Yes, it was important to me to find out that there are many ways to be bisexual. Many of them aren't me, but some are and it felt good to know I wasn't the only one like that.

e.g., I'm not particularly interested in exploring my submissive side, or cross dressing. But I do like topping (safely) and oral. And making eye contact in saunas is OMG hot.

[delpark]

The forum has been helpful in expressing and accepting the evolution of my sexuality. When I first came here fifteen years ago my Kinsey rating was 2. Nowadays I think a five is more appropriate. There has been a theraputic benefit in talking with others.

[Jazminedress]

In a way yes, I understand there are more like me out there for real, and not just as an idea

[Grant_Norman]

Yes...love to openly express my bi side

[ben6969]

yes it has made me realize others have the same sexual urges...i have decided I am bicocksual... Love cocks but not attracted to guys otherwise

[eager4cum]

I voted no because I started having sex with males back 54 years ago and then had sex with females about 5 years after my 1st activity with guys, so 49 years ago. So......I went thru the confused and acceptance phases a long time ago, before the internet was available. I accepted my bisexuality decades ago, probably in my mid 30's. The forum was not around yet. But, with all that said, it has made me a bit more in tune with some of my fetishes. I guess you could say my knife edge is a bit sharper now since I must think about my motivations a little bit more when writing / reading in the forum.

[Neonaught]

I came to terms with being bisexual in 1977.

[Blondeblowjob7]

For me it’s a definite “yes.” This forum, and some other similar forums, have most definitely helped me accept my sexuality as a male cocksucker. I came from a very conservative family. So for years after becoming a cocksucker my junior year of college I struggled terribly with my true sexuality as a male cocksucker. Giving head is all that I do with men. However, sucking dick is honestly my favorite type of sex by far. When it comes to sex there’s actually nothing I would rather do than bobbing my head up and down another man’s cock. Over the past 5 to 10 years, I have completely accepted by true sexuality as a male cocksucker. I finally got so sick and tired of fighting my true sexuality as a cocksucker all the time. I realized that nothing will change the fact that I’m a cocksucker, or the fact that sucking dick is my favorite type of sex. So I might as well take real pride in being a male cocksucker, because absolutely nothing will ever change the fact that a cocksucker is what I am. Since accepting that fact about myself, my sex life as a cocksucker has greatly improved. I’m more passionate and comfortable when giving head to my feeders, and much more comfortable with who I truly am as a person. Forums like this have really helped me to accept who I am sexually. I’m very grateful for that.

[cbb83]

Not at all.

Being honest the site seems to be mostly a bunch of men going around saying how bi they are while endlessly going on about gay sex and how amazing it is; randomly posting porn pics; and telling various unbelievable stories that are trending ever more towards pedophilia and incest for some unknown reason.

I periodically leave and then come check this place... but being honest it's just ever-more becoming gay guys talking about their sex fantasies.

In fact, I think I'm going to do that periodically leaving thing again.

[csreef]

No. I accepted my Sexuality long before I found this site.

[FredGillard]

yes it has made me realize others have the same sexual urges...i have decided I am bicocksual... Love cocks but not attracted to guys otherwise

I'd agree with that, but there's a guy who I worked with briefly, that I found my getting an erection thinking about...

[RisingBi]

I voted Yes, not only because it has been helping me so far in the short time I have been a member, but I believe it will continue to help me into the future. That's because even though I have 27 years of cocksucking experience, and a couple years of a little bit of very hot anal experiences, I'm still struggling with my bisexuality, and am still trying to figure it out. And I need help doing that, using the wonderful people in this forum and by continuing to explore my own gay sexual experiences.


You see, overall, I have much stronger gay feelings, desires, and fantasies in my head, that then don't usually manifest as attraction to and passion for the guy I'm having sex with in real life. But the fantasies and desires never stop at home. But there were a number of very passionate exceptions that still keeps me searching for more. It's forums like this that open my eyes to the possibility that a lot of those misfires in real life were because of some very deep, unconscious homosexual repression in me, that I'm still not consciously aware of. I truly want to just accept myself.


I just ended a 3-way relationship with a woman, so I'm having strong desires to get back out there and hook up with a guy or guys. I'm just strongly hoping that the chemistry is there with him or them, and continues to be, so that once and for all I can truly connect with my bisexuality, accept it, and rejoice in it.

[Long Duck Dong]

Not at all.

Being honest the site seems to be mostly a bunch of men going around saying how bi they are while endlessly going on about gay sex and how amazing it is; randomly posting porn pics; and telling various unbelievable stories that are trending ever more towards pedophilia and incest for some unknown reason.

I periodically leave and then come check this place... but being honest it's just ever-more becoming gay guys talking about their sex fantasies.

In fact, I think I'm going to do that periodically leaving thing again.

I read your statements, reread them... then looked at the forum......and yeah, I have to agree.......

[bibliss]

Scouring the Internet, as I do, I find it hard to find places that are dedicated to bisexual discussion like this one is.

To be honest, I don't really have many friends who are out as bisexual. More women than men, that's for sure.

I like this forum because it's one of the few places I can browse and express myself with more honesty about my bisexuality.

It's nice to know I'm not the only one out there, that there are plenty of others...

I enjoy the random sexy thoughts, but I appreciate more when people speak to their hearts and with honesty.

[LowkeyBreeze318]

To me, I’d say that is his help me feel a little less guilty about having sexual thoughts. I can express myself on here without being judged much like on shybiguys. This is like my personal diary that I can share with fellow bisexual gay people on here & they can be very supportive of how I’m feeling & what I’m thinking.