Crossdressing..fetich, or need

[thongman45]

I like to crossdress....now is it a fetish, or a need? I don't know what is is for sure. I know I like to do it when I can. And it does excite me. But what about it attracts me?.
My wife and I have an open marriege. She has her boy friends that she has her fun with, and I'm allowed to have my fun with men, or women. A situation accured where she was invited to go to florida with a man, and return with some personal items he has in storage. I know as an inteligent person that sex will come into the picture.
we have a system (since she has more men interested in her than I have people intersted in me) there is a pay off for me. (Booz or sex).
She would like to let me go to Key West for the fetish week. I would like to have sex with her while crossdreesed...(not her cup of tea).
What do you think?

[csrakate]

While the two of you seem to have a very open relationship as far as both of you being allowed to seek and be with other people, I do think that you may want to avoid using sex or sexual scenarios as a bargaining tool between the two of you in order to gain favors or privileges for trips and such. If having sex with you while cross dressed is not her "cup of tea", I can hardly see the enjoyment of it for you if you are aware that she is not a willing partner.

An open and mutually agreed upon relationship is one thing, but games within a marriage can only lead to trouble. You may call it a "payoff", but it sounds more like a game to me and one day you may find that the two of you are no longer on a level playing ground.

Hugs,
Kate

[bithonglover]

I think its a fetish, first of all. It's taboo and naughty and makes you feel sexy (or horny). Hey why not its fun! I've tried it myself with my ex g/f's underwearz.
As far as going to the fetish week... do you want to go and if so, do you have the means to go? If so, then go for it. Could be the experience of a life time.
In regards to having sex while being dressed up, I think she should indulge you at least once, she may even enjoy it. Who knows. That being said, if she really doesn't enjoy it then it won't make it very enjoyable for you in the end. If ya's have an open relationship then perhaps you can find a lady who is into having sex with a crossdresser.

I must agree with the comments expressed by csrakate above, playing games is a no win situation. Communication is key.

In any event be safe and have fun being you. No regrets... :2cents:

[GypsyButterfly]

I would like it if my dh would dress up, but, so far, he won't. He might try it one day, who knows? The thing is, what if I really enjoy it & it was a one time thing for him? He's the only man I'm interested in being with sexually, at least, at this time. I think it would be fun to be with someone who is passable, where we could go out in public too.

[eyewarepanties]

I would have to say for me it is a need. I love panties and wear them full time. I have been into panties and other lingerie for over 46yrs. It might have been a fetich all those years but I finally had to tell the wife (she knew) that I was going to start wearing panties full time. I love the feeling I get with them on. I would wear more but the wife doesn't want me to.

[steve10557]

I think in my case it's just an enjoyable a tool, I and my partner enjoy my feminine side, but under all those clothes we are still just the real 'me'. I suppose if it's viewed as a fetish, then that's what it is, but however you view it, I agree with everyone else here, if its not a shared experience you lose half the enjoyment but your partner should be open enough to give it a try for your benefit if nothing else.

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I'll try anything once, twice if I like it, three times to make sure.
(Mae West)

[bivision]

I haven't done it in so long I miss it so much since I have to stay hidden in the closet now due to my straight marriage. but I used to love it so much but I didnt need to do it to be intimate with another man. I mean let's face it women have so many more choices in attire than men. they can wear pretty much anything a man can and be accepted as normal but try and reverse the roles and look out. I also love to be with a TV/CD I find them extremely provocative, alluring, exciting, stimulating, it's something about shedding your inhibitions and doing something for the feel of it my closest friend is a weekend woman and more of a real man where it matters most in the heart!
so to all those who enjoy the fetish / lifestyle of CD/TV I salute you

by the way I am currently working o getting myself in shape so I can dress up again so if you know any gurls in the Ohio area have them a drop me a line so I can find the hangouts and chat tks a bunch