"Daddy" Questions......

[dowmass]

Hi folks!

I am what you could call a BI, closeted. "Daddy" bottom", 60 YO, 5 ft 5 150 pounds - someone that has bottomed only twice. Not that I am complaining, but in a world full of flakes, ,and those obsessed with labels like "young", VGL etc, that's the way it is. Silver daddies and Double list haven't worked either, but then who knows. someday I might find my "man".

Anyways I had a couple of questions, would love to hear from you.

1) On two occasions, I had a much younger guy (27-30 Year old tops) contact me. He knew my age and said they were attracted to submissive daddies, because he felt the "warm and secure", fucking "daddy". They said he had been with a daddy before that had moved to other town, and wanted to feel the same experience again. Of course he spoke to me over the phone for about 20 minutes, going into great detail about what he'd love to do in bed. Then as has happened before, he just ghosted me.

Anyways, my question is : As a TOP or BOTTOM, have you felt a bond, warmth or felt secure, in a similar situation? Is that a real thing from , or just a figment of someone's imagination?

2. "Natural or Soft" question: I have had tops tell me that they would prefer a .hairy person, and more so if he is "greying". Also have had them say that they prefer a hairy ass, as a smooth hairless ass would look and feel "like a pussy". One even said that he would prefer fucking a woman instead of a man with a hairless smooth ass.

On the other hand I have had tops tell me that they prefer a smooth ass as "eating" is more of a pleasure and "getting it in" and going "in and out" is easier on a soft hairless ass.

What's your preference, and why do you think you would prefer a "natural" or "soft hairless ass"

Thanks for your answers!

[williamg]

Not been with a man... yet. That said, I love smooth both ways. Me being smooth down there just feels sexy as hell. My wife does too. I love the skin on skin feel. I know some men are looking for the "all man" experience with hair all over. I can see why as it provides a "masculine" experience. But for me, if possible we are both smooth (or a tight trim for him at least). I just feels so good to me.

[softheart]

I think you are making it too complicated. Life is not a steak house where you order it your way and get it. Meet a nice guy that you are compatible with and be thankful if he is the type of guy who like to experiment.

Meet up with a guy through social networking or something and get to know him first. Meet at least twice. Make a friend you wouldn't mind going out to dinner with and then spending the night with.

[Christopher South]

1 - Yes, I've felt a connection with a guy. There have been a few guys with whom I had ongoing sexual relationship that I'd go over their houses and just chat and not have sex. One guy injured his leg and I took him food shopping. Another guy had a bad cold and I brought him chicken soup. Generally speaking I have to like the guy and not just view him as a cock.

2- not a fan of rimming but have done it and it doesn't matter whether it's hairy or smooth. But my preference in general is hairy guys.

[playful808]

Yes, I have felt a bond, warmth, secure affection with another man. It rocks, and is too rare.

Don’t expect much from hookups. A real connection takes time.

I prefer smooth all the way around, but it’s just a preference.

[GayGuy04]

Not much I've done at all but if I ever got a chance to be with a guy it would probably would be rhe greatest thing to be with another guy. And to answer your second question I wouldn't mind rimming or getting my ass rimmed by guy too

[KDaddy23]

Interesting questions! Methinks some of that sentiment is a fetish and some guys "connect" with someone who is "old enough to be his father" or, in this aspect, close enough for government work. Okay - whatever floats your boat and some guys just like older men. Some guys actually do have "daddy issues" and it's been tossed around - and for long as I've been aware of this - that some men either didn't form a good bond with their father or, ahem, formed a really good bond with dad and with sexual interest. Which is which? You won't know unless you ask him but I also know that it's not unusual for older guys to feel warm and secure with younger guys - top or bottom, doesn't matter. I think when you strip away the younger/older stuff, it's probably more along the lines of male bonding and the younger/older thing just makes things... naughty but comforting.

Smooth or hairy? I guess that's a matter of preference but I'd hazard a guess that a guy who is smooth does resemble a woman's "hairlessness," softness, etc., while a guy who is hairy evokes a different sense - virility, maturity, masculinity, stuff like that. When it comes to giving head and/or rimming, well, who wants to deal with hair getting in the way... and who thinks it's fun and hot to dive through some hair to get at the goodies it covers up? Personally - and without offense to anyone who fits the description - really hairy guys freak me out and when I've been with such a guy, I keep getting this tremendous urge to look for some clippers; I've had to learn to not make me freak out and deal with the reality that some guys have their own fur coat and some guys are as smooth as a baby's butt and to not discriminate because of it. If there's some hair getting in the way of what I wanna mess with, um, just "move" it out of the way and take care of the business at hand.

[Greenie1]

I think KDaddy summed that up quite nicely!

[dowmass]

I think KDaddy summed that up quite nicely!

I think when it cones to the “hair” question, I could have been more direct .
My question is “When it comes to fucking an ass, do you prefer a hairless one or a smooth one”? After all, tops do see where their dick goes into.. so would you fuck a “girly smooth ass” or a “natural hairy ass”?

Does hair in the ass make it difficult to get the dick in?

[jem_is_bi]

When I first started to look for Male-Male sex at age 58, an 18 year old male contacted me because of his desires for older men.
I felt bad turning him down because he really wanted a relationship with me. But, I am not a daddy type of guy.
I am much more comfortable with someone close to my age.
However, now that I am 72 years old, older than me is very limited.
So, at least someone greater than 50 years old is old enough for me.

Smooth? I definitely prefer smooth. I don't have excessive body hair and keep myself smooth down there for others to enjoy.
My smooth ass looks like a thin guy smooth male ass not a voluptuous wide hip female ass.
So, I definitely understand why a guy would prefer a female ass to mine.

[dowmass]

When I first started to look for Male-Male sex at age 58, an 18 year old male contacted me because of his desires for older men.
I felt bad turning him down because he really wanted a relationship with me. But, I am not a daddy type of guy.
I am much more comfortable with someone close to my age.
However, now that I am 72 years old, older than me is very limited.
So, at least someone greater than 50 years old is old enough for me.

Smooth? I definitely prefer smooth. I don't have excessive body hair and keep myself smooth down there for others to enjoy.
My smooth ass looks like a thin guy smooth male ass not a voluptuous wide hip female ass.
So, I definitely understand why a guy would prefer a female ass to mine.

very interesting! I have turned down a couple of tops who were 18. Irrational as it may seem, I was scared that I shouldn’t be doing something wrong (if that guy was really not 18). 25 Is probably the lowest age I’d go with.

[Sandman1981]

How does this look. 53947

[dowmass]

How does this look? Fantastic, smooth, delicious. I am sure a top would call it "nice to be in" and "fuckable" Just curious - do you shave, or use a hair remover cream? Thanks for sharing that wonderful picture.

[2holer]

Its not how they feel aboutyou its what you feel about yourself Im a smooth body and I like it that way and a lot of guys like me that way be your self in the end you will be happier

[2holer]

Like your ready for my tongue to fuck you then my cock YUM

[DD788Snipe]

Sandman you're hot!!!!!!

[DD788Snipe]

Dowmass you're making too much out of this. I'm a 63 5' 10" 170 lb. bottom. I'm married and very deep in the closet. I have a young fuck buddy that I met on A4A. He contacted me and told me he loved Daddy's that were submissive. Mid 30s and married. He's just an FB nothing else. A good fuck BTW. We get together whenever we can.  As far as age goes that is about as young as I want. IMHO anyone younger doesn't know how to be discrete and can't relate generationally. After exchanging pics and emails you should always do a meet and greet before a hookup. If both of you like what you see and hear then go for it and see where it leads. Most of us would love to have a FWB that's closer to our age. Those are few and far in between. I had that for a couple of years and it was great but that's a different story so I digress. Yes there are a ton of flakes and posers out there and you're finding that out. Keep looking is all I can say. As far as body hair goes that's personal preference. I don't have an abundance of body hair. I do manscape but not smooth. It might red flag the wife to ask questions. My FB  has very little body hair and that's a turn on for me.  I get my ass pounded and he busts a nut several times and gets his gorgeous cock sucked and we go our separate ways. I prefer to have my cock sucked than my ass eaten but I always make sure I'm shower fresh inside and out just in case. We phone sex a lot in between encounters. My advice is relax. Take it easy don't think too much into it and things will happen for you. Good luck.

[dowmass]

I am not taking being with a younger guy, seriously. It's been so long (Will be three years in March/April)....I would be happy to find a hung top to get into me. Hope to find someone soon.

[SilkyHoseLover]

This thread is a little 'all over the place' - which is ok. It's not exactly what I expected from the subject line, either, but I'll start there:

I'm not a fan of the term 'Daddy' at all. I'm far too rooted in reality to accept calling another man that, or being called that, myself, by another man, regardless of age. Maybe there's something inside me that honors the term too much, as I had a real father who I loved and respected, and deserves sole ownership of that word in my life. (We won't get into what his thoughts might be about the desires that I have developed in my later years...)

I also tend to shy away when a much younger man expresses an interest in my profile. At 69, I'm far more conscious of my adult children's ages, especially my son who will soon be 40. Somehow, I just feel a little uncomfortable with the thought of having partners around that age. I had a 19 year old contact me on FetLife the other day. Good Lord -- I have a 18 year-old granddaughter!

As for the other things mentioned in here, I'm smooth and prefer smooth partners. I do the best I can to remove body hair and provide an attractive playground for my partners. I understand that even some 'gurls' are married and unable to shave as much as they'd like, and I also understand that many masculine men who enjoy playmates like me wouldn't think of being hair-free. So I can deal with trimmed pubic regions and body hair in other areas. But there's a limit. I'm not at all into anyone who describes himself as a 'bear'. I like fur coats on naked skin, but I prefer the type that can be slipped off... No offense intended, just my preference.

So far, I'm a bottom. If I did attempt to top, I would prefer a smooth ass. Topping would be something I did because I know that the other guy wanted it -- it's not something I desire, despite the fact that I have fucked my wife's ass many times.

There was one guy I played with who started out by taking a shower with me. When we were finished, we wound up in my bed, eventually in 69 position, with him lying atop me. He was a fit man and quite smooth. As I lay on my back sucking his cock, I saw the smooth, freshly-showered and squeaky-clean ass mere centimeters from my face, and it looked inviting. So I adjusted my position slightly, parted his cheeks and tried rimming for the first time. (Never thought I would do this, but never thought I would kiss another man, either.) I enjoyed it, and would do it again, selectively.

[Sandman1981]

How does this look? Fantastic, smooth, delicious. I am sure a top would call it "nice to be in" and "fuckable" Just curious - do you shave, or use a hair remover cream? Thanks for sharing that wonderful picture.

Thanks, Dowmass. I’ve always fantasied about having a daddy. Doing whatever he ask or tells me to do. I’m not very hairy, so I just shave.

[dowmass]

Thanks, Dowmass. I’ve always fantasied about having a daddy. Doing whatever he ask or tells me to do. I’m not very hairy, so I just shave.

Great to hear that you have a fantasy about being with an older guy (no offense meant to anyone that believes that the word "daddy" is out of place. Thanks!

[GayGuy04]

When I first started to look for Male-Male sex at age 58, an 18 year old male contacted me because of his desires for older men.
I felt bad turning him down because he really wanted a relationship with me. But, I am not a daddy type of guy.
I am much more comfortable with someone close to my age.
However, now that I am 72 years old, older than me is very limited.
So, at least someone greater than 50 years old is old enough for me.

Smooth? I definitely prefer smooth. I don't have excessive body hair and keep myself smooth down there for others to enjoy.
My smooth ass looks like a thin guy smooth male ass not a voluptuous wide hip female ass.
So, I definitely understand why a guy would prefer a female ass to mine.

I bet you look good too

And yes Sandman you for a delious ass man

[Flypaper]

How does this look. 53947

Looks good to this 60 yo “daddy eligible” lol

I also avoid the term, although have fun with it in fantasy play and some of the flirty exchanges I have here. IRL I wouldn’t want a younger guy calling me daddy bc of the mind fuck it does on me. Sorry!

I do prefer smooth over hairy, but at least neatly trimmed. I try to keep myself tidy as well, although the wife barely accepts my excuse that it is what other guys in my sport do. She freaked the last time I shaved my chest hair and nipples, even tho I’m relatively smooth naturally.

Sandman, you get impressively smooth: I can only get my button that clean if I go for a wax, which I really enjoy.

[Oborokybiman]

I’ve been with several different age groups. However, the first guy I ever got naked with as both of us were curious and not yet considered bi. He was maybe 18 yrs older than me and he was a “good” fit for me. Not knowing that at the time and he slipped away from me sooner than I expected. But to answer your first question, I felt a certain calm being with him because 1) we were both married and closeted and neither wanted to be “out” ever! He was comfortable and I liked the way we were warm and comforting to one another. Other younger or even the same age guys were out for themselves and weren’t even close to that comfort zone with the first older gentleman! I hope that helps.

[dowmass]

I’ve been with several different age groups. However, the first guy I ever got naked with as both of us were curious and not yet considered bi. He was maybe 18 yrs older than me and he was a “good” fit for me. Not knowing that at the time and he slipped away from me sooner than I expected. But to answer your first question, I felt a certain calm being with him because 1) we were both married and closeted and neither wanted to be “out” ever! He was comfortable and I liked the way we were warm and comforting to one another. Other younger or even the same age guys were out for themselves and weren’t even close to that comfort zone with the first older gentleman! I hope that helps.

"Not knowing that at the time and he slipped away from me sooner than I expected" What do you mean by this?



Also, were you the TOP or BOTTOM?