What did your girlfriend do when you tell her you like men and like women?

[menbi]

Did you come out?

[Bidirectional4u]

Wife was pretty good with it, said she was Bi as well. We promptly began a search to find the right guy to join us for playtime. Took awhile but we found a great guy who's become a close friend to both of us.

[ocaladouglas]

when my wife (then best friend) found out I like guys as well as women she told me about one of her neighbors and hooked us up for some fun time together

[bikurinpa]

Wife was pretty good with it, said she was Bi as well. We promptly began a search to find the right guy to join us for playtime. Took awhile but we found a great guy who's become a close friend to both of us.
You better go buy you a lottery ticket!! first ur VERY lucky she accepted it and secondly you are very lucky to find a guy who does want friendship as well!

[Footstep40]

I was dating a former male co-worker of hers when we were introduced, so she was actually surprised that I liked women as well.

[jamie63]

...my missus told me to get all my stuff and get out......she told everyone that would listen to her, tried to deny me contact with my son, etc.

[sysper]

what a bitch! i'm so sorry she treated u like that.
...my missus told me to get all my stuff and get out......she told everyone that would listen to her, tried to deny me contact with my son, etc.

[Waylon]

My main side chick said great and wanted to watch and she got quite a few treats watching me go down on a few guys.

[jamie63]

what a bitch! i'm so sorry she treated u like that.

.....I now find it extremely difficult letting any female that I'm bi. I've found out the majority of women don't want to know a guy if he's bi, and yet, it's perfectly ok for a female to be bi...weird!

[SilkyHoseLover]

.....I now find it extremely difficult letting any female that I'm bi. I've found out the majority of women don't want to know a guy if he's bi, and yet, it's perfectly ok for a female to be bi...weird!Ouch -- sorry for your painful experience!

My wife knows of and is ok with my bisexuality. But she, herself, has no interest in other women. Takes all kinds to make a world!

[stonebow]

Mine is the main reason I'm at peace with myself. We'd only been dating a short time when she told me of her previous long term relationship...with a woman. Hearing that I felt comfortable disclosing my bisexuality. She's always been open minded and adventurous so when she introduced me to her FWBs..some of whom were also bi.... there was really no looking back. It was one of her male friends who took my anal cherry!....:)

My ex, on the other hand is another story. While she's not homophobic and always said she was cool with it....I'm pretty sure that secretly it was one of the things that came between us. To her credit though she never outed me nor tried to use her knowledge as leverage.

[KDaddy23]

Mine asked me if I could arrange it so she could see me suck a dick - and I did arrange it!

[sysper]

so glad u got a great relationship going with ur wife. for her to be the cause of taking it up the butt...another reason to bond with her & appreciate her!
ur ex, well at least she put in the effort to be descent & fair. if it bothered her it bothered her, but she was civil about it. can't ask for much more really, i don't think.
Mine is the main reason I'm at peace with myself. We'd only been dating a short time when she told me of her previous long term relationship...with a woman. Hearing that I felt comfortable disclosing my bisexuality. She's always been open minded and adventurous so when she introduced me to her FWBs..some of whom were also bi.... there was really no looking back. It was one of her male friends who took my anal cherry!....:)

My ex, on the other hand is another story. While she's not homophobic and always said she was cool with it....I'm pretty sure that secretly it was one of the things that came between us. To her credit though she never outed me nor tried to use her knowledge as leverage.

[Annika L]

She told me she was also open to both.

[sysper]

.....I now find it extremely difficult letting any female that I'm bi. I've found out the majority of women don't want to know a guy if he's bi, and yet, it's perfectly ok for a female to be bi...weird!
i don't blame u, & yes i think alot of women probably most of them do not go for bi guys even if they are bi!!! i just don't get that. honestly i think part of it is, women tend to be more carefull with there hygene & in there minds guys are dirty & messing around with other guys puts them at risk...as if women messing around with guys somehow avoid that risk.really i think it's the result of toxic masculinity.

[csreef]

...my missus told me to get all my stuff and get out......she told everyone that would listen to her, tried to deny me contact with my son, etc.

What a Vindictive BITCH!!! I hope you got yourself a damn good lawyer, and fought her!

[playful808]

All the women in my life have know my orientation from the start.

[Long Duck Dong]

My best friend / lover / companion, knew I was bi before I told her..... she is a fully functional intersex female and one night after she had a shower at my place, she walked out in a towel and asked me if I would suck her cock then let her fuck me senseless or if I preferred cis guys..... my mouth dropped open in surprise and she burst out laughing.... 2 decades later, we finally had sex.... and it is fantastic but so is she...

we are in a closed group where I tend to be the one getting fucked by her and our female lovers ( using strapons ) and she tends to be one that fucks the ladies senseless...... the other male lover is succumbing to the effects of terminal cancer so he is now more of a voyeur than participant which is a shame as the ladies loved watching him fuck me

[LVTOGP]

I didn’t tell her I had every been with a man, she had pegged stretched, whatever she wanted with me. Then one time we brought someone home to dp her, partially through she said it would me hot to see him fuck me while I fuck her. So it kind of came out on it’s own

[csreef]

The majority of my girlfriends have been from when I was involved in the Kink community. On my social networking profile for that lifestyle, my Orientation was posted, and in that world, no one cared.

Once I dated a woman, and when I told her I was Bi, she looked like a cat that had just eaten a sour mouse. Needless to say, we never dated after that!

[bibliss]

I've had more than a few surprisingly open and encouraging communication with the women I've come out as bisexual to... which makes me wonder what was stopping me from opening up and sharing sooner... It helps if you're honest and come to the communication with a sense that you want to share from your heart.

One of the best was my friend Amy who readily shared that she was bisexual for most of her college years, she dated women, but ultimately settled for being with men. "Isn't it wonderful to make these discoveries of who we are as sexual beings?" - she said with a smile.

My long-term partner knows. We're in a platonic relationship although we talk and share about sex openly. She considers herself straight but has explored with women when she was younger.

I believe bisexual interests and experience throughout life -- for both men and women -- is far more common than the media has us believe... behind closed doors, we know bi and same-gender porn are among the top categories among both men and women.

[BisexualGuySlut]

I met my wife at bi sex party so she new before we started dating. She’s also bi

[Warmnsalty]

I met me current wife at a bdsm party, I went with another girl. Bdsm not really my thing but thought it would be fun to watch. My wife is a top and was flogging a hot blonde chick... we started chatting... told her I was more familiar with swinging than BDSM, that I loved MFM ... she was bi too so it was an easy convo... needless to say I put a ring on it so glad I finally have a hot wife of my own.

[RisingBi]

I told my last girlfriend after we first started making out and it looked like sex was going to happen on the next date. I thought long and hard before telling her, but decided in the end that it was the most honest and fair thing to do. I was just trying to imagine what she would've felt if after we had sex a bunch of times and down the road I finally revealed to her that I was bisexual and had had a lot of male partners. I think that would have hurt her a lot. But telling her now would also be a big deal for me, because I was sure by telling her I would also lose her, though there was a small chance that I wouldn't. And losing her was a big deal because I've only had sex with three women in my life, my first girlfriend of 5 on-again-off-again years in my late 20s, a prostitute once, and this woman who became my second girlfriend at 54. Then there were over 100 men in between those two girlfriends for anonymous oral sex, a man who I fucked as a top in 2013, and a few men for non-anonymous oral and rimming of their asses in the few years after that and before meeting girlfriend #2. And I believed most of those gay encounters happened as a reaction to the pain I was feeling from all the rejections I kept getting from women, except for a few very hot and passionate exceptions with guys (but lately I've been wondering whether there was more to it than distracting myself from painful rejections, something deeply bisexual or even homosexual in me).


So I told her everything, including all about the guy who I rimmed a week before she and I first became physical. She took it all a lot better than I expected, and eventually accepted it, but just insisting that I get tested for everything before we had sex. In fact, I think my honesty made her fall in love with me even more. The preliminary test results were negative, but we still waited for three months for the definitive HIV results. But it was worth the wait because she turned out to be IMHO one of the best female lovers on the planet. Yes, I know I have almost no experience with women to base that on, but I've watched a massive ton of porn throughout my life and have also heard anecdotes from a lot of guys, and there are few examples that come close to her. I am talking gorgeous, sexy, and uber-charming (almost every guy she meets falls in love with her), but also practically a nympho and extremely skilled in bed. I was lucky to say the least, and made up for my mostly dry life with women. But the relationship in other ways was very tumultuous, and I finally broke up with her a week before Christmas, after 3 on-again-off-again years together.


But I do have to say, even though she accepted my bisexuality at the beginning, I think she still wasn't completely understanding it, thinking that because all those encounters with guys turned out to be a turn off for me in real life, when I was actually naked with the guy, compared to my gay fantasies and love of gay porn, leading to lots of bi-confusion in me, that I was mostly straight. But there were a few exceptions with men that were extremely passionate for me, and so I kept chasing those experiences. But my sexuality is still under question, and I'm still wondering whether there's a lot of homosexual repression happening in me. So continuing evidence throughout our relationship of my interest in guys, and gay fantasies and gay porn, and jerking off to it, especially in the periods when we were not together, but even at other times when I would go home after not being able to cum with her (even though she always came multiple times) and having orgasms to gay porn, upset her, understandably so. I never was with a real guy in those 3 years, but I still kind of cheated on her by chatting with guys online and looking at gay porn. She eventually forced me to realize that I was a porn addict, and it was hurting me and our relationship, so I quit in early December. But our relationship only lasted another two weeks. But I'm still on the wagon, except jerking off to this forum and while sexting with guys.


My girlfriend did have one advantage with my bisexuality: she was able to discover and experience her love of dominating a guy and fucking his brains out with a strap-on. I'm sure there are straight guys that enjoy getting pegged, but there are probably a lot more bi guys that do so, and are open to it. It was the first time that she ever got to experience the power of having a cock, and she loved it so much. It brought something out in her that she liked. And before me she had very little anal sex as a bottom with guys, but with me she got to really explore that a lot more, and it turned out she loved it immensely, and every time we did it she had an orgasm from it, sometimes multiple ones, one from me rimming her asshole and one from me fucking her asshole, and then another one or two from pussy play, and even one earlier from nipple play (she is very multi-orgasmic). I think it was my constant fantasies about anal sex with guys, and then finally in the few years before meeting her, enjoying anal sex so much with men, plus my continuous fantasies for 28 years of having a guy fuck my ass, that really exploded all the anal play between her and me. It was my being a bisexual that allowed that.


My therapist believes that if I should get together with another woman, I should not tell her of my past gay life, or at least not right away. I still don't know whether that's the right thing to do. Ultimately, I think I would prefer a bisexual woman, thinking that she would be more understanding. But from what I'm reading here now, that might not be the case either.

[oldoralman]

My wife han't had a problem with it. I love her and she loves me. As long as she does not have to participate I can enjoy sucking cock and getting fucked.

[Oborokybiman]

I’m sorry for that. Thankfully for this site, we can relate to each other

[Oborokybiman]

WOW! That was some kind of woman. I too had a similar relationship with a very nice looking woman and we became engaged for that very reason! She was definitely a nympho and loved sex any way she could get it! But she had men falling at her feet to fuck her and wanted just me! Or so I thought! She finally came out and told me after we were engaged, that she cheated on me with a guy WHILE WEARING THE ENGAGEMENT RING! I broke up and dated a few women and took care of some hard cocks and lovely cum! Which in turn we both wanted each other more and more as we shared our sex away from each other. I finally let her back into my bedroom for even more wild and crazy sex! We met a nice looking guy at a bar and he took us back to his place! She was the focus of attention with both of us. So she decided to shed her clothes to see which of us would spring up first. Well, we both did, of course! So he got undressed and I sucked him off while he kissed her and played with her pussy. He was the first guy I ever let cum in my mouth without it spitting down my lips and cheeks. Course I gagged a bit but loved his sweet nectar. He wanted to fuck her so bad and I believe she wanted him to fuck her as well, while I took her ass! She had multiple orgasms any time she was near a cock or cocks! She and I were off and on for almost 5 years. I was trying to find a woman with more depth than just sex and orgasms. But with guys I wanted them to take my virgin ass. Yes we talked about her pegging me all the time but it never happened and she continued to persuade me to marry her as she had 4 kids and 3 under the age of 13. She had 3 affairs while we were together and it took its toll on my mind.
I later found a best friend who we became love interests afterwards. Now I’m married and living a half way normal life! Half way!

[Christopher South]

I didn't tell her until we were long married, and only then after I gave her chlamydia from a guy I hooked up with. It was a tough period, partially because I cheated on her and partially because I never told her I was bi. She said she should have had the choice of marrying a bi guy and I agree with her but back then you NEVER let on you liked guys.

[face19]

What websites do you use?

[menbi]

54980

[menbi]

My family and friends agree i am bi. i love women & i love men.

[Grant_Norman]

One of BIG reasons (of many) for leaving my wife was her extreme homophobia...she hardly ever missed a chance to criticize a gay/lesbian person which is quite funny because she liked and respected my mother who was a lesbian...but also somewhat fellow NPD. Other unusual fact is she has a degree in interior design and been a designer for 20+ years, working side by side with a lot of gay men...go figure

[NakedInSeattle]

I didn't tell her...she told me. She said the magic words that changed me from straight to bi..."suck him". I did and she came instantly. It was a real high to be pleasing 3 people at the same time...LOL.

[DMercator]

Before I got married I told my wife about my sexual experiences with my step-father as a teen and how the experiences left me bi curious. She was surprisingly understanding and supportive. Later, in year two of our marriage, she helped me sate that curiosity in a very enjoyable threesome with a friend. I think it's safe to say she's not as understanding and supportive of those feels now as she was back then, but I never regretted telling her.

[foundpuppy]

I have a wife and a close friend that happens to be a girl. When I told her she said “ Whatever makes you happy! Still the same relationship, if fact if I seem a little irritable she tells me that I need to get laid.
wife said if she had known she wouldn’t have married me. After 46 years I guess she’s getting accustomed to the idea.

[NJwood]

We met online and started to chat. As things heated up it came up in conversation. It turned her on immediately. She loved the idea that i was comfortable in my masculinity yet desired cock. When an opportunity came up she watched us via webcam. We’ve been married now 14 yrs and she is fully supportive of my hooking up with guys. She doesn’t participate but loves to hear the story or see a video.

[buds50]

after a few months of wild sex with second wife first was a dud had to hide my feelings for cock.second was wild and open and been around so introduced toys and bi porn she really got horny and wet watching bi porn so moved on to using toys on her. I was fucking her with a cock like dildo and pulled it out of her pussy sat it on her mound and sucked it like it was a cock ,well she came watching me suck that toy. so cpl days later on a road trip we were talking about it and how hot it was , she said u sucked that like a real cock have u sucked before, so I confessed to sucking cock as a boy with men ,didnt tell her all the details how slutty I was then 10 to 15 with men lots of men ,just that I had tried it , she had her hand down her pants masturbating .undid them and was openly masterbating cumming like crazy . a cpl truck drivers sure enjoyed the show. after that it was easy started to share and swing and had a great ride for 30 years

[JBourne]

I only dream of being able to tell my gf. I've hinted a couple of times and her attitude is that there's no such thing as "bi" but only gay and straight. If I came out and told her I would have to find a new place to live before the end of the day. I told my ex-wife that I wanted to experiment with guys and she was totally accepting and thought it was hot. As it turned out, we divorced for other reasons not long after.