Tip of my tongue

[Lateralus]

Ok.. I feel like i've accepted myself for who I am sexually, but everytime I feel like i'm ready to tell my friends/family that i'm bi I just chicken-shit out of it. I think they'll accept me, but I guess i'm afraid of putting up with the whole shocked process. I wish I could just up and come out like some of you brave souls. Anyone have any advice on how to do it, or should I just man up and blurt it out? Anyone have an extra pair of testes I could borrow? :tong:

[DiamondDog]

Don't make a huge deal out of it. I see it more as something that's just an aspect of me, not a defining factor. You could always just mention it in passing or let them figure it out for themselves.

[smokey]

Coming out is highly over-rated. You don't have to tell anyone at all (except your lover(s) and thats just a common courtesy) unless YOU want to. Its nobodies business except your own and your partners. You don't see straight people running around saying HEY EVERYBODY I JUST REALIZED I'M STRAIGHT, so why should Bi's or Gay's feel like they have to? Its nonsense. Be yourself and if you want to tell someone, just do it. They either accept you or they don't...and if they don't they were never your friends to begin with.

[shameless agitator]

I would just come out casually to a couple people whao are really close to you and you know will be supportive. I've noticed this dilemma has come up a few times & it seems generally the people closest to the person coming out aren't even surprised. My mother's reaction for example was "so it's official huh?" A friend of mine came out at 18 & his mom said "took you long enough". I think people make a much bigger deal of it than it really needs to be. Just tell the people that it's important to you that they know & keep it light. Other than that it's nobody's business.

[Lateralus]

So almost 2 years later I'm finally coming out to everyone. I never realized how much it was weighing on me until I did it. I swear it feels like a huge relief off my shoulders, though it's still a process for me. I noticed at first I feel a little regret for "exposing" myself to people, but the next day I tend to feel like I've come to peace with another part of me:) . So far the friends that I've told have taken it very well (like I knew they would). I expect some to feel different, but I think I'm just at a point in my life where I no longer care. But yeah, just thinking out loud and thought I'd share that with you all. Thank you guys for your advice and inspiration:flag3: .

[Sourdough]

I've told close friends, most have said "OK" and that was it. One told his wife, she told the world. So what, I don't care. I live in a small community and every once in a while an old friend will run into me and in the course of our conversation he will mention what he heard. I'll acknowledge it is correct, and that is the end of it. Seems most of my friends now know and don't really care.

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

Same as everybody else is telling you Sugar: Your sexual orientation is no one elses' business but Yours, and the intimate friends you Chose to tell.
Congrats on being able to finally have that peace of mind. :}
Cat

[Eddie altamonte]

Same as everybody else is telling you Sugar: Your sexual orientation is no one elses' business but Yours, and the intimate friends you Chose to tell.
Congrats on being able to finally have that peace of mind. :}
Cat
I agree with Cher...how many people come to you to tell they are hetero. Nobody needs to know in fact nobody really cares. If u have a person u develop a relation with than ok

[swans]

You may be suprised at how little your friends/family are effected by your bi admission. In my experience I have found that most of my mates are quite open to the idea of being bi- more so than being totally gay.