How Did You Know You were Bi?

[grover]

How did you know you were Bi?

For me it wasn't so pretty... From all through junior high and well into high school about 1967/8 thru to 1974, I was regularly stalked and beaten to a pulp by the jocks and bullies for supposedly being gay at a time I wasn't even sure what that meant. We're talking the south in the late 60s and early 70s. There was no way I was not going to enter adulthood questioning my sexuality. By the time I was in the Coast Guard I'd had sex with women and knew I enjoyed it. Then one evening I let myself get picked up by a man. I throughly enjoyed myself as well. A shipmate I was real close to explained bisexuality to me. Seeing nothing wrong with it I played the field going back and forth as I saw fit and pleasure took me unless I was dating someone all through the late 70s until I was married. I am always faithful. After we broke up in the early 90s I went back to playing the field unless I was dating until 2004 when I decided while I really enjoyed sex with men, I was not interested in them for anything but sex and that for me women were the whole package and I haven't been with a man since. I do still enjoy fucking myself with a dildo when I masturbate and sometimes when I have sex with my girlfriend. Other than that I don't miss it. I miss some acts but the whole gay bar scene, parks and all that, nah. Don't miss that at all.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/how-to-know-if-youre-bisexual_l_5d8aa859e4b0c6d0cef34eeb

[Neonaught]

I had my first male sexual relationship in junior high with my gorgeous best friend. I enjoyed it, he enjoyed it and I could find no wrong in it. I have been happily bisexual ever since but lean just a bit more toward the ladies.

[Waylon]

I knew I was bi when I began to watch bisexual male porn in my mid fifties and then sealed the deal when I got picked up by a guy who blew me and I blew him. I watched his cock slide in and out of my mouth via a mirror on the wall and knew right then I had a talent for cocksucking.

[Basin_Bouy]

I was 38 (20 years ago this summer) and trolling to hookup with a guy on the old Excite.com (https://excite.com/) personals section. Contacted a guy and he was interested, and about 12 years younger. I was very open that it was my first time with a man other than childhood curiosity. Met him at a local coffee shop and we went to my place together, he had the most dreamy Australian accent! Idle chit chat for the 25 min drive, got to mine, took him to the bedroom, he undressed totally (I wasn't paying attention), I undressed to my underwear. He used my ensuite and came out after relieving himself. I was on the bed in my underwear and when he came out my jaw dropped! I remember saying out loud "where are you going to put that!" The tip of his cock was down to the middle of his knees. He climbed in beside me, took my underwear of and we talked and cuddled. He was so gentle with me! He rolled me over on my side and played with me, I was scared shitless, and he knew I was terrified and he started to dry hump me. Eventually, he had cum all over my ass. We laid there, talked, cuddled for a half hour or so. He asked me to drive him home and I did. We we got to his place, he asked me to come in but I declined. A decision I have always regretted. Never seen him again, he moved away soon after. An Hour later, I was back in bed making love with A BBW

[TXLonestarTX69]

High school friend and I started jacking off together. He sucked me off one day (and many more times after that). First 30ish blowjobs of my life were given to me by him. Much prefer my wife's mouth on my cock, however.

[zbi73]

In my early twenties I had an inkling, I enjoyed watching and masturbating to gay porn. The road to accepting it took many years filled with denial, suppression and self loathing which took more effort than accepting what I've always known. I believe I was born this way and had no control over my sexuality more than I did my eye colour. Destined to be.

[FredGillard]

In my early twenties I had an inkling, I enjoyed watching and masturbating to gay porn. The road to accepting it took many years filled with denial, suppression and self loathing which took more effort than accepting what I've always known. I believe I was born this way and had no control over my sexuality more than I did my eye colour. Destined to be.

Totally relate to this. I experimented as a teenager with a lad my age, in tights (pantyhose) mostly. We did mutual masturbation and oral, never anal, but some dry humping. Like you the inkling stayed and led to some odd feelings when around a couple of friends. There was one in my late twenties who visited with his g/f and we got high and a little drunk. His brother was gay and we started talking about it and I suddenly got those strange feelings. I wanted us to go somewhere where I could wank him off. It was almost a compulsion. Another time before this I was working away and I had a half awake wet dream. The desire was so strong I came just thinking about it, and it wasn't really tangible gay sex, more a strange desire.

I even have an erection writing this...

[zbi73]

Totally relate to this. I experimented as a teenager with a lad my age, in tights (pantyhose) mostly. We did mutual masturbation and oral, never anal, but some dry humping. Like you the inkling stayed and led to some odd feelings when around a couple of friends. There was one in my late twenties who visited with his g/f and we got high and a little drunk. His brother was gay and we started talking about it and I suddenly got those strange feelings. I wanted us to go somewhere where I could wank him off. It was almost a compulsion. Another time before this I was working away and I had a half awake wet dream. The desire was so strong I came just thinking about it, and it wasn't really tangible gay sex, more a strange desire.

I even have an erection writing this...

I never experimented, still haven't, but once I accepted my sexuality it simply dawned on me that I always knew. There were plenty of signs over the past 20 years but I rationalised these anyway I could. When I masturbated (and I masturbate a lot), I would use both female and male fantasies but felt guilty over the male ones. My sexual dreams included both female and male, both made me very hard. I think what made me really start to accept it was when I had this incredibly strong desire to kiss a male friend a few years back. This led me to do sexuality tests (like I didn't already know the answer). You have to do these truthfully or there's no point, you're lying to yourself and I was tired of that.

[Neonaught]

I never experimented, still haven't, but once I accepted my sexuality it simply dawned on me that I always knew. There were plenty of signs over the past 20 years but I rationalised these anyway I could. When I masturbated (and I masturbate a lot), I would use both female and male fantasies but felt guilty over the male ones. My sexual dreams included both female and male, both made me very hard. I think what made me really start to accept it was when I had this incredibly strong desire to kiss a male friend a few years back. This led me to do sexuality tests (like I didn't already know the answer). You have to do these truthfully or there's no point, you're lying to yourself and I was tired of that.

I agree completely that you have to be honest about and accepting of your desires. As the bard said: "To thine own self be true.".

[stonebow]

In my teens I would fantasize about sucking cocks and getting fucked. Always had deep remorse once I'd gotten off, though. That went on for years and didn't improve after I started to actually meet up with guys to act on the impulses. Acceptance would have to wait until I met my present wife, an open-minded adventurous bi lady with a circle of FWBs..who soon became my FWBs as well.

[Intoone]

My first time was with a shemale does that count?? I have not been with a man the doesn’t have breast ....... they have breast and a cock .......I was 25 in NYC .......

[zbi73]

I agree completely that you have to be honest about and accepting of your desires. As the bard said: "To thine own self be true.".

If there wasn't such a stigma surrounding men's sexuality, in particular, bisexuality, then I believe a hell of a lot more people would be honest with themselves. Being honest with yourself doesn't mean telling the world, I've told no one and it doesn't change who you are. For me personally, it meant that I no longer hated what I saw in the mirror after masturbating to gay porn or had a same sex dream or thought. I now see a man enjoying being and embracing what I've always been, bisexual.

[hung4you]

My 1st year in collage was when I realized I loved cock, my room mate was gay and introduced me to man sex in the absence of my girlfriend. It wasn’t until the next year that for the 1st time was able to take his gorgeous cock deep in my man pussy. After nearly 35 years I am still hooked on cock. He and I have been friends all these years and prior to coming out to the wife we often hooked up for some man fun. He knows I too have a trusted regular who gives me my cock fix often. He lives in St Paul Mn and we take turns traveling to each other. He has been partnered to the same guy all these years and I have enjoyed countless years of reliable sex with these 2. So I blame him for my cock, cum fetish.

[Roxxi]

Even at a very early age,my cock would start getting hard at the sight of a penis and had immediate desires to suck them :tongue:

[harmless]

We both were 13 yo. He was staying at my house over nite. We had a good day playing and were both tired and dirty. After supper and some TV we took a shower together. That's when I noticed his big cock. It was frustrating because I just had a small pecker. We were in bed talking when he said "Let blow each other" I had never had thoughts like that, but the next thing I knew we were both sucking cock. We sucked each other till we were about 20, then went our separate ways. I restarted sucking when I turned 62YO. Have had at least 40 different cocks since then. Always looking for more.

[JasonS]

I started experimenting at a young age. Started fairly innocent. But then I met a guy in HS. We would do sleepovers and look at each others porno magazines (Playboy and Penthouse). Seeing him in his boxers was a huge turn on. So I slowly over time seduced him.

[KDaddy23]

Starting out young, I didn't know there was such a thing as bisexuality or that there was even a word for all the sex I was having with boys and girls. We all "knew" that faggots and queers only did the nasty with boys - never girls - so I knew I wasn't a faggot or a queer; I didn't discover the word until I was 13 (or so) and sitting in the public library, I blurted out, "So that's what I've been doing!"

Kinda like closing the barn door after the cows have already left but it was good to know there was a word to describe my behavior.

[Autumn Eternal]

I don't think I knew what I was experiencing as a child was bisexuality but in hindsight it is obvious. My first memory of attraction of some sort was sitting the tub with my cousin who is about 5 years older than me. I think I was about 8, so he was 13 and I remember staring at his cock and getting hard. His mom had to come into the bathroom and laughed at me staring at his dick lol.

There was several inclinations through my adolescence that I struggled to explain before accepting I was bi. Like zbi73 said, I had a strong urge to kiss one of my friends (who I still see regularly and still want to kiss). Another friend I was kind of open with even when I didn't think of my behavior as being bi; loved trying to cuddle with him and I would always get hard doing so. Sadly, he pushed me away but wasn't telling me to fuck off or whatever.

[Kalguy]

Hey guys,

I’m new here, having a lot of fun reading all the posts. I found out early on, but I was in a catholic school so repressed it for years. My first crush was on one of my male friends at school. After that, I fell for women as well. I knew I liked both sexes from middle school. Shame and doubt kept it buried deep inside.

My senior year in high school, I slept over at a friend’s house. We had a few drinks and watched some TV. I don’t remember exactly how it happened, but we ended up making out and jacking each other off that night. From that moment on, I knew I liked men because it felt natural. We had a secret sexual relationship all through highs school. I miss that.

[Biwolf]

Had an idea in my 20s. Always liked the look of cock and when watching porn I would on occasion look at the guy as much as the girl. Had a BJ off a guy firstly when I was about 30. Had my first gay experience when I had a bi threesome with a female friend and her bi ex, which was excellent. Mainly go for women but have since had a couple of male partners.

[Bluehill]

When I was in my teens and an older guy came on to me. I enjoyed the physical side of things including being pumped full of cum when he barebacked me (pre AIDS days), however I still fancied girls...!

[Footstep40]

Had been having regular sex with my girlfriend, we broke up when I turned 18. I ended up having sex with a guy about a month later, we dated “secretly” of course, for the rest of the summer, then we were off to college where I became a bit of a slut. He’s gay now, I guess he was then too but he’s out. We would hook up from time to time when we were both back from school. He had an amazing dick.

[nu2curious]

High school friend and I started jacking off together. He sucked me off one day (and many more times after that). First 30ish blowjobs of my life were given to me by him. Much prefer my wife's mouth on my cock, however.
Similar experience for me, several of us guys started jacking off together in 7th grade proud to say I've liked dick ever since.

[robred]

For me it was wanting to try something new, I had always wondered about sucking a cock and tasting the warm cum. I was 65 years old and figured it was time to try it and as it turned out I got fucked first . I was on the bed waiting and was kind of nervious and he came up on the bed spread my legs and started putting his cock in me and I just relaxed and took it in. He humped my ass for a long time and when he came it felt like my ass was full of cum and it was. I don't get it offten but its always good.

[xdoorb]

I first heard the term in my mid-teens, and I just thought "oh, so that's what's been going on".

[guywholikesboth]

I was 18 and got to fuck my first girl fucked her once that night came back next day and fucked her 3 times I loved it Up till that time from age 13 I sucked cock still do love both

[FredGillard]

If there wasn't such a stigma surrounding men's sexuality, in particular, bisexuality, then I believe a hell of a lot more people would be honest with themselves. Being honest with yourself doesn't mean telling the world, I've told no one and it doesn't change who you are. For me personally, it meant that I no longer hated what I saw in the mirror after masturbating to gay porn or had a same sex dream or thought. I now see a man enjoying being and embracing what I've always been, bisexual.

Wow, that feeling when looking in the mirror after masturbating or chatting, even camming with guys on gydoo.com, is so crap. The self loathing is so tiresome.

[eager4cum]

for me, I realized I was BI because of my sexual activity. I thought I was just a guy that loved to masturbate. When I masturbated, I loved looking at nudes of women, etc. There was no hard core porn available for me to see (no internet yet) so the nudes had to be enough. I was in the habit of eating my cum after masturbating and really thought that it was just normal. Then I started talking to my best friend about it and we began to masturbate together. That is how I leaned that eating my cum was not normal, so I became secretive about that aspect of my masturbation with him. As time passed, he eventually brought up the subject of sucking. When he did, I jumped at the opportunity to suck and be sucked. Since I was eating my cum, sucking his cock and having him fill my mouth was going to be fun, so I thought. Once I did get his cum, the experience was so much better than eating my own that I loved it. Of course, getting my 1st BJ from him was heaven too. Anyway, from that point on, I was totally confused. I felt I had fallen in love with his cock (and cum) but still masturbated with the female nudes daily. Well, this confusion lasted for a long time as I did not know there was such as thing as bisexual. Once I found out about bisexuality, it still took a while for me to accept it. Now, I embrace my bisexuality, I love cocks and pussy both, and still to this day eat my own cum anytime I masturbate. In fact, just had another load yesterday. mmmm, so good.
Interesting thing too, my favorite and most desirable cock type / size is one just like his, 5.5 inches and not real thick. Perhaps I just love reliving those 1st experiences.

[bibliss]

For me, I think I finally recognized I was bisexual when I attended a swinger's party with my girlfriend at the time -- years ago now. I recall feeling surprisingly excited just being around other naked men, feeling free to look at their naked bodies and their cocks in various states of arousal, watching as they pleasured women. At the time, this was a very new feeling, but at the same time a very liberating and arousing one too. Perhaps for the first time, I just relaxed into these new-found feelings and just let them happen without self-judgment or self-criticism.

Prior to that, I had explored with men before, but I think it was this experience at the swinger's party that really made me notice how there might be more to my sexuality.

And while I think they would have kicked me out of the club in 2 seconds if I propositioned any of the men, I sure have enjoyed some long masturbation sessions just thinking about some of those hot swingers.