His Place / Your Place / What Place?

[Tuffnuggies]

Seems like any guy that sounds like a good potential fit, doesn’t have a place to host. Or, I’m finding many want to hook up in a car.
Where is your place of choice? Obviously, being married, and having family around squashes the option of hosting for some. But where would you rather play at? Your home, their home, (personally I prefer theirs if there’s a bed)

ABS Booths concern me, unless I’ve arranged for me and the guy to meet there, and just us playing without the regulars jumping in.
Cars.. while exciting, I feel it’s easy getting caught.
Wooded areas... same as cars to a degree.

Now while I prefer playing at there house, sometimes (especially with younger guys) I get nervous that it could be some sort of set up to get robbed. Older to me no.. Also kinda sketchy areas.. inner city apartments, bad neighborhoods, etc..

What do you guys think?

[mike r]

I'm retired, my wife works, so I host more often than not

[yeahso]

Since I live alone, I am capable of hosting, but every guy I have met online becomes real pushy. I prefer to meet in public before hand, and that suddenly turns off guys. My biggest fear of just inviting a stranger to my place for sex is being overpowered and robbed or the guy is casing the place. Years ago, I had a few women over, whom I met online. Less than a week later, someone tried breaking into my apartment, but the neighbors barking dog scared them away.

[MorThan7]

My issue isn't where, it is when. Since I work during the day most guys are only free during the day while their wives are at work.

[Jazminedress]

Since I live alone, I am capable of hosting, but every guy I have met online becomes real pushy. I prefer to meet in public before hand, and that suddenly turns off guys. My biggest fear of just inviting a stranger to my place for sex is being overpowered and robbed or the guy is casing the place. Years ago, I had a few women over, whom I met online. Less than a week later, someone tried breaking into my apartment, but the neighbors barking dog scared them away.

or worse, you are in a compromising position..........and something worse happens than being robbed

[csreef]

or worse, you are in a compromising position..........and something worse happens than being robbed

Yes someone could have you for diner, isn't that right Clarice ?

[Leehebs]

I am a widower, so I do have the option of using my own home which to be honest I prefer, it give me I level of control over what happens , makes me feel more secure, that said I have to have met and talked to a guy in a public place and got to know them before that happens. Lol I invite them around to use the sauna which is in the bedroom, that works well �� hot and slick

[Jazminedress]

Yes someone could have you for diner, isn't that right Clarice ?

well, I probably did invite them to eat me

[bikurinpa]

I am widowed, so hosting is no problem, but I have to get to know and trust the guy first before bringing him to the house, I prefer to meet at a coffee shop or restaurant somewhere to get to sit and chat. Most turn this down and have no interest. so finding a decent guy is nearly impossible.

[emerging]

I am widowed, so hosting is no problem, but I have to get to know and trust the guy first before bringing him to the house, I prefer to meet at a coffee shop or restaurant somewhere to get to sit and chat. Most turn this down and have no interest. so finding a decent guy is nearly impossible.

If someone does not want to meet and get to know you, then that is warning. He's interested in a blo-n-go only.

[69luvr]

I love it in a car!

[Robtiti]

Yes someone could have you for diner, isn't that right Clarice ?
Lol! Funny!

[Waylon]

I always check out a guy first in a car. If we click, I'll blow him then. After that I will host on certain days when the coast is clear.

[NjbiGuy01]

While hosting at your home seems cool, the scary thing is if things don't work out or go sideways, you could end up with a stalker or the guy makes a scene and the neighbors see, hear, or witness something ugly or private. You can't simply say "don't come back'...if you play by day (if your wife is out or away), how do you know she won't come home from work sick ? What if the guy comes back at night, because he had such a nice time...? I spoke with a dude online who was single, owned a home literally a couple of blocks from my house. While it might be convenient, it's also risky. My car is distinctive with vanity plates and I'm certain I know people near or around him, since we've lived here 20 years and our kids went to school a block from the house. Sometimes too good can be too risky. He could host, we seemed compatible, but I was concerned..

I was in an area where I knew a couple lived that I had played-with years ago. [It was totally straight play. He and I gave her oral and she did that to us as well. No penetration and (by-request) he told me we were both going to finish on her face and I would leave immediately. They would have sex after I left...it was a blast..my tongue was actually sore from how much and how long I ate her... anyway, a great time, but I never heard from them anymore.] I drove down the block and stopped and saw her with her kids getting into her car. I stopped and said hello. I said "how are you and Joe doing, it's been awhile". She got a panic'ed look on her face. I said "I just wanted to say hello, since I was in the neighborhood, it's all good, no worries, take care". In hindsight, I could see how the creep factor might have been high, even though it was a simple hello.

[atxbi]

The most convenient place for me if the other guy can’t host, is one of the local xxxbookstores. Don’t like to go alone, but it’s safe and discreet if you’re meeting someone there. Plus you have the option of leaving the door unlocked if the two of you are open to additional dicks

[bikurinpa]

If someone does not want to meet and get to know you, then that is warning. He's interested in a blo-n-go only.
EXACTLY!! And I am not into those! This area here , that is all 99.99% of the guys want.

[emerging]

EXACTLY!! And I am not into those! This area here , that is all 99.99% of the guys want.

Not certain of the % but it is the norm, it is a shame you live so far from me. Good luck searching

[SilkyHoseLover]

<snip> I have to get to know and trust the guy first before bringing him to the house, I prefer to meet at a coffee shop or restaurant somewhere to get to sit and chat.
Same here. And, before that, I expect 'substantive' communication via a website's PM facility or private email. Some interesting, seemingly-compatible candidates can't be bothered to expend any effort in making an impression in writing prior to a physical meet, but that's their loss not mine. You don't really 'get to know' someone, even after a coffee chat, but it can give your spidey senses a chance to react before actually getting together for intimate fun. Usually, if we make it this far, we're good-to-go after a decent coffee meeting. (There was one notable exception -- liked the guy at coffee, and we had a remarkable amount of common interests outside of sex, but he made a couple of comments that made me uneasy upon later reflection, and I declined to follow-up and play.)

Aside from that, I'm equally comfortable at my home or his. One time, we met at a sauna with private rooms where you could rent time. Although my wife allows me to experiment, we're both retired, so I rarely have the 'alone time' to do it at home. It would be awkward to ask her to leave so I could enjoy some cock, so even though I can host, I also try to find guys who are divorced and able to entertain me.

[Jazminedress]

Lol! Funny!


Its happened

[Jazminedress]

EXACTLY!! And I am not into those! This area here , that is all 99.99% of the guys want.

That why a nice friends with benefits, meet at a hotel once a month, have an actual date thing would be awesome, or even a couple with benefits...............someone with some things in common so you can have a drink and chat

[KDaddy23]

My position is that if you don't have time to talk so we can get to know each other, you don't have time to have sex with me. As far as where to go, if neither of us want to host, well, that's what motels are for; let's split the cost and get it popping. Guys who insist on coming to my place - and are really pushing it - get turned down. While I don't really worry about getting assaulted or robbed, it's not worth the risk and, to be honest, I really don't want to have to kill someone who'd do something stupid like that. So unless I really and seriously trust them, I'd rather spend the money on a room first.

[jem_is_bi]

I have always hosted at my home. I prefer it that way.
Some guys are OK with that other are not.
Some have too small of a time window to travel to my home and have fun.
My present partner is more than happy to visit with me.

[Christopher South]

Most of the guys I have met were able to host in their homes. Others we met in cars (I'm over that), hotels while they were visiting the area and a church (I'm going to hell for that one).

I've had two married guys who hosted at their house. One guy was out to his wife and she belittled him all the time and I think his way of getting back at her was to have me fuck him in their bed. The other guy was a psychologist who saw patients at his home sometimes so it wasn't unusual for people to be there. He used to set a timer to make sure I was out of there before his wife came home.

[chiefconsultant63]

I have hosted, visited a host, never done a car, would do outdoors but really love meeting at a porn theater so others can watch.

[Tight1-4u]

for me I host 99% of the time as almost all my guys are married.. but in all honesty I love outdoor sex best.. I love the feel of being naked outdoors feeling the air on my body especially at night.. yer there is a small risk but that makes it more exciting.. have done car sex a lot but just getting out of the car is much better..

[bikurinpa]

If someone does not want to meet and get to know you, then that is warning. He's interested in a blo-n-go only.
99.9999% of the guys on any these sites, that is all they want is blo n goes, sex with just any random stranger. Finding someone who wants friendship is totally impossible to find.

[SilkyHoseLover]

Finding someone who wants friendship is totally impossible to find.
It's difficult, but not impossible I'm not actively seeking friendship, the intimacy comes first. Were it not for that, I wouldn't be meeting anyone who frequents sites like this. But it's absolutely essential to make some kind of connection with them before playing, to know a bit about them to assess compatibility and comfort level.

I'm not great at small talk in real-life, but I find that I'm fairly conversant in my areas of kink, and will discuss them freely with play partners. In my short history of doing this, I've run into a several very nice guys with whom I can talk freely, enjoy the sex and then sit back and enjoy each other's company for a while before running off.

One, who I met recently, has personal and work histories so similar to mine that we hit it off immediately via email and had a great 3+-hour get-together which included not only some satisfying cock-sucking, but a great time and learning about one another. We're not each other's 100% ideal match, but we're close enough that we will enjoy both stimulation and simulating conversation several times in the cumming summer months!

[MatthewX]

As a bottom it's easier at my place. There is so much to do / clean before a guy comes over.

[mike r]

it just makes good sense to meet in public first. if all goes well , plan a second meeting, or if all goes really well, back to my place...

[Grant_Norman]

So married, in closet, really can't have and don't want guys at my home. I frequently go to their homes or hotels and lots of car stuff. Where to go that is safe (from wife or others that may know me), reasonable, and always private. Couple weeks ago I met up with a guy at his storage unit! We went into it (10X12), he had a nice chair with cover on it...pulled door down and turned on electric lantern. Sucked him for about 20 minutes and swallowed a nice load. If I get a lot more regular action from guys wanting safe and discreet...I will rent one myself - miles from house - and then I can meet guy anytime in safe place. Even thought of locking outside so no one can lock me in and locking on inside so no one could open up while using it. Also, will have to make sure it is a pay online (so bill doesn't come to house) - will cost only $60 - $70 a month to always have a private location for play.

[querty]

This may be a concern for me soon. Just recently started corresponding (via KIK) with a guy that lives close by. He is completely in the closet and has no experience at all. I'll be his first if it gets that far and we will need a place to go. Public (cars and that sorta stuff) is out of the question - hotels are expensive at least 100 bucks a shot. hmmmmm.

[csreef]

This may be a concern for me soon. Just recently started corresponding (via KIK) with a guy that lives close by. He is completely in the closet and has no experience at all. I'll be his first if it gets that far and we will need a place to go. Public (cars and that sorta stuff) is out of the question - hotels are expensive at least 100 bucks a shot. hmmmmm.

You could always get a room at the 1 hour motel. :2cents:

[beamish13]

His! Motels or bathhouses work, too

[papasmurph]

while I have hosted, I am rarely in the position to allow that to happen - I have family here with me. One time, I did take the chance, thinking my adult daughter was gone - but to my shock, she arrived home early - and it was a close call. The man had literally just driven out and down the street when she pulled in. Whew. So, what I really enjoy is going to someone else's home. I am usually cautious, getting as much information as I can. But, usually it turns out well and I have a great time. I have met some guys in the park, and had some risky experiences in a car - but that is really when I am not thinking clearly and let my lust for sex carry me away. I tell myself that is out of the question - and for quite some time now I have maintained that boundary.

[querty]

You could always get a room at the 1 hour motel. :2cents:

Actually, I dont know of any around my town.....

[xdoorb]

I'm divorced, so - my place. :oh:

[papasmurph]

a friend of mine informed me there is a bathroom in a certain college hall on campus here - that is known for a cruise spot. I cannot imagine going there at my age - but he tells me that he knows older men go there and are well received - or receive it well, as the case may be