Bisexual husbands out to their wives...

[mpine86]

I’m sure this topic has probably been broached a million times here, but I’m curious about how many bisexual married guys here are out to their wives? If you are, how does she feel about your bisexuality? Does she support you? Does she encourage you in your sexual interests in other men? What were the details surrounding your telling her? If you’re not out to your wife, why?

I have been out as bisexual to my wife for about 2 years now. Sharing that part of myself was actually one of the best things I ever did. She accepts and supports my bisexuality 100%, and she encourages me to be exactly who I am. In fact, my sexual interests in other men is one of her biggest turn ons and she has watched me play with someone on a couple of occasions. There’s nothing quite like sucking dick and looking over to see your beloved watching you and getting off on it!

I told her that I was bisexual a short time after sharing my hotwife/cuckold fantasy with her. Her initial reaction was not a good one because she basically thought I was coming out as gay, and she thought I was going to leave her. Once she took the time to do some research about the whole bisexual thing, and realized I wasn’t going anywhere, she opened up and embraced that part of me and realized it was the hottest thing she never knew she wanted :bigrin:

I think one of the best aspects of sharing this with her is that it kind of validated my desires, and almost makes my desire for other men more real in a weird way. And I feel like it makes the whole thing that much hotter. I have heard many men say that they would never come out to their wives, but you may be surprised at how accepting someone can be when they truly love you. I’m absolutely not saying that every bi man should share this, and it would certainly destroy some relationships, but there are those of you out there that should seriously consider it. You may just get the surprise of your life!

[Poppi999]

I came out to my wife almost by accident. We are swingers and we were playing with another couple. While playing, his wife got on top of me for some 69. She sat on my face and then started to blow me while alternately eating my wife's pussy. Her husband came behind his wife and started fucking her doggy style while I was licking her clit. I had an up close and personal view of her husbands cock pounding her his balls brushing my face with each stroke. At one point he pulled out and I lifted my head and his cock went into my mouth. He looked down at me and started to push his cock deeper and deeper into my throat. After a few strokes he put his cock back into his wife's pussy. When I look over at my wife she was starring at me with her mouth open. She then pulled the other lady off my face and commanded me to finish what I had started. I then reached up and stroked his cock and began to hungerly suck him until he grabbed my head and pumped his hot load down my throat. Later when we were alone, she asked about how that felt and if I enjoyed it. I told her yes, that I really enjoyed it and it wasn't the first time I had sucked cock, although I had not done so during our marriage. She told me that as long as we did it together, I could have as much cock as I wanted.

[NjbiGuy01]

You are very fortunate my friend. I made the mistake of being open about my past (after we were married a few years) which upset my wife. It was obvious she viewed it as coming-out (which is really was and yet wasn't). She asked "why did you marry me !". I explained how I loved women and that she was someone I loved and would make a good wife, mother and life partner. I explained how I fell into bi/gay play, but always maintained traditional M/F relationships in my life. I didn't tell her I was still active, nor do I plan to. At-least until the time seems right. It's a big gamble obviously.

We've made great strides in the bedroom with toys, and scenarios (me sucking cock dildo's and her doing me with a strap on), so there is progress. We did have a heated discussion where she said "why don''t you just go out and find a guy and get it over"... I responded "is that a hall pass ?" and she said "yes, but we won't have sex anymore". Needless to say, we parked these discussions for now...

I still maintain some hope of finding a balance where I can go and explore and still come home and be welcome in bed...ironically, we discussed some of the things I did as a youth and she got soaking wet...without touching herself, just discussing encounters and what I did back in the day... Obviously, it turned her on in some way, but she couldn't embrace it at the time...of course the discussion was heating up and my daughter came home...I was ready to take her upstairs and fuck her silly in that state...

You are truly a lucky guy and I hope it works out for you.

[NakedInSeattle]

It was my 2nd wife who started me with cocks. We were swinging and she was curious about gay play, so said, "Suck him." I did and we enjoyed sharing a few guys after that. Sadly, she died of cancer. When I told my present wife about my past, her response was, "Interesting." That sparked our swinging lifestyle and she, too has accepted and enjoyed my bisexual nature.
There, now you know the rest of the story.

[McBice]

My wife knows but she found out in a rather odd and slightly humorous way. We met later in life after we had both been through marriages and long-term relationships and we come from fairly different backgrounds. I have considered myself to be bisexual since the late 80's when I was with my 2nd wife, who was also bisexual. I would neither call myself completely out nor would I say I'm closeted. I think of it as a need to know thing. I don't think the general public at large needs to know that even though I started out with a Les Paul, I love a Tele as much as my old Custom. But to those that like guitars, I'm as open as I can possibly be about how cool a Tele plays and sounds. Same with sex to a certain degree. In a new relationship, there's always so much to learn and build upon. So when about the 3rd time we had sex, my wife, Robin started fingering my ass while she sucked my cock, I thought, "Oh wow..ok cool..oh DAYUM!!...well that's going to make telling her I'm bi a little easier." And to be clear, she wasn't just playing around tentatively, she was fucking me. The look on her face said she was way over the top turned on about it too. A few months after we got married, she went and got a strap on while I was on the road, and after its first use, she told me she really liked fucking me. To my mind, the question of whether or not I was bi was more than well answered without a word being spoken about it. A few months later, I bought her a Feeldoe, which she really really really liked a lot. So, for the next almost year and a half, she would fuck me about once a month, which with me in and out of town quite a bit for work, was about half of our sex life. We were just chugging along happily as we could. I was getting enough to satisfy my bisexual side when ever I was home that I didn't think about playing with anyone else. Then came the Big Kabong. I was finishing up three weeks in Europe and at a hotel in Berlin waiting to fly home the next day. During that three weeks, we had been communicating via Yahoo messenger using web cams when scheduling allowed. So our last 'can't wait til we can fuck our brains out' chat was getting pretty heated and raunchy talking about which one of us was going to get fucked first, and she asked me with a really wicked grin, "So, have you ever touched a real cock?"..
"Well yeah" I laughed back.
Her eyes got wider and her grin dropped just the tiniest little bit.
"You have!?!..What? Was it an accident or something?"
"Uh no, it certainly wasn't accidental."
Her eyes were still getting wider and her grin was dropping even further.
"Really!?!..have you ever sucked a guy's cock?"
"Well of course I have."
That's where the bottom fell out. She was aghast, she was taken aback, she was fuhklempt..hell, she was even beside herself. It took her a few minutes to calm down and compose herself.
"Are you gay?"
"Say what?..Really?? Am I gay?"
Now it was my turn to be beside myself, although I was a little quicker on the recovery.
"No I am not gay, I am bisexual. How many gay guys do you know that could or would fuck you like I do without a loaded gun to their head?...That would be a big fat goose egg. Right?"
She sheepishly nodded.
"How many straight guys do you know, that you could or would fuck like you fuck me?...Another big fat goose egg. Right?"
Again a sheepish nod, then a thoughtful look up.
"There was that guy I used to live with in San Diego, he might have let me."
"Oh please, that was 25 years ago...needless to say, the only other reasonable possibility is that I'm Bi."
Our communication window was closing so while we didn't really hash out all the particulars of what was going on with our relationship now that she was fully aware, our conversation didn't end on a completely sour note. Two days later, I arrived home in NorCal to find my wife, having run the kids out of the house to grandma's, standing in the doorway, in nothing but a pair of spike heels and bike shorts with her cock bulging out of them.
"So...if I fuck you really really good, will you promise not to leave me for another guy...or another woman?"
"Yes my love...but its gotta be really really good...not none of the one really good shit...really really good, got it?"

[SilkyHoseLover]

I've detailed pieces of my bisexual evolution several times here on the forum, and won't be repeating here in toto. Basically, it's the confluence of several separate events and areas of sexual interest and experiences we've enjoyed during our long and satisfying marriage. There are elements of light bdsm play, swinging, cuckolding/hotwifing and fetishism in the mix, and the final product has solidified my status as 'bi' in both my estimation and in my wife's. And we're both accepting of it.

It was, in fact, my wife who broached the subject, prompted by her reflection on the activity in a 3-some that we had with another guy, a day or so after-the-fact. We were in the car in a Dunkin' Donuts drive-thru, waiting for our coffee, and she said, out-of-the-blue, "I guess you can officially consider yourself bisexual." I'd enjoyed my first extended experience pleasuring another man's penis orally in her presence, and talked somewhat enthusiastically about it as we drove home after play had concluded. I was a little shocked that she brought it up, but readily agreed with her assessment, and was relieved that she was essentially nonplussed about it. That was basically it at the time -- there was little discussion beyond that at the time.

It wasn't long after that that we stopped our exploration in sharing our bed with others, mostly because she never really found someone who figured out what she wanted, and she was totally satisfied with me, sexually. When we had that talk the resulted in ending our swinging adventure, I mentioned that my one regret would be that I'd only recently discovered my interest in M-M activity, and looked forward to experimenting further. I even ventured that I realistically expected that one day I'd find myself being fucked with a real cock, not just play with butt plugs and dildos. Her words, simply: "You could do that." The bottom line here is -- as she explained to me, simply -- she understands why I would want to try that. "It feels good to be fucked in the ass."


So that's basically it. I'm a 'typical guy' in that I don't share my deepest feelings easily with her, so I still feel a little uncomfortable talking about it. But I'm very lucky to be married to a wonderful woman who tolerates my kinks and embraces my desires, loves anal sex and has given me the proverbial 'hall pass' to practice my bisexuality without hesitation or regret. She's only mildly interested -- it's not a real turn-on for her, nor does it repulse her. When I go to meet someone for a coffee chat to assess our interest in one another, I tell her. And I also tell her when I make arrangements to play, letting her know where I'll be and enable the GPS tracking on my phone so that she can be comfortable knowing my exact location. (peace-of-mind/safety factor)

[stonebow]

Isn't it great to have such women in our lives? I've been out to my wife since very early on in our relationship. And as I've mentioned here before it was she who really allowed me the mental/emotional space to learn how to embrace my bi side. We are truly very lucky guys, don't you think?

[Bear816]

Becoming bisexual was my wife's idea. Her biggest fantasy was to watch two guys having sex....live....in front of her. So one day she asked me if I had ever considered having sex with a guy. Of course I told her "Hell No"....huge lie on my part. She loved watching male bi porn on my computer. She'd get so turned on. She kept asking me about it every few days. So one day I told her I would do it ONE time for her but she had to set it up. Figured I'd have a couple of weeks to get ready. She had a guy at our house within 24 hours. That afternoon she witnessed her husband sucking a guys cock deep and seeing me being rolled over and penetrated by a 8", thick cock. She went absolutely insane. She climaxed so loud I thought the neighbors would call the cops. She still doesn't know that it wasn't my first time sucking cock or being fucked. I still put on "shows" for her every so often.

[Franz007]

@Bear816: nice but why didn‘t you tell her that you already did since she seemed turned on by that idea? Isn‘t it better to tell the truth in a relationship? You could have say yes first, then that you tried and see how her reactions were before telling her that you enjoyed it....for me it would be impossible to lie if she asked me. Otherwise i wouldn’t tell it or only if i had strong urges. But anyways, i am single now ;-)

[sysper]

i tend to agree u should be honest. but this way bear's wife thinks it's her idea. maybe it pleases her to assume she's the 1 to open her husband's sexual horizons. i'm not necessarily trying to justify it just seeing the silver lining.
@Bear816: nice but why didn‘t you tell her that you already did since she seemed turned on by that idea? Isn‘t it better to tell the truth in a relationship? You could have say yes first, then that you tried and see how her reactions were before telling her that you enjoyed it....for me it would be impossible to lie if she asked me. Otherwise i wouldn’t tell it or only if i had strong urges. But anyways, i am single now ;-)

[playful808]

I am openly bi. My lovely wife and I have never been monogamous.
We like to share with other 'ethical sluts'. There aren't many.

[Coastocoast]

There are probably a good handful or more threads above on this one it is an old subject. Most cheat on their wives and don't tell them they are at risk

[hotcplnsj]

I was never bi curious but always extremely open minded and was never homophobic. My wife was bisexual when we met in 1998 and we've been swinging ever since we met. In early 2014 my wife had told me she watched a gay video online (she claimed she didn't know it was gay until she saw one guy sucking the other guys cock) and she stated she was extremely turned on by it and wanted to know if I would ever consider trying it for her. I told her I would think about it and after a few days I told her that I had no interest in other men, had no desire to be with another man but I would give it a try for her. I also told her that I didn't want to meet a guy who was my age or looked like me, I told her I couldn't see myself being aroused by another guy unless he was young, hot looking, and completely shaved. She thought I was making up impossible requirements so that we would never find anyone like that would would be interested in a 60 year old man and a 49 year old woman. Well she was wrong and we found many young (early 20's to mid 30's) guys who always wanted a sexual encounter with an older couple.

I really liked being with a guy from the very first time and since then I have really embraced my bisexuality to the point where I am physcically attracted to other men, love kissing, fondling, topping, and mutual oral and have no problem 1 on 1 with other men. My wife loves it and always shares guys with me and helps find them.

[bisocialnudist]

Wow what a wonderful change in responses since I came out to my wife in 2007. It is so nice to see some positive replies. I just got home from one of my regular 3 day trips to Worthington Gay/Bi Mens Clothing optional resorts in Ft Lauderdale . Not only does my wife know Im bi she loves how happy such trips make me, I bring that happiness home and do everything I can to feed that happiness back into our marriage. We are best friends, best friends want their friends to be happy,

[playful808]

bisocialnudist, I hear you.
Having the support of your partner makes all the difference in the world.

My lovely wife and I have a great friendship. It is just huge.
Buckets of honest communication and transparency and affection and support.
We have encouraged each other to go out and explore, or to bring a friend home.
Sharing is pretty easy for us and, coincidentally. We like to see each other happy.
We have stayed in love for a long time, and seem to be the happiest couple we know of.
We got it good, and really value each other. I thank my lucky stars every day.

[cuttin2dachase]

Yes, having a kinky & bi-friendly wife or gf opens up the world of bi sex. My 1st ex-wife is who encouraged me to suck cocks and get sucked in 3somes with men. She got off on watching and helping other men and me lick and suck each other as foreplay to us both eating her pussy and both fucking her silly. I could never go back to being heterosexual after experiencing the delights of being naked and having sex with men and enjoying it as much as with women.

[bibliss]

Not married here, but I've been "out" to a number of girlfriends, partners, mates and close female friends over the years. In many cases, my experience of opening up about my sexual awareness has given these wonderful women the chance to be authentic with me. One friend of mine responded with: "yes, me too. I've been with women and men."

As a bi man, I think it's so refreshing to discover how women can be accepting -- even encouraging -- of male bisexuality. And I'm so happy to find that bisexual men seem to have more permission to come out, compared to just a few years ago. This is a very positive empowering trend! And a huge turn-on! :-)

[mike r]

I'm 61 and been married nearly 4 decades. My wife and I were swingers back in the day but the club had no male bisexuals that we could see. My wife has lost all interest in sex of any sort and that was only slightly disappointing to me. I've come out to her that I occasionally crossdress and she is fine with that, and has bought me items for my wardrobe. She knows that I had adolescent gay experiences and in the last two years, I Have come out to her as bisexual. She is fine with that indeed she encouraged me to go to the local pride center. When it comes to experiences since I came out, she seems to take a "don't ask, don't tell" policy.

[mpine86]

I’m happy and excited to see so many varied responses on this subject so far. Stonebow, I totally agree with you that we are indeed very lucky to have such amazing women in our lives! I don’t know where I would be without my amazing wife. I’m just still so amazed that I have the support and encouragement from her like I do. Never in a million years would I have thought she’d be ok with it, let alone so turned on by it :yikes2:

[buds50]

we were both in secon marriages my first just wasnt into much sex and second one was a cock hound , single mother and loved to fuck and suck swallow and so on, after we had been fucking and sucking a while and living together i told her about my first ime sucking cock young with older another story lol, she got so hot she masterbated to a cum,had never seen it or really thought about it but for some reason this turned her on , we played with toys me pulling them out of her and sucking them like a cock and so on , she went wild over it , when we finally got a puter way back then we had a guy over in a cpl weeks, he was younger and hung like a bull, huge thick cock, he was hard all evening and must have cum 4 times. well we all played and all and she took it out of he rmouth and said here baby suck it for me , i went over and took it in my mouth ,well what i could fit lol, and started to suck , she had a cum watching no touching her self , swear on a stack lol she came untouched , so that started 25 years of fun bi sex for us

[StonedKinkster]

My wife knows, she has known since before we got married. Sh encourages my bi side, aand loves when i send her pics f me and other men. to be fair though we are swingers and she likes to see me with women too

[NYC-BF-WM]

Wife and I sometimes go to NYC bi swinger parties. Next one is Saturday May 11, 2019 at Pendulum swing club

[bibiboy]

My wife knows but she found out in a rather odd and slightly humorous way. We met later in life after we had both been through marriages and long-term relationships and we come from fairly different backgrounds. I have considered myself to be bisexual since the late 80's when I was with my 2nd wife, who was also bisexual. I would neither call myself completely out nor would I say I'm closeted. I think of it as a need to know thing. I don't think the general public at large needs to know that even though I started out with a Les Paul, I love a Tele as much as my old Custom. But to those that like guitars, I'm as open as I can possibly be about how cool a Tele plays and sounds. Same with sex to a certain degree. In a new relationship, there's always so much to learn and build upon. So when about the 3rd time we had sex, my wife, Robin started fingering my ass while she sucked my cock, I thought, "Oh wow..ok cool..oh DAYUM!!...well that's going to make telling her I'm bi a little easier." And to be clear, she wasn't just playing around tentatively, she was fucking me. The look on her face said she was way over the top turned on about it too. A few months after we got married, she went and got a strap on while I was on the road, and after its first use, she told me she really liked fucking me. To my mind, the question of whether or not I was bi was more than well answered without a word being spoken about it. A few months later, I bought her a Feeldoe, which she really really really liked a lot. So, for the next almost year and a half, she would fuck me about once a month, which with me in and out of town quite a bit for work, was about half of our sex life. We were just chugging along happily as we could. I was getting enough to satisfy my bisexual side when ever I was home that I didn't think about playing with anyone else. Then came the Big Kabong. I was finishing up three weeks in Europe and at a hotel in Berlin waiting to fly home the next day. During that three weeks, we had been communicating via Yahoo messenger using web cams when scheduling allowed. So our last 'can't wait til we can fuck our brains out' chat was getting pretty heated and raunchy talking about which one of us was going to get fucked first, and she asked me with a really wicked grin, "So, have you ever touched a real cock?"..
"Well yeah" I laughed back.
Her eyes got wider and her grin dropped just the tiniest little bit.
"You have!?!..What? Was it an accident or something?"
"Uh no, it certainly wasn't accidental."
Her eyes were still getting wider and her grin was dropping even further.
"Really!?!..have you ever sucked a guy's cock?"
"Well of course I have."
That's where the bottom fell out. She was aghast, she was taken aback, she was fuhklempt..hell, she was even beside herself. It took her a few minutes to calm down and compose herself.
"Are you gay?"
"Say what?..Really?? Am I gay?"
Now it was my turn to be beside myself, although I was a little quicker on the recovery.
"No I am not gay, I am bisexual. How many gay guys do you know that could or would fuck you like I do without a loaded gun to their head?...That would be a big fat goose egg. Right?"
She sheepishly nodded.
"How many straight guys do you know, that you could or would fuck like you fuck me?...Another big fat goose egg. Right?"
Again a sheepish nod, then a thoughtful look up.
"There was that guy I used to live with in San Diego, he might have let me."
"Oh please, that was 25 years ago...needless to say, the only other reasonable possibility is that I'm Bi."
Our communication window was closing so while we didn't really hash out all the particulars of what was going on with our relationship now that she was fully aware, our conversation didn't end on a completely sour note. Two days later, I arrived home in NorCal to find my wife, having run the kids out of the house to grandma's, standing in the doorway, in nothing but a pair of spike heels and bike shorts with her cock bulging out of them.
"So...if I fuck you really really good, will you promise not to leave me for another guy...or another woman?"
"Yes my love...but its gotta be really really good...not none of the one really good shit...really really good, got it?"

This account of two people coming together and achieving a true understanding of where they are as a couple just rings super true with me. Well written McB thanks for sharing. My gf and I sort of discovered my bi-side together and at that time, were in the throes of a fantastic sexual existence...absolute best of my life. In today's world, reality has taken over and sex play has dwindled considerably. She still supports my bi-interests but no longer shares them. Hoping to re-energize soon but don't know how exactly.

[Christopher South]

I knew I was bi when I was a teenager, but got married, never told my wife and lived the "straight" life. Monogamous for years. After over a year of no sex with my wife I decided to have sex with guys. She found out and was more pissed that I never told her that I was bi than she was for me cheating (although she was pretty pissed about that). She understands that I'm bi, accepts it but has no interest in either having sex with me or letting me play with guys.

[playful808]

... Never in a million years would I have thought she’d be ok with it, let alone so turned on by it :yikes2:


Maybe we should question the things we think we know.
Like our partner's sexual curiosity.

[Bear816]

About 6½ years ago my girlfriend confessed that she loved watching videos of two guys having sex. Needless to say I was shocked at her comment but just left it alone. So one day while I was watching some porn online she came in and sat down next to and started watching with me. While we were watching her phone rang and she had to take the call and stepped away. While she was away I started searching for bisexual MMF videos and found tons of them. So I loaded one up and got it ready to play and just waited. When she returned she told me who called and a couple of details. When she was done I asked if she wanted to continue watching and she did. I clicked the play button and sat back to watch. A few seconds after it started I saw a smile start to from on her face. I could tell she was pleased. As the video progressed I could see her starting to squirm in her seat. It was defiantly having an effect on her. She started rubbing my crotch and her own. She reached down and unzipped my pants and fished out my hardening cock. She was aroused watching the video and I was aroused by watching her so excited. Not much longer we were pulling clothed off of each other and on the floor. She started sucking my cock with a fury I had never seen or felt before. So much fury I wasn't going to last long. I gently pushed her away and positioned myself so that I could lick her pussy. Her pussy was soaking wet like never before. It wasn't but about 10 seconds and she was cumming harder than ever. I continued and shortly after she was Cummings again. I've always giver her multiple orgasms by licking her pussy....which I pride myself on. After her third orgasm I rolled her over and went doggie style. It took everything I had to keep from blowing my load instantly. I slammed her fast and hard bringing her to another orgasm at which point I shot my load and filled her pussy with my cum. We were exhausted and spent. We gathered our clothed and headed to bed for some much needed rest.

Then next morning we got up, took showers and made breakfast. While eating breakfast she brought up the video we had watched the night before. She said she really enjoyed watching it with me and asked what I thought about it. I just kinda shrugged my shoulders and said it was okay. She then asked if men ever thought about having sex with other men. I told her I had read a study that claimed that some men do but it couldn't be accurate due to the fact that a lot of men would lie. She then asked if I had ever thought about it. This threw me for a loop! I never thought she would ask me something like that. I maintained my composure and answered that it never crossed my mind. (that was a big fat lie) But then said she would love to see it live, in front of her. Again, I was shocked by her statement. She told me that it was her biggest fantasy for a long time.

A few days later while I was watching more porn online she came in and saw what I was doing. So she brought the man on man sex subject up again. Once again she asked if I had ever considered it. Again I said "No". Then with a boldness I've never seen she asked me to at least think about it. I took a deep breathe and told her I would think about it. Two days later I told her that I had given it a lot of thought and that I would do it ONE time for her. Just one catch.....she had to set everything up. I figured that would give me a few weeks to prepare.......I was wrong. Well at this point she was on a mission! Within 24 hours, she had made arrangements with a guy to come to our house. It was Saturday morning and she was in a wonderful mood....all happy and smiling. I asked what was going on with her and all I got was "I've got a surprise for you this afternoon. I said okay....what? She replied "You'll find out". Later that day we were sitting in the living room and there was a knock at the door. My girlfriend got up and answered the door. I wasn't paying too much attention but I think I heard her greet him and asked him to come in. He came in and we made small talk for about 28 seconds until my girlfriend looked at me with a smile and a wink and ushered us to the bedroom. It then hit me.....she had succeeded in finding a bisexual guy and had set it up. We all got naked and she sat in a chair next to the bed while he and I climbed into the bed.

I didn't know what to do so I just followed his lead. He started stroking my soft cock and rubbing my balls. I was shocked, confused and wondering what the hell I had gotten into. I started stroking his rock hard cock that was a good 8 inches and pretty thick. Much larger than my 6.5 inches. Before I knew it he and I were in a 69 position and his cock was in my mouth. I was scared to death but at the same time I was really enjoying myself. I was enjoying myself to the point that my cock was harder than ever before. This felt great and wrong all at the same time.

I could see my girlfriend out of the corner of my eye and she was going wild watching us and masturbating like crazy. I was getting close to climax as was he. I shot my load first into his mouth and about 10 seconds later he unloaded in my mouth. As soon as my girlfriend saw me swallowing his load she reached her climax. But this climax was a lot bigger than ever before. She was so loud, I thought the neighbors would call the cops!

After he and I were done, we freshen up and he said he had some place to be and left. When he was gone my girlfriend pushed me back into the bed and proclaimed that I wasn't done yet. She started sucking my cock hard again and when it was hard she said "Please!!!!! Fuck me hard!!!!" We both didn't last very long and climaxed quickly.

She truly had a great time.......and I guess I enjoyed it a lot more than I thought I would because I ended up putting on several more "shows" for her to watch. Shortly thereafter.....I married her and continue to put on shows for her.

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[wifekinky4husband]

I’m sure this topic has probably been broached a million times here

It's okay, it's always good to revisit it.

but, I’m curious about how many bisexual married guys here are out to their wives?
It had been all my doing. :)

If you are, how does she feel about your bisexuality?
He is in the definition sense but he still never goes after it. He doesn’t desire it. But the way my husband is, is totally fine with me and if he was truly totally bi (went after it himself), I would be equally enthusiastic about it.

Does she support you?
Of course! I support him in everything we do.

Does she encourage you in your sexual interests in other men?
Mentioned and answered above. And of course I encourage him to suck and get f**ked and take all the cum he can handle, I absolutely love it! Otherwise he wouldn’t do it.

What were the details surrounding your telling her?
VERY long story how we got there. All my doing. I know I know, I’m sex crazed fiend.

If you’re not out to your wife, why?
He would be out about it all if he were wanting to do it on his own.

I have been out as bisexual to my wife for about 2 years now.
GOOD for you guys! As it should be.

In fact, my sexual interests in other men is one of her biggest turn ons and she has watched me play with someone on a couple of occasions.
I whole heartedly agree with THAT!

There’s nothing quite like sucking dick and looking over to see your beloved watching you and getting off on it!
Or getting off watching your man sucking a giant c**k filling his mouth full of desert. J

I told her that I was bisexual a short time after sharing my hotwife/cuckold fantasy with her. Her initial reaction was not a good one because she basically thought I was coming out as gay, and she thought I was going to leave her.
Oh my goodness, I’ve been through this with many friends both the husbands and the wives were one or the other spoke up about their interests in same sex. The fear factor is a tough one to overcome. So glad to see you guys did. J

Once she took the time to do some research about the whole bisexual thing, and realized I wasn’t going anywhere, she opened up and embraced that part of me and realized it was the hottest thing she never knew she wanted :)
Yes, YES, YEEESSSS!!!

I’m absolutely not saying that every bi man should share this, and it would certainly destroy some relationships, but there are those of you out there that should seriously consider it. You may just get the surprise of your life!
You have to introduce the idea to them slowly over time from what I have seen from all our friends and experiences. Slow, steady, hints, signs, articles, stories, pics, vids, scenarios, RP, toys, etc. So where it leads. I love the naked talks we had and still had. It’s very difficult to hide hard nipples, a wet p***y, or a stiff leaking c**k as you discuss all sorts of sex scenarios. We recently had the tranny sex talk. My husband couldn’t have hid that from a blind turtle. He was so hot he was leaking buckets.

[wifekinky4husband]

She told me that as long as we did it together, I could have as much cock as I wanted.
I am sooooo with your wife on this! As much c**k and cum as he will take. YUUUUUMMM!

[wifekinky4husband]

ironically, we discussed some of the things I did as a youth and she got soaking wet...without touching herself, just discussing encounters and what I did back in the day... Obviously, it turned her on in some way,

SEEEEEE, that is what I am talking about. Real Naked sex discussions. You can’t hide the truth. :) The more I did/do this the more my husband couldn’t/can’t hide how much he enjoys doing stiff with and for me.

[wifekinky4husband]

"So...if I fuck you really really good, will you promise not to leave me for another guy...or another woman?"

So you guys do not play with anyone other than yourselves? Correct? That’s where we were for a while, it was a blast and the new us is as well. Thanks for sharing

[wifekinky4husband]

she said, out-of-the-blue, "I guess you can officially consider yourself bisexual."
Oh WOW!

I even ventured that I realistically expected that one day I'd find myself being fucked with a real cock, not just play with butt plugs and dildos. Her words, simply: "You could do that." The bottom line here is -- as she explained to me, simply -- she understands why I would want to try that. "It feels good to be fucked in the ass."

Sooooooo 100% agree with her assessment and response. It’s that plan and simple. My husband says I am 100% correct, that it truly does feel amazing and that as good as I am with him and a strap on, the real deal non condom it still different enough of a feel for it to be worth taking it, he say, especially when they cum in you. I have to agree 100% to that as well for me receiving in this manner it’s the best but also watching my husband get naked c**k and cum filled – WOW WOW WOW! Best masturbation visuals Ever!

so I still feel a little uncomfortable talking about it.
Why on earth not? Back to the get naked and discuss it openly comments I made in earlier posts. It’s not only fun but very revealing even to the so called mildly interested parties.

She's only mildly interested -- it's not a real turn-on for her, nor does it repulse her.
Get naked, discus it. My husband was the same in words but his naked body told us both otherwise. The more often we talked about it, the more his body revealed. Of course we discussed it a lot while I was taking him anally. The longer we went the more his body proved he would love it.

I also tell her when I make arrangements to play.
And she never asks about it? Or never wants to see and watch? Oh my goodness, I need to know what is taking place, safety and curiosity. I do hope the two of you get there eventually. The sharing is huge part of it for us. We have sex to share the experience. Let her know this, it is amazingly intimate. This is a little off topic but some of the coolest times have been when we were next to each other doggy getting both done anally side by side staring into one another’s eyes, trying to kiss, bumping lips and heads – lol. And loving our dual backside’s getting dual f**ked each by a nice thick real naked c**k with cum filling seconds away. I have to inspect my husband afterwards, I just have to. He does as well. We love describing and sharing in detail. What we see, and how we felt as it was happening. Find a way to encourage it, it’s worth it.

[wifekinky4husband]

Becoming bisexual was my wife's idea. Her biggest fantasy was to watch two guys having sex....live....in front of her.
Yet another amazing wife – kudos to we amazing wives!

So one day I told her I would do it ONE time for her but she had to set it up.
Ha Ha you dawg. To funny. No more? For real? You haven’t done it for her again?

Figured I'd have a couple of weeks to get ready. She had a guy at our house within 24 hours.
Gheez, she sounds as hungry for it as me. What direction of Missouri do you guys live? file:///C:\Users\bounc\AppData\Local\Temp\msohtmlclip1\01\ clip_image001.gif

That afternoon she witnessed her husband sucking a guy’s cock deep and seeing me being rolled over and penetrated by an 8", thick cock.
Oh My Oh My Oh MY!!! Did she help out any? Did she inspect you? Did you guys have a long sex heated session talking about it afterwards? Do you/does she still talk about it?

She went absolutely insane. She climaxed so loud
You HAVE to continue to do this for this poor girl. You have no idea how strong a desire this is in us. And how fulfilling it is for women like us. I feel deeply for her. I would love to start a group for wives like us to gather forces and help one another from what we’ve experiment and learned.

She truly had a great time.......and I guess I enjoyed it a lot more than I thought I would because I ended up putting on several more "shows" for her to watch. Shortly thereafter.....I married her and continue to put on shows for her.
What shows? Enquiring minds want to know.
And good thing you married her – because, she’s a keeper!

[wifekinky4husband]

my wife had told me she watched a gay video online, she stated she was extremely turned on by it and wanted to know if I would ever consider trying it for her.

Good for her being so forthright. That is so a bold move. You have no idea. I cannot tell you how many of my college gfs said the same thing. I cannot tell you how many of my friends and ladies I know currently say the same thing. I do not know how many would openly admit this to their husbands or ever ask if they’d be willing to try it out, but I do have several who have. All with very interesting stories.

I told her I would think about it and after a few days I told her that I had no interest in other men, had no desire to be with another man but I would give it a try for her.
Good for you being willing to pleasure your wife in such an extreme manner (for most).

I really liked being with a guy from the very first time and since then I have really embraced my bisexuality.
See you just never know until you try something.

My wife loves it and always shares guys with me and helps find them.
!00% totally love that your wife is so free and willing to share this experience with you. It makes for such an amazing experience doesn’t it?

[wifekinky4husband]

i told her about my first time sucking cock, she got so hot she masterbated to a cum, had never seen it or really thought about it but for some reason this turned her on, we played with toys me pulling them out of her and sucking them like a cock and so on, she went wild over it, we had a guy over in a cpl weeks, he was younger and hung like a bull, huge thick cock, he was hard all evening and must have cum 4 times. well we all played and she took it out of her mouth and said here baby suck it for me, i went over and took it in my mouth, she had a cum watching no touching herself , swear on a stack lol she came untouched, so that started 25 years of fun bi sex for us

There are so many of us. Thx guys! I love to share these posts with my new friends who are scared to death to share anything kinky with their husbands. I agree with the posters here saying that the trend has changed. It’s very nice. I know we all have to be ultra-careful but when you finally find that group of people you can build an open enough of a relationship with where you can have sex in a safer environment, it certainly is a wonderful thing. Is there any way you guys could get them to post here or somewhere and let me know? I’d love to share with them.

[wifekinky4husband]

My gf and I sort of discovered my bi-side together and at that time, were in the throes of a fantastic sexual existence...absolute best of my life. She still supports my bi-interests but no longer shares them. Hoping to re-energize soon but don't know how exactly.

The sharing is the best part. Yes, I hope you can reestablish this. It’s the most important part of our relationship, especially sexually. As to how, Get Naked and Get talking! Step One.

My newest gf is 28, married right out of the college scene for 7 years now. Very similar situation as me, she was exposed to a lot of sexual experiences which she had hoped would carry over into her marriage. It was very lackluster on the verge of telling her husband she needed another sex partner. I told her to get naked and get talking. Tell him all her experiences, let him see what makes her hot, smell what turns her on, watch as her breasts swell when she talks about her favorite things, and gauge his reactions and responses by his how his penis responds. Then have him comment on them, open dialog, no judging, no negativity, it’s okay to not be interested but not okay to down the other.

She did, several times. So many of her interests roused him. Soon they were exploring, experimenting, and they now have two sex machines & two sex dolls (of each gender). :0

[wifekinky4husband]

I’m just still so amazed that I have the support and encouragement from her like I do. Never in a million years would I have thought she’d be ok with it, let alone so turned on by it

We NEED a ladies group here or somewhere. Send the wives, send the wives. It is so much fun getting to dialog with couples of like mind about this.

[wifekinky4husband]

Side bar thread to this one. Please come back here as well.

https://www.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?18674-This-is-a-side-bar-of-the-thread-about-Bisexual-husbands-out-to-their-wives (https://www.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?18674-This-is-a-side-bar-of-the-thread-about-Bisexual-husbands-out-to-their-wives)

[sysper]

so glad to hear there are women out there who not only support there men being bisexual but encourage it & embrace it! my impression is women are usually repulsed by it. not sure if they are really repulsed by it, or it's just hangups, or another reason.
as some of u know i loooooove the idea of 2 women togather. i don't think there's anything hotter, more intimate, more sensual than 2 women togather. it's the height of sex for me! i would love to know i could give that same pleasure to a women by letting her watch me with another guy. not to say i wouldn't enjoy being with a guy lol but even if i didn't i would at least consider it if it meant making her happy.

[dickneeder]

My wife knows I'd rather suck cock than anything else and encourages me. She's watched, jacked cock in my mouth she's often tells me to go suck some cocks... it's wonderful.

[nu2curious]

so glad to hear there are women out there who not only support there men being bisexual but encourage it & embrace it! my impression is women are usually repulsed by it. not sure if they are really repulsed by it, or it's just hangups, or another reason.
as some of u know i loooooove the idea of 2 women togather. i don't think there's anything hotter, more intimate, more sensual than 2 women togather. it's the height of sex for me! i would love to know i could give that same pleasure to a women by letting her watch me with another guy. not to say i wouldn't enjoy being with a guy lol but even if i didn't i would at least consider it if it meant making her happy.


I think you're correct as much as I can tell , while some women are turned on by it most hate the idea of their men playing with guys. I do encourage it however every chance I get.

[Neonaught]

We have been married for 34 years but I didn't "come out" to her until 20 years ago. To my surprise and delight she was bi too! I love to see her enjoying others and she loves to see me topping men and fucking women through multiple orgasms. One evening with her best friend I fucked her through 21 orgasms in a row and my wife lay beside us fondling her and keeping count!

[NjbiGuy01]

I feel some days like I'm getting close.... My wife will often feed me a rubber cock during sex as I fuck her. Sometimes we share it, sometimes she just fucks my mouth. I told her last week to not do it. She asked why and I said "because I'm not sure whether it helps me to make me not want cock....or make me want it more"...she didn't really respond one way or the other...

[McBice]

This account of two people coming together and achieving a true understanding of where they are as a couple just rings super true with me. Well written McB thanks for sharing. My gf and I sort of discovered my bi-side together and at that time, were in the throes of a fantastic sexual existence...absolute best of my life. In today's world, reality has taken over and sex play has dwindled considerably. She still supports my bi-interests but no longer shares them. Hoping to re-energize soon but don't know how exactly.

Thank You very much bibiboy. The whole of our relationship is a bit like our sex life in that we're from very divergent cultures and backgrounds but still have an attraction and deep love for one and other. I do have to give a certain amount of credit to my second wife, from whom I learned how to be very easy going and open minded. But mostly she taught me to enjoy the adventure no matter how simple or subtle it is...and this past 10 has definitely been an adventure.

[McBice]

So you guys do not play with anyone other than yourselves? Correct? That’s where we were for a while, it was a blast and the new us is as well. Thanks for sharing
Y'all are most welcome. To answer your question, yes for several reasons. Firstly, we live in The Great Vanilla Wilderness aka Northern California (north of Sacramento) and the pool of possible playmates is more like a couple of drops of water on the pavement in the August sun around here. One would think that the 3 to 4 hour drive to the Mecca of The Bay Area would be easy enough to make but it has been an elusive. I myself, am a former OTP Smyrnite (I do miss me some Viirginia Highlands and Little 5 though), so moving back to a very small town from metro Atlanta was enough of culture shock in day to day life for me, much less any kind of fun. Secondly, even though I would love to get my lips around a nice cock, and she knows how badly I would, I have made it extremely clear to my wife that she far and away, fucks me better and for as long as I can stand, than any of the guys who have before her. On her side of that, she loves trading in her normally sexually submissive self, for a big, powerful cock, and she usually has a couple of very good and unique orgasms in the process. Finally, in the last couple of years, we've both had some health issues that have slowed us down a little, and that's kind of drawn us back to a safe zone. That's not to say the right opportunity might not walk up and smack us in the face tomorrow and we wouldn't jump on it...we would probably figure out something that would work for all concerned...But that is where we are for now.

[wifekinky4husband]

so glad to hear there are women out there who not only support there men being bisexual but encourage it & embrace it!

Yes, YES, YESSSS! It’s scary to finally go for the real deal and safety is always the biggest part. For me, once we got in a safe environment, it was Gung HO! My husband has had to reign us in many times.


my impression is women are usually repulsed by it. not sure if they are really repulsed by it, or it's just hangups, or another reason.

In monogamous relationships it is very understandable. I get the repulsed by it gig. In an open one, I do not get it. Sex is sex is sex no matter who or what sex you are with. I do not seek women but I certainly can and have enjoyed them. My husband without a doubt does not desire, seek, or want men, be 100% has enjoyed the fruits of my labor/desire. :0


as some of u know i loooooove the idea of 2 women togather. i don't think there's anything hotter, more intimate, more sensual than 2 women togather. it's the height of sex for me!

I totally get this.


i would love to know i could give that same pleasure to a women by letting her watch me with another guy. not to say i wouldn't enjoy being with a guy lol but even if i didn't i would at least consider it if it meant making her happy.

Yes Sir. Seeeeee now THAT’s where I am coming from! My husband finally gets it. It was a long road and he still has no desire for guys but he certainly can take the best of them and as many as I set up. That’s the difficult part, the setting it up and it being safe. That’s why it’s best to stick with the same couples. And that’s why I give it up to the wives, to get them to let their men play for me. You know, a girl just has to do what a girl has to do. ;)

[Bottomhubby]

I came out to my wife almost 4 years ago. At first she was hurt then after a few months she talked a bit about it started helping me shave getting the places I couldn't reach. She suggested that I wear women's panties.
Now she is trying to pretend that I am not bi she took all my undies and asked me not to shave anymore.
She wont talk to me about anytime I bring it up she wont discuss it and changes the subject.

[SilkyHoseLover]

She wont talk to me about anytime I bring it up she wont discuss it and changes the subject.
Ouch. Must be very difficult for you to handle this. I'd hate to be put into that position! Ultimately, my marriage is more important than my desires, but it's very hard to suppress those feelings.

Feel for you, my friend...

[dowmass]

There are probably a good handful or more threads above on this one it is an old subject. Most cheat on their wives and don't tell them they are at risk

This is where the problem starts - when a person like me, on the DL is shamed as a "Cheat". From a moralistic stand point, and from a point of honesty, it is cheating because the spouse does not know. That said. it is easy for those who are out, and those who who have supportive spouses, to label the DOWNLOW people as "Cheats".

Look at my situation. I had my first bi experience when I was in grade 9. Just touching, jerking off - nothing more than that. My friend wanted to top and I tried to, but the pain was too bad for anything to happen. Decades later, I had two safe encounters - No matter what anyone says, I can say these partners were safe because a) They both came from great social backgrounds b) we practiced safe sex. I got tested on both occasions - despite using condoms and I haven't had a third partner.So it was two tops in 7 years - Period.

So then dealing with the "risk" - I don't know how this would be risky behavior. It would pose great risk to myself and my spouse if I barebacked (which I would never get into).

I hope I have let dealt with both issues "The morality (or the lack) of Cheating" and "risk" . My Two cents on a Sunday afternoon

[can2020]

my wife got me into sucking cock. we had a married man that we played with weekly.

[Jack Waage]

What an understanding wife....may be someday for me

[Jack Waage]

I would love to chat with the wife of a bisexual male as I would love to come out as bisexual to my wife. I don’t think my wife would understand and she would leave me in a heartbeat.

[blatant_bi_guy]

OK...so I met my wife at a birthday party. I'd snuck away with this guy named Jeffrey with one of the most perfect 8" cocks you ever saw. He was mostly wasted, I was pretty buzzing, so it was gonna be a good time.

He was laying on the bed, I rode him til he came. Then he passed out, still in me. Nice thing was, he hadn't really lost his hardon, so I was just enjoying the feeling when this girl bust into the room, ran into the adjoining bathroom, not even looking at the bed.

I heard her pee, then flush, then wash her hands. She came out, looked around and saw the bed and did a double take. She sat down on this bench near the wall and asked if she could watch. I told her it was over, dude was passed out, so we sat and talked for a good fifteen minutes until Jeff slid out of me, snoring.

We chatted online for a while after that, then met up for coffee. I ended up having a harder time convincing her I was bi than I was gay. A lot...a LOT of pussy eating later she agreed (although she said later as long as I'd keep eating her out to 'prove' things, she'd keep letting me). Five years after that, we got married.

She hooks me up on occasion. We roleplay sometimes, cuckold fantasy, both me AND a rando hookup being the 'sub' of the pair. We swing on a fairly regular occasion, so it's fun.

[sysper]

awesome story & good you have a satisfying sexual lifestyle & have someone special to share it with. i hope you keep proving yourself to ur wife for a long, longtime, in more ways than 1 ;)
OK...so I met my wife at a birthday party. I'd snuck away with this guy named Jeffrey with one of the most perfect 8" cocks you ever saw. He was mostly wasted, I was pretty buzzing, so it was gonna be a good time.

He was laying on the bed, I rode him til he came. Then he passed out, still in me. Nice thing was, he hadn't really lost his hardon, so I was just enjoying the feeling when this girl bust into the room, ran into the adjoining bathroom, not even looking at the bed.

I heard her pee, then flush, then wash her hands. She came out, looked around and saw the bed and did a double take. She sat down on this bench near the wall and asked if she could watch. I told her it was over, dude was passed out, so we sat and talked for a good fifteen minutes until Jeff slid out of me, snoring.

We chatted online for a while after that, then met up for coffee. I ended up having a harder time convincing her I was bi than I was gay. A lot...a LOT of pussy eating later she agreed (although she said later as long as I'd keep eating her out to 'prove' things, she'd keep letting me). Five years after that, we got married.

She hooks me up on occasion. We roleplay sometimes, cuckold fantasy, both me AND a rando hookup being the 'sub' of the pair. We swing on a fairly regular occasion, so it's fun.