What attracts a man to another man?

[coolbreeze69]

I found my bi side about 10 yrs ago and am now 52 yrs young. I've never really looked at a guy or a group of guys and thought they were nice looking. But now I'm on a dating site for same gender as myself, and still can't really understand the attraction to other men. Now, if they were to walk around half naked I could comment all day long! I would enjoy hearing others opinions. And open to all opinions. Thank you.

[sysper]

i wrote about this in my blog recently, how i'm attracted to both sexes. about all i could add to it is, with men it's more about pure lust, with women it's more personal & substantial.

[cornholejoe]

i like both just depens on the man and how he acts

[Fzmr9t]

Ive been acting on my BI feelings for over 15 years now and have yet to look at a guy in the same way I look at women well, actually there was one guy that I was attracted to, but he was in the men’s locker room changing clothes after we had played racquetball. He’s a very nice guy, who is also in very good shape and nicely hung! But prior to that scene, I’d only seen him in workout clothes on the court, kicking my ass in Racqetball 😄

but besides him, and besides that instant, guys have just been guys to me. Someone to compete against in sports, or to take to about sports or cars and such

as far as how I chose the guys Ive had have sex with, it’s more of opportunity and compatibility than attraction. I’m married, in the closet and older, so with that trifecta my opportunities are few and far between So I look for guys who are discreet, don’t mind older and who understand that my availability is sporadic. When I do find someone, I try to give them the utmost amount of pleasure that I can, so that hopefully they will want to return for seconds 😋

[Curious me]

I've noticed that when I'm attracted to another man it's because he looks more similar to me, my age group, race, in the same place in life somewhat. Weird I guess.

[Coastocoast]

I will Preface this by saying I am single, quiet about my sexuality due to work and some family members, but am comfortable with being bi. I am attracted to both sexes but with me there are similarities and differences in what attracts me to each. I am not attracted sexually to attached people of either gender; yes I note someone good looking but there is a veto on my end with anyone attached, that is just me. I am monogamous with anyone I am with and do not use being bisexual as an excuse to cheat on someone the opposite gender of the person I am seeing. With both I tend to like for them to be intelligent, seeking a monogamous situation, height weight proportionate and no they do not need to look like a god or goddess. Women, I like physically feminine and soft but mentally strong. With women I am looking for romance and a more emotional attachment. With men, I like them masculine but not macho or egotistical, more a regular guy that is intelligent. I am looking for a good / best friend that has a sexual element to the friendship and although I am orally versatile I prefer the top if intercourse in involved. I am not looking for the strong romance but a good friendship and one that passes for straight in public. When I see someone that attracts me, I cannot always put your finger on why but when I am not attracted to I generally know why. I do not need a woman with boobs the size of my head or a guy that needs to toss his junk over his shoulder to keep from stepping on it getting out of the shower, it is generally a personality and attitude combined with someone reasonably physically attractive to me. Like with everyone else finding the right person is difficult. My issue always seems to be people are attached looking for something on the side so I am out.

[hung4you]

Unlike marriage and the commitment that involves it is sometimes easier to act out sexual wants and needs with a man due to the lack of emotion. All of my friends that I play with are also married and for them as well as me it’s a quick safe and easy way to satisfy our sexual desires without the emotional attachment.

Since coming out to my wife this this has been easier and more pleasing knowing she too had same sex with other women, now we share our friends and life is great. As far as my buddy goes, I know he isn’t getting any sex at home and his desires are off the charts, he lives very close and it’s very convenient that he does as we service each other almost every morning. As we are early risers, my wife is fast asleep as we play downstairs, we milk each other as I said almost daily and I personally love our interactions.

[sysper]

i feel similar. i loooove women & crave the deep emotional connection. love intelligence in women too. if i had to choose 1 there's no question i would choose the opposite sex. but i'm glad i don't have to choose :) the same sex is something i would love to explore & i really hope to do it someday. also want intelligence in a man & looking for some kinda connection, after all sex is about being involved with another person. otherwise u might as well masterbate. i also respect monogomy. i guess i'm open to multiple fwb's but if it came to committment i wouldn't want anyone else & i wouldn't want someone being with me behind the back of there spouse/bf/gf. i guess u can have open relationships & i'd be ok with that in theory but i don't think i'd want that for me.
I will Preface this by saying I am single, quiet about my sexuality due to work and some family members, but am comfortable with being bi. I am attracted to both sexes but with me there are similarities and differences in what attracts me to each. I am not attracted sexually to attached people of either gender; yes I note someone good looking but there is a veto on my end with anyone attached, that is just me. I am monogamous with anyone I am with and do not use being bisexual as an excuse to cheat on someone the opposite gender of the person I am seeing. With both I tend to like for them to be intelligent, seeking a monogamous situation, height weight proportionate and no they do not need to look like a god or goddess. Women, I like physically feminine and soft but mentally strong. With women I am looking for romance and a more emotional attachment. With men, I like them masculine but not macho or egotistical, more a regular guy that is intelligent. I am looking for a good / best friend that has a sexual element to the friendship and although I am orally versatile I prefer the top if intercourse in involved. I am not looking for the strong romance but a good friendship and one that passes for straight in public. When I see someone that attracts me, I cannot always put your finger on why but when I am not attracted to I generally know why. I do not need a woman with boobs the size of my head or a guy that needs to toss his junk over his shoulder to keep from stepping on it getting out of the shower, it is generally a personality and attitude combined with someone reasonably physically attractive to me. Like with everyone else finding the right person is difficult. My issue always seems to be people are attached looking for something on the side so I am out.

[mpine86]

For me it's all about the penis. There are obviously certain qualities that would make me not want to play with another guy, but for the most part if he has a really nice dick I'll be into playing with it. The only other piece of criteria that matters to me is personality. The other guy needs to be cool enough and nice enough for me to want to hang out with him and show my more submissive, vulnerable side.

In general, I'm not and never have been "attracted" to guys. I've never checked other guys out; and I notice that because I still check hot women out all the time, but never other guys. Like many of you here have expressed, my love for dicks is purely a sexual thing, and 99% of my attraction depends solely on whether I like his penis or not.

[xp243]

I like a good looking guy with a nice body and a hot bubble butt

[jem_is_bi]

I like men as friends if they are nice people.
I like men as sexual partners if they are gay or bisexual and intelligent.

[delpark]

It has been a struggle for me to answer your question, the different levels that occur to me. I am attracted to men that show an attraction to me. A naked man gets my immediate attraction. During the course of everyday life I am not usually attracted to guys I see out and about. If I see a guy exudes gayness, he gets my attention.

Looking at different personal ads, I may get attracted to a heavy guy with big tits and big dark nipples, or a fine looking ass on guy may get my sex drive racing. Sometimes it is feeling like we are in a similar situation and have a mutual understanding that is the attraction.

There may even be a biological reason. I prefer men sexually.

[art0711]

I'm not really attracted to men, but I love m/m sex.

[borntosuckcock]

I’m not attracted to men, but I have an intense craving to suck cocks.

[Bisexual Explorer]

I have had good, and sometimes terrific sex, with all sorts of men. What first attracts me is the sense that he may be interested in having sex with me.

[coolbreeze69]

That's awesome to have a wife and a buddy on the same page! Congrats! I too, am not attracted to men per say. But once a get a glance of their package, if you will.... Well it's game on.

[nu2curious]

That's awesome to have a wife and a buddy on the same page! Congrats! I too, am not attracted to men per say. But once a get a glance of their package, if you will.... Well it's game on.

Same here , don't find men generally attractive but completely turned on by a nice cock.

[69plus1]

I have had good, and sometimes terrific sex, with all sorts of men. What first attracts me is the sense that he may be interested in having sex with me.
Honestly that about sums it up. If he has a positive attitude, clean and wants to suck my cock as bad as I want his.

[ChiefH]

Do we have things in common, similar in build and looks, and is he cut or uncut! If he's uncut that I the kicker as I am a push over for an intact cock!!!

[redones]

many characters for example i like strong guys

[Leehebs]

I sometimes suspect I am more on the gay side of bi, as I love every bit of a man from kissing to cuddling up to sleep. I was married for thirty years , but now a widower at 60, so why not.

[Tight1-4u]

Oh man where to start.. men well I must admit that the more I am with other men there seems to be more and more things that turn me on about them.. I being submissive bottom love being pleasure to men.. the sheer thought that I another man can turn on and give pleasure to another man is amazing.. I love it..
ok there are many things I find attractive about a man.. his looks, smell, walk, attitude, dress, the way he speaks, his voice, his ass, the bulge in his pants!! Smile, eyes, all things that can turn me on.. and it is most likely that it happens all of a sudden.. I am turned on, wound up and ready to get on my knees or all fours and give him what he wants.. I can go from 0 to 100 in a split second.. naked and taking every inch right now.. I think I am turning gay!!

[CockHummer]

I find that whole issue quite confusing. When I try to figure out what it is about men that turns me on, I am more struck by what doesn't turn me on about them.

I do not find men erotically attractive. Even when I am quite convinced that I want a man, I go out into public and try to look at men in the same way that I see women, and I'm back to wondering what I was thinking about in the first place. I know when a man is handsome and well-built, but I don't find either feature to be particularly attractive to me or an erotic turn-on. If I see an athletic man, I may be impressed that he takes good care of himself, but it does not stimulate me erotically to picture him naked. I do not find that a man dressing in a particular way turns me on, in the way that a woman wearing a revealing or suggestive outfit or one that enhances some part of her anatomy will turn me on. It is quite common when I am out in public for my eyes to stray to a woman's breasts or bottom or her legs or the beautiful features of her face, but if I see an athletic man and look at his bulging arms, there is nothing erotically attractive about it for me. I similarly fail to find myself staring at a man's butt or crotch, in the way that I so readily gaze at some anatomic features of women, but if I do just by chance, it is not in any sense stimulating to me.

When I look at porn images, in terms of male:male sex, I am most interested in still images of big, hot cocks and balls. To watch men kissing and hugging or massaging each other's breasts looks downright silly to me. I find myself wondering if I might enjoy it, because it really can't feel much different than sucking face with a woman, but that really turns me on, and trying to fantasize about doing it with another man, while it doesn't turn me off, does not turn me on, either. As much as I think I'd like to be both a top and a bottom in anal sex with a male, and to fantasize doing so while jerking off can really stimulate me, to watch it in videos turns me off, and looking at the men's butts in sex videos is not a turn-on. In picturing having anal sex with a male, the concept of being passively fucked or of actively controlling a man is not part of it. I just figure either one would feel really good, sexually. While I enjoy stimulating a woman's anus with my fingers and tongue, the idea of playing with another guy's anus or licking it really turns me off. I prefer watching lesbian porn to watching gay male porn by far and find it way more stimulating. One of the most stimulating sorts of porn for me is the so-called futanari porn, where a beautiful and shapely woman has a big (and in terms of what turns me on, not ridiculously big) cock and balls. At the same time that is true, I don't get tranny porn, at all, because I know they are, in one sense, men, and I recognize how unfair it is for me to say that, but it is what I feel. I would just love to have a woman with a really nice cock!

I do not feel romantically attracted to men, either. When I am with a woman I find attractive, I feel like I want to be part of a relationship with her. Even with strange women that I run across out in public, it is common for me to think, as I talk with them, that it would be nice if we had some sort of a relationship going on. That may be sexual, but I find I more generally am attracted to women, even in non-sexual ways. When I get involved with men, there is more of a sense of convenience, as in if we find we share common interests, it can be fun to do them together as friends sharing common interests, but that is the extent of the involvement.

In the end, the only thing that I find attractive in men is the idea of sucking, fondling, and otherwise playing with their cock and balls, smelling their musk, stimulating them to the point that they cum, and having them return the favor in all of those regards. That is more erotically stimulating to me, ironically, than sexual involvement with a woman's genitals, but I am very turned on by that, as well, and given the overall sense in which I am far more attracted to women and have stronger feelings toward women, and I do not want to have sex just for the sake of sex, and do not want to be in any sense promiscuous, I have elected to be involved entirely with women, aside from passing involvement with a couple of gay and bisexual male partners when I was a teen. I have always had a strong enough sex drive, that I could enjoy taking full part in a straight sexual relationship and partnership, while enjoying masturbating with powerful fantasies of male-male sex in between. I have always been frightened of sexually acquired infections, so have always wanted to be faithfully involved with a person who I understood to be "clean". It has allowed me always to have sex without use of condoms, and for that reason, I want to be faithful both for my sake and for the sake of my partners.

[csreef]

For me, it is about the "Energy" of the person that I am with at the time. This goes for females and Males.

[Tight1-4u]

CockHummer I agree totally it is all very confusing.. I ust to be very confused by it all.. then I decided to just relax and go with it.. I have found that by not trying to understand what and why I enjoy being turned on a lot more and way more often.. it can happen anywhere and at anytime and anyplace.. doesn’t mean I am being slutty just horny a lot more being turned on by a lot more men.. and all sorts of men.. so just relax and quit trying to understand and enjoy it��������������

[bibiboy]

Ive been acting on my BI feelings for over 15 years now and have yet to look at a guy in the same way I look at women well, actually there was one guy that I was attracted to, but he was in the men’s locker room changing clothes after we had played racquetball. He’s a very nice guy, who is also in very good shape and nicely hung! But prior to that scene, I’d only seen him in workout clothes on the court, kicking my ass in Racqetball 

but besides him, and besides that instant, guys have just been guys to me. Someone to compete against in sports, or to take to about sports or cars and such

as far as how I chose the guys Ive had have sex with, it’s more of opportunity and compatibility than attraction. I’m married, in the closet and older, so with that trifecta my opportunities are few and far between So I look for guys who are discreet, don’t mind older and who understand that my availability is sporadic. When I do find someone, I try to give them the utmost amount of pleasure that I can, so that hopefully they will want to return for seconds 

I can really identify with what you've said here Fz. I'm more drawn to women for sure, and there's nothing more alluring than a woman with a sexy attitude. With me it's more about that attitude than pure looks for either a man or a woman though. I can be attracted to a person for reasons I can't explain other than to say, he / she just kinda does it for me. Hah!

[bibiboy]

I find that whole issue quite confusing. When I try to figure out what it is about men that turns me on, I am more struck by what doesn't turn me on about them.

I do not find men erotically attractive. Even when I am quite convinced that I want a man, I go out into public and try to look at men in the same way that I see women, and I'm back to wondering what I was thinking about in the first place. I know when a man is handsome and well-built, but I don't find either feature to be particularly attractive to me or an erotic turn-on. If I see an athletic man, I may be impressed that he takes good care of himself, but it does not stimulate me erotically to picture him naked. I do not find that a man dressing in a particular way turns me on, in the way that a woman wearing a revealing or suggestive outfit or one that enhances some part of her anatomy will turn me on. It is quite common when I am out in public for my eyes to stray to a woman's breasts or bottom or her legs or the beautiful features of her face, but if I see an athletic man and look at his bulging arms, there is nothing erotically attractive about it for me. I similarly fail to find myself staring at a man's butt or crotch, in the way that I so readily gaze at some anatomic features of women, but if I do just by chance, it is not in any sense stimulating to me.

When I look at porn images, in terms of male:male sex, I am most interested in still images of big, hot cocks and balls. To watch men kissing and hugging or massaging each other's breasts looks downright silly to me. I find myself wondering if I might enjoy it, because it really can't feel much different than sucking face with a woman, but that really turns me on, and trying to fantasize about doing it with another man, while it doesn't turn me off, does not turn me on, either. As much as I think I'd like to be both a top and a bottom in anal sex with a male, and to fantasize doing so while jerking off can really stimulate me, to watch it in videos turns me off, and looking at the men's butts in sex videos is not a turn-on. In picturing having anal sex with a male, the concept of being passively fucked or of actively controlling a man is not part of it. I just figure either one would feel really good, sexually. While I enjoy stimulating a woman's anus with my fingers and tongue, the idea of playing with another guy's anus or licking it really turns me off. I prefer watching lesbian porn to watching gay male porn by far and find it way more stimulating. One of the most stimulating sorts of porn for me is the so-called futanari porn, where a beautiful and shapely woman has a big (and in terms of what turns me on, not ridiculously big) cock and balls. At the same time that is true, I don't get tranny porn, at all, because I know they are, in one sense, men, and I recognize how unfair it is for me to say that, but it is what I feel. I would just love to have a woman with a really nice cock!

I do not feel romantically attracted to men, either. When I am with a woman I find attractive, I feel like I want to be part of a relationship with her. Even with strange women that I run across out in public, it is common for me to think, as I talk with them, that it would be nice if we had some sort of a relationship going on. That may be sexual, but I find I more generally am attracted to women, even in non-sexual ways. When I get involved with men, there is more of a sense of convenience, as in if we find we share common interests, it can be fun to do them together as friends sharing common interests, but that is the extent of the involvement.

In the end, the only thing that I find attractive in men is the idea of sucking, fondling, and otherwise playing with their cock and balls, smelling their musk, stimulating them to the point that they cum, and having them return the favor in all of those regards. That is more erotically stimulating to me, ironically, than sexual involvement with a woman's genitals, but I am very turned on by that, as well, and given the overall sense in which I am far more attracted to women and have stronger feelings toward women, and I do not want to have sex just for the sake of sex, and do not want to be in any sense promiscuous, I have elected to be involved entirely with women, aside from passing involvement with a couple of gay and bisexual male partners when I was a teen. I have always had a strong enough sex drive, that I could enjoy taking full part in a straight sexual relationship and partnership, while enjoying masturbating with powerful fantasies of male-male sex in between. I have always been frightened of sexually acquired infections, so have always wanted to be faithfully involved with a person who I understood to be "clean". It has allowed me always to have sex without use of condoms, and for that reason, I want to be faithful both for my sake and for the sake of my partners.

Everything you state CH makes a lot of sense. I (and others probably) appreciate your having taken the time to think through and form such a well articulated reply.

[bibiboy]

Agreed cs.

[DD788Snipe]

as far as how I chose the guys Ive had have sex with, it’s more of opportunity and compatibility than attraction. I’m married, in the closet and older, so with that trifecta my opportunities are few and far between So I look for guys who are discreet, don’t mind older and who understand that my availability is sporadic. When I do find someone, I try to give them the utmost amount of pleasure that I can, so that hopefully they will want to return for seconds 

You and l are a lot alike. I had a close FWB for a while but then he got weird. It's what all of us crave but really hard to find. Now days it's take it when and where you can get it. Where do you live in Texas? My family lives in the DFW area. I was just there in December.

[Cum1st]

I'm with the general consensus. I'd rather see a woman's face in my lap than a man's. On the other hand, if my face is in contact with anything in the area normally covered by his shorts I am so turned on. I feel more comfortable totally letting go in a man's mouth from the first lick till he's satisfied, because any man that has taken my cock in his mouth really, really wanted it. He wasn't doing it just to please me.

[NJwood]

It’s about the cock. Nice hung cock, is what attracts me. If the guy is fit that’s nice but the dick is what counts.

[CTmale50]

I feel it's the connection men have with each other. No one understands a man better than another man. We understand the desires we have. We know that having a bud can be cool..they can keep quiet about it...they can get off without getting pregnant..it's the desire to release in a way only men understand. It's all about the understanding of our desires we share.

[KDaddy23]

Generally, it could be anything - the way he looks, dresses, talks, or otherwise carry himself. Or guys are “just guys” until you see them naked. I can appreciate a guy’s looks, his style, whatever but my engine won’t crank over unless, um, he shows me his cock... and now he’s got my undivided attention. I used to think this was weird and even that I should be attracted to men just as I am attracted to women but I learned early on that this was not the case for me. His looks were just whatever they were but I found that a guy’s intelligence and sense of humor was quite attractive and would, at the least, get me wondering what his cock looked like and how he liked to have sexy fun and fun that didn’t necessarily have anything to do with women.

”Bad” past experiences taught me that just because it looks good doesn’t mean it is good so while I see a guy, I’m not particularly giving his looks any serious weight; if he looks good, it is what it is... but it’s what’s on the inside that matter most. Well, that and he’s of a mind to get naked with me so we can make each other cum.

[averagejoe33]

It's not so much about the man as it is about thinking what's between his legs and how his cum tastes. The brain is the biggest sex organ and just the thought of making him hard and sucking to orgasm is what attracts me. Happy thoughts!

[hairy69]

I feel it's the connection men have with each other. No one understands a man better than another man. We understand the desires we have. We know that having a bud can be cool..they can keep quiet about it...they can get off without getting pregnant..it's the desire to release in a way only men understand. It's all about the understanding of our desires we share.

I think that is so true! Most of the time, much easier to relate to another guy for those exact reasons!

[Bbclvr]

I’m not attracted to men except for men’s cocks. I am so infatuated with cock. Cock is so perfect. What is attached to the cock does not interest me at all.

[whistle1]

This is obviously a very individual thing.

Some men are physically and emotionally attracted to both genders. Some are physically attracted to one gender and emotionally attracted to another.

In my case, I am physically and emotionally attracted to women. I check them out everywhere I go and have had romantic relationships with them.

I am not physically or emotionally attracted to men. I never notice men when I am out and about. I have no desire to engage in any type of romantic activities with another man (kissing, hugging, holding hands, etc.).

I am only curious about cock. That probably explains my attraction to feminine-looking trans women...

[papasmurph]

I am equally attracted to men and women - similarly... I enjoy an emotional connection with men and women equally. I find men attractive to look at - on the street, fully clothed - wherever I go, I notice both men and women, and will actually turn around to take a second look at a man or a woman who fills out their jeans quite nicely... I do lean more gay on the scale and consequently find men attractive features quite often - but I also find women attractive features worth takin a 2nd look. I don't need to wait to see the guy naked or taste his cum to say he is what I want... I already determined that long before his dick in near my face.

[Zoom1969]

What attracts me to another guy is chemistry! Sometimes I will meet a guy and there is just some type of connection that I will have with him. Something draws me to him and I feel a closeness. And its more than just a sexual feeling. Most guys I have met through the years that I have had this special connection with have become my closest friends and some have become buddies with benefits!

[Realist]

Very interesting thread!

I'm rarely attracted to a guy, upon first sight. But, I admit that I have seen guys, who stirred my blood, from across a room, or walking down a street. I do like chubby people..... not so heavy that they can't move gingerly, but with a little more heft than average. As someone else said, I like smooth bodies and prefer smaller erections.

Many more women have gotten my attention, at first sight, though.

I prefer romantic connections, too. Thus, even though I'm probably one of the older members and, may have started at a younger age than some, but I suspect I've probably had less of a variety of sexual experiences, than most, here.

For me, it's not about the numbers, but the quality of the experiences.

I enjoy being in a relationship, with someone I've gotten to know well, before intimacy occurs.

I've actually never had sex with a male stranger.

I knew one guy for years, before we began to contemplate a kind of platonic, but non-romantic relationship. Strange, since I prefer being romantic, but he was my longest male partner, ever! We were exclusive for a little over 10 years. My present male partner's been with me for a little over 2 years and I hope he will be there for years to come!

Reading these confessions, it's easy to see there's as many differences between us, as any other types of involvements. We all get our itches scratched in different ways!

[CTmale50]

it's different for everyone. Everyone has their own desires about what attracts them to other men. Mostly it's physical. No one understands a man better than another man.. their thoughts, feelings as well as sexual feelings. As men, we know what makes us feel good..those common things can attract men to each other. For me, it's a combination of physical and emotional (if there are any guys left in the world that have feelings above the waist!).

[bybyblkguy]

That's the same for me! Been going back and forth with my bi-desires for over 25 years and have YET to act on them completely. But, same age, similar in build and race...it's just what it is. But as I get older, I'm opening up to try and act on these feelings...SOON.

[zbi73]

Chemistry with a slim to athletic body type.

[Jazminedress]

well, its all different for me, not that I am special, but I think even amongst bisexual peoples, we are different subsets. Not to get into the politics, but I believe it is true. You have men, who stay and look like men and like to be with men and women, you have men who prefer a "sissy" role so on and so on, you have panty boys, and others

Me, I am only attracted to men when dressed en femme, women when dressed as a male, I make no apoligies, it is just who I am, I have learned I have two different mindsets. This does not mean that when dressed either way I dont have thoughts or give a glance

Now, when dressed, I think just like any other person in the world, I have my type. With women, I like a little meat on the butt, a curve at the hip, and I could care less what size the boobs are, as long as there is a difference in the hip to waist and the butt jiggles some, oh, and I do prefer longer hair, its just what attracts me.

Now when dressed, I have some likes people might think are weird, number one is smell. I like a guy who smells clean, knows how to use cologne as a enhancement instead of a cover up, and for the love of all that is holy, no more polo. Guys many times put about a 1/2 gallon on, give me a freaking headache. honestly, the smell after a shower of irish spring soap is a turn on (guess which brand I use) ( Great, now I am thinking about a guy coming out of the shower with just a towel on still dripping wet )

I also like clean skin, sorry, facial hair is not a thing for me, and honestly, I prefer pretty clean on the hair department all over. The manhood doesnt have to be shaved, but, if you need to hire a gardener, get some manscaping done

I am actually not attracted to body builders, I like a normal guy. In shape or fit is okay, but it doesnt have to be a gym rat, just proportional is fine with me.

Most important thing though, is a sense of humor and a decent personality. Someone at a party who approaches me with a "wanna suck my dick" or a " I always wanted to fuck one of you" I would walk away, and yeah, this has happened. Even had a guy say " Damn, I always wanted to bang a tranny"

Uhhhhhh, I am a crossdresser, not a part of your car that makes it go forward and reversed

Someone who at a party or something, spends some time talking and getting to know each other, thats more of an attraction than anything, I am attracted to someone doing the reach out and touch my arm thing, takes the time to flirt a little

But, hey thats just me, we all have our differences and thats okay, I have learned its time to be happy with who I am

[bibliss]

Attraction isn't the term I would use for men. In my case, it's more appreciation. Attraction is what comes up for me around women. Around men, it's brotherly warmth. Sex with either is amazing, in ways that are special and unique to either a man or a woman, or BOTH! I really like both!

[bibliss]

Inclusive is the best word. I'm inclusive of men because of the way I appreciate men -- because I too am a man... ;-)

[stonebow]

I feel it's the connection men have with each other. No one understands a man better than another man. We understand the desires we have. We know that having a bud can be cool..they can keep quiet about it...they can get off without getting pregnant..it's the desire to release in a way only men understand. It's all about the understanding of our desires we share.
Interesting perspective... and yeah, there's a lot of truth in that. Being with a guy is often so much less....complicated. I too am not one to view a man...no matter how good looking he may be...in the same way I look at an attractive woman. I just don't immediately regard them as potential sex partners. That will come as we interact further and he gives me signs that he's interested. As for the male physical features that turn me on..kissing a guy with some facial hair, a well toned body, a nice hairy chest...and of course a long, thick cock!

[CTmale50]

I feel it depends on what you're looking for. If you're looking for the things that you want in a man, then that's the attraction, no matter what it is. For me, it's the bond, both mentally, physically and emotionally. No one understands a man better than another man. We share common thoughts, desires and interests. We know how our bodies work and what makes us feel good.

[nu2curious]

Besides having a good personality he has to have a nice dick because it's ultimately about pleasure .

[loftycraig]

i have always going back to teens looked at mens bodies, and face the more attractive the more i looked, i didn't care if they noticed me. often if they did i'd wink. but never hooked up.

[Joboo]

I’m a masculine guy, 6’4” and fit, or I was back then. I was first attracted by his larger cock, he was smaller and skinny. Kind of a nerdy type with a thick 7.5 inch cock that made mine look so small. We had played as younger guys, just handjobs and his dick was no larger than mine then and I was never attracted or desired to suck him although I would have if he sucked me first, it never happened. When we hooked up one night at 18 after my date we played again. His dick was so much bigger, all I could think was all those girls that had seemed to enjoy my dick would go wild over his. I couldn’t take my eyes or hands of of it.
After he slow jerked each other for a while and I kept telling him how much I loved his bigger dick I just leaned over and kissed on it and licked it. When I rose up still unsure about doing this I was close to his face and he started kissing me whispering he has always wanted to suck mine too. I was right back down sucking him like I had done it forever. We swapped back and forth a bit but the strange sensation I had was that while it felt great when he sucked me I wanted to suck him more than being sucked. I also knew if I came first I’d lose interest. He came in my mouth although he tried to pull back, he didn’t lose interest and sucked me only a minute before I came. We must have sucked each other ten times over the next three days before he left for the beach with his family..
we were on each other in an hour after he got back.

[eager4cum]

My attraction to a guy is based on what I perceive to be someone who is very much like minded and physically very similar to myself. I think the reason for this is that I had a sexual relationship with my best friend (back in school and we were very much a match physically, mentally and emotionally) and I want to relive that experience because it was so dam hot. His cock was perfect and the blow jobs we gave each were awesome. smooth cocks get my cock to raise up instantly.

[loftycraig]

great looking man w.a nice bod

[Cum1st]

'Screening' a potential FWB will take time. Other than lust, that's what dating is all about. Body type and equipment aren't top priorities. Personality covers a lot of more shallow attributes. If we hit it off, that's a good start. This would apply to a man or woman, although a woman wouldn't fit the bill. I already have one.

[COLLIDER775]

Physical attributes...The type of body/face a man has. It's a huge factor in what I would want to do with him. Suck Him or Top Him... There's more to it than that... However that's the basics.

[GreenFedora]

I find myself especially attracted to effeminate men. The swishy, lispy-voiced ones. I dunno what that says about me.

[Bi-guy rick]

As I have read others respond - I can view a good looking guy and not turn my head, while I might with a woman. However, my thoughts about men have more to do with lustful sex, how I can be free to be my absolute lustful self with, how I craze the nastiness of cock and ass, while displaying mine for their equal enjoyment. I see a woman and can appreciate their attractiveness. With a man it is about lustful mutual attraction and the craving for each other's bodies and to be seen by them.

[BiSNJGuy]

Myself I can and will admire a woman that catches my eye, Its more of a fantasy that goes through my mind. Ive been with women where we take it slow and learn and enjoy each other, which is great. When it comes to a guy, I am like others. Too me its all about the lust for a guy that wants to use me as his own. Looks are important but in no way a game changer. Its about his cock and knowing that when im taking his cock that he is going to make me his. Being more the submissive I appreciate being taken, But I also look forward to my pleasure also.