Do You Have a Specific Type of Man That attracts you?

[WMassM4M]

I have always been attracted to a specific type of man. And, I've found, a very hard man to find. I don't care much about looks, but a self confident, masculine attitude is what turns me on. In the way of Hollywood, it would be Tommy Lee Jones, Russell Crowe Nick Nolte. Passing by a road construction site always makes me slow down. Some gay guys try to adopt the look, but it just doesn't do it for me.

I love imperfect bodies that were made by manual work and faces that have had exposure to the elements - hands thick from years of work. In fact, I get hard just watching a man's hands.

When I'm cruising personal ads, the pictures of gym built torsos or unlined, moisturized faces actually turn my off. In my younger days, I was less choosy and could get a fantasy going while I blew a guy who wasn't my type. Though there were some incredible guys too, like the retired Navy Seal with the big fat nine incher....oh, man! Now, it's what I want or nothing, so it's mostly nothing.

I was wondering if having such a specific interest is common and how much it limits others. At least it's not the worst. Imagine only being turned on by amputee dwarves?

[marine20]

i'm just the opposite . since i'm muscular and manly, i really get turned on by thin twinks. the more feminine the better. younger also. i'ts rare , but once in a bath house, i ran into the perfect guy. young, very good looking , nice slim body. he didn't want to kiss, which i rarely do, (he was so cute i really wanted to ) , so we sucked each others cock , and i just had to eat his asshole. his pussy was really yummy. i did it so long ,that he said he had to cum. i turned him around quickly, swallowed his cock , then he fed me his wonderful cum. i made a big deal out of showing him how much i wanted to ingest his boy cream. anyway , that's the kind of guy that i like .

[cornholejoe]

i like them all

[csreef]

For me, when I began exploring my sexuality, I have always been attracted to men who were incredibly Creative, and/or Intelligent.

[Long Duck Dong]

Experienced males lol....

I generally find that I perfer older men, it feels like they appreciate more than just sex, they appreciate the fact that they are not discarded because they are older men, some of the best lovers have been older men and the sex may not always be longer but often they savor the experience, the passion, the desire.....
unlike younger males, they can take longer to get out of bed and disappear lol

I am not in a rush to cum so I am happy to take the time to make sex an experience to remember and my current male lover has said he loves the fact that I am very open to different ways of having sex and making love which for him, works as some times he needs to take his time....

[sysper]

twinks. maybe it's just a desire to relive my youth, when i was younger, livelier & had more hope in the future. trying to start over knowing what i know now. then again i've been questioning if there's any kinda guy at all i'd be interested in.

[jem_is_bi]

For me, when I began exploring my sexuality, I have always been attracted to men who were incredibly Creative, and/or Intelligent.
Intelligent is much easier to find than creative.
Conformity rather than creativity is encouraged from birth to death in both social encounters and scientific endeavors. So true creativity is a rare quality .
I do find intelligent and creative men attractive, but for friendship rather than for sex.
For a sexual relationship I am attracted to Intelligence, kindness and more recently, compatibility in politics.

[Bisexual Explorer]

Self-confident mature men with a good sense of humor. (Good personal hygiene - obviously.) I always get to know potential partners - over coffee - before deciding whether to have sex with them and to let them decide whether they want to have sex with me.

[WMassM4M]

then again i've been questioning if there's any kinda guy at all i'd be interested in.

Funny, I ask myself the same thing. My taste in men is so specific that I've all but accepted that I'm not likely to run into him. It seems I've spent a lifetime browsing personal ads, placing ads and if someone catches my eye, he usually isn't looking for someone with my stats. It's crazy, because I have women coming on to me all the time. I used to meet all kinds of men in the old AOL chatroom days. It was the perfect forum if you don't like the back and forth email shit, or every random person answering your ad regardless of how carefully you express what you're looking for. Do these guys think you'll blow them anyway just because they show up? I had a brief period of extreme slutiness in my younger days (once sucked off 12 guys in a day). How I never got an STD is a miracle.

I have a guy who blows me once a week or so, but it's more just something to do than the kind of excitement I used to have and not something I'd go out looking for, myself.

So, yeah, I'm looking ahead to celibacy and that's not the end of the world.

[sysper]

now that u mention it, i'm not looking for just any guy either. i've gotten replies where guys assume i will hookup with them just because they got a dick. maybe at some other point in my life experiance but right now i'm looking to try things for the 1st time & i need to feel comfortable. in other words im' looking for specific things too. some guys are just so aggressive (or horny) they don't care. i'm with u i think, i'd rather do without than have a creepy or uncomfortable experiance. that goes for women too though i've never had problems avoiding attention from them.
Funny, I ask myself the same thing. My taste in men is so specific that I've all but accepted that I'm not likely to run into him. It seems I've spent a lifetime browsing personal ads, placing ads and if someone catches my eye, he usually isn't looking for someone with my stats. It's crazy, because I have women coming on to me all the time. I used to meet all kinds of men in the old AOL chatroom days. It was the perfect forum if you don't like the back and forth email shit, or every random person answering your ad regardless of how carefully you express what you're looking for. Do these guys think you'll blow them anyway just because they show up? I had a brief period of extreme slutiness in my younger days (once sucked off 12 guys in a day). How I never got an STD is a miracle.

I have a guy who blows me once a week or so, but it's more just something to do than the kind of excitement I used to have and not something I'd go out looking for, myself.

So, yeah, I'm looking ahead to celibacy and that's not the end of the world.

[Touchesyouthere]

A man with a nice big cock. I turn sub real quick

[WMassM4M]

i've gotten replies where guys assume i will hookup with them just because they got a dick.

Yup. The most recent experience with that was this week. I threw an ad up on Doublelist. Because I am looking for a very specific type of man, I really don't expect responses, but what the hell, right? I am always specific in that I am only turned on by very masculine men - nothing else. Anyway, I got a reply - just a short description and that he had a big cock. OK, I'll bite. Then came the back and forth emails, but it was only then that I noticed that the display name on his email was 'Gerri', and his email address was 'fancyass'. Now, if men fantasize about being women, good for them. To each his own, but why the hell would you answer an ad that specifically says you're looking for a masculine man? Did this guy think I'd be so enraptured by the fact that he has a big cock that nothing else matters? I am gay because I love everything about men - the look, the smell, the voice, the manner. Why is that such a difficult thing to understand? Yet time and again, guys who are the furthest thing from masculinity have answered my ads. Perhaps it's a lack of self awareness....I don't know. I feel like blasting 'Gerri' with a snotty email, but I'll let it go.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I won't go into the whole 'I'm not attracted to men' thing here, but the reality is that I'm primarily in it for the physical pleasures of bisexuality. That's been discussed at-length in other threads.

So I look at it from a standpoint of what type of man do I prefer to be with, sexually. At the top of the chart, leaving out the obvious #1 priority that he is DDF I value intelligence, candor and honesty. I'm not looking for a new best friend, but I want to feel like I know what type of a person it is that I'm going to be intimate with. And when it comes to becoming acquainted online, that means communicating intelligently via private messages or emails. If the guy is active in a forum and takes part in discussions, you can start to evaluate that way. But I prefer exchanging personal messages that are descriptive of your desires experiences, and address any issues that may be to be clarified prior to meeting face-to-face.

In my (exasperating) experience, it's too much trouble for a lot of men. I'm very upfront and specific in my profiles, include images, a physical description and what I enjoy doing. And I can host, sometimes. I'm not about to invite someone into my home who I have not met or know virtually nothing about. I often hear from men whose profiles are essentially blank, and I try to get them to open up and communicate. It usually isn't very productive...

Going through that with one guy now. He keeps writing things like 'Good morning. I had to pick up my sister at the airport, but wanted to say hello. Hope we can keep talking and arrange to meet.' Or 'Didn't have much time to write today. More later.' Needless to say, I've done all the heavy lifting trying to become acquainted with this guy. To date, I've seen only a single dick pic, shot standing over a toilet. Not exactly erotic, IMO. And I've asked him a couple of simple questions that have gone unanswered.I expect some kind of reason that I should be interested in you. Sell yourself a little.

Then there's the 'yum' guys who send me a PM that says, predictably, 'yummmmmmmmmmmm...'

And the guy on SilverDaddies, whose profile says something like 'C'mon guys, shorten up your profiles. Nobody wants to read a book.' This guy has contacted me on three separate occasions. The first time, I politely pointed out that his comment was somewhat insulting to those of us who make an effort to be open and descriptive, and that's not really a good way to pique someone's interest. Not only that, but from his profile picture, he's not even close to the type of guy I'd be interested in, as described in my 'book'... I haven't replied to the 2nd or 3rd messages, which have some several months apart.

I'm not picky, but I do have standards and preferences. I want -- expect -- honesty and decency in a man.

[sysper]

silkyhoselover i feel ur frustration. i've chatted with guys before & not just guys where i "write a book" & try & get the other person to open up by asking questons & they give very short answers if they answer at all. usually younger guys. i know i tend to be attracted to younger guys but maybe in reality there's little to expect. maybe "let's just fuck" is enough of an introduction to some people but definately not me & it sounds like not u either.
i don't consider "yum" replies an attempt to hookup just a compement. i've done this with other people & meant as much. it's nice to get a complement but it doesn't go beyond that.

[hung4you]

I like them tall hung and hairy. My regular is very hairy and well endowed, watching his hairy body work my ass is a huge turnon.

[NaughtyBiBoy86]

Hey all, that's a good question and I always get turned on by my answer. I'm in my 30s and the first dick I sucked was from an older Latino, he was really thick, I was 19 at the time. Since then, ive had a few more, all older than me and I got pounded really good by a even thicker and longer than my first taste of cock. So then I grew a big liking to older men and me being a bottom. So my preference nowadays is older black men, not skinny but with some weight, a few extra pounds, between his late 40s-50s, and top, most importantly BLAC. I have yet to have that happen to me but I hope it does someday.

[WMassM4M]

I have yet to have that happen to me but I hope it does someday.

I hear you. I have always been turned on by older guys in the vein of Nick Nolte or Sam Elliot. Not the young, lifeguard type Nick or Sam, but more of the '48 Hours' or older Nick. Of all the guys I've been with (probably a couple hundred), I've only come close twice. One guy I saw quite a few times, only got a hard-on twice, but I still count his as some of the hottest sex I've ever had. For me it's way more about the man than just his cock and what he does with it. I also like men with a few extra pounds. Something about a guy who doesn't obsess about his appearance is a big turn on. Funny how those tastes and fetishes develop, isn't it?

[GreenFedora]

I like effeminate men. The whole swishy, limp-wristed, lisping stereotype. Maybe because when I grew up they were scorned and mocked. Secretly they turned me on, there was some sense of forbidden allure.

I wouldn't consider myself the manliest of macho men, I'm sort of average in that respect.

Smooth bodies, cross dressers -- I just adore them now.

[Footstep40]

I’ve always been attracted to the older, taller, hairy and a bit bigger men with a belly.. I may just fall in love.

[Jazminedress]

Well, and I dont mean to be mean.....................But, I am not into obese, a few extra pounds is okay, super muscle heads not really, so a king of average. Big thing for me is NOT hairy, a tough but not a lot on the hair and down there. Preferably over 5'7" just so they are taller than me. I like them bigger than me in body type, not into piercings. But over all I am pretty open minded

[borntosuckcock]

I like dominate types of guys that are basically users. Especially verbally dominate guys who just want to fuck my mouth, cum and go. I like sucking, but for me, it’s all about swallowing a guys cum. I can usually tell after a little conversion, if he’s my type.

[atxbi]

Other than my all time favorite fantasy of sucking off a trans girl with a big cock and beautiful natural tits, the type of guy that turns me on the most, is a skinny guy with a long stiff cock that sticks out from his skinny body at about 90 degrees. Mmmmmmm

[csreef]

Why haven't any of the Women of Bi.com answered this question???? Yes I know you are out there, and, I KNOW YOU do exist!

[JordanCD]

Two types:
1) Confident tall good looking guys usually catch my eye. Probably the type that most women are instantly attracted to as well. That type makes me want to get on my knees and bend over for them.
2) Effeminate younger guys that would pass for a hot girl if they were in drag give me an instant boner. Especially if they give me a signal or flirt with me. Cute fem guys make me want to buy them drinks and then take them home to fuck silly, knowing they'll go out of their way to service daddy. This is the type I would also date, especially if they like to cross dress.

[JordanCD]

I'm a total bottom/sub for this type
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I'm a total top/dom for this type
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[tenni]

JordanCD
Written detail about the type of man was good but less visual jerk porn please. All these porn visuals that you post are not needed. If Drew (founder) was still around your arse might out the door. Bi.com is not a porn site.

I don't really have a visual type other than at least semi physically fit. It is more along behavioural: honest, intelligent. sensual for sure.

[Coastocoast]

I do miss Drew. He kept the site what is was before the recent death spiral.

[ClassicPaCpl]

For me, Im not into the muscle guys like you see in the pornos, I prefer the regular everyday joe.
NOTE
Im 56, and have a number of injuries caused by situations the last 20 years had to offer... Im not fat but I am out of shape. I have a 6 inch willy and to be honest, I kinda prefer guys like me... Maybe not all the scars but close to my age, a bit chubby, easy going, and between 5 and 7 inches is perfect!
Maybe its phycological for me but the young muscle guys with perfect bodies does nothing for me. The mature guy does

[dowmass]

JordanCD
Written detail about the type of man was good but less visual jerk porn please. All these porn visuals that you post are not needed. If Drew (founder) was still around your arse might out the door. Bi.com is not a porn site.

I don't really have a visual type other than at least semi physically fit. It is more along behavioural: honest, intelligent. sensual for sure.

Why do you have to pick a fight with every person you disagree with?

The other day I posted about virile black guys and you said things that were "mean" to say the least. If you don't like something, just move on.

There is someone here that will take care of "objectionable" pictures and text - so just chill and relax - you don't have to police everything here.

[dowmass]

The two tops I have been with were a combination of friendliness and shyness.
So what kind of person would I like..... well I am a bottom, and would love for my top to be an Alpha male, that is not shy, to ask what he wants... So if he wants me to suck his dick, or give him my pussy, I'd expect him to ASK. I wouldn't expect him to be aggressive within seconds of my meeting him (I remember one time I had someone come to my place, and within seconds he said something like "Take your pants off - I want to fuck you". That was a put off, and I had to ask him to leave because I felt kind of threatened (Was that a rational feeling - maybe not).

That said, I would expect my top to take charge, in an assertive way, spank me while he fucks me doggie style (It's a fantasy - never happened). As for the body type, he does not have to be muscular - a little belly is okay..... As long as he likes fucking me and has some staying power, other things don't matter - but yes I won't bareback.....even if he has "latex allergy" and he forgot to tell me till the 11th hour.

[chiefconsultant63]

Any man with a dick and balls between his legs....prefer the alpha, dominate type who likes to use me

[marine20]

i like thin sissy type twinks. the more feminine , the more i like them , especially if they have a cute face. i know i'm being picky , but when i get one of them in bed , i just get crazy with passion. i LOVE kissing them and eating their asshole out. i love sucking them , fucking them , and they can even fuck me if they want to .

[chongster]

i like thin sissy type twinks. the more feminine , the more i like them , especially if they have a cute face. i know i'm being picky , but when i get one of them in bed , i just get crazy with passion. i LOVE kissing them and eating their asshole out. i love sucking them , fucking them , and they can even fuck me if they want to .
Totally agree with you, love hot skinny twinks, CDs, Trans. If he looks like a chick with a dick I want to suck and fuck him.

[JordanCD]

JordanCD
Written detail about the type of man was good but less visual jerk porn please. All these porn visuals that you post are not needed. If Drew (founder) was still around your arse might out the door. Bi.com is not a porn site.

I don't really have a visual type other than at least semi physically fit. It is more along behavioural: honest, intelligent. sensual for sure.

Ok, I removed the pictures. I think visuals do help explain things, but it's not my intention to turn this into a porn site or to offend anyone in the process.


I might point out that there are already a lot of picture threads here, like "rate my ass", "cock is beautiful" etc. so not sure how that fits if we just want talk only. Maybe changing the posting guidelines?

[dowmass]

Ok, I removed the pictures. I think visuals do help explain things, but it's not my intention to turn this into a porn site or to offend anyone in the process.


I might point out that there are already a lot of picture threads here, like "rate my ass", "cock is beautiful" etc. so not sure how that fits if we just want talk only. Maybe changing the posting guidelines?


There was no need to remove the pictures. When you have pictures under topics like “rate my cock”, what was wrong about the pucs you posted.

There are some who get an ego trip, correcting others. Just ignore them. After all this site is called “bisexual.com”.

[Waylon]

White, black or brown I dig a man with some muscle, toned, smooth and with a nice manscaped 6 to 8 inch cut cock.

[JeffT]

I'm attracted to slim, effeminate smooth shaved guys who aren't bashful about kissing, stroking and gentle loving. No big muscle guys, no body hair and no beards.

[Argent 11]

For me it comes down to being genuine, Intelligent, passionate and capable. Physically I am attracted to smooth (or minimal body hair) slender even slightly effeminate men. The only limitations I place on my intimate moments with another male are mutual respect for each others limitations. I throughly enjoy every aspect of sexual intimacy with a man. I don't play often but I play extremely well. Have to care about the person I'm making love with and having a FWB is the most satisfying kind of man I can think off.

[beamish13]

Thicker side. Smooth bodies and faces. Asian or Caucasian. Thick bubble butts

[Bimiself48]

I like a smooth cock, I won't suck on your balls if I'm going to get a mouth full of pubs, same goes for pussy. While a huge cock is fun to suck on there are more possibilities with those who are closer to average. I like an average to muscular body. If he's sub or not can depend on my mood. Sometimes I want to take control others it's quite hot to be dominated.

[Riderinthestorm]

I have three types that I get hard over.

Young/young-looking Asian or black men in good shape, twinks of any race, and when I want to be the made love to like I will be the last piece of ass you ever get, then its well built, taller, smooth muscle men (think male stripper). When I see them, talk to them or are approached by them, I automatically go into either a masculine or feminine role, just to have them.

[tongueteaser]

I am newer type and very curious but not attracted to guys like I am to girls. I am just turned on by a guys cock and hard and throbbing. I would prefer a slim or thin feminine type guy over a masculine though. Just would feel more relaxing to me to suck on a cock that belonged to girly or feminine type.

[Mattfumbled]

Hi all, a new comer perspective here and yes, a 'virgin' when it comes to bum sex. I'd love a late 30s guy, a bit of hair, nice cock, not too big, a beard - and bang - there's my anal cherry gone!

[Mattfumbled]

Hmm - shame I'm not around the corner - fit your description - although, as noted you would have to dominate me first. mmmmm

[Mattfumbled]

Exactly the same mate - never perv on guys in the street but fantasies in the bedroom are completely different. But for me hard, throbbing yes, but make him handsome and masculine. Rash from kissing - yes please. If I'm going to shag a bloke, it may as well be for real!!!

[budg282]

I had never been attracted to a man, just the sex act itself was my interest. However it's interesting because after told my wife that I'm bisexual, I've noticed that I am quasi checking out men while out and about. Still not nearly to the level of noticing women but it is a new experience for me. I think her acceptance has maybe allowed me, perhaps subconsciously, to notice attributes that have previously gone unnoticed. So far skinny, lack of body hair but still mostly masculine have piqued my interest but this is new territory for me so I can't say that I have developed a 'type' yet.

[lildudescox]

I like men my age thin built hairless body with a small thin cock like mine