Same gender relationships or just sex?

[chongster]

Do you have relationships or do you just meet for sex?
Everyone I have hooked up was a stranger. I met a young man a couple years ago that fucked a few times but that is all we did, meet, fuck and leave. Most others were a one and done.

[Tight1-4u]

For me it is just sex!! I do however have a few that I see regularly.. we have become good friends and gotten to know a lot about each other.. guys mostly are just sex unless you are gay are just really about sex!!

[cornholejoe]

i got a few bi friends its mostly sex but sometimes we will have a few beers and watch a nascar race or ball game

[jem_is_bi]

I have a long-term partner (15+ years). In the beginning it was all about sex.
But, we have been through a lot of ups and downs of life together.
So, now, love and respect for each other makes the sex better than ever.

[tenni]

I would prefer an intimate friendship both social and sexual. One time hook ups grow shallow.

"guys mostly are just sex unless you are gay are just really about sex!!


I think that this is telling statement. The "unless you are gay" statement is telling but I'm not sure what is reflects? Is it biphobia? homophobia? or that some guys just don't want to face emotions? Curious. I would think that bisexuals who open themselves to both men and women would evolve to accept the dual attraction emotionally and physically.

[softheart]

Do you have relationships or do you just meet for sex?
Everyone I have hooked up was a stranger. I met a young man a couple years ago that fucked a few times but that is all we did, meet, fuck and leave. Most others were a one and done.

It's probably part of the difference between being gay an bi. I prefer a relationship first rather than a blow and go. I've done both, but relationships are best because you have learned most of what your guy likes. I have had the best relationships with guys who were bisexual. In my case I love the power of a man. I'm not very big myself, and I have learned to exploit my relative helplessness to get what I want. But being a guy, this seems sometime to let my guy be more sexually aggressive with me than he would a woman. I've experienced sexual aggression from men that would probably scare a woman off, yet I love it!

[bikurinpa]

I prefer I guess what call a relationship, but actually a close friendship. To our families and friends we would just be as regular friends but when we get behind closed doors then we would be as secret lovers and literally make love together. But this is totally impossible to find, all in my area prefer sex with just random strangers and right NOWs, which is extremely risky for STDs.

[Long Duck Dong]

I am in a ... relationship ? with a older man and two women, but we do not refer to it as a relationship or as a open / closed loop arrangement, its more just a connection and understanding with us and we also do not refer to each other as partners but nor is it friends with benefits. Either way its not the label that is important with us, its the feeling of connection and companionship

In a sense we are all the same, we have had bad relationships, bad partners, the relationship rule book, the demands that we use the correct labels etc so the current situation works for us all

[Asspussy302]

Never had a relationship with another guy. Did have a regular fuck buddy for a few years

[hung4you]

For me it’s all about the sex. I got into cock when I was in collage and growing up in the north woods. I am happily married but both my wife and I are open to same sex play. I maintain a couple of close friends that I share my body with. We have a lot of fun together, enjoying our cocks and lots of anal. I love pussy but love cock as well.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I'm relatively inexperienced, and have had several once-and-done meetings. As a happily-married man of 47 years, I have no room for an actual 'relationship'. But my ideal situation would be to have someone with whom I could enjoy sexual activity and count as a friend.

I have enjoyed the company of one other man on 4 occasions, and we get along very well before, during and after we're intimate. There's no rush to the door after we cum. We talk about sex, we talk about other things. That's the way I like it.

[bikurinpa]

But my ideal situation would be to have someone with whom I could enjoy sexual activity and count as a friend.
I have enjoyed the company of one other man on 4 occasions, and we get along very well before, during and after we're intimate. There's no rush to the door after we cum. We talk about sex, we talk about other things. That's the way I like it.
This is the part so many married do not understand, working things as being friends. when my wife was living, we had a good friend who loved to go out fishing with us and to do things with us but when the times allowed fior me and him to be alone or go out of town together, then we was as secret lovers and did it all together and she never had any clue.

[SilkyHoseLover]

When my wife was living, we had a good friend who loved to go out fishing with us and to do things with us but when the times allowed for me and him to be alone or go out of town together, then we was as secret lovers and did it all together and she never had any clue.

I may have given a somewhat flawed impression in my previous message. Our friendship is basically casual, and centered around our mutual sexual attraction for one another. Realistically, it probably would not exist were it not for that. He lives far enough away that it would be impractical to 'hang out'. We get together to have sex, but we greatly enjoy each other's company in the vanilla moments that we're together before and after the act. If we were to meet on the street somewhere, we would have a nice chat, but that's not likely to happen due to the geography involved.

Also, my wife has not met, but knows of him. She allows me to satisfy my bisexual and feminine urges. So my situation is quite different from what you've described, despite the fact that we both counted our associates as 'friends'...

[RegularJoe]

In a perfect world I would like a regular male sex partner or two I was friends with.

[cbb83]

I have the unpopular opinion that if you're just about sex with the same gender you're not actually gay/bi, you're just into the pleasure aspect of same-gender sex, which basically just means you've got some hedonism going on and are doing it for the sensation. Not saying that's bad, just saying I don't think it's the same thing as actually having a "normal" attraction. Plenty of sensation seekers out there.

[JohnnyBisexual]

I am bi-sexual, but I'm just in it for the sex. I have no romantic interest in other men. Would I mind a recurring sexual relationship? Not at all, but it would never turn into anything romantic. I'm just want the cock.

[Tight1-4u]

You seem to have gotten the wrong impression here the statement about being gay was in no way said or ment in any derogatory way.. just an observation ant personal feeling.. but you on your high and mighty throne seem to have found some issue with others opinions and experience!! You obviously think your opinions are the only opinions that count

[Coastocoast]

I am more about the ongoing relationship but need to elaborate about what that means to me. I am bisexual, I am single, not married or on any relationship. Have I had relationships with women including love? YES! Did I cheat on them to be with guys or other women? No. Yes they were romantic and intended to be that way. I have had what I call a relationship with a guy but it was not a real romantic/love connection. I will say more about what it was and was not. Was it a Relationship? We were great friends, did everything together, nobody who saw us would have suspected we had a physical situation but we did. We saw each other regularly, did travel together, did workout and spend time together often. We looked forward to seeing / hearing from each other, made plans, ate meals together, did work around our homes together so there was more of a connection than getting off. Did we call each other when we were horny and that was what the get together was all about? Sometimes. Did we go places where the weekend trip was more about doing something and getting a break from work / being at home with the knowledge we would have sex along the way? Yes. Was I in love? No. When we had physical interaction was it sexual rather than romantic? Yes. Did we kiss? Yes at times but it was not that make out session I have had with women, it was more incidental at times than a focus. Yes, I feel the word relationship describes it.

[monaohio]

for me its just sex with a man maybe one day i find a fwb and he just does me

[exy32]

For me just sex.

[csreef]

But my ideal situation would be to have someone with whom I could enjoy sexual activity and count as a friend.

I think we would all like to have this situation.

[thickneasy]

just sex that about it.

[borntosuckcock]

I’d prefer a steady partner, but just for sex. I’m married and don’t want the potential problems that relationships can have.

[Bisexual Explorer]

For me the first priority is sex. Though if I don't feel I can have a relationship, it's one and done. I have a loose "friendship" with two men I've met here. I, and I believe both of them, would like to become better friends. My being married gets in the way.

[ChiefH]

I would rather have a steady male companion who is also married, and just for sex!!! I don't need any relationship hassles with the wife!!!

[19biman61]

For me it's just sex. The best same gender sex I ever had was with a gay man. His partner was a top only and told him that if he could find a bottom of his own then that would be fine with him. We talked on a chat room and met at their house. They were both there and we had a threesome where I bottomed for both of them. I was his regular bottom and his partner would join us from time to time. The whole thing between them was entirely about sex. It was FANTASTIC!!!!!

[et1171]

I don’t consider myself gay, but I’d give a relationship a try. Never know what possibilities could emerge.

[NJwood]

All about the sex. I lust after cock and don’t need a relationship.

[monaohio]

for me its just sex but would love to have a man that is a FWB to go to 2-4 times a week

[bikurinpa]

for me its just sex but would love to have a man that is a FWB to go to 2-4 times a week
If ur area is like mine, have fun finding someone! Here, a FWB who wants someone regular is totally impossible!

[WMassM4M]

I've found a lot of bi guys are scared to get too friendly in case I might mistake it for a desire for a relationship. But there have been some guys with interesting occupations and hobbies I would have liked to have been friends with. I have a neighbor who I wish was a friendship/sex situation, but the chance of getting into his pants is very slim.

[WMassM4M]

If ur area is like mine, have fun finding someone! Here, a FWB who wants someone regular is totally impossible!

I had one long time guy and quite a few repeats, but doesn't it seem that with as hard as it is to meet someone where everything clicks that it would make sense to keep it going rather than continue searching with all the hassles and answering ads, placing ads, etc? I like the whole package in a man including personality and attitude, so it's natural to form an attraction to people you enjoy being around.

[bikurinpa]

I've found a lot of bi guys are scared to get too friendly in case I might mistake it for a desire for a relationship. But there have been some guys with interesting occupations and hobbies I would have liked to have been friends with. I have a neighbor who I wish was a friendship/sex situation, but the chance of getting into his pants is very slim.

I feel there has to be compatibility in all factors to make good sex, not just strictly for sex only. I think a lot of guys get the wrong idea about a relationship and think it means living together or being a total gay couple and out, my concept of relationship is, we can enjoy doing things together as regular friends, maybe spend night or weekend together once in a while or going out on trips together and keeping things sexually strictly between us and very discreet and then can return to eachothers own home with family etc. And not seeking other guys when part ways, (seeking more ass then a toilet seat gets)!

[sysper]

whoever i get to sleep with i would be so greatfull but i'm not saying i'm looking to sleep with just 1 guy. as far as sex only i'm open to sleep with as many people as i can & be safe. but like u i realize sex is only part of the package & there needs to be a connection on other levels to make the experiance all worthwhile. i gotta be comfortable with someone to be alone naked with them.
I feel there has to be compatibility in all factors to make good sex, not just strictly for sex only. I think a lot of guys get the wrong idea about a relationship and think it means living together or being a total gay couple and out, my concept of relationship is, we can enjoy doing things together as regular friends, maybe spend night or weekend together once in a while or going out on trips together and keeping things sexually strictly between us and very discreet and then can return to eachothers own home with family etc. And not seeking other guys when part ways, (seeking more ass then a toilet seat gets)!

[softfruit]

Relationships mostly, regardless of gender.

Don't really get how people have a difference between what they want / get from partners of one gender or another. Clearly some folks do, but it's beyond me.

[gmr2017]

I enjoy M4M when I can. Most have been once and done. A couple have lasted longer bi monthly. I have enjoyed all because I am the one being serviced.

[DownBoy]

Anything that is 'm4m' is based on (just) sex and so are 'relationships' that form from it. They're not "gay couple" relationships either. M4M more like a fetish so there's the earthy massage versatile hippies, to the (non-masc) bottom with a trucker daddy, to the most extreme "ownership" stuff like dom/sub and sex pig adoption which don't exist anymore because m4m/NSA is dead. "Gay couples" look like they're out of place and confused; and the ones that look somewhat presentable usually has one (mostly the bottom) who cheats and eventually break up because the piggish cheater wasn't compatibale with the other one. Is it really surprising that the ones that used to last a long long time are the fetish-based ones? Traditional relationships just don't work with same-sex couples. Show me one highschool sweet heart couple into their mid-30's and one couple that lasted 20 years that didn't become a couple in their mid-40's. Yeah. Sorry! Besides, there's nothing wrong with just NSA! Even m4m "relationships" are still NSA since there's no commitment. Its not a breakup if one partner decides to just leave. M4m partnerships are not the same as a gay couple or "gay marriage." Nor should they be!

There was one couple that used to have potential as a traditional relationship, and it was between a guy and a tranny. It wasn't labeled as m4m but m4t and t4m because they used to be a fetish with two types of descriptions: "Chix with dix are two times the fun" and "trannies suck the best dick and always spread their ass for cock" And they did both!. The guy could be a masc top with a (sissy) tranny or he could be a bi-sexual guy with a (versatile) tranny. Plus there's w4t type NSA as well. SOO many possibilities. Plus actual love and feelings existed in the relationship!...........until the LGBT community labeled tranny as "offensive" (even though real ones used it) and replaced it with "transgendered" which later had a second category called "gender fluid" to be more 'inclusive' for those who couldn't afford transition surgery and play pretend.......and most never even given a blowjob! Now what used to be fun sex and a needed outlet quickly turned into "a man in a dress is a man in a dress" and the curious DL activities stopped. Thanks a lot!

Post-op transexuals had an opportunity to be in traditional relationships, but because the LGBT promoted "honesty" and "courage, they ruined it by telling their boyfriends that they used to be a boy which means she has to find a boyfriend during pre-op that is okay with it (which is harder now) and hope they stay a couple after post-op. So much unnecessary stress. But hey! Now that the "gay community" threw away the NSA/m4m scene, anything that is same-sex related will have "gay" and "relationship" tied to it.

Yeah. I'm soo done with NSA and am so glad everything "fem" or "sissy" about me just went away. Thank fucking god!

[Lickitstickit]

I really want a friendship that is ongoing. To say that it's not primarily sexual would be incorrect though. I don't think of men romantically in an emotional way. I think of men erotically. In between times of erotic play I'd like a friend to hang out with, primarily so that we could experience more times of intimate and creative sex. The one time hook up is typically done once every man involved cums. I've never had sex with a man where there was a round two. I'd love to spend the weekend or even a vacation with another man. Something I long for is early morning sex, waking up and sucking each other. But then having the entire day to hang out, get each other hot again, and to explore each other sexually.

I want to suck, fuck, kiss, lay around naked together, and be leisurely about it. A weekender with a man is a huge fantasy of mine. An ongoing sexual relationship with a man whom I can be friends with I say a real goal of mine.

[1LongWide1]

Sounds like heaven

[Fzmr9t]

I’ve had 1 timers and some that lasted over a few meetings. I prefer the ones that last more than 1 x because I kinda get into a groove as to what they like to do. I would like to share more than bodily fluids with someone. Dinner, movies, watching tv. Things of a non sexual nature to get to know that person on another level

[bopguy]

I totally agree even though I'm NOT "officially gay" I'd like to share other than sexual experiences. Get to really know a guy outside the bedroom

[delpark]

Mine have been just sex. I won't rule out having a deeper relationship with other men, I like the thought sharing more than sex.

[borntosuckcock]

For me, it’s just sex, I want to suck the guy off, swallow and leave. I’ve had a few guys over the years that I would suck on a regular basis, but never really had any personal interest in them.

[foundpuppy]

Agreed

[yeahso]

My attraction to other men is purely sexual. Yes, I could be capable of having emotional relations with another man, but not romantic relations. Emotional being I care about him the way I would a good friend of the same sex, he and I are having sex together, I have had similar relations with women.

[massbear]

Just sex: Get naked, blow each other, go on with our day. The only "relationship" I'd be interested in is a regular NSA suck buddy. All of my experiences with guys have been one and done.

[NJwood]

Sexual. I have a great relationship with my wife but she doesn’t have the cock I crave.

[Jazminedress]

I totally agree even though I'm NOT "officially gay" I'd like to share other than sexual experiences. Get to really know a guy outside the bedroom

It would be cool to have a friend with benefits to play some guitar with, ride motorcycles, more than just whip it out and clean up the mess

[hung4you]

Well for me I guess you could call it a relationship, for the last 3 years both my wife and I really trust my buddy Steve, he is safe, clean and extremely discreet. He and I have been involved for 5years and shared the wife for the last 3 years. We enjoy lots of M/M sex and share the wife at least once a week. When I travel I know she is in good hands as she often takes care of his needs when I’m away. His wife is a bitch and doesn’t give it up very much. You might say he is a welcome addition to the family.

[SilkyHoseLover]

My attraction to other men is purely sexual. Yes, I could be capable of having emotional relations with another man, but not romantic relations. Emotional being I care about him the way I would a good friend of the same sex, he and I are having sex together <snip>

Very succinct! That sums it up nicely for me, as well! :bowdown:

[MatthewX]

I am the same but I would not stop something that came from it as long as the guy knew it would never out. Out side of where I live I could be a little more open.

[Roxxi]

For me it is all about the sex. I am very attracted to men;s cocks, and have a strong desire to suck them. Have had those feelings since I was very young. If a man pulls out his cock in front of me I just can't resist sucking it :)~

[Footstep40]

I’ve been in a few long term relationships with guys. The longest was for 18 months, we lived together as “roommates” to people we weren’t out to. We were madly in love with each other, but sadly our relationship turned rather toxic so we broke up. I still love that man, probably always will! I was bi then and still am, I don’t think that the gender of the person who you are with defines your sexuality. I also don’t believe that the length and type do either.
Just my 2 cents.

[azfunguy1]

"regulars" are nice, but its usually one and done. Im not attracted to guy at all, but I do love dick. When I meet guys I dont want to know anything about there personal life at all, im just there for one thing.

[SandyStorm]

I would love to find me a married bi guy that in the same situation as me, someone who wife knows and approves of our bi sides. Someone you could invite over to get togethers with their spouse so its not like you are actually living 2 lives...

[tenni]

For me it is all about the sex. I am very attracted to men;s cocks, and have a strong desire to suck them. Have had those feelings since I was very young. If a man pulls out his cock in front of me I just can't resist sucking it :)~

Do you have the same lack of inhibition with women? (i.e. suck her tits etc.)

[lizard-lix]

It's all about friendship and sharing some good feelings and good times, with anyone of any gender that there is that connection with.

That said, so far, I have leaned more toward women romantically, and more toward guys as fuck buddies. But I've felt strongly about some of the men Ive been with and some of the women were total fuck buddies.

Damn, I guess I'm bi! :-)

[Realist]

Yep, LIZ, since my initials are DR, I am able to diagnose your symptoms....and it's true, Buddy, you've got a definite case of what is technically known as: ITDONTMATTERASLONGASYOUREBREATHIN!

[playful808]

I think I have it in me to love a man romantically, the way I have loved women. But I have yet to do so.
I have had sex with many guys, but only kissed a few - mostly smooth, young, twinks.

[tenni]

I think I have it in me to love a man romantically, the way I have loved women. But I have yet to do so.
I have had sex with many guys, but only kissed a few - mostly smooth, young, twinks.

I'm a bit surprised playful. Somehow, I thought that your bisexuality would be more rounded and equal. "love a man romantically" as well as women would make a relationship that is well rounded imo.

I must admit that I have had romantic feelings for both men and women. I'm not sure if it is deeper when the romantic feelings are between myself and a woman than me and a man. I know that it hurt deeper when a relationship with a woman ended. I have more personal permission to feel with a woman but the romance is there with a man...just different in some ways. i.e. I don't give flowers to a man ...lol

[Realist]

No, Tenni....I'd give a bottle of scotch, or a pocket knife, to a male lover on a special occasion.

An older fellow I used to see, years ago, gave me a new Fiat 600, for my birthday. I couldn't keep it, though...there were strings attached...I'd have to trade my soul for it!

I've never had a one-night stand with a guy, even in my youth. I like to build rapport, learn a person's likes and dislikes and then take it to the next level, if we 'clicked'.

I've enjoyed romantic relationships with both genders, but did have one relationship with a male friend, who only wanted the sex. Even though we were business partners for over 10 years, it never became romantic....but I would have, if he wanted to.

[hung4you]

For me i been sucking dick and swallowing for over 30 years, i find that most of my sexual buddies are just the same, we are in for the sex only. gender doesnt matter at all as all my buds are married and lead normal lives outside the privacy of our bedrooms. For me i have a high sex drive as do my buds, sucking cock or eating pussy is our kink. one of my favorite buds is 66 years old, he is old school when it comes to sex, that said he will fuck the hell out of his wife and come over to breed my ass. I love it honestly. He is my favorite anal partner, his older cock is always reliable and it takes him awhile to cum. He parks his dick at least once a week in my ass. As long as i am participating in sex, i don't think about the gender.

[bibliss]

The older I get, the more I appreciate and enjoy both men and women as sexual beings... and the more I enjoy and appreciate sex as a form of pleasure (and not as just another attachment practice, meant to neurotically cling to someone) the more I embrace all other aspects of life -- the longing, the sorrow, the pain and suffering, but also the unexpected joy, the impromptu celebrations that happen, often when I least expect it, the indiscriminate bounty that life has to offer.... food is more tasty, air is more invigorating, sights and sounds more vivid.

[loftycraig]

I really want a friendship that is ongoing. To say that it's not primarily sexual would be incorrect though. I don't think of men romantically in an emotional way. I think of men erotically. In between times of erotic play I'd like a friend to hang out with, primarily so that we could experience more times of intimate and creative sex. The one time hook up is typically done once every man involved cums. I've never had sex with a man where there was a round two. I'd love to spend the weekend or even a vacation with another man. Something I long for is early morning sex, waking up and sucking each other. But then having the entire day to hang out, get each other hot again, and to explore each other sexually.

I want to suck, fuck, kiss, lay around naked together, and be leisurely about it. A weekender with a man is a huge fantasy of mine. An ongoing sexual relationship with a man whom I can be friends with I say a real goal of mine. a long time dream to have a looonnng affair w/a sexy man.

[CockHummer]

I'm at a point in life where I'm ready for retirement, and I'd like to do some traveling and things. I have at times gotten incredibly horny imagining having a male friend that would like to travel with me. We could have fun traveling and seeing and doing interesting things, and then when the mood hit, which I imagine would be quite often, the zippers would come down and we'd have some good, hot cock-sucking fun, on top of everything else. That could be a blast, and I suspect it would become a very special relationship.

[BiEli]

In my case, I had a college buddy and we eventually became very close. Late one night, we were just hanging in his dorm room with the lights out listening to the stereo. It was turned down low because it was so late. We were sitting next to each other on his roommate's bed because that's where the speakers were. I suddenly had a very strong feeling that I should put my arm around him. I was scared to, but ultimately did. He immediately reciprocated. I knew we'd end up in bed at that moment, and suddenly had another strong feeling that I should kiss him. That one I chickened out on. We did go on to have sex a few times, but it never really clicked. I've regretted not kissing him ever since.

All of my same-sex encounters since have all been of the "it's just clean, healthy, erotic fun" sort. I'm passionately in love with my wife, so not looking for any serious entanglements anyway. A FWB situation sure would be nice, though. Maybe someday...

[Tag200]

I would rather have a steady male companion who is also married, and just for sex!!! I don't need any relationship hassles with the wife!!!

I agree with you; married and have had girlfriend and it’s jsit too complicated . Interested in ongoing suck buddy. I only like cock not attracted to men in any other way .. but I do like looking and touching and trying to suck cock

[BradInWisconsin]

It’s always blow-and-go, with the hope being for repeated sessions with the same partner. Having a cock to blow regularly is by far the best for me. I’ve only had one consistent partner to suck, largely because of my shyness outside the bedroom.

[Jozyxt]

I'm at a point in life where I'm ready for retirement, and I'd like to do some traveling and things. I have at times gotten incredibly horny imagining having a male friend that would like to travel with me. We could have fun traveling and seeing and doing interesting things, and then when the mood hit, which I imagine would be quite often, the zippers would come down and we'd have some good, hot cock-sucking fun, on top of everything else. That could be a blast, and I suspect it would become a very special relationship.

That would be a lot of fun to try. I'm definitely interested in a FWB arrangement. Camp, hike, cook, cock. Repeat.

[JordanCD]

In a perfect world I would like a regular male sex partner or two I was friends with.
Yep, it would be nice to have a few safe married buddies in the area to get together once in a while for a few beers, bullshit and suck/fuck each other when the wives are out.

[Footstep40]

Nothing better than a loving relationship with trust and communication. It’s absolutely amazing.

[Nocockyet]

I don't consider myself submissive, so the next part is going to sound contradictory. Part of the excitement for me is the thought of giving myself to someone, and knowing that I'm giving them the same kind of pleasure that a girl's pussy would give me. I don't want a romantic relationship, but I want to know, trust and like the person enough to "give myself away like that. Part of my journey here is to see if I'm really bisexual or do I just want a kinky new pleasure.

[rukiddingme]

Intimacy for me would certainly start with good friendship. Someone to golf with, have a beer, or watch a game.

[RisingBi]

In my fantasies I dream of having a regular fuck buddy at least, if not friends as well. I'm accepting my bisexuality, the gay part of me, more and more, so I have even fantasized about having a boyfriend. But I've never had romantic feelings for a guy yet, and I've not yet met a potential regular fuck buddy.

In the first 20 years it was all anonymous cocksucking in bathhouses, similar venues, and gay orgies. But after I fell in lust with this twink's ass in a bathhouse, and rimmed and fucked him (my first time), I've never been back to a sex venue and anonymous sex. That experience just turned on a light switch inside me, that I really am bisexual, and it's wonderful!

So for the last 7 years it's just been get-together's with guys in each other's homes who I meet online. You'd think that that would provide the opportunity to get to know each other and become regulars at least. But almost all of them have been shallow, one night stands. Only one guy I got together with twice.

There was just one other guy a few years ago that I got together with a bunch of times, who I really liked. With him I did more together, like dinner dates, watching TV together, and long talks. It was turning into a friendship that I enjoyed. But I unfortunately did not have romantic feelings for him, and since he had recently come out as a gay man and divorced his wife, that's what he was looking for. So it didn't work out with us. I so wished that I had romantic feelings for him, because he was perfect in every other way (well, maybe his very thick 9 inch cock was a little too big, because I really want to be fucked by another man someday). I really liked him. But alas....

So the search continues.

[Bi-Rõnin]

After 2 failed marriages, and my last mm encounter. If my fiance and I dont work out, id give it a thought

[proteindump]

At my age it is just the sex. Would I like a steady partner or couple, hell yes. One it is a lot safer and 2 you learn what they do and don't like. For now I would settle for any form of sex other than self gratification. Toledo is not very open so I am not having much luck.

[Bluehill]

With me, most sex with guys is lust and not love. I rarely have sex with the same guy twice and thrive on anonymous hookups!

There was a guy a long time ago who I had a repeat encounter with who I felt a real connection with. Sadly I backed away from a full relationship because he was100% gay and I still wanted female company. Perhaps if I’d have seen him agai. I would have ended up 100% gay....

[wifekinky4husband]

Yep, it would be nice to have a few safe married buddies in the area to get together once in a while for a few beers, bullshit and suck/fuck each other when the wives are out.

Whaaaaaa while the wives are out??? Heck I want to be THERE, watch, and help out! Gheeeezzzz Poor ladies, you are depriving them...

As for answering the initial question: we are about the sex. Of course you build a relationship as friends, it is the only way we know for the sex to be safer. We build trust, friendship, and then suck and fuck the heck out of one another. :) You can tell the more active I have gotten into our lifestyle the more blunt I have gotten. We do enjoy the company of the people we are with outside of sex but that is not the reason for the friendship, it is, was, and hopefully will always be about the sex. I hope romantic feelings never enter in, it would ruin the entire dynamics of it for us and so far so good. My husband and I have all that we need with each other. Specifically as for same gender - no way I am just not into women like that and my husband is not at all into men like that. I do things with the ladies to help the sex stay fun and flowing. My husband sex period and now thanks to me gets into cum and totally gets the whole getting your ass fucked & cummed in "how awesome that feels" thing. He has no need to do guys he has us females for all that.

[Cum1st]

I'd like to have a relationship with someone who's burping me from behind, stuffing my mouth, or taking it from me. I wouldn't want it to interfere with my wife and my's, but common interest(s) we could share along with affection and trust would be a prerequisite.

[averagejoe33]

I agree with you; married and have had girlfriend and it’s jsit too complicated . Interested in ongoing suck buddy. I only like cock not attracted to men in any other way .. but I do like looking and touching and trying to suck cock

I too am married and need no complications. Also love cock but not interested in other male play. Let's meet and look, touch and possibly suck some cock and become suck buddies. Let me know if interested.