Dealing With Age And Erectile Dysfunction

[bw299]

I am 61 and never thought I would ever be in this position. In my younger years I was a sexual dynamo. I loved everything to do with sex. My cock was average but nice; 6" and cut with a nice, mushroom head. I've always been a grower; my cock would shrink to 2" until called to action, then grow to a full-length, rock hard erection. I could get off multiple times a day and could control my orgasms. I would give up nice loads of cum and could do it repeatedly. In the past two years I have had medical problems and now find myself having difficulty performing sexually. Now my cock shrinks back into my pelvis and I'm lucky if I can get a 2", mediocre, firm erection out of it. Orgasms come with a great deal of work and difficulty, if at all, based on my ability to achieve a firm enough erection. If I can climax, my cum load won't amount to a 1/2 teaspoon. I have tried all kinds of stimulation; Viagra, Cialis, pornography...nothing seems to help. I feel doomed to being a sexual misfit and the thought of it is having a seriously detrimental effect on my male psyche.

My wife and I have had to find alternate ways to stimulate and satisfy her sexually. But she is also feeling the adverse effects of my sexual dysfunction. She loves to suck my cock, but my cock no longer responds to her stimulus. She loves to fuck, but I haven't been able to get a substantial enough erection to penetrate her in almost a year. We are both frustrated.

I love sucking cock, and most of my regular male partners would like to reciprocate. But I can't perform for them, either. Some are starting to lose interest in me because they can't fulfill their need to satisfy a man when they're with me.

I am starting to get depressed over this. I am considering going to my Urologist and discussing penile implant surgery.

I'm wondering if any other members have had or are having similar experiences and can relate to my situation. And, of course, I am open to any suggestions that any of you may have.

[elmwood7]

Talk to your doctor. Maybe he can help.

[bw299]

Talk to your doctor. Maybe he can help.

Not to be disrespectful, but Duh! I'm asking for laymen input from those with some experience!

[biwmtrucker44]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQuJxN9uP7w https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fMLiOPgyLik https://nutritionfacts.org/ try viewing these

[pole_smoker]

You're cut/mutilated that's why you have erectile dysfunction.



The United States, a nation with 4.5% of the world's population, consumes 47% of the world's Viagra (Pfizer's own figures). Turns out the same nation has been circumcising the majority of its male infants for generations.


A new study in the International Journal of Men’s Health shows that circumcised men have a much greater chance of suffering from erectile dysfunction (ED) than intact men, revealing what appears to be a significant acquisition vector. Other studies have previously observed that circumcision’s damage results in worsened erectile functioning, inability to maintain an erection, and reducing the glans sensitivity, including an overall penis sensitivity reduction by 75%. A recent study discovered that premature ejaculation is five times more likely when adjusted for erectile dysfunction and circumcision.


Moreover, in Israel- a country that routinely circumcises their baby boys for religious reasons- Viagra is so common there that the Pfizer pharmaceutical company asked for permission to market Viagra without a doctor's prescription- making it an over-the-counter medication.

[cslutt]

bw299, I understand your frustrations. I am a 5 time stroke survivor and have gone through a lot of the same problems. What made it worse is taking antidepressants a/c strokes; i'll just start crying when i didn't used to, get all emotional, etc. My stroke therapists talked to my doctors and he put me on Citalopram (e.g. Celexa®), 40 mg/daily. Stopped the crying and over-emotional, but also stopped the hardons, could not get one no matter what I did, and like you, I was a highly sexed huge blaster too. After two years I learned to control my emotional state enough to go off the med w/o my wife knowing and got to be able to get semi-hard, and with enough blowjob m/m pornos, be able to jerk off and cum, usually twice a month. I'm a little older, 66, but all sex should not stop at this age. Because of non-performance for the last couple years, I've not had any personal contact with any guy friends, but am looking for a discreet suck buddy. Wife is older, 71, and retired too, putting a big cramp on having some fun, plus I don't drive either; she has to transport me. We haven't fucked or touched or anything in years, as per her direction; she's had cancers and a prolapsed uterus so basically we are just each other's caregivers. I don't think it would go over very well to tell her, "Honey, drive me to so'n'so's house, he'll suck my cock and i'll cum in his mouth, then I'll suck his and he'll cum in my mouth, and would you wait outside unless you want to watch and maybe fuck yourself with a greased up dildo or vibrator or something, then fuck each of our assholes with it too?" Nooooo.... don't think so; it would be followed with her throwing my shit out of the house.

[curmwm57]

I am 61 and never thought I would ever be in this position. In my younger years I was a sexual dynamo. I loved everything to do with sex. My cock was average but nice; 6" and cut with a nice, mushroom head. I've always been a grower; my cock would shrink to 2" until called to action, then grow to a full-length, rock hard erection. I could get off multiple times a day and could control my orgasms. I would give up nice loads of cum and could do it repeatedly. In the past two years I have had medical problems and now find myself having difficulty performing sexually. Now my cock shrinks back into my pelvis and I'm lucky if I can get a 2", mediocre, firm erection out of it. Orgasms come with a great deal of work and difficulty, if at all, based on my ability to achieve a firm enough erection. If I can climax, my cum load won't amount to a 1/2 teaspoon. I have tried all kinds of stimulation; Viagra, Cialis, pornography...nothing seems to help. I feel doomed to being a sexual misfit and the thought of it is having a seriously detrimental effect on my male psyche.

My wife and I have had to find alternate ways to stimulate and satisfy her sexually. But she is also feeling the adverse effects of my sexual dysfunction. She loves to suck my cock, but my cock no longer responds to her stimulus. She loves to fuck, but I haven't been able to get a substantial enough erection to penetrate her in almost a year. We are both frustrated.

I love sucking cock, and most of my regular male partners would like to reciprocate. But I can't perform for them, either. Some are starting to lose interest in me because they can't fulfill their need to satisfy a man when they're with me.

I am starting to get depressed over this. I am considering going to my Urologist and discussing penile implant surgery.

I'm wondering if any other members have had or are having similar experiences and can relate to my situation. And, of course, I am open to any suggestions that any of you may have.

BW,

I too am in a similar situation. Not sure of your medical history, but mine stems from a heart condition and high blood pressure medicine. Between the meds and age (I'm guessing) is the root cause of my condition and I too have tried the ED meds out there with no real effect.

If you are taking any meds for heart related issues or blood pressure or for that matter type 2 diabetes, I would guess that would be the culprit.

As for a suggestion how to correct the ED issue, sorry to say, but I have not figured that out yet. I have had some success with diet and bringing my blood pressure down through diet and cutting back on my meds, but I don't recommend that you do it unsupervised... I would suggest (if blood pressure is n issue and you are taking BP meds) to talk to your doctor and try to figure out a way to get off the meds naturally...

If you are not on any meds for the above, you may want to get checked for diabetes or a heart condition.

Good luck...Wish you the best...

[bw299]

BW,

I too am in a similar situation. Not sure of your medical history, but mine stems from a heart condition and high blood pressure medicine. Between the meds and age (I'm guessing) is the root cause of my condition and I too have tried the ED meds out there with no real effect.

If you are taking any meds for heart related issues or blood pressure or for that matter type 2 diabetes, I would guess that would be the culprit.

As for a suggestion how to correct the ED issue, sorry to say, but I have not figured that out yet. I have had some success with diet and bringing my blood pressure down through diet and cutting back on my meds, but I don't recommend that you do it unsupervised... I would suggest (if blood pressure is n issue and you are taking BP meds) to talk to your doctor and try to figure out a way to get off the meds naturally...

If you are not on any meds for the above, you may want to get checked for diabetes or a heart condition.

Good luck...Wish you the best...

I've had 5 lower abdominal surgeries in the past 2 years; 4 of them major. My problem isn't meds or diabetes, its the fact that my muscle tissue is scarred and nerve endings/bundles damaged so badly that things just don't work so well. That is also why the Viagra and Cialis have no effect on me.

I've discussed the problems with my family physician, my GI surgeon, and my urologist. The only thing we haven't talked about is the penile implant. I would love some input from someone who has one. I've been to some blog sites, but they are all sanitized." I want the cold, hard truth! lol

[jem_is_bi]

I suggest 'edex' (alprostadil for injection). Yes you have to inject it in your penis. But, it works well and the injection needle is very thin and you inject the shaft which is not all that sensitive. You will maintain an erection for long enough to satisfy your partner. You can not use it more than twice a week. But, that is twice a week more than you get now. So, if blood is flowing to you dick, that medication will keep it there and make your dick hard for you and your partner's pleasure. I think it is expensive. But, if you have insurance, that may make it a reasonable alternative to nothing or a penis pump.
I do not personally use it. But, I benefit greatly, because it works on the dick I suck that had nerves through prostrate cut that control erection. An hour or more and I am too tired to continue sucking But, his dick is still hard for more action.

[earloftexas]

In my opinion it should be a criminal offense to circumcise an infant at birth. This is MY opinion. I am 82 and have had a wonderful life WITH my 4-skin intact. It has been jacked off over 5 MILLION strokes and still works perfectly!
Earl

[pole_smoker]

In my opinion it should be a criminal offense to circumcise an infant at birth. This is MY opinion. I am 82 and have had a wonderful life WITH my 4-skin intact. It has been jacked off over 5 MILLION strokes and still works perfectly!
Earl
We agree! :) ;) Circumcision is genital mutilation.

[bw299]

In my opinion it should be a criminal offense to circumcise an infant at birth. This is MY opinion. I am 82 and have had a wonderful life WITH my 4-skin intact. It has been jacked off over 5 MILLION strokes and still works perfectly!
Earl

What the HELL does that have to do with my post!?

[bw299]

I suggest 'edex' (alprostadil for injection). Yes you have to inject it in your penis. But, it works well and the injection needle is very thin and you inject the shaft which is not all that sensitive. You will maintain an erection for long enough to satisfy your partner. You can not use it more than twice a week. But, that is twice a week more than you get now. So, if blood is flowing to you dick, that medication will keep it there and make your dick hard for you and your partner's pleasure. I think it is expensive. But, if you have insurance, that may make it a reasonable alternative to nothing or a penis pump.
I do not personally use it. But, I benefit greatly, because it works on the dick I suck that had nerves through prostrate cut that control erection. An hour or more and I am too tired to continue sucking But, his dick is still hard for more action.

That is an option I haven't considered or explored. I am not needle phobic, so the thought of poking my cock with one doesn't frighten me. Twice a week would be more than I've gotten in the last year!

[pole_smoker]

What the HELL does that have to do with my post!?
We would be very angry as well if some quack doctor or our parents mutilated our genitals, as this causes erectile dysfunction and a whole other host of health issues. ;) :rolleyes:

[SilkyHoseLover]

I am 82 and have had a wonderful life WITH my 4-skin intact. It has been jacked off over 5 MILLION strokes and still works perfectly!You got a cycle counter on that thing? Cool! :eek2:

[Havasmoke]

I had the same problem with Celexa. Told Doc I wouldn't take it and switched to Wellbutrin. That works pretty well for depression with the effect on my orgasms.


bw299, I understand your frustrations. I am a 5 time stroke survivor and have gone through a lot of the same problems. What made it worse is taking antidepressants a/c strokes; i'll just start crying when i didn't used to, get all emotional, etc. My stroke therapists talked to my doctors and he put me on Citalopram (e.g. Celexa®), 40 mg/daily. Stopped the crying and over-emotional, but also stopped the hardons, could not get one no matter what I did, and like you, I was a highly sexed huge blaster too. After two years I learned to control my emotional state enough to go off the med w/o my wife knowing and got to be able to get semi-hard, and with enough blowjob m/m pornos, be able to jerk off and cum, usually twice a month. I'm a little older, 66, but all sex should not stop at this age. Because of non-performance for the last couple years, I've not had any personal contact with any guy friends, but am looking for a discreet suck buddy. Wife is older, 71, and retired too, putting a big cramp on having some fun, plus I don't drive either; she has to transport me. We haven't fucked or touched or anything in years, as per her direction; she's had cancers and a prolapsed uterus so basically we are just each other's caregivers. I don't think it would go over very well to tell her, "Honey, drive me to so'n'so's house, he'll suck my cock and i'll cum in his mouth, then I'll suck his and he'll cum in my mouth, and would you wait outside unless you want to watch and maybe fuck yourself with a greased up dildo or vibrator or something, then fuck each of our assholes with it too?" Nooooo.... don't think so; it would be followed with her throwing my shit out of the house.

[bw299]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mQuJxN9uP7w https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fMLiOPgyLik https://nutritionfacts.org/ try viewing these

Now that's interesting! I LOVE watermelon. However, the cause of my E D isn't from cholesterol-choked blood vessels. It's from DAMAGED blood vessels and nerve bundles.

[bw299]

I had the same problem with Celexa. Told Doc I wouldn't take it and switched to Wellbutrin. That works pretty well for depression with the effect on my orgasms.

I'm not taking any antidepressants; not taking anything other than a light dose of Lisenoprile, Vesicare, and Flomax. But glad the change in meds worked for you. I know a lot of meds can adversely affect sexual function.

[Neonaught]

I had a playmate who used Caverject (similar to edex) and he stayed rock hard for 5 hours on one injection!

[monaohio]

talk to your family doctor they will do something for you with your problem. I did and she sent me to another doctor he gave me sildenafil 20mg pills they work great. I get hard taking 5 pills for at least 36 hours I di go soft in that time frame and if my wife starts I get hard as a rock again taking the pills.

[bw299]

talk to your family doctor they will do something for you with your problem. I did and she sent me to another doctor he gave me sildenafil 20mg pills they work great. I get hard taking 5 pills for at least 36 hours I di go soft in that time frame and if my wife starts I get hard as a rock again taking the pills.

Thanks monaohio, but if you would have read my original post, you would know that Viagra and Cialis don't work for me. I have too much damage to blood vessels and nerve bundles in my pelvis.

[DrBimind]

I've had 5 lower abdominal surgeries in the past 2 years; 4 of them major. My problem isn't meds or diabetes, its the fact that my muscle tissue is scarred and nerve endings/bundles damaged so badly that things just don't work so well. That is also why the Viagra and Cialis have no effect on me.

I've discussed the problems with my family physician, my GI surgeon, and my urologist. The only thing we haven't talked about is the penile implant. I would love some input from someone who has one. I've been to some blog sites, but they are all sanitized." I want the cold, hard truth! lol

Yeah each individual is different....although my ED started after my diabeties I was having some problems and doc told after seeing my x-rays and other scans that my nerve damage from motorcycle wrecks was so bad he didn't know how I had preformed before...like everything medical, everybody's reactions may differ....

[Curiosity Satisfied]

I buy generic Viagra from India for about $1 each for 100 mg pills. A quarter pill insures that I will get hard with a gal or when blowing a regular.

[bw299]

I buy generic Viagra from India for about $1 each for 100 mg pills. A quarter pill insures that I will get hard with a gal or when blowing a regular.

My first Viagra was generic from India from an online pharmacy. The price was cheap but the quality was shitty. I would split them in half. One time I would get a rock hard erection that would last 4 hours, the next time I could barely get it up. The pills were inconsistent as hell.

[Drummerman]

I'm 62. I use to fuck for hours with couples. I would in my teens cum in 30sec. Even in my 20's and 30'sI would shoot while jacking off and hit my chin with a big load always. Now it can take me anywhere from 20min. to 1 1/2 hrs. to cum. And I can loose my erection unless constantly stimulated and even then while jerking off it comes and go's The load is not a lot especially if I cum a few days in a row. I'm a health freak diet & exercise. This is just part of ageing. I went to the theater in the ABS and the guy's my age can't even get an erection when I blow them and I'm a great cock sucker. I did have a woman blow me for 20min. before I shot.

[bw299]

Glad you're still able to perform, Drummerman, albeit not at the level you would like. At least your equipment still works!:)

What really troubles me is when I run into 70-80+ year-old guys that can still get a rock hard erection that points skyward, even if they can't shoot much of a load. it's humiliating:( One of my regulars is 76, gets a rock hard erection with little stimulation, oozes precum, and shoots a nice load. Lucky stiff!:)

[SilkyHoseLover]

The price was cheap but the quality was shitty. I would split them in half. One time I would get a rock hard erection that would last 4 hours, the next time I could barely get it up. The pills were inconsistent as hell.Not saying that this is necessarily your problem, but I have heard -- from a doctor -- that some medications should not be split under the assumption that you will get half the prescribed dose. In these situations, the active ingredient isn't evenly distributed within inert elements of the carrier material.

[bw299]

Not saying that this is necessarily your problem, but I have heard -- from a doctor -- that some medications should not be split under the assumption that you will get half the prescribed dose. In these situations, the active ingredient isn't evenly distributed within inert elements of the carrier material.

If you read one of my earlier posts, you'll find that I made the same comment. I had quality problems even with the whole pills from India.

[SilkyHoseLover]

If you read one of my earlier posts, you'll find that I made the same comment.
You seem to like using this phrase.

I did, in fact, read every one of your posts in this thread, and, probably, most of your posts elsewhere in the forum. Please direct me to the entry in which you made the 'same comment.'

I quoted the only content from your post that was even remotely similar to what I addressed, and it does not suggest that splitting the pills in half may not be advisable for the reason that I offered in an effort to impart more information that you and others might consider.

[bw299]

We would be very angry as well if some quack doctor or our parents mutilated our genitals, as this causes erectile dysfunction and a whole other host of health issues. ;) :rolleyes:

pole_smoker you are so full of shit I can smell you all the way from Indiana!

[bw299]

You seem to like using this phrase.

I did, in fact, read every one of your posts in this thread, and, probably, most of your posts elsewhere in the forum. Please direct me to the entry in which you made the 'same comment.'

I quoted the only content from your post that was even remotely similar to what I addressed, and it does not suggest that splitting the pills in half may not be advisable for the reason that I offered in an effort to impart more information that you and others might consider.

My humblest apologies, silkyhoselover. My comment where I referred to it being unwise to split ED pills was in another thread. But you are correct, I seem to use that phrase "If you read one of my earlier posts,..." because a lot of people posting on threads don't bother to read previous posts.

[pole_smoker]

pole_smoker you are so full of shit I can smell you all the way from Indiana!
Yup you would know all about shit since you are into scat. ;) We are correct that circumcision is nothing but genital mutilation and it does cause erectile dysfunction, and reduces penis size. :rolleyes: ;)

[SilkyHoseLover]

Apology not really necessary, but appreciated anyway. I understand your frustration with users firing from the hip without reading previous posts. In multi-page threads that are years-old, it's understandable that some may only visit the most recent posts, but if there are only 6 - 8 posts in a thread and a one is made where it's clear that someone just piped-up without knowing what had already been said, it's annoying.

This is especially irritating when you write to tech support or customer service on a website, providing specific details about an issue, and get a reply asking very basic questions that were already answered in the initial contact.

[NjbiGuy01]

What the HELL does that have to do with my post!?

Don't engage this asshole. He's a fucking nut job who should have been banned long ago.
He has an opinion on everything, he judges everyone, and he's just obnoxious...add to your blocked list.

[MorThan7]

I tried the generic Viagra from India, from the above link, and it wasn't very good. They did deliver in two weeks and included two real Viagra for free that worked better. I then went back to my supplier in Thailand for the next batch. They are much better but you have to wire them money, or use bitcoin, and they take about a month to deliver. PM me if you want the URL on the Thai source.

[bw299]

Don't engage this asshole. He's a fucking nut job who should have been banned long ago.
He has an opinion on everything, he judges everyone, and he's just obnoxious...add to your blocked list.

He's already on my blocked list, but for some reason this particular post didn't get blocked.

[bw299]

I tried the generic Viagra from India, from the above link, and it wasn't very good. They did deliver in two weeks and included two real Viagra for free that worked better. I then went back to my supplier in Thailand for the next batch. They are much better but you have to wire them money, or use bitcoin, and they take about a month to deliver. PM me if you want the URL on the Thai source.

Hmmm....wiring money sounds like a huge leap of faith.

[bw299]

silkyhoselover wrote "This is especially irritating when you write to tech support or customer service on a website, providing specific details about an issue, and get a reply asking very basic questions that were already answered in the initial contact."

I think that's the nature of the beast. Every IT tech support person I've ever dealt with, even within my own company, works that way. Then they don't understand why I get upset with them wasting my time and annoying the dogshit out of me!

[SilkyHoseLover]

I think that's the nature of the beast.
Sure seems that way... And it's just as bad when you try to contact them by phone. You get a voice navigation system, where you have to give identifying information - a phone number, street address, last 4 digits of your SSN or some combination of the above - and when a live person comes on the line, you have to supply the same info all over again. Irritating!

[bw299]

UPDATE. My urologist changed my BPH meds (from Vesicare to Myrbetriq) and I FINALLY got an erection. It took 100 mg of Sildenafil that left me with a gawd-awful headache, but it was well worth the pain. I got a good erection....twice in a 12-hour stretch, was able to orgasm and ejaculate with both erections, and had great sensitivity. All after pretty well surrendering to the assumption that the only solution for my surgically caused ED was an implant. I am so glad now that I don't have to go that route. For what it's worth, my cum didn't taste very good (Of course I ate it! What the hell else was I supposed to do with it!?). But I am hoping that it improves with more ejaculations(the plumbing has been a bit backed-up for a while-lol!).

Hallelujah I can play again!!!:bigrin:

[Kev-Bi-Maine]

I get hard but lose it too easily to fuck her with. I want to find a bi guy who can fuck her and me. Who we can share, both sucking him or her watching me suck him. I can still cum but not inside her. If we find a guy, he can cum in her, I'll clean it up after.

[bicureus]

I too am 61 and your experience, past and present, sounds so much like me.. I've tried a cock ring and penis pump with varying decrees of success. It's very frustrating especially when one my of partners is a doctor...they unfortunately didn't have all the answers but I'd start there. Good luck.

[bw299]

I get hard but lose it too easily to fuck her with. I want to find a bi guy who can fuck her and me. Who we can share, both sucking him or her watching me suck him. I can still cum but not inside her. If we find a guy, he can cum in her, I'll clean it up after.

At least your wife is willing to explore other options. Unfortunately mine just will not consider it. Good luck. BTW-I love creampies too!:oh:

[bw299]

I too am 61 and your experience, past and present, sounds so much like me.. I've tried a cock ring and penis pump with varying decrees of success. It's very frustrating especially when one my of partners is a doctor...they unfortunately didn't have all the answers but I'd start there. Good luck.

I feel for you. But keep in mind it's a journey. Keep trying different things/combinations. I was about to give up and go to a penile implant when all of a sudden things started working for me. Sometimes just the Sildenafil works for me, sometimes I have to add a cock ring, sometimes a penis pump and a cock ring and the Sildenafil (ALWAYS the Sildenafil). I still haven't been able to fuck the wife. For some reason I start to lose my erection once I penetrate her. Doctor says that may have something to do with the angle, so we're trying different positions. But the point is keep working at it.

[OlderBC1]

Okay, I'm 61 as well, & had similar problems a year or two ago. I started taking Force Factor Test X180 Ignite they sell at that store for gym rats to get their protein powders and such. I get it in the mail every month. It's a testosterone booster & fat burner. So much for the fat burner part. I take two capsules in the morning and two in evening. Supposed to take 2nd two at lunch. Anyway, after taking them for a month, then a year or two now, I get erections just reading sex stories, watching porno, ...or just thinking about it. While I don't shoot those long ropes of thick, white cum anymore, I do come a decent amount that's not as salty anymore. And my dick gets thick, hard wet and the usual stuff it used to do. So get some and try that. Not cheap, but deals can be had with the company marketing them. It does work, not miracles, but it gives you back that thick hard-on again.

[losangeles4all]

Well, I don't want to sound disrespectful here, but, since the thread is about a layman advice, I want to say this: try staying OFF the porn. Erection comes from imagination. Watching porn kills imagination. This, usually affects the young today. 20-y olds are having ED issues. The time needed to stay off porn before they can return to having an erection is proportional to the time they've spent watching porn (mileage), and, more importantly, inverse to the age they started to watch porn. Now, I understand that at 61, porn is not the only problem, however, staying off might still improve things, as much as it is possible at the given age. You brain must find it exciting to send the signal. Hope this might help.

[bikurinpa]

I buy generic Viagra from India for about $1 each for 100 mg pills. A quarter pill insures that I will get hard with a gal or when blowing a regular.
I have problem getting it up, on no meds of any kind, and have tried viagra, broken down to 1/4 pill but gives me a blasting headache and no woody!

[cwatt1]

There is a really good forum called Franktalk.org where the entire discussions are about ED issues. I have the same issue as many of you; I can get hard but can't maintain it. I am 67. One poster brought up Edex (or Caverject -- same thing really) which I have used. However, I am now using Tri-mix, which is far superior to alprostadil alone and more comfortable to inject. It has to be prescribed, of course, just as Edex does, but it contains three drugs -- alprostadil, papaverine, and phentolamine. It must be made by a compounding pharmacy, but if there is not one near you they will ship the vials to you at minimal cost.

[Tight1-4u]

I too have ed trouble.. I love sucking cock.. so now I am total bottom.. I sick and then give up my pussy.. I now love being fucked.. and I do so love my guy to breed me deep and seed my pussy

[bikurinpa]

There is a really good forum called Franktalk.org where the entire discussions are about ED issues. I have the same issue as many of you; I can get hard but can't maintain it. I am 67. One poster brought up Edex (or Caverject -- same thing really) which I have used. However, I am now using Tri-mix, which is far superior to alprostadil alone and more comfortable to inject. It has to be prescribed, of course, just as Edex does, but it contains three drugs -- alprostadil, papaverine, and phentolamine. It must be made by a compounding pharmacy, but if there is not one near you they will ship the vials to you at minimal cost.
I am sure there has to be a oral herbal supplement that does work, but weeding thru the thousands of the online scammers who want to auto bill you every month for 2 different bottles costing near 200.oo to find one that DOES work and be reasonable is nearly impossible. I tried posting in another thread to see what other guys have found to be worth wile but had poor results.

[cslutt]

I've had ED problem since my 40's. Of course the wife blamed herself, she was not desirable, blah blah. Totally untrue. I'd get hard but try to enter her and would go soft. We would occasionally be successful, but rarer and rarer. Then, in my 50's, I had a series of strokes (5 of them) and was put on anti-depressants, couldn't get hard for 3 years until I stopped taking them. I was depressed about the anti-depressants taking away my hardon, lol. Now, I can, with 2 weeks in between, get hard and cum jerking off watching bi porn on xhamster. Of course the wife stopped having sex a long time ago. She could care less, would rather watch old movies on TV. But I still love to cum, so I do what I gotta do. Have had a few friends over when she was gone and we sucked each other, but no happy endings, but provided pleasure to each of us.

[Christopher South]

Radical prostatectomy 2.5 years ago. My doctor suggested generic Viagra from a compounding pharmacy. it's cheaper than regular Viagra but you may not be able to cut it. I've been using Cialis from Canada Pharmacy and have had good results. 10mg every other day.

[Sundazzled]

As a former sexual dynamo, myself, I can say that you're experiencing is a very normal consequence of aging. At age 63, I struggle with the same thing. However, I find that Viagra works pretty well (I get the generic variety through a global pharmacy, as it's much cheaper.) The drawback, however, is timing. It takes about 30-40 minutes for most ED meds to have the desired effect. For that reason, I usually pop a pill before arriving at a play session. Daily dose Cialis works even better, if you can afford it, because it's already in your system. Thus, there's no waiting.

Another option, which works really well, but is decidedly more inconvenient is Caverject. This is a medication which is actually injected with a very tiny needle into the spongy tissue at the base of your penis. Aside from the minor discomfort, there's another disadvantage; the medication has to be kept in a freezer. Thus, it's really not an option for "away games." Also, with Caverject, Your erection doesn't do away tight after orgasm. The medication has to wear off before your hard-on subsides. (Maybe that's not a disadvantage after all. :-))
Another option that I've used to some effect are rubber cock rings, which prevent blood from flowing out the penis.

In my case, manual stimulation by my partner usually works well, although it usually requires a fair amount of stroking to get me even semi-hard without the assistance of a blue pill. My partner was very patient and played with me until I was semi-hard, but I was so worked up that I came seconds after he took my cock in his mouth.

[cwatt1]

Another option, which works really well, but is decidedly more inconvenient is Caverject. This is a medication which is actually injected with a very tiny needle into the spongy tissue at the base of your penis. Aside from the minor discomfort, there's another disadvantage; the medication has to be kept in a freezer. Thus, it's really not an option for "away games." Also, with Caverject, Your erection doesn't do away tight after orgasm. The medication has to wear off before your hard-on subsides. (Maybe that's not a disadvantage after all. :-))

Caverject and Edex come in kits consisting of the vial containing alprostadil powder and sterile water, plus the needle and plunger. The two ingredients are typically mixed inside the vial at the time of injection. Neither Caverject nor Edex needs to be kept frozen or refrigerated unless you pre-mix the powder and water beforehand so it's ready for use later.

I have used Edex before, but it does cause an ache and I find that, at least for me, it is not as effective as tri-mix (see my post above), plus there is much less of an ache with tri-mix. Tri-mix must be made by a compounding pharmacy and it does need to be kept frozen (or just refrigerated if used fairly soon). Generally you use standard insulin syringes to inject tri-mix.

[bw299]

Caverject and Edex come in kits consisting of the vial containing alprostadil powder and sterile water, plus the needle and plunger. The two ingredients are typically mixed inside the vial at the time of injection. Neither Caverject nor Edex needs to be kept frozen or refrigerated unless you pre-mix the powder and water beforehand so it's ready for use later.

I have used Edex before, but it does cause an ache and I find that, at least for me, it is not as effective as tri-mix (see my post above), plus there is much less of an ache with tri-mix. Tri-mix must be made by a compounding pharmacy and it does need to be kept frozen (or just refrigerated if used fairly soon). Generally you use standard insulin syringes to inject tri-mix.

I have heard of injectable meds for ED but haven't explored them yet. One of the questions on my list for the urologist when I see him today. Where do you get your Tri-Mix and what does it cost?

[cwatt1]

bw299, I get my Tri-mix from Mark Drugs, which is a compounding pharmacy located in Roselle, Illinois. Check them out at markdrugs.com. They are great people to work with. You live in Indiana although I'm not sure where. In any event, Mark Drugs will ship tri-mix after they manufacture it for you. As far as the cost, you'll have to check with them; my drug plan covers tri-mix so my cost is extremely reasonable.

You can also get the syringes through Mark Drugs, cotton swabs, special container for used needles, anything you're looking for. PM me if you'd like to discuss further.

[Bluehill]

Sex with my wife dwindled away to nothing many years ago. It was partly due to me being able to sustain an erection. I had a regular female lover for a few years and I rarely had issues when fucking her. My casual sexual encounters with guys went OK for the most part until recently. In the UK A pharmacy called Superdrug offer a discrete online service with branded and generic ED drugs. Low dose Viagra work for me.

BTW I am 63.

[rajones]

Being a submissive BI, my ED does not worry me at all. When I am with my wife I eat her pussy or play with toys. With men I am the bottom. So far everybody is happy!

[Neonaught]

100mg is twice the recommended dose so cut back to 50 and see if that helps.


UPDATE. My urologist changed my BPH meds (from Vesicare to Myrbetriq) and I FINALLY got an erection. It took 100 mg of Sildenafil that left me with a gawd-awful headache, but it was well worth the pain. I got a good erection....twice in a 12-hour stretch, was able to orgasm and ejaculate with both erections, and had great sensitivity. All after pretty well surrendering to the assumption that the only solution for my surgically caused ED was an implant. I am so glad now that I don't have to go that route. For what it's worth, my cum didn't taste very good (Of course I ate it! What the hell else was I supposed to do with it!?). But I am hoping that it improves with more ejaculations(the plumbing has been a bit backed-up for a while-lol!).

Hallelujah I can play again!!!:bigrin:

[softheart]

I am 61 and never thought I would ever be in this position. In my younger years I was a sexual dynamo. I loved everything to do with sex. My cock was average but nice; 6" and cut with a nice, mushroom head. I've always been a grower; my cock would shrink to 2" until called to action, then grow to a full-length, rock hard erection. I could get off multiple times a day and could control my orgasms. I would give up nice loads of cum and could do it repeatedly. In the past two years I have had medical problems and now find myself having difficulty performing sexually. Now my cock shrinks back into my pelvis and I'm lucky if I can get a 2", mediocre, firm erection out of it. Orgasms come with a great deal of work and difficulty, if at all, based on my ability to achieve a firm enough erection. If I can climax, my cum load won't amount to a 1/2 teaspoon. I have tried all kinds of stimulation; Viagra, Cialis, pornography...nothing seems to help. I feel doomed to being a sexual misfit and the thought of it is having a seriously detrimental effect on my male psyche.

My wife and I have had to find alternate ways to stimulate and satisfy her sexually. But she is also feeling the adverse effects of my sexual dysfunction. She loves to suck my cock, but my cock no longer responds to her stimulus. She loves to fuck, but I haven't been able to get a substantial enough erection to penetrate her in almost a year. We are both frustrated.

I love sucking cock, and most of my regular male partners would like to reciprocate. But I can't perform for them, either. Some are starting to lose interest in me because they can't fulfill their need to satisfy a man when they're with me.

I am starting to get depressed over this. I am considering going to my Urologist and discussing penile implant surgery.

I'm wondering if any other members have had or are having similar experiences and can relate to my situation. And, of course, I am open to any suggestions that any of you may have.

Talk to the doc. You don't knee to reveal you mess with men, he's a pro at dealing with ED and older men. That 50% of urologists business, the other 25% is vasectomies. BTW Have you tried Cialis? If not, you should. That shit works for me! An implant is far off. There is a shot you can take, also.

[bw299]

Talk to the doc. You don't knee to reveal you mess with men, he's a pro at dealing with ED and older men. That 50% of urologists business, the other 25% is vasectomies. BTW Have you tried Cialis? If not, you should. That shit works for me! An implant is far off. There is a shot you can take, also.

softheart if you had read all my posts, particularly my most recent, you would know that Cialis hasn't worked for me and that I have been consulting with my urologist.

I recently had a TURP (Trans-Urethral Resection of the Prostate) procedure done and that has improved blood flow to my penis. I am able to get semi-erect with Viagra (it takes a full 100 mg dose) and my erection keeps improving. The implant is off the table so to speak. If, once I have fully healed from the TURP procedure, my erection isn't adequately restored to allow penetration, then we are going to look at directly injecting Tri-Mix into my penis. Time will tell. But there is hope where once there was little.

[carlsachs]

You may want to try those herbal types that will help you with your problem. I heard that Maraton works well. You may also want to try Ginseng or Rhodiola Rosea. They work quite well for mild cases.

[Tight1-4u]

I had the same problem.. but always preferred bottoming to being top.. so total bottom it is and I must say that I love being sub bottom..

[curmwm57]

Sounds like you and I are in very similar situations other than the part where male partners are losing interest. Don't really have any...

I talked to my doctor and he prescribed Viagra on a trial basis (shit is expensive!) That didn't really work so tried Cialis. Although it seemed to work better, really not good enough. I actually bought a hollow strapon in hopes it would suffice, or at very least spark and idea in her head to fuck me with it... That didn't work either...

Right now I am at a loss...

Good luck my friend.


I am 61 and never thought I would ever be in this position. In my younger years I was a sexual dynamo. I loved everything to do with sex. My cock was average but nice; 6" and cut with a nice, mushroom head. I've always been a grower; my cock would shrink to 2" until called to action, then grow to a full-length, rock hard erection. I could get off multiple times a day and could control my orgasms. I would give up nice loads of cum and could do it repeatedly. In the past two years I have had medical problems and now find myself having difficulty performing sexually. Now my cock shrinks back into my pelvis and I'm lucky if I can get a 2", mediocre, firm erection out of it. Orgasms come with a great deal of work and difficulty, if at all, based on my ability to achieve a firm enough erection. If I can climax, my cum load won't amount to a 1/2 teaspoon. I have tried all kinds of stimulation; Viagra, Cialis, pornography...nothing seems to help. I feel doomed to being a sexual misfit and the thought of it is having a seriously detrimental effect on my male psyche.

My wife and I have had to find alternate ways to stimulate and satisfy her sexually. But she is also feeling the adverse effects of my sexual dysfunction. She loves to suck my cock, but my cock no longer responds to her stimulus. She loves to fuck, but I haven't been able to get a substantial enough erection to penetrate her in almost a year. We are both frustrated.

I love sucking cock, and most of my regular male partners would like to reciprocate. But I can't perform for them, either. Some are starting to lose interest in me because they can't fulfill their need to satisfy a man when they're with me.

I am starting to get depressed over this. I am considering going to my Urologist and discussing penile implant surgery.

I'm wondering if any other members have had or are having similar experiences and can relate to my situation. And, of course, I am open to any suggestions that any of you may have.

[TXLonestarTX69]

Okay, from the medical profession...

Diet, exercise and a healthy lifestyle are key. Followed by hormones. Guys go into "pause" as well. Not menopause, but andropause. Ever had your hormone levels checked? Baseline should have been 30 years ago at your age. Are you fat? If so, get active and get thinner. Does your diet suck? Learn to eat to live and not live to eat. Not only ED, but most every modern-day "disease" can be controlled the same way. They are all man made and can be man controlled.

See a physician and you will be a slave to pharmaceuticals. I know because I am a physician. Most of us suck. It's on you.

[BeauKnerr]

If I were Jewish, I would certainly become mohel so that I could perform circumcisions. I hear the pay is great and that you get to keep the tips.

[BeauKnerr]

On a more serious note, failure to launch can be caused by any of many factors, physiological, pshychogenic, or both. When you're young, getting a boner seems simple, but in fact, it is a very complex process with many steps. Break a link in the chain and you've got bone malfunction. The PDE5 inhibitors address one physiological link in the chain, but one which seems to be a problem for many men, because they are effective in a large percentage of men affected by ED. It sounds like you may have another issue, although you might continue to try the drugs while you sort it out. If/when, you are able to sprout wood again, the drugs may give a boost to ensure that it is "good wood". Lol

If you're on meds, do the research on which of those might cause low libido or interfere with sporting bone. One starting point may be to have a comprehensive lab test done to check your various hormone levels. Instead of wasting my time and $ on doctor's visit just to have him order them, I have often ordered my own (for various issues) to determine if I even need to see a doctor, and if so, which specialty. They're not cheap, but probably not much more expensive than the price of an office visit and doctor-ordered labs, depending on your insurance coverage. Also, if you have a flexible spending account, you can purchase these tests with tax free money. Below is a link to the one I've used. In fact, I'm about to have this one done again since I have extra FSA funds. I would probably add prolactin, since elevated levels of that can throw a wrench in your boner gears. There is a lot of good research and information on the web, so do your research and try to eliminate potential causes, so that you can narrow the focus if/when you finally see a doc.

https://www.privatemdlabs.com/lab_tests.php?view=all&show=2116&category=14&search=#2116

[BeauKnerr]

Oh yea, and in the event that you enjoy a little drinky-poo a lot, that's a good place to start. Men of all ages are familiar with an acute case of whiskey dick, but long-term heavy drinking can sideline your dick even when you're suffering through an episode of sobriety. The good news is that research has shown that this is generally reversible with abstinence, unless of course you've been rallying so hard that you've developed permanent damage to nerves, your testes, etc. Yea, alcohol is toxic to your balls. Hey, I'm a drinker, so I'm not judging. Just sayin'... : )

[mike r]

I can't medically take Viagra, am waiting for new insurance to approve testosterone and waiting on the mail for a penis pump. Nobody can say I'm not talking the issue...

[Spiro]

I have use edex a few times. It is true the hardon lasted four hours the first time, but you can lower the dose to get it to last less than an hour. As to giving myself an injection in my dick, very strange. Also the medicane must be kept in the refrigerator

[mercury69]

I too have found the problem OLD cock. I used Viagra for a while but it wasn’t very consistent so now I’m using Trimix-mix and it seems to be doing the job so far but either of those things needs mental help for the stimulation to of the cock to want to get hard.