Rhuth
Sep 4, 2006, 3:13 PM
Please forgive my presumption in offering a FAQ here. They are questions I have received in private messages and chat. I would appreciate corrections, input, and other points of view. Any other frequently asked questions I should include?
Q: How can you tell if a woman is attracted to you? How do you get her to start playing? How do you meet her to begin with?
A: How can you tell if a man is attracted to you? How do you get him to play? Kind of hard to define it, isn't it? But it really is not that different than how you can tell if a woman is attracted to you, and how you get her to play. You will find her the same way you found your man too. Check out this post (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?p=20001#post20001) I put up about a book (http://www.amazon.com/gp/explorer/0743258533/2/ref=pd_lpo_ase/104-8755690-8688737?ie=UTF8) I would recommend to you.
Q: How often do you get to have sex with a woman?
A: Sex with women, for me, comes about as frequently as sex with a man came when I was dating men. I get lots when I find someone, and I have dry spells between relationships. When the dry spells get too long, I go to strip clubs (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1307).
Q: Does your hubby join in or watch?
A: Hubby is rarely ever invited to join in or watch. The two times he did get to, it was under strict rules applied to him that was hardly satisfying for him. He was, however honored and grateful for those two opportunities, and relives them in his heart whenever he can.
You have to look at things from her point of view. Why would she feel excited at the idea of being a sex toy for an established couple? She wants to love and be loved, and there are plenty of men and women willing to offer her that love in addition to sex. So, when writing your personal ad, do not just talk about how you and your man want to have sex with a woman. What else do you have to offer her besides what everyone else is offering her?
When you meet a girl, it is fine to tell her your own fantasies. However, it is much more important to listen to hers. What is she really looking for? If what she wants does not match what you have to offer, never suggest that she give up her dreams for yours. That is abusive. A relationship is about compromise. What of your dreams are you willing to give up?
Q: But I need some now or I will go insane!
A: When you have the first flush of discovery in yourself, sometimes you just want to jump in and go wild. For that, I would suggest going to a strip club (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1307). The dancers will know just what you need, and just how to direct you to find it safely in your area. A girl searching for romance in a personal ad is not there to serve you, and is in danger of being severely hurt by someone just jumping in and going wild on her heart.
Once you are over the fury of discovery and exploration, step back and examine yourself. You are too crazy to do that right now. You are like the proverbial guy who can't think straight because that part of his body is doing too much of the thinking for him. Go take care of it... SAFELY (http://users.aber.ac.uk/scty04/en/resources/fss.shtml)... and then you can look into getting a relationship that is emotionally safe for both you and her.
Q: How can you tell if a woman is attracted to you? How do you get her to start playing? How do you meet her to begin with?
A: How can you tell if a man is attracted to you? How do you get him to play? Kind of hard to define it, isn't it? But it really is not that different than how you can tell if a woman is attracted to you, and how you get her to play. You will find her the same way you found your man too. Check out this post (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?p=20001#post20001) I put up about a book (http://www.amazon.com/gp/explorer/0743258533/2/ref=pd_lpo_ase/104-8755690-8688737?ie=UTF8) I would recommend to you.
Q: How often do you get to have sex with a woman?
A: Sex with women, for me, comes about as frequently as sex with a man came when I was dating men. I get lots when I find someone, and I have dry spells between relationships. When the dry spells get too long, I go to strip clubs (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1307).
Q: Does your hubby join in or watch?
A: Hubby is rarely ever invited to join in or watch. The two times he did get to, it was under strict rules applied to him that was hardly satisfying for him. He was, however honored and grateful for those two opportunities, and relives them in his heart whenever he can.
You have to look at things from her point of view. Why would she feel excited at the idea of being a sex toy for an established couple? She wants to love and be loved, and there are plenty of men and women willing to offer her that love in addition to sex. So, when writing your personal ad, do not just talk about how you and your man want to have sex with a woman. What else do you have to offer her besides what everyone else is offering her?
When you meet a girl, it is fine to tell her your own fantasies. However, it is much more important to listen to hers. What is she really looking for? If what she wants does not match what you have to offer, never suggest that she give up her dreams for yours. That is abusive. A relationship is about compromise. What of your dreams are you willing to give up?
Q: But I need some now or I will go insane!
A: When you have the first flush of discovery in yourself, sometimes you just want to jump in and go wild. For that, I would suggest going to a strip club (http://main.bisexual.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1307). The dancers will know just what you need, and just how to direct you to find it safely in your area. A girl searching for romance in a personal ad is not there to serve you, and is in danger of being severely hurt by someone just jumping in and going wild on her heart.
Once you are over the fury of discovery and exploration, step back and examine yourself. You are too crazy to do that right now. You are like the proverbial guy who can't think straight because that part of his body is doing too much of the thinking for him. Go take care of it... SAFELY (http://users.aber.ac.uk/scty04/en/resources/fss.shtml)... and then you can look into getting a relationship that is emotionally safe for both you and her.