Should I see if im bi cause my partner want 3 some

[Newbod]

I am suppose straight girl, always looked at girls and wondered though if i was bi, now partner wants 3 some with a bi girl, but unsure if i am should i try it on my own first, any advice helpful. thks

[Mrs.F]

This is something you need to find out on your own first. You should never be pressured into something because your partner wants it. To me a 3some would be way too much for a 1st time. But that is only my opinion and how I would feel!! :2cents:

Good luck!

[Tynary]

I don't really know its your own choice. You should not have a three some if you feel pressured. Maybe you should experiment on your on first but maybe you would feel better experimenting in a three some since then at least one person there is someone you know and trust. I guess it depends on your personnality.
Good luck with your decision. But I do recommend you experiment in some way if you feel you have bi inclinations. (remember bisexuality varies you could prefer men but still like women. It is a fluid sexuality) :bipride:

[canuckotter]

If you like the idea of the 3some because you will enjoy it, then great, have fun! :bigrin: And yes, I have known straight women who have enjoyed threesomes with other women, so you don't have to be bi to have fun that way. Probably would be more fun if you were bi, I dunno.

Like Mrs F said, probably a good idea to experiment on your own first. :)

[julie]

I am suppose straight girl, always looked at girls and wondered though if i was bi, now partner wants 3 some with a bi girl, but unsure if i am should i try it on my own first, any advice helpful. thks

Hey Newbod,

...Glad you found us :)

...I agree with the others that this is something you have to try to make sense of on your own, rather than following a partners lead...

...This is about no-one else but you sweet lady, and its confusing enough without having someone else telling you how to be, what being bisexual means etc... As you will no doubt have witnessed on here, the bisexual community is just as diverse as any other community.... and we all have our own differing experiences of what being bi means to us as individuals...

...I'm wondering if you may find attending a local bi-support group helpful?

http://www.bicommunitynews.co.uk

This is a UK website/publication edited by Bisexual.coms own lovely 'softfruit' from Northern England :bigrin:. The link includes lots of info you may find helpful as you begin to explore your own orientation, as well as a list of nationwide support groups.

Softfruit is also a pretty wise lady who has her finger on the pulse of everything to do with UK bi-culture... and i know she would be more than happy for you to private message her so as she may be able to (hopefully) point you in the right direction regards what may be available locally for you to explore your sexuality safely, and at your own pace...

I wish you much luck in your journey Newbod, whichever direction you choose to pursue from here ..

love Julie :female:

[redheadedwench]

i agree w/canuck. you can have a 3some w/out doing anything w/the other woman. you both could just focus on the guy, and then if you are so inclined-try something simple w/the woman, and if you like-run w/it. if not, just focus on him.

enjoy, but don't let him pressure you into something that you don't want/or feel comfortable with. :2cents:

[Herbwoman39]

I've got to agree with everybody else. You should probably experiment on your own first. Don't do something just because you feelpressured. Youshould only do this if YOU want to do it, not because someone else wants you to.

[anne27]

NEVER get involved in a threesome until you are absolutely sure it's something YOU want to do. I have heard too many horror stories of people getting talked into it, and it messing with their heads, their hearts, and their relationships.

If you want it, then go for it, but don't let anyone talk you into something when you're not 100% sure.

I'd say go for one on one first.

:2cents:

[DÆMØN]

In regards to threesies, hey give it a whirl.. mind you it doesn't mean you're bi either. Plenty of straights engage in threesies from time to time...

[Newbod]

Hi Julie, and eveyone thanks so much for the advice, I am pretty confused at the mo think I will do what most are advising and go on my own with a girl first before I go jumping into a 3some. thks again this site is great. :)

[deletetacount123]

I agree with everyone else... do a one on one FIRST... that way your more comfortable :-)
And please just do it with a girl that you can trust :-) Try to be a friend first then if something more happens and you want it to happen, go for it :-)

[Reprob8]

I am suppose straight girl, always looked at girls and wondered though if i was bi, now partner wants 3 some with a bi girl, but unsure if i am should i try it on my own first, any advice helpful. thks



Almost all men want a threesome at some point, it is a common fantasy but DO NOT DO IT just to make him happy. My wife would jokingly tell me that if I did it with her and a guy she would do a ffm (female, female, male), at the time I had not acknowledged taht I was bi and completely dismissed the idea but now it sounds like one hell of a deal.....

If you do have an attraction for women then I would suggest that you talk to people here, read the articles in the articles section (there is one on threesomes) and take your time. Bringing someone else into your bed can create allot of problems if you are not ready for it.

[deletetacount123]

Reprob said "Bringing someone else into your bed can create allot of problems if you are not ready for it."

I AGREE!!!
If your the kind that gets jealous easily, how would you feel if you watched your husband and another woman kissing, or touching, or something that sparks a jealously mark?? If that happens your not gonna have any fun anymore, you have to be REALLY ok with yourself and another woman AND your husband and another woman..... DO NOT do it just cause you want to make HIM happy. Do it cause you want to do it but test yourself first.. do a one on one first just to see if you enjoy it.

A lot of guys also might say they want a threesome (FFM) but most times its just "talk" and they aren't really serious, since it is a guy fantasy. All guys think it but only half will actually do it.

If you do go ahead with the threesome.... ASK first that if for some reason you or the other 2 suddenly become uncomfortable then it STOPS there. Do not force anything. :-)

Tasha

[Nara_lovely]

Another aspect if you do decide to go ahead with a 3...try to find a 'third' who knows what to expect; like Tasha said...strong emotions can well up when you see your partner with someone else. A third (either M or F) must be mature enough to see those emotions and be able to handle it with skill, diplomacy and ultimately respect the couple.

I've been the 'third' a few times...and as soon as I find out the male has been the one instigating...(ok sorry men but there are some sneaky guys who are in this for their own thrills despite what they say)..I let them know that I am not to be touched by him at all, their woman is the only one to get involved physically with me.
Funnily enough...the guy usually goes right off the idea and want to go elsewhere. Just a hint for checking out if their motives are for their female partner or not.

And due respect to those true gentlemen who do not fit the 'stereotype' and yes...unfortunately I have met too many of the sneaky-type.

[Avocado]

I think if you're not dure about your sexuality you shouldn't be pressured into it. Maybe experiment by yourself 1st? I don't know. There are various ways of trying to find out if you're bi (assuming you're not gay, but as long as you don't mind the thought of being gay and still fancy members of the opposite sex you probably aren't). Try lesbian porn, watching TV, maybe see if cyber does anything (I'd ask your bf for permission for the latter). As you walk down the street do you fancy any women? Trannies may give some initial clue as well. Remember you might fancy a very low number of women, so there's no real "test" that can be 100% proof. Use your imagination and see what you think you would or wouldn't like as well.

[Newbod]

Thanks for the advice advocado, have found a very nice girl & had 1st experience with her she can be trusted and will stay faithful. I really enjoyed my 1t time with her and we r now seeing each other. My bf knows about her and is pleased I am takin it slowly, I have discussed the issue of my feelings if we ever develop to a 3 some and he has given me cart blanch to say what he can and cannot do if anything, he may even watch. He is not bi but has already been into this as his previous gf was bi. Im going with the flow and so far its great never been so happy look what ive been missing.