Early Experience at SilverDaddies -- Pathetic? Funny? Or Both?

[SilkyHoseLover]

After dealing with craigslist for a couple of months, I decided I'd had enough frustration, so I opened a free SilverDaddies account on Friday, and posted a profile. I've already had a much better rate of receiving interesting inquiries and literate responses, and even already met a guy yesterday.

But I've also had the most absurd, clueless response I've yet seen on any forum, anywhere.

Here's the entire email thread, verbatim, except I'm omitting or changing the respondent's name, city and member number to protect his privacy. (His words are in Blue text, mine in Red.) This was an email that came in with the subject line 'sd'. I have to give him some credit -- at least he didn't make any spelling errors...

hi...jon here...50 centerline...would love to get together....if your wife would like to watch...that would be great as well.

I replied:

Hi,
Are you from SilverDaddies? If so, please give me your ID so that I can see your profile.

Thanks,

Silky

His response: 243620 (again, not his real ID, for privacy's sake...)

I went to the site, and looked up his profile by account number. It was filled out, from a standpoint that he checked a few boxes and supplied numbers for height/weight and other basic categories, but did not include a SINGLE word of textual information about himself, what he is looking for, or any interests he might have. NOT ONE SOLITARY WORD!

I was flabbergasted. I pondered whether to ignore this idiot, or waste my time trying to make him see how flawed his methodology is in finding someone to play with. So I figured, 'What the hell?' and dashed off the following:

My friend,

You've got to be kidding me.

I don't mean to sound like a prick, but there's absolutely no way that I would have the slightest interest in getting together with you. Why not? BECAUSE YOU HAVE NOT GIVEN ME ANY REASON TO BE INTERESTED!

Look at your first contact: not a single capital letter -- just a series of pedestrian sentence fragments. I had to GUESS that maybe you had seen my profile on SilverDaddies,com, although I should have taken a cue from the very-informative subject line -- 'sd'.

So I sent you a reply, asking if you were from SilverDaddies and what your user ID was. You replied '243620' I went to the site and searched for your profile only to find it essentially blank. Yeah, there's some basic stats, but not a single word about you, what you enjoy, what kind of guy you're looking for. NOT A WORD. NOTHING!!

How in the Hell can you expect anyone to be interested in you if you can't bother to try to sell yourself? That's absolutely pathetic. How many guys have written to you and said, 'Hey, bud -- nice profile, sounds like you and I might have something in common...'??? I realize that writing isn't everyone's strong point, but for crissakes, you have to write SOMETHING! And if you don't write anything in your profile, the least you could do, when you reach out to someone who has taken the time to try to craft something interesting, is to compliment that person and tell him what it is you found appealing about HIS profile, and tie that in with your own interests in some way. Basically, what you have done with me is blurted out "wanna fuck?" without bothering to make yourself sound at all interesting.

I just signed up on the site yesterday, and I met a guy today. Any idea how that happened? He read my profile, and left me a message saying that he liked what he'd read and complimented me on the pictures. I read his profile and learned a little bit about him, decided that maybe we'd match up well and we met for coffee this morning. It's not that hard at all. Neither of us is a 'professional writer'. We're guys who share common interests and take the time to communicate with each other.

Like I said, sorry if I'm coming off as a prick. Maybe this can be helpful for you in the future, if you honestly analyze what I've written here and examine the effort you've put forth. You may be a great guy, very desirable and fun to be with, but how is anyone to know? Your lack of effort doesn't speak well about the seriousness of your quest. You don't appear to give a shit.

The time stamp on my email was 8:24PM. Less than a minute later, with a timestamp of 8:25PM, I received this from him:

would you like to meet?

Submitted without comment. Unbelievable...

[BiLeo]

LOL, I guess he is a man of few words. Not a big talker :bigrin:

[jackbirdjay]

Sounds like a troll just looking to get off with out you. or he is scared to find out if he would like the gay side.

[microman]

Gee, I've had some luck at Silver Daddies. I've met a few guys but haven't been able to find a lasting connection and most have filled out their profile with a narrative. I agree with what you say, how do you know if you are interested if someone doesn't say something. I've also shared some "interesting" photos of myself. I have run into two problems. The first is men who don't show up for meetings and the second is small dick men. Oh, I'm not a size queen or anything like that. I'm endowed with 6 inches which won't get that many oohs and aahs. The average is 5.5 inches so I presume most men have at least 5 inches. Five inches or more is a fun size.

So, what does my profile read?

"Wow! Today I turned 70. I still feel like a kid is so many ways. My cock still gets hard, although sometimes Viagra helps.

"I'm a married bisexual male who is out to his wife. She knows what I do and is cool with it, but she doesn't wish to participate and doesn't want me to play at home.

"I didn't have any sex with another man until I was 50. It was just a guy who wanted to give me a blowjob. After he finished me, he asked me if I wanted to help him, so the rest is history. I was so satisfied with myself that I wanted to run out into the yard and yell, "I'm a cocksucker." Thankfully reason kicked in and I was able to restrain myself. I'm really not sure what my neighbors would have thought.

"My family is at that age where I don't have to hide my bisexuality. My kids are aware of their dad and could care less. My kids and wife are just glad that I'm around because we treat each other well. My oldest reminds me each June is Pride month, my month. Outside of my family, I am discrete.

"I enjoy camping and make several trips a year to Camp David in Florida. It's a great place for gay and bisexual men to get naked and enjoy each others company. If you've never been there you should give it a try. My profile picture was taken there.

"I've had a fantasy since I was in my teens to have sex with another man in front of a woman. So far that has been unfulfilled and my wife is not interested.

"HIV neg - 2016"

http://www.silverdaddies.com/1635770

[SilkyHoseLover]

Nice profile, microman! We're very much alike in many ways, although you're a little older than I am. I also began to enjoy M-M contact later in life, in my case, around 60. Before that, I had no inkling that I'd ever try, let alone enjoy, sexual contact with another man.

I had to chuckle about your excitement at discovering that you enjoyed sucking cock right away -- I was like that, too, and kinda raved about it on the way home with my wife and the guy I'd just sucked for my 'first time'. I remember saying, 'I don't see how anybody would not like sucking a dick!'

Another way where we differ is, although I'm out to my wife, we have not shared this with our children. My daughters may not care, but I'm sure my son would strongly disapprove and think ill of me.

Take care!

[SilkyHoseLover]

I also had to chuckle at another guy who sent me a message yesterday, complimenting me on my profile & pictures. (My profile is detailed and lengthy, just as I write here...) After reading his message, I checked out his profile, which ends with the following:

"Hey Guys, shorten up your profiles, nobody wants to read a book on here.......save something to talk about."

Didn't stop him from reading mine! Or, maybe he just read the first couple of lines and looked at the pictures. Sheesh...

[Yoyome100]

Nice profile microman. On Silverdaddies as well.

[TDH47]

Just joined thanks for letting me know this site is out there

[Coastocoast]

If you are looking for a hit and run, Craigslist and Silverdaddies are an easy place to find them. You can find more at either location, but you will need to wade through a lot of BS. Asking to get to know people to some means top/bottom/time/place. When you get one of those that is outside of what you are looking for politely decline and get used to doing it. I have gotten further with both locations and met a few people but have not found what I am looking for yet. I do not what bugs/drugs and drama but do want someone to see on a regular exclusive basis. It can be elusive and will take time but there are people out there if you are patient. Good luck and be careful.

[Country Guy]

I have a profile there too. There isn't much on it because I'm not quite to the point of meeting someone. Even though there is only basic info, it's been viewed over 100 times. I certainly see some guys I'd like to get to know better.

I'm out to the wife and she knows I'd like to have a FWB. As soon as I get some things straightened out, I'll be looking more seriously. I've had some pushy guys on AFF. I had to be pretty firm that I wasn't to the point that I wanted to meet.

[microman]

Yeah, you guys just like my action pictures in Silver Daddies. I was afraid of showing my face for a long time. Then it dawned on me that the only people there were guys looking for the same thing. Then I got a little braver thinking that action pictures wouldn't hurt either. I'm both an exhibitionist and voyeur, but being an exhibitionist has it's rules. You can't do it in front of someone who doesn't want to see it. I'd be naked all of the time, if I could. And being a voyeur is so much more fun seeing two or more natural people in real life.

For those looking to enjoy life a little better, consider gay camping. I like Camp David in Florida where I can be naked and read and anything else that happens is a plus. What is more manly than going camping with the guys? Camp David does have a more senior group of guys, especially during the week days. It's rustic at the end of a rugged road and has standard plugins for all types of recreational vehicles or tent sites with or without electricity. But I don't want to sell people on just Camp David. What I am surprised about is the number of locals who visit during the day who are married and their wives have no knowledge of what they are doing.

[chub-bi]

Joined Silverdaddies about 6 months ago and was amazed at the number of guys near me on there.
So I've met 9 guys in a short time, 4 are bottoms that just want to suck and be fucked I'm really not into anal as a top or bottom so they just suck me off. 3 guys are versatile like me and we've both enjoyed mutual sucking sessions.
Another guy is much younger and usually bottoms for older guys but his cock is so magnificent that i can't help myself, i turn into a total oral bottom slut when around him. He is the first guy I ve ever met that I literally want to beg him to fuck me and like i said I'm not into anal. Lastly a guy one town over from me is in the same boat as me in that his wife don't suck, but he has a big thick cut cock that I take care of every couple of weeks in his garage on saturday mornings.
So i highly recommend Silverdaddies if you are looking to play.

[cornholejoe]

i have met some men on sliverdaddies been on the site for 6 years most the ones i met i had a good time with

[rons_70]

I have been a member of Silver Daddies for several years and yet to meet the first person . I have had members from out of town say hello but not too much locally. I am not obese or ugly or any real undesirable trait but nothing has worked out. CL has a lot of fakes but then maybe I am too picky by wanting sane clean and ddf !! LOL

[Go fore it]

Most of the sites over the past three years have gone to Hell. more so have the ppl. Fakes, wantabes, liers, spammers, Filth. have used SD for about 12 years with some luck but all thoses i,ve met have vanished over the past few years. used CL for about 8 years & never have been able to post on it but can respond to post most of the time however about 4 months ago something changed & now No pics of any kind on post will show, Oh well 9 outs 10 are fakes any way. theres other sites but the same problems acure there too. if you get lucky enuff to meet someone count your lucky stars because its almost a thing of the past !. About 8 years ago my wife took a strong intrest in Uncut Cock, we had some luck meeting a few guys but even those have vanished & seeking new Uncut friends has almost become a dead search. We,re still thankful we have #1 friend with a Horse size cock we can have fun with when he,s not out of country Zaping Sand Camels.

[cuttin2dachase]

I've had very good luck on silverdaddies.com as well as squirt.org. I've had less luck on craigslist.org and adultfriendfinder.com and manhunt.net and swinglifestyle.com, but still met a few men from those sites here and there. I put myself out there on all sites, then wade through all the responses I get and weed out those types of guys the OP has called out. I never get discouraged and am always optimistic about meeting nice, clean, decent guys for fun sex. Most turn out to be one night stands, but a select few have become my semi-regular FWBs. I'm patient and it's worth staying cool and waiting for the right guys to find me and vice versa.

[Christopher South]

One thing I find irritating about Silverdaddies is the lack of location info.

I'll see some guys list "Boston" as their city but they are actually miles away. Sometimes there is no city listed.

I also think most guys don't pay for membership and are restricted to two emails a day. Anyone have a paid membership and is it worth it?

[12voltyV2.0]

I have gone and posted replies to postings on Craigslist, to no avail and posted up my own ads with no response--so I figure that CL is about worthless--haven't done Silverdaddies---but on other sites--I have gotten crazy replies such as what you got.

I think that you just have to put it down as being "par for the course" in joining such websites and is just something to be expected.

I wouldn't get too upset with this---and do expect that this is not the last time you will get such replies....

[OlderBC1]

I got into a conversation on here with a prospect, he wanted dick pic on cell phone. Usual way on mine has software glitch & I told him I'd try another way with a test pic. It seemed to work, but never got a msg or text, nothing. A man of few words, or? I was getting a weird feeling about it with the cell thing...

[Fzmr9t]

i have met some men on sliverdaddies been on the site for 6 years most the ones i met i had a good time with
I've met a few guys on silverdaddies more than on here or AFF. I've also had some "suck"sess on CL. But you have to wade through a lot

[sysper]

maybe not a big something else :cutelaugh
LOL, I guess he is a man of few words. Not a big talker :bigrin:

[sysper]

i've been checking out silverdaddies lately, seems more reliable than craigslist. i've even actually had a few responses but they haven't gone anywhere yet.

[pole_smoker]

What's funny is that you keep obsessing over the past and what happened with this guy on some hook up site.

Anyone else would have just moved on and not made a thread about it on a bisexual sex site like this one, or thought about it for a long time afterwards.

[DownBoy]

Silverdaddies is okay. I met a top trucker that I've been talking to. I'm still waiting on him to stop by in my area. He has an underground m4m sex club and he said he'd bring a couple of men with him when he does come here. I hope he comes through soon! Other than that, its horrible. There's no classifieds, no forums, and the chatroom is stupid.

Cruisingforsex.com is the last site of its kind (that I can think of). Its nothing but pure sex which I like. There's also ratings on local 'cruising spots' in all states. But its dying out. Which sucks! Dick.net was my all time fave but that got shut down.


NSA encounters is dying out! ;(

[MickeyFinn]

damn, last night I could not for the life of me remember the "silver daddies" moniker, and now I learn it's bogus anyway.

[MickeyFinn]

what have also disappeared are the everywhere trysting spots... very tough to find fun these days.

[MickeyFinn]

I used to leave the house at four, and get my dick wet three times before returning at eight-thirty. 'Course, I was younger and cuter then. :p

[InkDoc]

Been on SilverDaddies for several years now and find it is far and away better than craigslist -- and better than a lot of the other sites out there, particularly AFF and it's various permutations. Have had pretty good luck there and there seems to be fewer poseurs and crazies. You still have to put up with the teasers who don't really want to meet and, of course, the guys who are like-minded to you but live 1,000 miles away. Still, just seems to be more mature and like-minded bis there. You do have to put up with a small percentage of gay-only guys who are hostile to bis -- or want to preach that we're fooling ourselves and are really gay. But I've found fewer of those types on SD.

[DownBoy]

what have also disappeared are the everywhere trysting spots... very tough to find fun these days.
It really is! NSA is dying. Especially online. All the cruising type forums are gone.
But, there is one online NSA type site left and I have the owner of it wanting to fuck me lol.

[sysper]

i've found the sd chat is not very open to anything outside of gay sex to say the least........
Been on SilverDaddies for several years now and find it is far and away better than craigslist -- and better than a lot of the other sites out there, particularly AFF and it's various permutations. Have had pretty good luck there and there seems to be fewer poseurs and crazies. You still have to put up with the teasers who don't really want to meet and, of course, the guys who are like-minded to you but live 1,000 miles away. Still, just seems to be more mature and like-minded bis there. You do have to put up with a small percentage of gay-only guys who are hostile to bis -- or want to preach that we're fooling ourselves and are really gay. But I've found fewer of those types on SD.

[Kylookin4fun]

Hey thanks for your post tried Silver daddies already had some good responce

[SilkyHoseLover]

Hey thanks for your post tried Silver daddies already had some good responce
Since the initial post, I've had a very nice resonse from several SilverDaddies members, both in my local area and elsewhere in the country. I've met two men and sucked both of their cocks, and have had good email exchanges with several others that sound very promising and seem to align very closely with what I'm hoping to find for a satisfying long-term friendship.

I've also had another sensational Craigslist FAIL that was very strange in how it didn't happen. I'll write about that later, maybe, and give pole_smoker another reason to insult me, as if that causes me one iota of concern. :rolleyes: Ho hum...

[sysper]

i have never met anyone in person m f or couple from craigslist. doesn't seem to waste alot of my time so it's not a big deal, just wish it was different for once.
Since the initial post, I've had a very nice resonse from several SilverDaddies members, both in my local area and elsewhere in the country. I've met two men and sucked both of their cocks, and have had good email exchanges with several others that sound very promising and seem to align very closely with what I'm hoping to find for a satisfying long-term friendship.

I've also had another sensational Craigslist FAIL that was very strange in how it didn't happen. I'll write about that later, maybe, and give pole_smoker another reason to insult me, as if that causes me one iota of concern. :rolleyes: Ho hum...

[LeeNorCal]

Silverdaddies in my go to site to find local guys. While most are gay, there a quite a few bi married guys willing to chat, email, sext and meet. I've had more luck there than CL, Squirt and any other hookup site. Chat and messaging sucks, but because it's designed to filter out locations, it's much easier to find (mostly older) guys easily.

[Christopher South]

I've had decent success on Silverdaddies and also some flakes.

A lot of times I get no response from a guy that I have messaged. Part of the problem may be that they joined years ago and never came back, or they only visit a few times a year. (At least with craigslist if you see an ad, that guy is looking right now.). The messaging feature allows you to say "thanks but no thanks" without counting towards your two per day limit so they could at least do that.

Actually had a guy flake on me today from SD. He contacted me last week, wanted to meet, we exchanged details about each other, some G-rated pics and set up to meet today. I was to contact him this morning for his address and when I did he just never responded.

[cslutt]

You can put pole_smoker on your IGNORE list and have no bother from him!

[cslutt]

My experiences with Silverdaddies have been fine, met a lot of good people on there who share my interests, plus their chat function works, too, so I've gotten to chat several times too. Also have made good contacts on xhamster too and jerked off to many of their videos. Another great site is Chatstep, requires no enrollment and you can set up a private chat too beforehand; just tell your other chatter what the room name is to join beforehand (private room, make up some name and enter it, then he or she can enter too, you can have private group chats, plus share photos too!). www.chatstep.com simple!

[travelmanNW]

I've been on Silver Daddies for a few months and have meet some nice guys. Met one guy went to his place to play we had great fun he was single had a nice setup for watching porn. I enjoyed sucking him off he feed me a big load of cum it was great. Looking forward to playing some more.