Any tips for answering Craigslist ads

[MorThan7]

I have been frustrated trying to find a play pal. Craigslist has been a complete waste and I don't understand. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or if I should just try running my own ad, or perhaps just give up.

To start with I only respond to ads from guys that are local to my town. I don't answer ads from the 35 - 40 year olds that insist on younger men. I select ads looking for someone that fit what I am. Most interactions start with me describing why I answered the ad and I include my personal details. I usually get a one or two sentence response, which I answer directly. If I get another one or two sentence response I answer that promptly and directly. I will sometimes suggest meeting someplace in public or asking what additional information they would need from me to be comfortable meeting. At that point they usually go dark.

So what am I doing wrong? Should I answer in broken grammar or limit the communication to two sentences? Should I remove punctuation or capital letters? Is there a secret code or handshake I should be aware of?

[RicSLZ]

Try posting your own ad with your specifics and see what responses you get. Then modify it as you figure out what get's those responses that you want. I recently just posted an ad looking for young asian guys (I'm 56) just as a flyer not expecting a response, and I'll be meeting up with a twenty something twink Asian guy tonight for some play. Then again SC might be a little more closeted than the SF Bay Area.

[sysper]

lol i'd like to know the secret handshake too. but seriously this is my experiance with cl too. except i usually don't get responses from add's. i think most of the add's are fake just looking for email addresses or pix. but it doesn't cost me anything so i keep trying why not. like ric said u might wanna post ur own add & change it depending on what responses u get. btw ric have fun on ur hot date :)

[cuttin2dachase]

I agree with the other posters. I always had significantly more success finding men by placing ads on Craigslist rather than answering them. Obviously, you'll need to state your age, stats, and general location. Less obviously, be sure to state whether you can host or not. If you can't host, define the radius from your home that you are willing and able to travel and also state the days of the week and time/s of the day when you are most likely to be able to meet. Be open, honest and specific about what kind of guys you are looking for and what sexual activities you are interested in, as well as the ones you are not interested in. Write the ad to mirror the type of ad other guys write that attracts your interest. Use dashes of humor and humility so you don't appear cold or aloof or not sincere and serious about making something happen. Also you increase your chances very much if you post pics, especially of your body and cock.

I wouldn't absolutely give up searching other men's Craigslist ads because you never know when a guy you'd like to meet is looking for a guy like you to meet. Also, don't limit yourself to just Craigslist. There are many more sites out there geared for men looking for other men. It is is best to join and pay the nominal fee to get the most features and increase your chances, but almost all of them allow you to join for free and post a profile and pic/s and still get access to the ads and search tools. Most of them restrict the number of emails you can send or receive each day.

[bikurinpa]

I have been frustrated trying to find a play pal. Craigslist has been a complete waste and I don't understand. I was wondering if you guys had any tips or if I should just try running my own ad, or perhaps just give up.

To start with I only respond to ads from guys that are local to my town. I don't answer ads from the 35 - 40 year olds that insist on younger men. I select ads looking for someone that fit what I am. Most interactions start with me describing why I answered the ad and I include my personal details. I usually get a one or two sentence response, which I answer directly. If I get another one or two sentence response I answer that promptly and directly. I will sometimes suggest meeting someplace in public or asking what additional information they would need from me to be comfortable meeting. At that point they usually go dark.

So what am I doing wrong? Should I answer in broken grammar or limit the communication to two sentences? Should I remove punctuation or capital letters? Is there a secret code or handshake I should be aware of?
My experience with CL has been poor, But I think it is just my area here. Most guys in this area have age and looks hang ups, got to be a gym rat and be a model, and have a pic just to get to chat to find out if even are compatible. If you do find a ad that seems decent, most will not even reply back. I tried posting a ad of mine, Iget a lot who claim to be serious and found what they been looking for, but after a few emails, they completely go blank. I think this is a very common problem with CL, I think most guys get on it out of the spur of being horny, and want to chat, and once they get their rock off, they are gone!! Just real serious bull shippers. I be honest with you, I think you will have much better luck by being around one ur regular friends or someone in person and just by pure dumb luck a conversation leads into Bisexual way and clues are placed that spark interest in each other , would be much better chance then finding someone on CL.
I dont know why people on CL dongt have enough common courtesy to at least reply back when message them, If someone takes the time to type out a legit message, I will reply back even if it is just to thank them for time messaging and tell then we wont work out. If I message someone and they dont reply back, I will flag their ads, get them removed!

[bw299]

Post, don't answer. That way you have more control over what you get and it minimizes the chance for spam, scam, and fakers.

[csreef]

If you are frustrated by using Craigslist to find a "Play Partner" , why don't you use Match.com . Its free, easy to set up and you'll see people in your area....

Also try OKCupid.com ...Its worth a try..

A.

[sysper]

what frustrates me the most is i've never ever gotton a reply from a m/f couple!!! :(

[csreef]

what frustrates me the most is i've never ever gotton a reply from a m/f couple!!! :(

Oh they are out there,... you've just got to keep looking....Try a Swingers web site.

[sysper]

thanks for the tip :) would be nice to spend sometime with a couple, open up there bed to me
Oh they are out there,... you've just got to keep looking....Try a Swingers web site.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I've only recently begun to actively look for a play pal, and my experience with craigslist echoes most of what's been written to this point. MorThan7's original post is one that I could have easily written, myself. Although I could add to it, there's not a lot of point in it. Basically, it appears that craigslist is a sewer. filled with fakes, flakes and inconsiderate assholes. Nothing is 100%, but the majority of users I've attempted to interact with fit within those 3 categories.

As a couple of previous posts suggest, I have considered creating my own ad to see if that improves my luck. I do have a profile on FetLife, but that's a longer-term proposition that lacks the immediacy of craigslist. I'm not in a particular hurry -- in fact, I prefer to take some time to get to know someone before hopping into bed with him. But the sooner this process starts, the sooner we have fun with each other.

Sign....

[bikurinpa]

If you are frustrated by using Craigslist to find a "Play Partner" , why don't you use Match.com . Its free, easy to set up and you'll see people in your area....

Also try OKCupid.com ...Its worth a try..

A.

Match.com and okcupid are NOT free sites. They are also full of abandoned profiles from people who thought it was free but to find out they can do shit or reply to no one and abandon it.

[mtnmen2]

I have never had any luck answering ads on craigslist, but have always gotten a reply from placing an ad in the M/M. I usually get a fair amount of replies and once you have sorted thru the bullshitters, I almost always have hooked up. Just be specific in what you want.