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DÆMØN
Jul 7, 2005, 8:33 PM
POLYAMORY: A lifestyle in which one is involved in or open to two or more sexual relationships (whether or not one is involved in a primary relationship) and in which one also strives to develop and maintain an emotional connectedness and intimacy with most or all of one's lovers, informing each lover at least that one has or may have other lover(s). Distinguished from swinging by more emphasis on emotional connectedness than on physical sex. A polyamorous group larger than two may pursue an open relationship or polyfidelity. Adjective: "polyamorous". Note: There are many variations of polyamory; some examples (there are others) include (1) primary groups larger than two (triads, quads, etc.), (2) couple-to-couple dating, and (3) secondary relationships by members of a primary couple or group.

IMHO, and It appears very widespread particularly among Bisexuals; though not exclusively. I'm wondering about various individual opinions/experiences on the Poly lovestyle in relation to ones Bisexual choices as a lifestyle aspect of being Bi.

For those of you who wonder about the colors on my avatar: See Jim Evans' Polyamory Pride Flag http://www.isomedia.com/homes/jene/flag.html I just adapted the color/symbol scheme to a standard ILY ( I Love You ) hand to signify that I'm Deaf-Bi-Poly heh.

twosides
Jul 7, 2005, 9:06 PM
Long before I even thought about being bisexual, I thought the idea of polyamory was a perfect idea. I was an adolescent after the late 60's / early 70's "free love" era. While I was programmed to think that this behavior was somehow wrong, and therefore personally unexplored, I internally processed it as a viable relationship possibility.

I just looked at it as a question of "Why not? Shouldn't we be able to love all those who are in our lives. And if the person I love loves someone else, shouldn't we be able to find enough similar interests and philosophies among the three of us that we could take the relationship to a higher level?"

Now that I identify as somewhere in the middle, I look for this practice to be part of my life. Still, there are the painfully real issues of past programming, social acceptance, and just plain jealousy that are going to crop up. But, it's worth the effort if we can somehow bring a whole love awareness to a public that is sorely lacking in a partial love reality.

DÆMØN
Jul 13, 2005, 6:15 AM
Beyond Same Sex Marriage - Legal Recognition for Multipartner Relationships
by Heather Kitching, Vancouver, BC
http://www.bimagazine.org/nonfict/pages/feature4.html

DÆMØN
Jul 13, 2005, 6:35 AM
"Poly now is where GLBT was 10 or 15 years ago," says Fleckenstein. "Part of the problem is that the poly community is much more firmly closeted than the GLBT community is." (BiMagazine) www.bimagazine.org/

hypershot
Jul 13, 2005, 11:53 AM
I dont quite know what the topic answer is to this thread...but I'm all for Bisexual relationships...a bf and gf at the same time...as long as they know about and are ok with each other too...

DÆMØN
Jul 14, 2005, 6:43 PM
Loving More Magazine online http://www.lovemore.com/

Deaf Polyamory Society http://hometown.aol.com/deafpolylife/
RESOURCES

ALT. Polyamory : http://www.polyamory.org/