Have I crossed the line?

[Rhuth]

So, I have a crush on someone unattainable. That is normal, right?

Besides, such crushes are much more entertaining now that I am married. I swoon. I fanaticize. I get myself all riled up, and then take it all out on a very satisfied hubby. Hubby even knows about it and teases me with it to get me riled up. Eventually I get over it, and the unattainable person never knows that they were fantasy fodder for a while.

So, one afternoon I type my unattainable crush’s name in Google to see what is there. That is normal, right?

But I find a picture of her.

Now, mind you this is not a naked picture or anything. This is a headshot she uses on her resume for finding jobs.

So, I am masturbating to her picture all the time now. Is that normal?

Some of you guys have written me about some, shall we say, creative things you do with the pictures I put up on this site. I am okay with that. I am flattered by it. That is one of the reasons why I put the pictures up.

But this girl did not put her image up for that reason. On one hand I feel like I am being disrespectful and creepy. On the other hand… well never mind where the other hand is. The image just makes me hot because it makes me think of her and everything I like about her.

Have I crossed the line from normal crush to freaky stalker lady? Did I cross it before by indulging the crush? Am I close to crossing it if I do something else?

[trip1]

I don't think any lines have been crossed. If you saw someone walking down the street everyday and you were really turned on by them so what if you play and get off by yourself later. Thats your time and not anyone elses. I look at your pic's and what I do I'll never tell LOL...Did I say that???

[Azrael]

I really don't think you're creepy or stalkerish. Perhaps a tad masochistic, but I'm not one to talk as I'm regularly in the habit of getting all hung up on totally unavailable people, be they men or women ;)

[Herbwoman39]

Nooo, I wouldn't call that stalker behavior. I think trip had it right. It's about the same as fantasizing about someone you see on the street or masturbating to a photo you see on here.

No harm no foul.

And yeah, I know exactly what you mean about crushes. My newest lives totally on the other side of the country and she doesn't even know I exist (sigh). It reminds me of high school. :(

[Curious2inOhio]

These are thoughts and actions that guys do all the time, that fact that woman do it to doesn't surprise me. I tease my wife about woman she can't have and I like your husband have reaped the rewards too. I wouldn't give this issue another thought, unless its with your other hand. LOL

P.S.
Your number 7 picture has probably been used by as many woman as men, hopefully she was one of them. :)

[Aleksandra]

Rhuth, you didn't cross any normal line.
I don't see any reason to think like that, because someone's beauty is there to admire, to raise up your sexuality, even it stay only fantasy.

Look at me and my pictures. I know that i'm looking good. And a lot of ppl on this site did told me, guys and girls that they masturbating looking my pics.
First of all I think that is offending, and if they do really like me, there is no reason then to insult me to come over and told me things like that.
As long it's that masturabing on some pics discret, than it is ok.

So simply I don't see any reason why you should feel like stalker at all only because you like someone. You should be happy if someone brings you fellings like that, to reach deep into your imagination and fantasies.

I looked all your pics, and yes, you are definitly very attractive Lady, but you are most prettiest on the picture in hotel in Krakow over the day. You look like a Goddess there and I can only stare at that picture for hours, without any lust, because, simple, I think you look amazing on that one, and like you expressed your whole personality on that picture.

Aleksandra.

[Rhuth]

Okay. I feel reassured. Thank you all!

*shows Azrael her masochist membership card* Hey, I got one too! Lol

Yes, Herbwoman, the bitter parts remind me a bit too much of that time of life I would rather forget… hey wait… I am on the other side of the country from you! *hopeful look* You exist! You exist!

I have the distinct feeling Curious2 is teasing me with the P.S. in husbandly camaraderie with my hubby. I’m sure he’ll thank you tonight. Lol Then I’ll have four hands to deal with!

Aleksandra, thank you for your poetic reassurances. You picked my husband’s favorite photo. He took it just before leaving me in Poland to come here and be alone. He says that picture helped him survive. Of course he might have survived even better if he ate a meal or two while I was gone too!

Thank you for also pointing out that not everyone likes to be told that something is being done with his or her picture. For you, that is crossing a line, and I should keep that in mind if not for this crush, then the next one. I might not have thought to keep quiet about it, because I do like to hear about it. *winks at trip*

[LouiseBrookslover]

Naw, you're just creative. Most people wouldn't do what you did, but it doesn't mean it's malicious or anything. BTW, it sounds like something I would do.

[deletetacount123]

Hi :-)

Its not stalking..... now, if you had all these pictures of her on the wall, followed her secretly taking more pictures..... then thats stalking :-)

Having one or 2 is nothing. What you do is your business as long as its in private of course :-)

If you think masturbating to your crush's picture that is only a headshot for a job resume is stalking..... then I must one too..... I have had very real like sex dreams of my crush a couple of times!!!!
Im still trying to figure out if its just me or a peek of possibly the future cause in it, it always seems as if she started it. (the kissing, touching....etc)

Im going back to my corner now :-) Till someone says Im not a stalker either lol

Tasha

[DiamondDog]

I don't think that you've "crossed the line" or anything.
People masturbate to other people. End of story.
My friend used to j/o to his girlfriend's HS yearbook picture.
I've gotten off to pictures of close friends, and had vivid sex dreams about them.

I've also gotten REALLY into people who I can't have now; but who I've had before.

[redheadedwench]

i agree w/tasha. also, building a shrine to her, would also be considered stalking.-lol :eek:

i also seem to have a tendency to get crushes on unattainable and/or straight women. so, if anyone figures out how to delete that habit-please, please let me know.

btw-your pics are very good. (atleast you're brave and confident enough to put up pics, where as i am not. :( )

tasha-you're not a stalker either. :kay:

[steve10557]

I'm sure there's nothing wrong with a little mild stalking. It's when it turns into an obsession that its damaging, for the stalker as much as the stalked. But being a creative fantasist isn't doing any harm, a picture on the screen is just a curious arrangement of RGB pixels after all, it's what we feel in our own heads about the subject that counts. Of course I had to have a look at your pictures!

_________
"When in Rome, chase a Roman!"

[Rhuth]

Lol And here I was agonizing over whether book-marking the page was going too far! Here’s a list:

Informing the crush: Bad
Creativity: Good (LouiseBrookslover)
Wall of pictures: Bad
Secretly taking more: Bad
Masturbation: Good
Shrine: Bad
Obsession: Bad (thanks Steve)

*steals an innocent smooch from TashaSW* …What? The red head cleared her, so she can’t stalk me for it!

Oh, I know what you mean, DiamondDog! You’ve been with them before, and you have a memory that just burns… Hmmm… Where’s that Google bar?

Confidence has nothing to do with it, redheadedwench. My mother’s family is from Misery… I mean Missouri. *smooch* Stay safe, and rest assured that your beauty is shining through your writing. ;)

[anne27]

Oooooo, a freaky stalker lady with pics... and sexy ones at that... mind if I lust a little over the pics and stalk you a while?? ;)