Craigslist?

[Itsmejj]

I am new to all of this but extremely curious.i am married and woukd like who ever i meet to be top so i know it will stay discrete. I have been looking on Craigslist for awhile but never pulled the trigger has anyone ever had luck and if so can some of you give a few tips for a first timer. I am really not sure what i am into yet either will that be a problem?

[Shefford]

Hi , welcome . I was in your situation less then a year ago. Married 40 years but under 60 and I became curious on what it would be like to suck cock. I had to be very discreet , what I did was talked to various people like we are doing now and they directed me to a local ABS adult book store or theater. Where I live if you go in the morning or around lunch time you have mostly married guys wanting the same thing , you go in you can do almost anything it is very dimly lit discreet no one knows who you are or cares. Craig's list is not the way I would go but that's me. Check out if you have any or these in your area, you can go in the first few times and just watch and see if that's what you want , good luck let us know how you make out I'm sure you will get some good advice here

[Itsmejj]

Thank you. But i always thought those back rooms were just to watch videos?

[Shefford]

The videos are there and might help setting the mood but trust me no one is there to watch videos ! Go for it but once you start it's addicting! Have fun

[Itsmejj]

Ok but how do i know that they are really there for some action or to just watch the video?i am sorry for all the questions i just don't want to get embarrassed or offend anyone. Would it be best if i went and for a room alone?and maybe someone comes in. Again sorry for all the questions.

[Shefford]

No problem , I was like you in November, I met a guy I was corresponding with on another site Zoig. I was asking about glory holes , after a few weeks I met at this place which features an adult store and what they call theatres . You pay $10 for the theater and go in , it is about five rooms with TVs on the walls playing all kinds of porn. Some rooms are straight some feature gay and about 5 glory hole booths. When I walked in the first sight I see is a guy sitting on a leather couch and some guy is on his knees sucking him . I thought are you kidding me but that's how it is . Depending on what you want to do is how you act. If I want to suck cock I'll sit on one of the many couches and sit on the edge , guys will come over and if you don't wave them off they'll take out there cock , at that point the rest is up to you. Remember it is dimly lit. Another option is the glory hole booth , go in close the door and at some point a cock will come through a hole in the wall ,it is yours to suck or not. The best way is to go and just watch ,you won't be alone.
I have sucked over 85 cocks since November , like I said it's addicting

[Itsmejj]

That sounds so nerve recking. It took me forever just to join and post something on here lol. I wish i could meet a cool guy have some drinks and see what happends then maybe venture off to something like that. But it seems like trust and the discrete thing really holds me back. Do u know or does anyone know a good spot is to meet even on here since obviously some are in the same boat as me. I want to try things but i guess just dont know what action to take to get there. I thought Craigslist was the answer but from talking to u i see thats not it.

[j4u42]

Well Hi ItsmeJJ,
For one thing you might post a profile here. For another, you might respond to any inquiries you receive on this site. No profile makes it difficult for one to want to make contact. And if and when they do, please reply. After all, at that point your still not committed to doing anything and the correspondence you might establish might be enlightening. Please reply thank you

[querty]

My advice is to take it slow and steady. Dont feel bad about taking your time. You want your first experience (and all the subsequent ones of course) to be a positive one.


It took years for me to navigate to my first experience. Paramount for me was to be able to trust and be comfortable with the person. I was fortunate to have a close friend as a mentor.


As for adult book stores and theaters, not my thing. I think they are too risky, especially when it comes to STD's

[xxxcjs]

Ugh I'm going through this right now .

[Itsmejj]

It's nice to know i am not alone.are there any tips you guys could give for a first timer? It may help more people then just me

[Fzmr9t]

I've met some very nice guys on CR and on other sites, but for me safety and discretion are my two main concerns. if i look at CR i use an email address that is not my usual email address (use that for most sites that i visit BTW). also I don't give out name or phone # until I'm very comfortable with that person. basically i try to chat it up a bit to see what their likes/dislikes are and if they correspond with mine I try to meet for the 1st time in a public place for a drink or just to chat. a person on the 'up and up' won't have an issue with that. pictures are often requested, but i rarely just send someone a pic of me (for obvious reasons) but what you're comfortable with is up to you.
i also put out profiles on some of the sites i visit and like. that way you can hopefully attempt to attract someone that has/wants what you're looking for, which will cut down on the amount of to and fro chit chat.

i've also gone the ABS route, and when i did, i usually went in with plenty of tokens and left the door unlocked and flipped on a video (I know not the safest thing to do, which is why i haven't been there in a long while). anyway, if you're in a booth watching the vids and someone comes in and sees what they like you can usually get some sort of action.

good luck with your search, and be comfortable with whatever surroundings you find yourself in. If you're not sure, don't do it.

[Itsmejj]

Are they any other sites that younwould recommend? Or is that against the rules? And can u trade pics on here with people? Maybe that will help to break some ice and nerves or is that usally a thing u do after you chit chat a bit? Like i said i am new to this whole thing.

[Fzmr9t]

Are they any other sites that younwould recommend? Or is that against the rules? And can u trade pics on here with people? Maybe that will help to break some ice and nerves or is that usally a thing u do after you chit chat a bit? Like i said i am new to this whole thing.
I believe that there are A LOT of members on here who've shared photos. Since I'm older, also go to silver daddies and have the same profile name on there as well

[Itsmejj]

Ok well a couple people private messaged me so i am also doing that. Butni juat want to make sure i dont offend anyone and i think i will do a little more with profile not sure about pics but who knows. I know i asked but any pointers once i do meet a person. And if any one want to provate message mw some pointers i am all ears. And i appreciate all of you so far helping out hopefully we get more reaponses i am loving it so far

[Fzmr9t]

Ok well a couple people private messaged me so i am also doing that. Butni juat want to make sure i dont offend anyone and i think i will do a little more with profile not sure about pics but who knows. I know i asked but any pointers once i do meet a person. And if any one want to provate message mw some pointers i am all ears. And i appreciate all of you so far helping out hopefully we get more reaponses i am loving it so far
The only pointer that I could offer is relax. If you an relax everything else will all into place. If you aren't relaxed, you won't be comfortable and if you aren't comfortable neither you nor your will be able enjoy the experience

[julyguybill]

wow you are very lucky we don't have anyplace like this where I live wish we did as I would be sucking many guys too but I do love to suck guys so much...........

[julyguybill]

as for as craigslist I have tried but you may be able to meet one out of 30 guys then you are taking a chance just be careful just does not work very well............

[softheart]

I suggest meeting for lunch first. You never know who is out there and why. And is always cool if the can entertain, but remember, at their place they may be recording your fun and frolic and you might find on a porn site, or worse!

Lunch & hotel until you get comfortable with them.

[sysper]

i've never had any luck with craigslist. i've answered tons of add's but rarely get a reply, even then it never goes anywhere. i think most of them are collecting pix or emails. the only guy who responded to me that was real & wasn't creepy was just not for me. but he was cool about it. allmost as bad as the w4m add's. but i heard it might be different in different cities & people have actually hooked up from craigslist. it doesn't hurt to reply to alot of adds if u got the time. but don't expect anything. take some pix of u to share for this but avoid face at least untill u trust a guy. doesn't hurt to put up an add either. but i'd put more effort on other webistes.

[Salt&pepper]

Craigslist is a real crap shoot. I'd say 1 in 20 are actually going to answer when you reply to a post and about half of them are looking for something else. The last time I connected with a guy he did give a nice BJ tho. He took my cum and kept on sucking for quite some time.

[bj4ubi]

I've had lots of hookups from craigslist mmm,mfm, 3sums and one orgy and one gang bang which she turned out ending up as a fwb you just got to keep trying

[1funguy]

One way to meet possibly like minded person(s) is be a good citizen and volunteer at your local Pride center. At least you know the environment is with people of same sex thinking and they all have had to face difficulties coming out.
I got lucky when told a friend I could keep a secret.. its been 8 years of FWB. If I was to start over I'd go to the Pride Center.. they want to help & they are fun. Relax, enjoy the journey of discovery.

[aljay]

I have good results with Craigslist by posting a add that is detailed with your stats age etc. And what you're looking for it seems to me the more details you include will get you good quality response.

[12voltyV2.0]

Just for "the hell of it" I have both posted up ads on Craigslist and replied to those posted by others----with absolutely ZERO positive results. Now, that probably has to do with the area I currently live----but as far as I am concerned---if my results are any indication----I'd say that CL is not worth doing.

Better to go to other gay/bi male sites like Squirt.org, Men4SexNow.com and many others. I have had pretty good results with both of those sites. Another one--sad to say went away when its owner/creator committed suicide a year or so ago, Dick.net. It was a great site, but like it's master---the site went away.

[Jacktoyourkaren]

I've had luck on CL. I met three different guys. I just make my intentions clear if I'm nervous and looking to be discreet so the guys who are pushy and in a hurry avoid the ad.

[DrBimind]

Are they any other sites that younwould recommend? Or is that against the rules? And can u trade pics on here with people? Maybe that will help to break some ice and nerves or is that usally a thing u do after you chit chat a bit? Like i said i am new to this whole thing.

Sounds like you've been to BiSexual Playground where they enforce all kinds of nazi tactics to intimidate their members of mentioning ANY other site....Here you needn't worry about helpful hints and other sites recommended...Welcome to site and Lifestyle

[bedbuddyrme]

I've answered several ads but haven't had much luck either. I did have one that responded and came to my hotel. He was a very nice gentleman, a bit older and heavier, married, waned to be discrete. He came in the room, took off my clothes and started sucking me. Then he got undressed and wanted us to take a shower, so we did. Then we dried off, crawled in bed and we sucked each other for a bit. He was a bottom so I out on a condom and fucked him doggies style as I reached around and stroked his cock. He came very quickly. Then he got dressed and left me with a hard dick in my hand. I still have his contact info but doubt I'll contact him again.

ive also tried swing lifestyle.com for couples and guys. I've had a few encounters with some couples there but that can also be difficult because swingers seem to get caught up on a bunch of rules and requirements...when All I want is for everyone to get off. Sex doesn't have to be so damn complicated does it?

[blatant_bi_guy]

I've found CL to be hit or miss to the extreme. In the past five years, one of the best sexual experiences I've had was off a Craigslist ad for a hotel meetup that ended up being 4 guys, one of which I traded numbers with and got together with at least a couple dozen times, more than half of those involved his girlfriend.

On the flip side, answered one from a guy who wanted a blow-n-go, and I wanted to get off. Showed up at a very nice house, knocked on the door, he invited me in, asked me to back up against the door while he did his thing. I didn't know you could suck a dick without using your tongue...worst blowjob of my life.

[travelmanNW]

I've used Craigs List a couple of times when I was traveling and was very pleased. Stated clearly what I was looking for and stats. Three days, three different cities and three different cocks. I'm mostly a cock sucker for married men with no favor needed in return.

I've also done the adult bookstore glory holes and the theater which I also enjoyed glory hole is nice to see what you are going to suck if you don't like the way things look don't proceed no harm no foul. Like someone said earlier in the theater on the edge of my couch someone walks over and a cock is front of you I sucked him off sometimes you may end up with several. A theater can be real fun if someone is watching you perform.

Relax, enjoy yourself and have fun

[cuttin2dachase]

It takes patience and perseverance whether it's Craigslist or any other mm-oriented website. It's the impatient, selfish, rude and cocky guys on those sites that put so many nice, decent, serious bi men off using such sites. But it's gonna be that way no matter where you seek out men. I prefer online meetings with men that I know from the get-go are bi or gay, rather than meeting random strangers at ABSs, bath houses or gay bars etc. Then it becomes like dating. You chat in chatrooms and via PM's and then maybe proceed to texts or phone calls with guys you are interested in. Take the initiative and stay in touch with them. You'll be able to sense if they enjoy chatting, texting or phoning. If they do, you can be almost certain that they are genuinely interested in meeting you. You know what you want, so express it to guys you'd like to meet. You'll have to wade through and weed out a lot of fakes, flakes, pic collectors, jerks and assholes to find a few good prospects, but it is well worth it when you finally meet one or more of them whom you hit it off with and have good or great sex ! It works for me. Squirt.org, silverdaddies.com and Craigslist are my go-to sites. Adultfriendfinder.com, not so much. On swinglifestyle you will find tons of bi married men posing as swinging couples looking for bi men. It is actually him looking for other couples or for other solo bi or gay men on his own. I don't fault a bi married guy for being misleading on his profile as long as he admits early on that he's just looking for men.

[fun2bhung]

Very well said, chase..

[MorThan7]

For those of you that have posted on Craigslist, was it worth it? Were you successful or were your results about the same as answering ads?

I have just answered ads. I had two that responded back. One that I hooked up with, popped my cherry, and another that complained about people that only talk then he flaked out when it came time to meet.

[murano2641]

I've had zero success with Craigslist. Lot of guys collecting pictures or wanting a quick bang bang. I'm more interested in meeting first, making sure there's a connection and then moving on from there.

I have had success on this site which is why I keep coming back!

[Coastocoast]

In general, Craigslist success has a lot to do with what you are looking for. If you are looking for a quick, blow and go with a guy who is stepping out on his wife/girlfriend/significant other you will quickly find what you are looking for. If you are looking for anything in the lines of a single guy who wants more than a no strings attached quickie you are unlikely to succeed. The numbers of one line responses like "Where and when" and ads stating "send dick pick and phone number on first email or it will be deleted" are high. Also if you are interested in bare backing a complete stranger without regard for disease you will find that too. I unfortunately have found nothing as I am looking for an ongoing situation/relationship and want to know who I am getting involved with before anything physical happens.

[SuckerMC]

I look on craigslist sometimes to look at the ads and look at what cocks are local to suck. But I have never pulled the trigger on it. Once there was an ad posted on craigslist from a member here who had his ad in the personals on here also. I thought about it and thought about it but that was all. He took his ad off from here and not sure if he even comes on here anymore.

[fresh6869]

I have had some pretty good luck with CL. It helps to post a honest add and let people know what you want. You can usually tell from the responses who is real or not.

[Readywhiptx]

My first M2M experience was through Craigslist. ALWAYS meet in a public place first. If there is no mutual attraction, then don't feel pressured to get naked with each other.

[BiCuriousVAN]

Like most here, I have had mixed results with Craigslist. I have had very few responses when I respond to ads and many didn't respond to follow ups. Many just want to hookup quickly, whereas I need to feel comfortable and safe and a bit of back and forth before meeting.


I have posted ads with mixed results. I got a lot of I want to bang you in five minutes responses, even though at the time I said I was an anal virgin and wanted to take it slow and needed a very patient partner. My worst near experience was all via e-mail and seemed quite hopeful, but took an interesting turn:


We had e-mailed back and forth a few times and set a time to meet on the Sunday for coffee and if all was good, head to a nearby bathhouse, which he agreed to. Later, that evening, he suggested a back alley nearby in a not so nice part of town, where there would be lots of people and likely police passing by. I was going to respond and say thanks but no thanks, as he was starting to seem a bit creepy, but hadn't by Friday morning. Then on the Friday, he sent me three e-mails that got angrier and angrier. He thought that we were meeting on Friday when we repeatedly said Sunday. He thought I was a no show and said one day, if he ever meets a no show, he was going to punch them out. For some reason, I emailed him back and said the plan had been for the Sunday and we had never said anything about Friday, but I was no longer interested. He e-mailed back saying he was sorry and let's start over. I e-mailed him back and said that I had no intention of meeting somebody who threatens other people and that was the last I heard.


I am very specific and include my specs, what I would like to do and the type of person I am looking for etc. I ask them to let me know their status and how experienced they are. I also explain that I want to feel comfortable by corresponding a few times before meeting, in the hope to limit the number of let's fuck in 5 minute types or people who only read what they want to see. For the most part, it seems to work and most responses seem to be good. Interestingly, I always add that I am Caucasian and race isn't important, meaning I am open to any race. What is most interesting is the vast majority of responses I get seem to be from non-Caucasians.


I find it relatively easy to find people for oral. I had always wanted to experience anal and posted an ad asking specifically for that and found my best match ever and it worked out great.


So, I think the lesson I have learnt is be very specific and let them know your expectations up front.

[whispering]

I am new to all of this but extremely curious.i am married and woukd like who ever i meet to be top so i know it will stay discrete. I have been looking on Craigslist for awhile but never pulled the trigger has anyone ever had luck and if so can some of you give a few tips for a first timer. I am really not sure what i am into yet either will that be a problem?

I resisted CL for a couple of years--I like to get to know a guy, check them out, before we get naked. And whenever I looked at CL I was overwhelmed. Then I got some good advice--write a carefully worded ad, be honest and direct and say what you want. I said I was looking for other married guys who were discrete and wanted to have their cock sucked regularly. I got a bunch of guys just looking to hook-up right away, but 2-3 who were safe and sane. It's surprising how many ordinary guys have had buddies at one time or another, and got hooked. Pretty soon I had three regular guys who are happy to give me a call when they need relief.

[altimer23]

I've had luck on cl. Chatted for a couple of weeks before meeting in a public place to make sure we were on the same page.
all five were married and wanted to jo looking at pics of their wives. with two there was no mutual attraction. three were, so we looked at pics and i was very nervous but super excited, tasted precum from two and gave a full on blowjob to one, he was the first and so far only to cum while i sucked and swallowed. we're still in touch and trying to sync our schedules so i can blow him again.

[Christopher South]

I've used craiglist off and on over the years. I think it was better years ago but can work for you with a few rules in mind (assuming you want to be safe and meet a guy for a regular thing rather than a blow-and-go)

1 - Be honest and expect honesty. If you place an ad, explain what you are looking for in general terms and a general description. I prefer to get a lot of the basics (location, hosting, physical description, sexual interests, available times, marital/partner status) out front so that you don't waste your time.

2 - Avoid emails saying it has to be done in three (two, five, whatever) emails of less.

3 - Exchange emails clarifying some of the general details that were in your (or his) ad to make sure everyone is on the same page.

4 - Arrange to meet in person in a public place to talk and not for sex. I strongly suggest it not be a bar since you don't want alcohol clouding your judgement.

5 - Does he match his description? If he doesn't, it means he lied and you won't be able to trust anything else he says. Immediately say "thanks, but no thanks" and leave.

6 - If you feel comfortable with everything so far and want to meet up with him, make arrangements to do so. Since the hosting discussion would have already been discussed, that should not be a problem.

7 - When meeting for sex for the first time avoid alcohol and drugs. Again, you don't want to lower your inhibitions.

8 - Bring your own condoms and lube.

9 - I assume you will use condoms. If he says he can't stay hard using condoms or can't cum when using condoms, too bad. Condoms are non-negotiable.

10 - Stick to your boundaries as first discussed with him. If you said no anal, then no anal. If you said you top only, then only top. Once you get comfortable with him you can make changes... if you want to... but you don't want to feel he got you in bed under one premise (him being a bottom) and then wants to change that (him being a top).

11 - Don't be selfish. Even if he's a bottom you want to make sure he gets off during your meeting. Back and forth activity so you both have a good time.

If you follow these rules chances are you will weed out the flakes and liars and be able to set up a regular thing with a partner.

[Go fore it]

Hey guys. is anyone experianceing problems with CL ?. since last friday no pics are showing on any post !!! not even the sites email addy will show. was going to email them about the problem but cant find their email addy. if you can help in geting them to fix the problem, Thanks.

[Realist]

GO FORE IT: I was unable to find their address, but my craigslist is working. Apparently there are some issues, because I got this message, when I clicked on their HELP DESK:

" We are experiencing some issues with posting of new ads. Please hold while we work them out."

[Go fore it]

Thanks realist. i saw were they we,re having a Lot a Issues of all kinds. Thanks for trying thou.

[Redo7163]

What is a good ABS to go to in the Houston area, particularly the east side?
I've met some very nice guys on CR and on other sites, but for me safety and discretion are my two main concerns. if i look at CR i use an email address that is not my usual email address (use that for most sites that i visit BTW). also I don't give out name or phone # until I'm very comfortable with that person. basically i try to chat it up a bit to see what their likes/dislikes are and if they correspond with mine I try to meet for the 1st time in a public place for a drink or just to chat. a person on the 'up and up' won't have an issue with that. pictures are often requested, but i rarely just send someone a pic of me (for obvious reasons) but what you're comfortable with is up to you.
i also put out profiles on some of the sites i visit and like. that way you can hopefully attempt to attract someone that has/wants what you're looking for, which will cut down on the amount of to and fro chit chat.

i've also gone the ABS route, and when i did, i usually went in with plenty of tokens and left the door unlocked and flipped on a video (I know not the safest thing to do, which is why i haven't been there in a long while). anyway, if you're in a booth watching the vids and someone comes in and sees what they like you can usually get some sort of action.

good luck with your search, and be comfortable with whatever surroundings you find yourself in. If you're not sure, don't do it.

[earloftexas]

Just for "the hell of it" I have both posted up ads on Craigslist and replied to those posted by others----with absolutely ZERO positive results. Now, that probably has to do with the area I currently live----but as far as I am concerned---if my results are any indication----I'd say that CL is not worth doing.

Better to go to other gay/bi male sites like Squirt.org, Men4SexNow.com and many others. I have had pretty good results with both of those sites. Another one--sad to say went away when its owner/creator committed suicide a year or so ago, Dick.net. It was a great site, but like it's master---the site went away.

I have to agree with you 12volt, dick.net was a great site and was soooooo fucking easy to navigate. I think I probably shot more cum with guys AND girls on that site than any other sites I belong to. It was just fabulous. I lost over 400 friends when the site went down. I have only ben able to connect with a few of them. I only wish that I would have had the money to purchase the site the first time it appeared for sale.
Oh well........

[csreef]

Well Hi ItsmeJJ,
For one thing you might post a profile here. For another, you might respond to any inquiries you receive on this site. No profile makes it difficult for one to want to make contact. And if and when they do, please reply. After all, at that point your still not committed to doing anything and the correspondence you might establish might be enlightening. Please reply thank you

Sounds like good advice....Also posting a picture or two will help.

[foundpuppy]

I met a guy on CL and set up a meeting at a local ABS. We met (i was as nervous as a long tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs). We signaled each other and met in a video room, big enough for two, I told myself "there's no backing out now", dropped to my knees, took his cock in my mouth and started working. I Swallowed every drop and haven't looked back since then.

[Itsmejj]

I still have yet to try it. I have messaged and emailed with some guys on here. But the temptation is still there but i can't see myself doing the Craigslist thing for my first time. But i am enjoying the ride. And thank you everyone for the input. I am all ears with any help anyone wants to offer

[Fzmr9t]

What is a good ABS to go to in the Houston area, particularly the east side?
imon the far Westside ad don't venture much past hwy 8. But there's one S of 10 on hwy 6 that I've been to. $10 'membership' fee but once you've paid 1 time then any future visits there isn't a fee

[csreef]

If you are going to meet someone from craigslist, I strongly urge you to meet in a public place...Also have a friend know where you are and who you are meeting....If the "vibe" doesn't feel right, leave....

[bw299]

Craigslist is rife with spammers, scammers, fakers, and wannabes. You have to wade through a LOT of shit to make one good contact. AND you have to be very careful during the process to not be victimized. BUT I have made a few good connections that started on CL. In fact, I met two of my regulars on CL.

[whynot3979]

Check out manhunt.net. it's like minded guys as close,or as far away as you like

[cumwithme63]

Try silverdaddies dot com I've met a few. Guys there I've only sucked 6 guys in 10 years but looking for a regular FWB

[bw299]

Haven't had much luck with "Manhunt", but have a couple of regulars each from "SilverDaddies" and "Squirt.org". SilverDaddies has been really good for contacts when traveling.

[biboy426]

I am still seeking my first experience. Craigslist has been nothing but frustrating. I haven't lost hope but am beginning to wonder if I will ever be able to finally touch my first cock or be comfortable enough to finally wrap my lips around one and taste a man. so frustrating.

[tommyswing]

A lot of good advice given here. As others have said, it depends on what your looking for. I rarely awswer ads, I place my own. I clearly state what I'm looking for and what I'm not. I'm looking for a sensual, erotic encounter, so I don't expect a lot of replies. Being specific is very helpful, as it tells me who took the time to read the ad. As dar as glory holes, when I frist started sucking cock I was there every day, loved the variety. Once in awhile I'll vist one 1"dew ! d's

[ttballs]

Where do people meet for NSA encounters that aren't in an ABS?

[bikurinpa]

Hey guys. is anyone experianceing problems with CL ?. since last friday no pics are showing on any post !!! not even the sites email addy will show. was going to email them about the problem but cant find their email addy. if you can help in geting them to fix the problem, Thanks.

Craigs list has NO support, ZILCH!!!

[sysper]

Craigs list has NO support, ZILCH!!!
nope ur really on ur own there

[BigAlNYC]

I've had some good luck with CL I guess. Like anything else, it's very hit or miss, and there are a lot of folks on there who seem to be into the thrill of the "chase" with no real intention of meeting anyone.

But just today I met a very hot guy (just my type - hairy bi daddy) who was also really nice. So once he had fucked my mouth good, as I craved, he stuck around and we talked about music and the local area for a while. He even emailed me back to say how much he enjoyed it and hoping we could get together again soon. I also had several other responses to my ad that were promising.

But I put up basically the same ad a week ago and got almost no responses and didn't get together with anyone. Such is the nature of CL.

A couple of months ago I also had a great guy answer my ad for the second time. The first time we got together I thought he was super hot, and I sucked him deeply, but I wasn't sure he was all that into it. But then he answered my ad again a few months later, not really knowing it was me, but when it found out it was me he was ready to go. I went over to his place and got the fucking of my life from his beautiful 9 inch cock. Even though he was a thinnish guy he was super into nailing my big fat ass, and we kissed over and over again and hung out afterwards talking about music and stuff. Strangely, his was the only answer I got to that particular ad.

So, the best advice is to just hang in there and not get discouraged. Be flexible enough to change your approach to get better results, but always be honest about what you look like and what you want. Soon you will get it right, gain some confidence, and, hopefully, have some very memorable encounters and a lot of fun.

[bw299]

itsmejj - I've read a lot of good tips in the responses to your post, but the absolutely WORST one is the one that suggests going to an adult book store (ABS). Sorry, Shefford, but I would never suggest to a "newbie" that he be that reckless in his quest.

Yes, Craigslist is rife with spammers, scammers, fakers, and wannabees. BUT, at least if you do get a real response from someone and decide to hookup with them, it does give you the opportunity to "screen" them (at least to a degree) before you engage them and evaluate the risk. An ABS doesn't give you that opportunity. You have NO CLUE what a guy's background is and you take a HUGE risk.

Websites, such as this one, also give you the opportunity to evaluate a potential partner. But BE CAREFUL, there are many fake or deceptive profiles. TRUST YOUR GUT! If it looks or smells rotten, it probably is.

Good luck in your quest!

[sysper]

totally agree especially if ur a guy who's new to guys. it's a nice fantasy to suck on random cocks sticking out of a hole for example. mmmmm lol. but the reality is, u have no idea where those cocks have been. std's certainly but some guys might not even have good higene. i definately recommend meeting a guy, or anyone out 1st see what there like let them do the same. if ur both into each other u can go back in private & have some fun :) but if either of u isn't feeling it for any reason it's easy enough to walk away hopefully with a handshake. or meet again if there's any possibility.

[Donek]

CL is a bit depressing to use as you'll find some really weird people and you'll get some nut cases BUT there's a huge BUT. It's possible to find the perfect match and you CAN find a gem in the rough if you're looking for more than just hookups. I found it yesterday, I've been really vigil with my search and if I sense something off I break contact but this person was different and we had so much fun (my first time). Hours of just pure fun. My dick is raw and swollen from 8 hours of sex. The weird thing is we met through a fucked up ad where I was horny and looking for a cum dump but when we met we did everything, didn't think I would suck cock and balls and it was amazing. It's weird and just luck. It might take you a while to find the perfect first one and I never expected to find a fiesty gay guy that wants to pamper a masc guy for hours. Feels good.
So keep looking, if you're horny enough and curious enough just keep looking. The guy I met told me stories about guys like you, married, looking for more and from personal experience suppressing the feelings will make it worse. I would start posting your own ads looking for what you need and you should soon find it.

[Christopher South]

It probably depends on where you live.

BigAINYC us in the NYC area and had good results, but yesterday there was over 1,300 ads in m4m. Here in Boston there were about 600. In Boise there was about 25.

Just with numbers alone you should be able to find someone. Yeah, there's more chafe to sort through but at least there are responses. I'm not sure what I'd do in Boise.

[bw299]

It probably depends on where you live.

BigAINYC us in the NYC area and had good results, but yesterday there was over 1,300 ads in m4m. Here in Boston there were about 600. In Boise there was about 25.

Just with numbers alone you should be able to find someone. Yeah, there's more chafe to sort through but at least there are responses. I'm not sure what I'd do in Boise.

In Boise you have to rely on that slut Rosie Palm! LOL :eek::bigrin::rolleyes:

[SuckerMC]

Looking back on it now there were 4 ads on CL that I wish I had replied to. 1 was from a member that did have his address posted here also but he removed it. I don't recall his username. Another was of a very nice cock that the young guy had put the ad back up a couple times. Another was from an older gentleman that only liked receiving and not giving. Exactly what I was looking for. The last ad was of a younger guy who was curious about having a guy suck his cock for the first time. This would have been great for the both of us. My first time sucking a cock and his first time getting cucked from another guy. He had a beautiful cock. I say that in more meaning because his cock looked very much like mine. My cock twin. He posted his ad that one time and had said that he would post again awaiting for a reply. He never did place an ad a second time. And never will on CL ever again.

[SuckerMC]

I almost forgot the beauty of a black cock that was also posted on CL. The other 4 ads were all beautiful white cocks. The black cock was also very tempting to reply to as well.

Lost opportunities.

[bikurinpa]

I almost forgot the beauty of a black cock that was also posted on CL. The other 4 ads were all beautiful white cocks. The black cock was also very tempting to reply to as well.

Lost opportunities.
They was probably bull shippers too, just like 99.9% those that was on CL. Most on CL was same people in all these sites, who had NO real intentions of meeting any one, all just games.

[cwatt1]

Craigslist has removed their personals section under pressure from legislators. However, there is a new site called doublelist.com that is not too bad. I actually think it is monitored more closely than Craigslist was.

[Joboo]

I've made one connection on silverdaddies but never did the cl thing. I have found SD to be very frustrating in that you go back and forth and then when you say okay let's meet to see if we're compatible 99% of the time that the end of it. Thanks for the lead though.

[bikurinpa]

I've made one connection on silverdaddies but never did the cl thing. I have found SD to be very frustrating in that you go back and forth and then when you say okay let's meet to see if we're compatible 99% of the time that the end of it. Thanks for the lead though.
Very same game on ANY of these sites.

[SuckerMC]

They was probably bull shippers too, just like 99.9% those that was on CL. Most on CL was same people in all these sites, who had NO real intentions of meeting any one, all just games.
Yeah you are right. One or two of them I could have got lucky maybe. Maybe I would have been the one to flake because of nerves. My nerves did stop me from answering. I was the closest more than before with those 5 though.

[darkstar27]

Sad that Craigslist closed down the personals. The ex and I had an open arrangement and we both met a lot of really cool and fun people on there. Of course as a woman the ex had a way easier time of it than I did as a guy, even posting as a couple worked but not like it did for her solo...lol. People are right in saying there was a lot of crap and spam there too but if you take the time and weed through it all and a good time could be had.

[sysper]

u seem to have been the exception, most people have not had much luck at all. myself i've never met anyone on craigslist. but like u said it's easier for women even helped looking as a couple.

[NjbiGuy01]

www.doublelist.com has replaced Craigs. It is new, but improving every day for adult personals.

[sysper]

hopefully it has actual real people looking for what they say there looking for lol
www.doublelist.com (http://www.doublelist.com) has replaced Craigs. It is new, but improving every day for adult personals.

[bw299]

www.doublelist.com (http://www.doublelist.com) has replaced Craigs. It is new, but improving every day for adult personals. DoubleList is great if you live in a major city. For me Indianapolis is the only city on the list. Maybe it will improve.....

[bw299]

Made two good hookups in the past week from Squirt.org. Working on a couple from SilverDaddies and AdultFriendFinder.

[sysper]

i'd be interested in knowing how ur hookup from aff goes. i've never really sensed it being very effective, maybe for couples.
Made two good hookups in the past week from Squirt.org. Working on a couple from SilverDaddies and AdultFriendFinder.

[bikurinpa]

i'd be interested in knowing how ur hookup from aff goes. i've never really sensed it being very effective, maybe for couples.
He will find they will go blank on him and never hear back after a few emails!