How often does your sexuality change?

[BearLover]

A few years ago I used to be something like kinsey 1-2, then changed to becoming kinsey 4-5 (mostly gay). I am trying to find the right guy for me, being into older men I think is troublesome, 1 problem is the distance, it's hard to find someone. Now I think that I would like to go back to being mostly straight.

I find that half of these people put me in a mood because it just never works, I've met a lot of guys online, 1 had bipolar disorder, the other got sent down for 18 years as a paedophile, I find that many of them just don't really want to ever talk to you (they say they have no time), the rest of them I just don't even fancy, or they are all talk, they usually expect me to come to them, sometimes I feel used (I am 22 years old), there's only really one or two people I've met that I see.

But usually because they are so far away it means I have to travel from Dorset to Birmingham or London etc. And I also feel that it's not supposed to work out because it's not really accepted by society, it's hard to not be insecure when you are dating someone 50 years older than you.

Can I go back to being mostly straight? But even then I have the problem of not liking people my own age, and not really being interested in most people. How often does your sexuality change? I find myself annoyed with women, but also find that men can be quite annoying too.

[sysper]

hmmmmmmm...overall i prefere women but i get in moods where i'm thinking about guys only. i don't question my attraction to women, i just question women but i'm sure u know how that goes lol.......i do question my attraction to guys, i fear it might be a way to cope with the fact i don't understand women, or i have no luck with women. i think both men & women can be annoying, on top of that men can get pretty pushy too which is a major turnoff for me. but i'm still trying to find my 1st guy. will i go through with it? will i feel the same way about guys afterwards? i don't know but looking to try & explore my feelings with the right people.

[OlderBC1]

I'm pretty much with sysper on this one. I get tired of female drama sometimes. but thinking back, men can be about as bad, or worse. Rather one-sided too. I saw a lot of that in my past. They wanted to be sucked off, or sucked hard to fuck me...not so much anything for me. I prefer sharing equally...

[Janis]

So glad to read this post. I thought it was weird that my sexuality seems to shift. Some months I tend to be very hetero to the point I have no interest in men or gay porn. Some months the "gayness" is upon me and I tend to read and write gay/feminization stories. For the last couple of weeks I have been in such a mindset that I find myself craving to suck a cock. Which is a first. I find the homosexuality becoming more intense lately.

[sysper]

this is probably normal for much more people than we know cause everyone is so insecure & disturbed by experiancing this they think there the only 1 & afraid to tell anyone else about it. doesn't mean u gotta act on it, but also doesn't mean u should be ashamed u got these feelings.

[cuttin2dachase]

My sexuality is very constant. My desire for mf sex is just as constant as my desire for mm sex.....BUT.....I have sex with lots more men than women. It is only because of mens' availability and desire for casual no-strings sex with other men. Bi men (especially married and divorced ones) desiring instant no-strings, FWB sex with other men are simply hundreds of times more numerous than women who are looking for instant, casual, FWB sex with men. There are many women who will go to bed with a man the first time they meet, but ya gotta take 'em out on a date and spend money on 'em first LOL.

[armando]

You said it: men are more abundant and ready to fuck, not so with women.

[scarecrow]

I seem to be more on the top side of the coin lately. I have always been confused about my sexuality. When I turned 13 reality struck me in the face. I became aware I got crushes on cute boys. I tried str8 but could not get interested. For many years even up through high school I got crushes on men. In my working years I still did but I began to want someone to get me off and was sucked from time to time. In the last 5 years I fantisize about intercourse in a vagina and really get turned on. I have in the past as I mentioned, but more into pussy in later time in my life. I go on sites but most are scam filled. Wish I could find the right person to go through with it with that would understand me.

[man4girlgirl4man]

My sexuality as a whole doesn't change. But my gay vs. straight desires go up and down all the time. For example, right now I'd rather hook up with a well hung black top than fuck a hot woman. But two weeks ago it was the exact opposite.

[rce107]

​My sexuality changed when my wife of thirty years, left me. That was in 2011 and needless to say, I was devastated. Over the next few years I started having fantasies of sucking cock. I was a happily married man and never even thought about another man, but now the feelings were getting more intense. At that point the thought of me sucking cock had turned into a true craving and I masturbated more and more. So finally in early 2015, I sucked my first cock, and yes, I was hooked!