Would you go gay?

[Fzmr9t]

For those who are currently in a committed relationship, if something happened to that relationship, for whatever reason; If that relationship was a heterosexual one, would you think about trying to develop a gay or bi relationship the next time, or would you stay heterosexual?

[Realist]

There have been times in my life, when I had a male lover, who I felt I would have been satisfied to remain in that relationship with, indefinitely. At other times, my partner was a woman, who provided the same warmth and caring. The persons I was with, at the time, filled my physical, intellectual, and emotional needs....and I was able to fill their needs, too.

BUT, being bisexual, I have been a victim of the much discussed Pendulum Affect........ where, no matter how fulfilled and happy I was with one gender, the desire for the other gender often arose.

I am presently in the best imaginable relationship, having both genders in my life.

So, I would say, for me, I have needed and will always need to be with both genders.

[willswallow77]

I would definitely give it a try. As much as I think about sucking cocks and being with other men, I would probably be a pretty big slut if something like that happened.

[sysper]

not married/in a relationship not even close.........hope i can reply anyways :) i wouldn't rule out sleeping around with guys under the right circumstances if i was single, which i am now as i said :( u got std's & other things to think about so chances are, it wouldn't happen as much as avaialble, but u never know. maybe be open to 1 or more fwb's. but i'm not at all interested in anything romantic & longterm with a guy.

[tommyswing]

No, not interested ina man as my prinary relationship

[Sound]

Would stay Bi. Would try to look for a swinging/accepting mate.

[singlebimale41]

Regardless of who I'm in bed with or in a relationship with I am Bi. I love the sexual intimacy I have with men and women alike, as for emotional intimacy (romance) I only have felt that connection with women. Short of that changing I can't see becoming involved with a man beyond being FWBs.
And should that ever change and I found myself in a romantic relationship with a man I still would not have "gone gay" I'll be bisexual.

[Annika L]

*cough hetero-centrism alert cough*

I've been in a wonderful relationship with another woman monogamously for the past 30 years. If something happened, I would absolutely consider having a relationship with a man (though (a) I've decided that I will never enter another relationship with 100% monogamous expectations, and (b) I would absolutely not consider it or call it "going straight", even if it *was* monogamous).

[cuttin2dachase]

Like a couple of other posters, I am not currently in a committed relationship. The only 2 committed relationships I've been in were with my 2 ex-wives. I loved them both very much, but both marriages eventually went south...the 1st one after 20 years, the 2nd one after 11 years. My 1st wife and I were swingers and she is who coaxed and encouraged me to try mm sex in 4somes and 3somes. I have her to thank for helping me discover my bi side and for our beautiful daughter, but that's about all for which I am grateful to her LOL . I "kind of" went gay after we split up. By that I mean that I still dated and had sex with women, but I put myself out there out there and explored 1 on 1 sex with men more frequently. That is when I came to know the full extent of my desire for and attraction to men. But then I met my 2nd wife and gave up my bi/swinging desires for her because I committed myself to her. She had a secret married bf the whole time we were together and when I found out, I left her. I could kick myself in my ass for giving up bi sex and swinging for those 11 years for her. Again, within 2 weeks of leaving her, I was again engaged in dating women, frequent mm sex and swinging sex. As others have said, I have no desire for emotional/love/longterm relationships with men and can't imagine ever going totally gay. I would be capable of a love relationship with a new woman, but even so, I won't ever again commit to any exclusive relationship with a woman either. I love my personal and sexual freedom and independence too much to ever give up women for men or men for women.

I will always label myself bisexual unless I completely lose sexual interest in one gender and am only interested in the other. I can't see that happening, though. I do meet more men for sex than ever before and I date women only occasionally and am in no hurry to meet the right one for me, so I guess I could be considered to be "going gay" at present as I did immediately following both my marriages. The beauty of being bisexual is that I can go gay and feel gay when I'm with a man and I can go hetero and feel hetero when I'm with a woman and I can feel both hetero and gay in mixed 3somes and groups :)

[Christopher South]

*cough hetero-centrism alert cough*

I've been in a wonderful relationship with another woman monogamously for the past 30 years. If something happened, I would absolutely consider having a relationship with a man (though (a) I've decided that I will never enter another relationship with 100% monogamous expectations, and (b) I would absolutely not consider it or call it "going straight", even if it *was* monogamous).

I think Annika has it right. For me the sexual component is very important in a relationship and I'm guessing at my age I would not find that in a relationship with a woman. Therefore I'd look for a relationship with a guy. However if I were to find myself developing a relationship with a woman, it would have to be with the understanding that it would not be monogamous.

[tenni]

I agree with Annika. You can not go "gay" if you are bisexual. You may decide to be in a monogamous relationship with one gender or the other. If it is same gender, you are not gay or gone gay. You will still be dealing with your attraction to opposite gender. That attraction (physical and or emotional) will still be there inside you. You will remain fluid in your attraction and the intensity may be fluid as well.

I tend to take the position that monogamy is not good for bisexuals but if you want to be monogamous you still are bisexual.

[Dskitten]

I am in a life long loving relationship with my woman, and have experienced, on a limited level, bisexual sex before her and a couple times furring our relationship. But if for some reason I was to find my self single again, I would want to try a more intimate sexual relationship with a man because I think the sex would be much better than just random hook ups.

[naztypanty]

If I were to break up with my girlfriend I would like to have the experience of living with a man. I would still be interested in having sex with women, like having occasional sex with men like I do now.

[Highzenborg]

No, I love tits and pussy too much.

[Biappeal]

Sure. I am happily married and greatly the enjoy the aex life we have. If on my own and I developed a close relationship we a man I would consider being exclusively gay.

[pole_smoker]

If someone's bisexual they will never become or "go gay/lesbian" if they're married or in a partnership with someone of the same sex, anymore than having a partner or marrying someone of the opposite sex would make them "hetero/straight". My husband and I are bisexual men and we are monogamous, and we're not the only bisexual men who are in a relationship like this.

[12voltyV2.0]

I am not currently "involved" in any formal way with either a male or female---I always do hope that at some point--I can find someone that I like, that he or she really likes me both as a friend, sex partner, lover and I feel the same about him or her with there being more to our "thing" than "just sex."

At this point in my life---as much as I do want to once again find someone for such a relationship----I do require more than the sex and seek someone that we share a degree of mutual like, love and compatibility---no matter their gender.

So---if I do get so blessed to once again find such a person--it has been a long time since I have found such a person of either gender---I have just had a series of relationships with both that were more based on sex than other factors--which for what those "things" were--that was fine at the time. It would be kind of nice to just find someone to be able to do more than just have sex with, someone to talk to, hug, love and have great sex, go to the beach, movies, dinner and just "hang" and chill out with.

No matter the gender of the person I would have such a relationship with----at this point I would hope that with whomever I might have such a relationship--that would effectively be my final one and we have such a mutual degree of caring, love, friendship, etc--for and between one another--that we would be together for as long as our health holds out and we remain on this earth---but should that relationship end by either us parting company and going our separate ways--or the other is the one who passes--when and if it came time that I found another person to have such a relationship in the future---no matter the gender of my partner in the first one---it would not matter the gender of the person in such a potential future relationship as well.

No matter how it would fall in both cases---I would not want to be restricted to being considered either gay or straight---I am bisexual in a very true sense because it makes no never mind the gender of any potential partners--sexually, romantic and otherwise--I just want someone who I care for and he or she cares for me and we love and like one another and we are there for each other not only on the good days, but the bad ones as well, irrespective of the gender of those person or persons.

I do so wish that we could get beyond that concept that things have to be "Either/Or" when it comes to whom we have sex and or relationships with. That is really outdated as far as I am concerned.

[George51]

When it comes to sex, I want it all. Big breasts are too of a turn-on to be ignored. Like big cocks. I enjoy being bi-sexual. It really is the best of both worlds.

[Bottomhubby]

If my marriage ended. I would look for a bisexual woman that is ok with me being a shaved bisexual bottom. We would have an open relationship. If either of us wanted a live in lover that would be fine.

[jem_is_bi]

I have been in a male-male relationship for more that 10 years. If something happened to him. I would seek another male-male relationship because I am much more homosexual than heterosexual. But, that does not rule out the possibility of a relationship with a woman. Even now, there is one woman I know that I like very much and have felt that way about her for more than 20 years. Also, I gravitate toward mostly exclusive relationships because I find it less satisfying to have a relationship with more than one person at a time. However, I don't demand total exclusivity, I like (and would seek) partners that have fulfilling lives independent of me and accept that I have a very fulfilling life independent of them. I like relationships that add value to our lives rather than add significant limits on them.

[Rael731]

God forbid something should ever happen, I'd definitely be open to a committed gay or queer relationship. I have a very supportive spouse but if I were alone for some reason, I'd probably put more effort into a gay relationship. For now though, she encourages me to date and find others like me for adult play. Best of both world.

[charles-smythe]

For those who are currently in a committed relationship, if something happened to that relationship, for whatever reason; If that relationship was a heterosexual one, would you think about trying to develop a gay or bi relationship the next time, or would you stay heterosexual?
…I would continue having relationships with girls…but since I’m bi…I would also continue to suck cocks on the side…

[lizard-lix]

If for any reason I had to start over, I can't possibly say if I'd end up with a guy or a girl. I can say it would not be a monogamous relationship (the 36 years I spent as monogamous cured me of that, happily my wife and I have finally worked all that out!) and I would enjoy sex with all genders. I am definitely bi/pan, not hetero or homo, sexual and I definitely will keep all lanes open as long as I have an interest in sex! I'll stay with the one (or ones) I love, but I'll play with anyone I like enough to get naked with.

[querty]

Well said Jem, well said

[Robbyriot]

I'd have to agree with the majority. If I was to loose my current relationship I'd need relationship that allows me to explore no mater man or woman. I'm currently in a monogamous relationship and it's not working to well for me.

[DMercator]

When it comes to sex, I want it all. Big breasts are too of a turn-on to be ignored. Like big cocks. I enjoy being bi-sexual. It really is the best of both worlds.

I'm with George51. I love women too much to be gay and enjoy playing with a nice hard cock too much to deny being bi.

[RisingBi]

I realize that for some bisexuals, serial monogamy with both men and women is possible. But I don't think it is possible for me. I can neither go straight nor gay.

Despite my strong wish and decision to seek sexual, FWB, or even romantic relationships with only men (in other words, to go totally gay) after breaking up with my girlfriend of three years in December 2019, I've come to realize that my attraction to women will never fade. There I was, on a date with a guy I had romantic feelings for, and very strong sexual attraction to, out on the dance floor with him at a straight club, when a deep attraction to the gorgeous woman dancing next to me still arose. Damn-it, yes, I am bisexual! I have desire for both men and women. But it's a bigger issue than this.

My rocky relationship with this last girlfriend (only girlfriend since my gay desires surfaced 30 years ago) definitely proved to me that I cannot go without having sex with men: because I didn't let myself act on my urges, my gay desires forever increased in that relationship and almost drove me insane. Near the end, while fucking her, I had to imagine that I was fucking a man in order to cum. I suspect the same may be true with my heterosexual desires. Even though I haven't come to that place yet, as an earlier poster mentioned, I have to ask myself, if I were in a monogamous, romantic relationship with a man, and it wasn't going well, would my straight desires begin to overwhelm me, and after I broke up with him, would I be seeking some kind of relationship with a woman again, forever the yo-yo?

I suspect because of this possibility, and as an earlier poster also said, I don't think a serious, monogamous relationship is for me anymore, whether it is with a man or a woman. Unfortunately what that means for me, because I'm not into cheating or open relationships (I believe there is some suffering in both, despite strong denial by some), is for me at best to just have FWBs for the rest of my life, or even just casual sex with men and women--or maybe just men, since my gay desires greatly outweigh my straight ones. For that reason, part of me is actually sorry that I'm bisexual. I love the intimacy that romantic love brings, but it doesn't seem to be enough for my crazy, uncontrolled, horny, lust-filled mind for both cock, male ass, and pussy.

[BareBalls1953]

Of course I would be open to raising and spreading my legs for a guy in a gay relationship . I have come to love gay sex entirely .60872

[hung4you]

Both my wife and I are totally Bi sexual., We often share our experiences with others we have been with. No-one loves pussy like I do and no one loves cock like she does but the naughty side of us likes to play with others of the same sex. So it doesn't matter if you have a pussy or cock, I will play.

[BeauKnerr]

Of course I would be open to raising and spreading my legs for a guy in a gay relationship . I have come to love gay sex entirely .60872

I was going to say no...until I saw THAT! And I'm not even a "top". Lol

I don't think I could ever "go gay", at least for any extended period of time. I love women and pussy too much to give that up. I have never experienced any feelings of affection toward men as I do women and my physical attraction to males is pretty much confined to the "reproductive apparatus"! That said, I've often wondered what it might have been like to carve out a few months to be exclusive with one guy, relax my pre-conceived notions and inhibitions and just see what it was like.

I'm re-married to a gal now, so that's unlikely to ever happen now. After my first marriage ended, I went "straight" to dating other women until I met my current wife. I didn't even meet up with any guys during that time and I kind of regret having missed that opportunity to really scratch my bi itch. But the fact is that it wasn't itching so bad then. I did chat with a few guys but nothing ever happened. I remember one dude was similar to me, divorced I think, who said he was interested in trying out an exclusive male-male relationship for a limited period of time just to see what it was like. He was more of a dominant top type which would have complimented my submissive preferences with guys. I recall we tentatively arranged to meet but I never went through with it and didn't give it much thought at the time. The strange thing is that, now, I occasionally think back to that and imagine what it might have been like, masturbating to the fantasy of an intensely erotic affair. The fantasy never rises to the level of "romance", but in my mind it is highly passionate at least. But, only in my mind is where it must remain. I think had I done that, I would still have gone back to relationships only with women, but it would have been a fulfilling experience to look back on rather than wonder about it.

So, my advice to anyone like me, who is on the left side of the Kinsey Scale and has the opportunity, would be to at least go "a little gayer" for a stint just to find out!

[KDaddy23]

As many of you know, I had a gay boyfriend but still married to my wife and it was such an eye-opening experience for me since I was one of those guys who vehemently insisted that I could never be in a loving relationship with a man. And then I was and being with him taught me some more stuff about relationships and the inherent flaw of monogamy and more so when my wife and I had opened our marriage so that we could, if we wanted to, explore other relationships (and sex) with whomever struck our individual fancies. I think the thing that made him being "my other woman" - and those were his words - easier was that he liked the fact that I was bisexual and, as such, I wasn't like all the other men he'd been in relationships with. He didn't make a fuss about my marriage; didn't make any demands about wanting more attention from me and never suggested that I leave my wife and family just to be with him. He was an amazing person.

But being with him also showed that I couldn't "go gay." I'd realized that regardless of sexuality, we all go about love, sex, and relationships the same way and under the same rules including being monogamous - and this was on top of having sexual encounters with gay men and them insisting and often demanding that I give up women and... nope, not even going to rip out an integral part of who and what I am just to comply with the rules of monogamy. I wouldn't say that I'd never fall in love with a guy and that we couldn't have a loving relationship but given the current mindset about how relationships are supposed to be, he'd "expect" me to not be bisexual and, nope, not gonna do that even if it was possible. I love those insane women and I can't see the sense of being asked, demanded, or expected to give up that aspect of my life and, again, there's a great chance that if such a demand wasn't made up front, it would rear its ugly head at some point and wind up trashing the relationship because I can "already hear" him accusing me of cheating on him with women and even other men because I'm bisexual and... I don't have the patience to deal with this and I stopped believing in monogamy the day my wife demanded that we not be monogamous. My issue with "going gay" isn't the gay part - it's the implied monogamy that we apply to everyone, legally married or not. And having to rely on a single source of sex never made sense to me.

[licyou69]

No, I'm totally attracted to women as partners. With men, I just crave to sometimes suck a cock and swallow the cum. It just so happens that a man is attached to that cock I desire.

[papasmurph]

I've been married to a woman, the mother of my children and grandmother to three more, for 37 years. I love her - but I am not in love anymore - and our relationship has drifted for many years. Ironically, I take the largest share of the blame for how things have gone, but in reality, it takes two to make a marriage work and last. At this point in my life, I doubt very much I will ever be with another woman, much less her... but I am not sure I want to be tangled up in a relationship with a man, either. What I would really love - and what I really miss - is to have a good friend, a lover, who is secure enough in his own sexuality to show me some affection and companionship - and yes, some great sex, too. I don't really want to get married to a guy, or be married to a woman (although, legally I still am). I'm done picking up after somebody else, or putting up with their taste in decorating, or what TV show they want to watch tonight.
I love my family and I enjoy time with them, which includes my wife - but most of the time, I am living independently, doing the best I can to get along with her - It's not a perfect set-up, but it works for now - we both do what we want and go where we want with no questions asked - no demands made - and we come together when family is around.
So - yeah, I am definitely tipping gay all the way these days.

[csreef]

For me I'm going to say no.

I love the sensuality of having Sex with women.

[Long Duck Dong]

My partner is a intersex female with a fully developed cock and pussy, and she loves to fuck me with her cock.

SO if we were in a situation where it was just her and I, long term, it begs the question if I would be gay, straight or bi.....using the stance of straight men prefer women, gay men enjoy men, cocks and can love anal sex, and bi people enjoy people of both genders ( some interchange pansexual with bisexual )

Could I become gay, with another male, ? its possible but unlikely, mostly because of a neurological condition which means that my sexual orientation and sense of gender, can shift randomly, and that makes it harder to be with a cis gender person......as for my partner being female, I do not relate to her as a female, just a person

[Small one]

I am going with a guy enjoy sucking too much.

[SAW1969]

I would definitely try dating a Guy exclusively, all I think about is cock anyways.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I can't see myself 'going gay', even if I should find myself widowed and having sex exclusively with men for the rest of my life. I love the female body and the concept of a romantic, emotional relationship with a biological woman. What I've enjoyed with my wife of 51 years has given me much more than I think I would have gotten from living with a 'buddy'.

My favorite type of sexual activity these days involves cross-dressing and assuming a feminine role in lovemaking, whether my partner is a male, another 'gurl', or my wife. Some aspect of femininity has to be present — even if I'm the only one expressing it — for me to fully embrace the encounter. I don't have any interest in meeting another man as just two 'guys' blowing each other or in being fucked in the ass unless I'm in my fem mindset.

I guess the reality is that I enjoy 'gay sex' in the strictest definition of the term, but don't consider myself to be gay, nor do I foresee that changing in the future. This isn't an indication of disrespect for others with different preferences - it's just like saying 'I like chocolate ice cream with marshmallow topping.'

[greengrow]

I am not relationship compatible withba guy , its just the sex

[cornholejoe]

like being bi but have had a lot of gay sex lately

[KDaddy23]

I think it bears noticing that there is a difference between having sex like a gay guy and adopting a gay way of life that also includes being in a relationship. Every last one of us who has had sex with a guy... went gay. But just like bisexuality, being gay is more than a thing to do - it's a way to live your life and we tend to keep making the gross mistake that the relationship defines and validates the sexuality of the people involved in it or, if me and cornholejoe - and I picked him because I can see his name - decided to have a relationship, almost everyone who saw us or knew about our relationship would assume that we're both gay when, um, neither of us are gay and neither of us would be of a mind to adopt the gay "standard" of only being involved with men for all of our needs where love, sex, and relationships are concerned. I never intend to offend gay men but just relying on men for things... is limiting and just as being only straight is and I don't see the sense in putting such limits on myself and, really, if I did, I'd either be straight or maybe even truly gay. I understand it (and a lof of stuff) but would I find reason to forego women and just accept men as a single source of the things I need in life?

Nope. Because I can never stop being bisexual. I could love cornholejoe - and yeah, I'm kinda "picking" on him for the moment (no offense meant or intended) and it's real... but women? Love them and definitely love pussy and there's no getting rid of this and then, we just assume that gay men don't like women or pussy... and I know some who do but they'd tell you that they're still gay and now we're playing with words and all that. When we get busy with a guy, we're having gay sex. Plain and simple. Doesn't mean or imply any real sense or purpose of being gay but, ya mon, gay sex is good and since we're bisexual, getting some pussy is good and even better. How you go about handling this bit of business can't invalidate your bisexuality unless you determine that you no longer want or need to have anything to do with women now or ever again. That, to me, is "going gay" but just having the sex... isn't. And relationships, again, cannot and do not have a damned thing to do with sexuality and I point to having that very gay boyfriend and it had no impact on my being bisexual - but people who knew about just assumed that we were both gay - and even some who knew I wasn't gay but people think what they think and believe what they want to believe. I can have sex like a gay man... but I couldn't just "go gay" because, well, I couldn't.

[julyguybill]

Should my marriage end I would not get married again .I have thought a lot about it. I would try and find guys whom I could meet with on a regular basis and suck them often i would desire 3 or 4 guys to suck a week . I love man to man oral sex period . This will.likely offend guys but its how i feel

[Neonaught]

I'm happily as bisexual as a man could get so if I lost my lovely wife I have been with since High School I could easily be happy with a man or a woman. Ideally I. would hope to end up in a triad with a bi M/F couple. If you can enjoy the best of both worlds, why not aim high?

[CockHummer]

I can't believe I've been on here as long as I have and this is the first time I've come across this thread. It perfectly presents a problem I have lived with forever, that has in a very real sense plagued my life. It has come to a head in recent years, and as has been discussed repeatedly on here, for us as bisexuals, it can be common for our sense of what sex we derive the most benefit from in a relationship to bounce drastically from one to the other.

[CockHummer]

I can't believe I've been on here as long as I have and this is the first time I've come across this thread. It perfectly presents a problem I have lived with forever, that has in a very real sense plagued my life. It has come to a head in recent years, and as has been discussed repeatedly on here, for us as bisexuals, it can be common for our sense of what sex we derive the most benefit from in a relationship to bounce drastically from one to the other.

[CockHummer]

I sent that message accidentally, before I had completed it. I could go into extraordinary but unnecessary detail about how I have gotten to where I am in my life in this regard! I just want to say that I am ready to try, if I can find such a partner with similar interest, a long term homosexual relationship for a change. I don't know how long it might last. If it was the last in my life and it was good, I'd be fine with that, but I've been denying it to myself for way too long, and I want cock. I don't like to bounce and have multiple partners, so if I have sex with men, it will be like it has always been with women. If I am in a relationship with you, I might fantasize about others, but I will never cheat. I don't like the idea of free sex. I want to be in a reliable relationship with someone to have sex. As such, I've been denying my homosexual side for way too long--fantasy is just not enough--and I want to get involved with a guy for a change and have me fantasizing instead about women and other guys, maybe, while I've got a real dick in my mouth, I'm going out of my way to please my lover, as I always have, and in exchange, I'm guzzling buckets of cum and wrapping my tongue around a gorgeous stiff dick and the balls hanging underneath it.

I just had a minor epiphany of a sort this morning. I was looking at porn of women sucking off guys' cocks. Again, as unfortunate as it is in the big picture for me, I don't like looking at guys in porn, but I love looking at cocks, so photos of hot women with big breasts sucking dick are right up my alley (except that it bothers me to a degree when you can't see a major part of the dick--I most get off on the ones where the full cock is just laying up against her lips). The thing I came to realize is this, though. When I look at those images, and I must stop to think I probably never saw them in a different light, in my mind, at any point in my life; I am always the girl, hungrily taking the cock in my mouth. I don't have any gender identity issues at the base of it. I would be one damn funny looking woman, and the idea is just silly, but while I love the idea of sucking cock, I find more pleasure in seeing beautiful women do it than men. I don't think I ever thought about it enough to allow me to recognize that most guys probably imagine that the cock in the picture is theirs, and they cum imagining these gorgeous, big-breasted women are giving them head. Once I recognized this about me, I tried to look at it the other way around and fantasize that these really hot women were sucking me off, and it did nothing for me. I need cock in my mouth. I like long term committed relationships. I am ready to try a gay relationship if I can figure out how to get it to happen.

[nu2curious]

I don't think of men in relationship terminology but yes getting together for refreshments and fun times ,sure why not, but only in a FWB sort of arrangement. I'd love !

[Tarz1986]

While I enjoy being with a man on occasion, I love women and women's bodies to give them up.

[Jozyxt]

If I were to be single today, I would look for a man with whom I could establish a relationship. I?m not sure what that relationship would be like. I presume companionship and emotional intimacy of some sort. But since I?ve not had that with a man, I do t know that I really could. And of course regular sex, which would definitely help with the intimacy as I have things I need to work out about being bi.

[Footstep40]

I probably would go strictly men should I find myself alone.
I’ve dated and been with more men than women, I pretty much lean that way already, with a tiny sprinkling of heterosexuality.
It is incredibly interesting how so many of have these different lines on this topic and situation. I love our bi community, so much diversity.

[Take.it.Easy]

Good question and I love sucking a nice cock and eating cum but I also love a woman?s body so I would probably go with a trans as long as she tops 50%.

[CurEUs_Male]

Nothing to do with 'going gay', as a Bi man, all options are open.

I am in a 30+ year marriage. Mostly monogamous, but we have had some times where it was open. When I look for outlets, and my spouse is aware I look, we remain in the open relationship. IF this relationship were to end, I have said for years, I would only date couples, where aspects of Bi (same/different) can be enjoyed together.

[phalluster]

Also in a 30 year plus marriage, and totally monogamous (as long as you don't count having my own dick sucked in gloryholes). If my wife was no longer part of my life I'd be bi, any new woman I was with with would need to understand and accept that, and hopefully embrace it.

[marine20]

i could not go full on gay , but if i was alone now , i would be sucking a lot more cocks than i do now. being married , even though my wife knows i'm a cocksucker , takes time for a good relationship . she knows i go out sometimes just to find cock to suck , and she's ok with that. but i can't leave her alone all the time , just wouldn't be right.

[papasmurph]

Just a thought... a lot of you guys probably have men who are friends and buddies... you might be married to a woman. you share your thoughts here so it is safe to say you are at least somewhat bisexual in nature. the scale of sexuality varies and our attractions can go from one end of the spectrum to the other...
but, in thinking about relationships... first, with a wife as your partner - aside from the sexual nature of your relationship with her - what is the difference between that and a relationship you have with one of your male friends? Why couldn't you imagine having that kind of relationship with a man and also have regular sex with him?
Seems funny when guys say - oh, I only an attracted to his dick - not to him. So, do you have no male relationships that you care more about him that his dick?
Just a thought.

[KDaddy23]

Just a thought... a lot of you guys probably have men who are friends and buddies... you might be married to a woman. you share your thoughts here so it is safe to say you are at least somewhat bisexual in nature. the scale of sexuality varies and our attractions can go from one end of the spectrum to the other...
but, in thinking about relationships... first, with a wife as your partner - aside from the sexual nature of your relationship with her - what is the difference between that and a relationship you have with one of your male friends? Why couldn't you imagine having that kind of relationship with a man and also have regular sex with him?
Seems funny when guys say - oh, I only an attracted to his dick - not to him. So, do you have no male relationships that you care more about him that his dick?
Just a thought.

Methinks that some can't imagine it because when we say "relationship," we mean "loving relationship" and not "sexual relationship" and they are not mutually inclusive but that's how we look at things. If a guy has a FWB, suck or fuck buddy, it's not as if they don't have feelings toward the guy but if you were to ask if they were in love with the guy they've been having sex with, the answer might be, "No, but I do care about him." "Going gay" is, I also think, perceived as only being with a man monogamously and giving up any interest in women and heard it recently from my protege who had this conversation with his FWB and a guy who is, as my protege said, "Quite smitten" with him.

For as long as I can remember, "I'm not attracted to men" has always meant not "romantically attracted" but, of course, sexually attracted and that's different but, again, we see these two things as going hand in hand and, nope. For instance, I can see a woman and, yeah, buddy, I want to screw her... and that's about it but if we can do it "regularly," that'll work but there's a chance that it'll turn into more than a sexual relationship, which is fine but it's... different among men. I'd never say that two guys can start out having sex and have "deep feelings" for each other and even really have a relationship but the mistake we also make is assuming that the relationship defines the people involved so if "Tom" and "Dick" went from being lovers to being partners, anyone seeing them together would assume that both of them are gay even if neither of them are. Whether they're monogamous as partners is another thing but "relationship" in this specific context means "monogamous" so while two bi guys could be in a relationship like this, now it becomes a question of whether or not they allow each other to indulge in their interests toward women and... that question is in doubt.

"Not being attracted to him" means not attracted to him like one would be attracted to a woman but the truth is that if you have sex with a guy, there is "something" you like about him and our prime focus tends to be his dick - which makes sense. If it's a one-time thing, fine. Anything other than that is something else. Guys can be in a sexual relationship with each other and without romantic intent because as I've heard time and time again, "that's too gay." Still, "relationship" has serious connotations to it but Tom and Dick could live together because it's convenient to combine their resources... but that doesn't mean they're in a relationship even if, in fact, they're having a sexual relationship - but if Dick brought a woman home to have sex with, would that be a problem if he's not in a committed relationship with Tom? That depends but perhaps you can see how we can "slice and dice" what "going gay" can really mean. It's not wrong to care about a guy and to whatever extent that might be; we tend to tell guys close to us that we "love them like a brother" which, by saying it this way, takes something off the fact that they do love them... to some extent that usually falls short of being romantic... but if sex were to happen between them, that's... different.

We're pretty weird about this. I have been in love with a guy and had a relationship with him and it was all that and then some. I've had FWB lovers and a very sexual relationship with them and I did care about them but that's different than what we think a relationship is and one that could be considered as gay. "Attracted" doesn't always mean what one might think it does since it does cover a very wide spectrum. What's the difference between a relationship with a wife and one with your male lover? Love is the difference. The commitment beyond sex is the difference. Both with differing emotional content and then, the biggest difference is... how one perceives all of this and based upon what one believes all of this means.

Having a male friend that you care about is one thing and there was something "attractive" about him that made him your friend and the better you get to know each other over time, the more you care about each other; if he needs help, you'd help him if you can. Having a male friend that you're having sex with is another thing; the two of you have already found something "attractive" - and read this as likeable - about each other so if the offer for sex is on the table, sure - why not? Takes the friendship to another level - from "casual" friendship to sexual. Great. But "going gay" also has some important connotations attached to it, i.e., a guy can decide that he's had enough of dealing with those insane women and only being with a man is what he has to do but there are sexual relationships and emotional ones in this, too, and here's the thing that cannot be forgotten: If the guy giving up women was bisexual, just being with a man going forward doesn't change the fact that he's bisexual because we assume that if Tom and Dick are both bi and decide to be in a relationship, they stop being bi and... it doesn't work like that. Sexuality doesn't mean a whole lot, to be truthful about it.

Tom is attracted to Dick because Dick has a great personality and that's as far as that goes; it could turn into being sexually attracted but that always depends on some stuff but, yeah, "only attracted to his dick" which is code for "not romantically attracted." And that's fine because you don't have to be in order to have sex. This, as you can see, gets pretty messy and beginning with it being unheard of to have sex with someone that you can't find something attractive about them or likeable enough that having sex is a good idea... like he's got a dick and, um, what else is needed? Certainly not romantic intent but interesting enough to have sex with if he doesn't mind. Guys can be like this for decades and not have an ounce of romantic attraction toward each other - but they've been in a long-standing sexual relationship that everyone would call gay... but is it really?

[CockHummer]

If I were to be single today, I would look for a man with whom I could establish a relationship. I?m not sure what that relationship would be like. I presume companionship and emotional intimacy of some sort. But since I?ve not had that with a man, I do t know that I really could.

I generally feel that way, but I have had one experience in my life that leaves me without doubt that I could enjoy emotional intimacy with a man. Before I share some of the details of that, though, just let me offer that my primary difficulty is that aside from cock, I just don't find men sexy, but if I could find another man that I held the right sort of emotional feelings for, I likely would get around that without too much difficulty!

I am a physician, and this fellow was my best friend in medical school. I had problems there, as I had thought three years of dating were adequate to determine whether a woman would be a good life partner for me, so I married her, but after a semester or two of being involved with a class of beautiful, brainy, and interesting women, unlike any I'd ever known before, it almost destroyed my marriage.

This friend was bisexual, as well, but I didn't find him attractive (or let's say I did not recognize how much I did), and he understood that I believed in faithfulness where that was promised and expected in a marriage. We were not swingers is I imagine the simplest way to put it. In fact, up until all these other gals started looking so attractive to me, I had no need to think about it because our sex life was great, and I spiced it up by jerking off while fantasizing about other women and, more often, guys.

But I got my eye on several of the women in my class, and I suddenly had second thoughts about the faithfulness thing, or more truthfully, I had second thoughts about the marriage, and I almost brought it to an end. This buddy and I went to a movie in which one of the main characters cheated on his wife, and it blew my mind, considering where I was in my head at the moment. I was open with my friend about it, and with me carrying on about how attracted I was to several specific women in our class and how much the guy cheating on his wife in the movie got me excited, he exclaimed that I knew I didn't want to hurt my wife and that that was the last thing I should do. It just occurs to me to realize how funny that was in a couple of senses, the second of which I will get to in a moment, but the first of which was that he had told me in wide open detail about his own parents' marriage, and how freely they both had sex outside of their marriage. It's funny that he, in that context, should have been directing me about faithfulness.

The other "funny" side of it, though, was the next time we got together, not long after his carrying on about me being faithful to my wife. It was the first time we went together to his dorm, which he shared with four other medical students, none of whom was home at the time. Both of us were big on languages, and he had grown up on a US military base in Spain, so we were carrying on in Spanish and having a blast playing Scrabble together, when out of nowhere, he just blurts out, "Hey, you wanna go in my bedroom and suck my cock?" This is the guy who was so worried about me hurting my wife just a couple of evenings back!

I had such mixed feelings. I had not yet accepted my bisexuality in some sense, even though I jerked off imagining having sex with guys all the time. I immediately got an intense erection, but I didn't find him physically attractive, and he had told me how he'd gotten genital warts while in the navy, and how hard they were to get rid of, so I wanted no chance of carrying the human papilloma virus home to my wife (and having to explain it). At the same time, I wanted to empty his testicles into my mouth. In the most absurd confusion, I just got up, praying he would not notice the obvious bulge in my pants, and said I had to leave and walked straight out the door to my car. I drove the 45 minutes home with my pants down right there in my driver's seat, jerking off the whole way, and it was intense.

We never came close to that again while we were medical students. My wife (now my ex) took to reading books and keeping up with the news and avoiding looking like Lucille Ball dressed for bed, with slippers and curlers and a fluffy bathrobe, half way through the afternoon when I got home, so she didn't look as bad in comparison, and the sex remained good, and all that held our marriage together for another twenty years. I did have one more interaction with that friend, though.

It was shortly after we had completed our medical training and we were at a medical conference in Orlando a year or two after we had been in practice. In fact, my best friend in residency (straight as an arrow) and his wife had the room next door to me and my wife, so nothing would happen there, but my wife could not stay for the entire conference, and I took to fantasizing that I would have sex with my old medical school best friend after she returned home. He was in a different hotel altogether, so I didn't need to worry about my residency buddy finding out if we fucked there.

I had rented a really sporty little car, and we decided we were going to the Epcott Center, as he had never been there before. I had, but I always enjoyed it, and I figured I could show him around. I went to his hotel to pick him up on a hot summer afternoon, so I was dressed lightly but neatly, with white short pants and a colorful short-sleeved shirt. He came out to tell me that he had to do some sort of work in his hotel room before we could leave, but it would only take him about twenty minutes. I wondered if I was supposed to ask if he needed any help, and then we'd end up alone together in his hotel room, but I was too shy about it, and off he went.

I sat there in this hot, red little sport car, with the roof down, pawing myself through the fabric of my short pants, feeling right out in public about it, imagining that I went in to help him with whatever he had to do in his room, and we promptly ended up naked and fucking each other every way possible. It was HOT!!! I so wish I'd had the balls to just follow him in. I mean, that had been my whole plan for the day, anyway. I fucked it up.

The next thing I know, though, I look down, and aside from my cock bulging up against the fabric of the left thigh of my short pants, the fabric in the region where my cockhead was was soaked with about a 3-inch ring of precum, and it was obvious. I feel so stupid now to think I was scared of having that seen, when again, to have him know I was hot was exactly what I had looked forward to, but somehow, I decided I had to try to hide the evidence. I walked into the hotel quite self-consciously about the fluid leakage and found my way to the public men's room. There, I sat down in a stall and finished jerking off, and I came shockingly hard. Then I went out to the sink and splashed water all over the front of my shorts, to make it look like I'd had some sort of an accident at the sink. The precum was fairly well concealed by the surrounding water, although it was somewhat shinier and "thicker," but I don't think he noticed it. What a fucking idiot I was. He and I never had sex after all of that!

The bigger part of it, though, was our time alone together at the Epcott Center. We did all sorts of things and really had fun together. We had supper at a Benihana's, and as it worked out, the parents of the chef who served our table were there visiting from Japan that night, so he had to spoil all of us as much as he spoiled his parents, and that made it something special.

We had a wonderful evening together, and it was time to get back to my car, so I could drop him off at his hotel and then get back to mine. We took something like a rickshaw ride, as I recall. I'm not sure it was just that, but it was some sort of a conveyance where the two of us sat side by side in an open carriage, and movement was powered by another person in front of us. Anyway, the main point is that, out of nowhere, my friend suddenly leans up against me and puts his head on my shoulder. It felt warm and wonderful. It is the only time in my life that I have come close to feeling that with a man, but I did. It was romantic. He remained like that for a good fifteen minute ride out to my car, and somehow (perhaps because I'd already cum so hard) there was something that felt better about it than sex. I generally deny to myself and have numerous times done so on this site that I develop romantic feelings for men like I do for women, but on considering this discussion and what you just added to it, that experience finally came bubbling up from my memory. So, for what it's worth, I know that I can develop a sense of romantic intimacy with another man, but that it is not easy. It's just happened the once, but I remain hopeful it might happen again, and if you are really interested, I wouldn't presume anything until you check it out. I guess, at least in part for me, it will be a matter of opening up my mouth and saying what I want and feel. Sorry for being so wordy.

[1funguy]

I was in a 12 year (until he passed away) FWB. He being Gay, while I am Bi. We went from the getting to know you to friends to best friends. What a joy as I discovered more of myself thru his openness and my willingness to learn more about male pleasure thru open communication. Our agreement was an open relationship. Even though I use the "R" word we looked at it as friends in need being friends indeed. Would I "go gay"? Under those same conditions I can't say I would rule it out as I love my freedom of being single. Kind of contradictory, then again that why I'm Bi.

[CockHummer]

I was in a 12 year (until he passed away) FWB. He being Gay, while I am Bi. We went from the getting to know you to friends to best friends. What a joy as I discovered more of myself thru his openness and my willingness to learn more about male pleasure thru open communication.

Our agreement was an open relationship. Even though I use the "R" word we looked at it as friends in need being friends indeed. Would I "go gay"? Under those same conditions I can't say I would rule it out as I love my freedom of being single. Kind of contradictory, then again that why I'm Bi.

That sounds like a great experience, and I wish I could have and perhaps yet will have something similar. I have taken a different approach to life, despite being bisexual, and it's had its upside and its downside. Specifically, one thing that is not talked about on here much is the concept of fidelity in a long-term relationship, but for various reasons, that has always been important to me. People find it convenient to downplay the importance of that here, and some speak as if concerns tied to free sex are overblown or something, but sexually transmitted infections are common and can be devastating. I just like knowing that I am in a relationship with someone where I can feel absolutely free to enjoy genital to genital contact without any protection on an ongoing basis.

Of course the downside of it, which I see as the bane of bisexuality, is that if you are truly focused on one person, you are having sex with someone of only one gender, and that means you are ignoring half of your natural sex drive in the case of a bisexual. It can leave you really inordinately hungry for sex with someone of the gender you've not been active with for a long time. I have been reliably trustworthy with female partners for so long that I'm at a point where I'd really like to live as if absolutely homosexual for a while, and a good long while if I found a guy that I was really compatible with. I'd like to find a guy that i share interests with, with result that we find it easy to have fun together, aside from sex. We might travel. We'd develop friendly relationships with each other's friends outside of our relationship, we'd offer each other support in life's challenges, and we'd share living space and expenses. To me, that is an ideal context for a warm sexual relationship with either sex, and it's just time I did it with a man and got some real cock, rather than always fantasizing about men when I jerk off between episodes of actual sex play with a female partner.

How great that you got twelve years with someone, though, and shared the wonderful growing relationship that you describe. That could be a goal and desire for anyone. It had to have been hard at the time, and I am sorry you lost him.

[emerging]

I wonder if one can "go" gay . I'm bisexual and if I found myself single I think I would stay single. I would enjoy both sexes. Plus I am not certain at this stage in my life I could come out as gay.

[NJwood]

I wouldn’t come out as gay, I’d still be bi. I’d still find women attractive. I’d seize on any opportunity to have sex with a woman while indulging in sex with men. I’ve lived with guys platonically, my male friends that I spend time with are purely friendships. If I were single could I be in a committed relationship ship with a guy? Not likely. An FWB is more like it.

[Openmindedone01]

No. I have no attraction to men. I just like dick occasionally.

[Shyguy1376]

I would go bisexual(bottom) in an open relationship. But would never give up women 100%. I love eating pussy too much.

[1funguy]

Thanks for the thoughtful reply CockHummer. His passing did cause a void in life that is yet to be filled. We may have agreed to an open relationship, however the vibes were not right if I met with someone else. I just couldn't do it. And he admitted he couldn't either! You are right it was special and we realized that so we were more or less monogamous for at least half of those years.

[Rest85]

Naw. I'm not interested in a romantic relationship with a guy. I'm strictly m/f for romance. With guys it's all about his cock.

[The Chunkly]

Yes definitely
The marriage I'm in is not good.
There has been many limitations on sex, now even talking about sex is a no, no

I would appreciate another Man for a Bi relationship.
If that worked out, then I possibly would go gay.

From my own experiences I get more fun satisfaction from having sex with another Man
Than a woman.
In my experiences a Man gives a better blow job and knows what you want.
Then take a rest, and start again.

I've not ever had that from a woman nor my wife.

So, my answer is yes.

[Road Warrior]

I am in a heterosexual relationship. I have been married over 22 yers to my wife. She know I am bisexual.

Yes, I could definitely go Gay. I have been in several semi long term relationships with men where I felt that if it happened under different circumstances, I could partner with them. In my last relationship with a man I was a total bottom. Missionary was my favorite position, and I had deep feelings for him. When he was fucking me in the missionary position and my legs were wrapped around him like so many women that I had fucked I reaized:

That he had made me his girl. I loved it and felt I cold easily live that way with him.

[Spankme6969]

Yes, I would totally go all gay if I had the chance.

[travelmanNW]

I've been thinking about this for several days my answer would be yes. I enjoy sex with the right guy. I'm 70 plus years old was straight most of my life. But in the last 15 years most of my sexual relationships have been with men.

[Bidirectional4u]

wife knows im bi and we have enjoyed a few guys together she thinks it's hot watching me with a guy. One gentleman in particular became a very close friend to the point we talked about having him live with us. It didn't happen as we had to move out of state but I'm sure if we found another guy that fit the bill, we'd consider it.

[Littlegrizz]

I don't have a realtionship right now with a women but I'm seriously thinking of going gay. I am very curious right now and it's getting worse everyday. I'm soooo close to coming out

[BootyBuffet]

I am in a great marriage and she gets super turned on watching my get fucked. I love bottoming for guys, but it is a physical thing for me. If something happened to my wife, I could not be romantically involved with a guy, although fuck buddies would be ok. :)

[BiVers240]

No. I like pussy too much to give it up.

Wife and I are both bi. We play with others together.

[Take.it.Easy]

Well I have decided to go gay because I love cock and cum and would love to take a load at least once a gay. I love to be fucked too, love a hard cock in my tight ass and feeling / seeing a guy fuck is a huge turn on.

[DLazguy]

I'd still date women, but look for a physical relationship with another man. I love women and pussy, but I love the sex drive that men have and I can appreciate a good looking guy with a nice cock.

[Tight1-4u]

​I kinda did!!!

[Take.it.Easy]

Well, my male friend and I started living together and we have sex just about 3 times a day. He’s fit and smooth like me with a nice 8” cock. I love waking him up by sucking his cock. We are both vers and love to fuck. He is a huge cummer it tastes amazing. We started taking lots of photos and are working on a vid. I’ll post some very soon. So I’m totally gay now and enjoying it.

[marine20]

my wife was very sexual for many years , in fact we had an open marriage , but because of her medical issues , we haven't had sex for a long time.she knows i'm bi and she is ok with me going out to suck cock. except for a couple of women at porn theaters, all iv'e been having for years is gay sex. i prefer women but , when you are my age it is hard to attract them. so right now ,i'm pretty much just another cock sucking faggot. i'm ok with that , if i can't get pussy , cock is fine with me .

[rascal2014]

I'm a 71 year old bi married guy. Its very seldom I have sex with my wife, for some reason I don't find her attractive like I once did. For the last 5 years or so all I think about is cock. I'm not really into making out but will kiss a guy. So I don't know if I'm leaning towards being gay or still bi that loves cock lol. Hope that makes sense. I still find women attractive.

[Take.it.Easy]

611666116761165Our first picture with me sucking his beautiful cock

[rukiddingme]

Very arousing pics! To answer the post...if I were to able to keep my social relationships separated from my private sexual desires I would definitely be able to go gay.

[tenni]

The way that I see it is are attracted to more than one gender, you are bisexual. If you are Gay you are only attracted to one gender:. the same gender as you. You can not "go Gay". You were Gay all the time or Bisexual all the time. If you say that you can not have "over time romantic feelings for someone of the same gender as you. You may not develop romantic feelings and only have physical feelings.

[KDaddy23]

Yet, Tenni, I personally know four men who were bisexual but decided that being totally gay was what worked for them. In their own words, they "went gay." Methinks we tend to think or otherwise believe that once we choose our sexual orientation, we can't change our minds about it, that there are no circumstances that would warrant adopting a fully gay lifestyle. One of the men I know became a widower when his wife died; he decided that he'd "had enough of messing with women" and directed his attention and affections toward men only. At the time, even I thought that maybe he was really gay the whole time; really, who changes their mind about this? I learned otherwise but given the continued stigma toward homosexual men, "going gay" would be a seriously big decision for a guy to make - but if he needed to make it, then... he's gay. His choice, his decision.

[tenni]

KD
Sexuality is defined by who we are attracted to and not necessarily have physical contact (oral ie. suck, kiss, penetration etc.)
Contact may be physical without emotional (romantic) or physical/emotional romantic at this point in our lives. That may change over time if the person is comfortable.

There are the monosexuals who are only attracted to one gender. Heterosexuals (opposite gender attraction) and Gay (homosexual same sex) attracted to the same gender. Those are the gay gender or straight(opposite gender) Due to social pressure people find it a challenge to identify as bi .

Bisexuals are attracted to both same gender and straight (heterosexual opposite gender attraction). Even if we do not act on our desires we are attracted to more than one gender.

How strongly you are attracted to genders determines if you can be exclusive.

Bisexuals are frequently, pressured to pick one side straight or gay.

A few years back there was a Bisexual woman in a monogamous relationship with a Lesbian. People would tell the Bisexual woman that she is a Lesbian and that she should pick one( Lesbian) or the other. The Bisexual woman was still attracted to other women and men. She was monogamous and only had sex with her partner. She said if her partnership ended that she would still be attracted to both women and men.

If you identify as being Bisexual, you will not be gay or straight hetero) even if you have same sex activity, you are not exclusively Gay. You will still check out women for their attractive ness.

[KDaddy23]

Yeah, I know how it's defined - duh. I also know the way "it's supposed to be," too. What I also know is people change their minds and I know how... tribal we are about things: If you say you're gay, you can be nothing other than gay and... really? Again, it presumes that a person cannot change their orientation and for whatever reason that makes sense to them; yes, we are told to pick a side and stay on it... but do we really have to? I think not but, then again, I've not been of a mind to give rhetoric a whole lot of weight since I know how people can behave in these things... if it suits their purposes.

I can't count the number of times that I've taken a straight guy and... now he's bi - and even if he's only attracted to the sex and that's something our prudish society says that we should not be attracted to as a singular focus... yet, that's how it can be. Bisexuality teaches one some stuff about attraction and in ways that doesn't conform to conventional thinking and, being human and all that, there is a lot of things that are attractive about us and some of it isn't what you can see. That's all well and good but if you're straight and very attracted to women - but now you find yourself attracted to men in some way - so what? Likewise, you can be bi and find yourself more attracted to men than women and... so what? Gay isn't just a thing to do - it's a way to be and just like being bi and straight are and oh, yeah, you can change things as you see fit... and to hell with what people say about picking a side and staying on it... because you sure as fuck don't have to if you don't want to.

And why people don't seem to understand this... fascinates the shit out of me because at the end of any day, Tenni, it's not what everyone else thinks: It's what the individual thinks. I know gay men who have sex with women and will tell you that they're still gay; I know straight dudes who will throw it down with a guy and tell you that they're still straight. I knew a couple of gay folks who decided to be more bisexual than gay... because that's what they felt worked best for them. They got their heads handed to them by folks who were citing the same stuff that you cited and, again, like they don't have the right to change themselves as needed. Seriously? And if you, sir, don't know this, um, why don't you? Or do you like the way the Kool-Aid tastes?

[tenni]

KD

You present yourself on this site as a knowledgable rather licentious free spirit and from diverse experiences. Posts on this thread show me that some posters believe that a Bisexual may become gay. The Bisexual may be active in diverse form of expression. I agree that if a poster references same sex activity and suddenly sees himself as Gay needs to be corrected. He may have see himself as straight. They maybe Gay to finally rest as seeing himself as Bisexual. His sexuality may shift. Most often it is a desire to express his sexuality development and support a person their sexuality clarity.

This is a bisexual website with a purpose to encourage it s readers to develop their understanding of Bisexuality. Some recent writing indicate that there is a wide experience that is more about eccentric and individualistic background that goes beyond more inquiries that people initially post.

Number of posters showing seems to down. Is the interest in this bisexual waining or just one shift from many years?

[Waylon]

i AM A BI ORAL MAN WHO GIVES HEAD TO SPECIAL MEN BUT NEVER TOOK IT IN THE ASS UNTIL i MET MY DREAM LOVER. aFTER MANY SOCKSUCKING SESSIONS i FINALLY BEGGED HIM TO FUCK ME. hE HAD AN GOOD SIZED 8 INCH COCK THAT WASN'T REAL THICK SINCE i DEEP THROATED HIM ALL THE TIME BUT HE APPLIED LOTS OF LLLLLLLLUBE AND WAS VERY GENTLE UNTIL HE ENTERED ME DEEP. oNCE HIS COCK HEAD PASSED TH POINT OF NO RETLURN i WENT CRQAZY WITH LUST, TELLING HIM TO FUCK ME GOOD AND HARD AS HE SLAMMED HIS COCK INTO ME DEEPP. .aS HE APPROACHED CLIMAX i BEGGED HIM TO CUM IN MY MOOUTH AND HE PULLED OUT AAND FUCKED MY THROAT BALLS DEEP. tHE TASTE WAS DELICIIPOS.

[KDaddy23]

"Number of posters showing seems to down. Is the interest in this bisexual waining or just one shift from many years?"

I honestly don't know. The site itself could be responsible; it's not behaving in a way that I'd call normal - features that used to work don't work all that well; some members have spoken to problems with signing in. I wouldn't say that interest in bisexuality is waning but, more likely, an ebb and flow kind of thing; in the warmer months, participation is down as members are on vacation, doing other activities but in the colder months, participation seems to increase as members hunker down, not likely to be out and about - and looking to engage their bisexuality - as much as they'd be in the summer. And participation doesn't count for those who read but aren't of a mind to comment or create new postings.

I agree with what you said about the overall purpose and vision of this site. Bisexuality is such a broad topic and one that is based more on experiences, impressions, and other individually unique perspectives; like, I know guy who have dove into the pool and, at some point, have asked, "Am I really gay?" "Usually," they aren't - but same sex experiences are seriously eye-opening and horribly exciting and some guys spend "a lot of time" engaging with men than they do women until that initial thrill wears off and, as such, it gives an impression of really being gay.

But, I think, because many of us have been beaten about our heads about the evil nature of being gay, I think that asking if one would go gay is a valid question because it remains as a concern - or a possibility - for men and depending on their own unique situations. It's my opinion - and one based upon what I've been observing - that the lines we've drawn between straight, bi, and gay are starting to blur or, perhaps, being erased; no empirical data to support this (that I know of) but merely based upon what bisexual men are experiencing, thinking, and even feeling.

If it has to do with bi guys, we talk about it. I mean, I wouldn't go gay - and as a lifestyle choice - because I'm not of a mind to be monosexual. But other guys might have other ideas...

[Jazminedress]

I think it's many things. Personally, I take breaks from the site, sometimes a week or two, sometimes a month or two................why ?

Well, while I enjoy chatting with many of you, sometimes you are like that room-ate, you know the one that can't put the damn milk back on the shelf you found it on or doesn't replace the toilet paper roll. At those times, I find myself getting irritable, so I step away.
It is nothing anyone here has done, it is simply my personality, and I am fairly self aware, so rather than getting snippy with people, I step back.

Other things, I think @Tenni and @KDaddy say are both very valid points, many times they seem at odds seeing things from a different perspective and life experiences, who is right who is wrong, I have no clue, both seem valid.

For me, I am here because I think there are others like me with the extra twist on who they are, and if I can chat with them and maybe lend an ear or some advice, then maybe they wont have some of the struggles I did.
Yes, there is a difference in being bi-sexual and only acting and dressing as a man, to being bisexual and dressing en femme. I have also found encounters are very different
I am willing to bet, although I dont think I have ever met someone, who generally has lived there life in a homosexual relationship and women are the side thing, usually seems the other way around

So, would I go gay, I assume means would I engage in a male / male only relationship..............I would say probably not. Would I have a regular friend to connect with, yes, I would. The honest answer as to the reason why (and I gave this a lot more thought than I did before), men can get very freaking annoying and I never learned the skills women do at an early age to deal with us

[Jazminedress]

To add in another little thing, I belong to motorcycle forums, guitar forums and gun forums.............
Here is what happens in every forum

Motorcycles - people are there 6 months to a year, consider themselves the veterans, and start jumping on newer people who join and ask what oil to use. Comments like read the damn manual, or use the search feature, just basically BS that makes the newer person feel uncomfortable. And here this guy is, excited about their new adventure. The people who have been around for years, they get that this question will be asked about a million times and roll with the flow.

Guitar forums- it becomes is this pedal any good, what strings should I buy

Gun forums - as soon as the people who worship the altar of GLocks jump in, it always gets rude and nasty, especially if the new person is seen as having an inferior gun.

I don't think we do that here as much, and there is a good regular crowd that always greets people, but I have seen many forums slowing down, guessing people are going back to work post COVID

[Bi-Will]

I would definitely seek a more bisexual relationship at the least. While I?ve only had one limited experience, I know my desires and could see myself moving more openly in that direction. Honestly, yes, I?d even consider an exclusively gay relationship if dating lead in that direction.

[chongster]

Women only in a relationship, I just use guys for sex

[Take.it.Easy]

Things are going well, we have sex like 4 times a day. I have become more of a bottom and I love riding him and making him come. I’ve gotten great at throating too. Love feeling his hot come pump in my throat.

[eager4cum]

thank you for a great question. Short answer is yes. Longer answer is that I think about this a lot. I sucked a cock 8 years before I ever ate a pussy or had any other sex with a female. This was back in the late 60's and early 70's and there was a strong expectation to be straight so I basically repressed my BI'ness and married straight. Over the years, the urge to exercise my BI side has only gotten stronger. SO, YES, I would definitely, at the very least, try gay as I feel more and more gay leanings as I grow older. The urge to suck cock again and eat his cum continues to pull at my heart strings. Even writing this out has my cock very hard right now.

[CockHummer]

I tend to take the position that monogamy is not good for bisexuals but if you want to be monogamous you still are bisexual.

You said more than I quoted, but I wanted to respond to both of the contentions stated in your last, separate sentence. I will take them out of order, as I find the first point you stated more interesting, and I tend to save the "best" (more interesting in this case) for last.

I suspect the expression "to go gay" was used somewhat playfully here, perhaps to trigger a little extra stimulation for those who have spent most of their adult life as a bisexual sexually active with people of only one gender, but anyone on here at a site named Bisexual.com I feel comfortable presuming has already accepted the fact that regardless of whom they have elected to have sex with, they are bisexual, or else why would they be here in the first place? Your comment would be more appropriate if brought up instead in one of so many sites not tied directly to bisexuality, where it is all too common to find men expressing how they are perfectly straight, but they still like sucking cock, or the idea of it excites them. It strikes me as odd that you think men would be here on this site who do not already have that issue sorted out in their head.

I am more taken aback by your contention that monogamy is not good for bisexuals. We all recognize (and yes, even on this site, where such question is asked of us personally when we join) that bisexuality is not the same for all of us. Some have a tendency to be equally attracted and/or active with people of both genders, while some are more interested in and more active with people of one gender, some being more interested in those of the opposite sex and others with those of the same sex. While I can see where your remark would make good sense for those who are equally drawn by people of both genders and to limit involvement to only one of the two would likely provoke considerable sexual and emotional hardship, what on earth do you find wrong with someone who is aware of a somewhat more limited degree of interest in persons of one gender or the other finding that in their life monogamy is a comfortable lifestyle and they can satisfy their limited interest in the gender in which they are less interested by taking advantage of masturbatory fantasies?

Speaking for myself in particular in this regard, I am in the peculiarly uncomfortable position that I find fantasizing about cock exceedingly erotically exciting, yet I do not find men attractive physically or romantically, to the point that viewing gay porn actually turns me off, and when I find myself feeling especially cock-hungry and decide I should give it a try to find a potential male partner, I get out in public and look around, and all I can say is, "What on earth was I thinking?" Frankly, I wish I found men attractive, and I would readily be involved with people of both genders. I have heard discussion on this site from a number of men who feel pretty much the same way--to fantasize about sucking a cock is erotically enjoyable, but men do not turn us on either physically or romantically. Why on earth should I feel compelled to be anything other than monogamous? How do you find that monogamy is not good for bisexuals in such a general way, without first taking into consideration the differences that life brings to all of us and how varied an experience being bisexual can be?

[rukiddingme]

Sexually I absolutely could go gay. As I have gotten older my desire and arousal has learned towards men. Socially I'm still in a network of hetro friends. So the boundaries of what I am willing to cross limit how far I go.

[Kip2june]

Married now 20 years, but if something happened to that.... I would like to have 4 - 6 guys who I could regularly suck off, and some who would fuck me from time to time. I think I need to be able to suck at least a few cocks per week. I dream of having a steady flow of good clean cum to swallow. I still have not even sucked cock yet, but have wanted to for at least 15 years. I will do it soon as the desire has only grown over the past years. If anybody is in South Florida let me know if I can suck your cock.