rayosytruenos
Aug 21, 2006, 7:20 PM
Hi everyone!
I just wanted to say that I've been wanting at least to tell my family about my sexuality for a while. Today I tried to direct the conversation I was having with my mum and sister to the topic of sex. I was telling them that with me, girls seem to play hard to get, or they seem to show an interest not in me, but in other factors like my passport... (In a way, we can speak about anything, and I'm very blunt saying things).
As the conversation was going to other topics once and again, I finally said to them: "Well, I want to tell you something for you to start digesting it: I bed also guys!". My sister looked at me and asked "Are you joking or is it in earnest?". I answered "No, it's in earnest. I need a lot of sex, and while girls play hard to give me some, I have plenty of men willing to help me. I did want to tell you, as I don't like to have any secrets with you, but you were just yesterday joking and mimicking about gays so I was not that sure."
My mum then said something like "I've always loved you and I'll always do, no matter what you are." and then added something like "nobody is perfect..." so my sister and I started to laugh and I asked my mum if she meant that my sexuality was an imperfection to her eyes. She apologized and said that she didn't mean that.
I asked them that I wanted to tell dad and my two brothers too, and then my sister said not to tell my dad, as that could give him a heart attack, as he is in a very delicate health. My mum corroborated her words saying that my dad is very "macho" and wouldn't understand. (We are a very traditional Latin-macho family).
Then my sister said that about my brothers, she thought that at least she knew that one of them knew "faggots" and had some of them as friends...
I could not help but thinking about the terms and expressions my mum and sister were using, even if supposedly it was me one of those "imperfect" beings or "faggots", but I guess I cannot ask from them to change suddenly something that it's so deeply implanted in our culture.
Not sure when and if I'm going to tell my brothers, and even less sure about telling my dad. I wish I could do it to all of them. As a really close Latin family we have no secrets to each other and I feel very strange hiding this from them. At least I have already taken the first step.
All the best,
ray :male:
I just wanted to say that I've been wanting at least to tell my family about my sexuality for a while. Today I tried to direct the conversation I was having with my mum and sister to the topic of sex. I was telling them that with me, girls seem to play hard to get, or they seem to show an interest not in me, but in other factors like my passport... (In a way, we can speak about anything, and I'm very blunt saying things).
As the conversation was going to other topics once and again, I finally said to them: "Well, I want to tell you something for you to start digesting it: I bed also guys!". My sister looked at me and asked "Are you joking or is it in earnest?". I answered "No, it's in earnest. I need a lot of sex, and while girls play hard to give me some, I have plenty of men willing to help me. I did want to tell you, as I don't like to have any secrets with you, but you were just yesterday joking and mimicking about gays so I was not that sure."
My mum then said something like "I've always loved you and I'll always do, no matter what you are." and then added something like "nobody is perfect..." so my sister and I started to laugh and I asked my mum if she meant that my sexuality was an imperfection to her eyes. She apologized and said that she didn't mean that.
I asked them that I wanted to tell dad and my two brothers too, and then my sister said not to tell my dad, as that could give him a heart attack, as he is in a very delicate health. My mum corroborated her words saying that my dad is very "macho" and wouldn't understand. (We are a very traditional Latin-macho family).
Then my sister said that about my brothers, she thought that at least she knew that one of them knew "faggots" and had some of them as friends...
I could not help but thinking about the terms and expressions my mum and sister were using, even if supposedly it was me one of those "imperfect" beings or "faggots", but I guess I cannot ask from them to change suddenly something that it's so deeply implanted in our culture.
Not sure when and if I'm going to tell my brothers, and even less sure about telling my dad. I wish I could do it to all of them. As a really close Latin family we have no secrets to each other and I feel very strange hiding this from them. At least I have already taken the first step.
All the best,
ray :male: