Secret life?

[Curious3346xxx]

How many of guys are leading a secret life like I am? I'm an active bi-sexual but my wife doesn't know.

[SOFLMan]

I just like sucking cock when I can.

[Darrenrich]

I'm not active yet but I am looking for the right guy to start and no my wife doesn't know. She doesn't even know I'm a member this site.

[fredtyg]

She knows I'm queer but doesn't specifically know I've been with men and lust after men. Well, she knows I have done it, but nothing specific.

[right2b]

Only the few men I have been with know. My life is scary and sexy to the same time. Only siblings on my end no wife or girlfriend but still not ready to show my hand.

[pole_smoker]

She knows I'm queer but doesn't specifically know I've been with men and lust after men. Well, she knows I have done it, but nothing specific.
:rolleyes: Sure, riiiiiiiight, whatever. :rolleyes: You frequently post about how you have cheated on your wife with pretty much any guy that is willing to have sex with you, and think she has no idea that you're gay but in reality you're a major closet queen. :rolleyes:

My husband and I are both bisexual and we have been out for decades, even when we dated and had relationships with women we were out to them.

[bob338]

My wife has no idea that I play or that I'm such a cockslut. :)

[hornyhank69]

I agree with you and it makes both of us a cockslut and I love it

[sweecocksucker69]

my wife suspects, but doesn't know that I'm a active cum slut.

[julyguybill]

I also keep my bi side out of the open I do love sucking guys off have for a long time but have to keep this secret my desires are to suck suck and suck but does m=not occur that often

[NjbiGuy01]

Based on being bi since my teens, over the years I've realized it's pretty obvious there are many,many "straight" men living conventional lives with wives, kids, jobs, and have a secret bisexual or gay side they keep under wraps. In some cases they have come out to their wives. In the case of the couple I play with, the wife was supportive as long as she was involved in all aspects. It was the result of them going to therapy and working through things. In my case, my wife knows I played with men and couples before we met. She knows I still consider myself a bisexual, and she has actually grown more receptive to the realization that she'd rather I find a clean married guy in a similar situation than be trolling the internet underworld or a mens rooms to find a partner.

We're certainly aware of the risks involved (we're 100% tested clean in June-2015, which felt great for us both), and we would expect the same of a prospective partner. She does not presently have interest in a threesome, but did express interest in possibly watching or coming along when I meet a prospective partner. In the back of my mind I think if we met the right handsome bi-guy she might consider a threesome, but I won't push it. ;)

I've had a few male and couple encounters over the years, but have been selective about it and remained clean by playing safe or mutual testing. The local couple I see steadily went for testing and are we are exclusive.

Hey thanks pole_smoker for polluting yet another thread with your drivel and "holier than thou" fucking attitude. Why not do us a favor and STFU ? You contribute nothing meaningful to the website nor to civilization in general. Your a fucking annoying, pompous, asswipe. How about speaking when spoken-to ?

[NjbiGuy01]

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[NjbiGuy01]

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Pole smoker (http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pole+smoker&defid=670388)
One who enjoys the act of sucking random penises and does so on a frequent basis.

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[cornholejoe]

well as i have said before my business is my business and what i do is nobody elses business

[darkeyes]

well as i have said before my business is my business and what i do is nobody elses business
That, Joe darlin', depends on wot ur biz iz, how safely u do it and how it impacts on other folk.....:)

[Visexual]

I couldn't really check any of the choices in the poll.

My wife does know that I've had experiences with guys when I was young. She knows that I would be interested, in the right situation, again. She knows that I enjoy bisexual porn. But she doesn't know that I've had experiences during the 43 years we've been married..., I don't think.

Would she be cool with it? There was a time about 15 years ago that she said she would. We did some swinging a long time ago so we don't have that monogamous hang-up. But, oddly, in the past three and a half years since we gave up sex with each other, she's become more restrictive about sex. It's like she doesn't want sex anymore and doesn't want me to have it either. Go figure?

[Curious3346xxx]

Visexual - i guess I worded it wrong. The second one from last. Should have been my wife has knowledge of some sort of bisexual past of mine but doesn't know I'm active now

[Outofthis99999]

I couldn't really check any of the choices in the poll.

My wife does know that I've had experiences with guys when I was young. She knows that I would be interested, in the right situation, again. She knows that I enjoy bisexual porn. But she doesn't know that I've had experiences during the 43 years we've been married..., I don't think.

Would she be cool with it? There was a time about 15 years ago that she said she would. We did some swinging a long time ago so we don't have that monogamous hang-up. But, oddly, in the past three and a half years since we gave up sex with each other, she's become more restrictive about sex. It's like she doesn't want sex anymore and doesn't want me to have it either. Go figure?
Came out to my gf after she mentioned she was open to things like that. As she asked questions it was very clear that she wasn't prepared to hear that I have had sex with men. She thought it was a one time thing. She now knows it was going on for many years with the same guy. Also understands that I enjoyed being with a guy.

[pole_smoker]

I couldn't really check any of the choices in the poll.

My wife does know that I've had experiences with guys when I was young. She knows that I would be interested, in the right situation, again. She knows that I enjoy bisexual porn. But she doesn't know that I've had experiences during the 43 years we've been married..., I don't think.

Would she be cool with it? There was a time about 15 years ago that she said she would. We did some swinging a long time ago so we don't have that monogamous hang-up. But, oddly, in the past three and a half years since we gave up sex with each other, she's become more restrictive about sex. It's like she doesn't want sex anymore and doesn't want me to have it either. Go figure?
So you use this as an excuse to cheat on your wife who you claim to love but never really have. :rolleyes:

Anyone else would have gotten a divorce instead of cheating and lying to their spouse who they supposedly love and care about. :rolleyes:

[BiNavyguy2004]

Couldn't really choose any of the choices. I told my wife of 10yrs that I was bi and some of my experiences of course she had some expected shock. She is very open to things but we didn't really get to explore anything as I deployed very soon after this conversation. Look forward to getting back with her and seeing where things go.

[Niacountyny]

Love my totally unaware wife, but have been curious for years about being sexual with another guy.

[NjbiGuy01]

And yet again, a totally useless and judgmental post from Pole_smoker...

[pole_smoker]

And yet again, a totally useless and judgmental post from Pole_smoker...
LMAO!!!!!!! Says the troll who has no life and who loves to stalk and harass me. :rolleyes: This idiot troll from NJ also cheats on his wife who he does not love at all.

[cornholejoe]

That, Joe darlin', depends on wot ur biz iz, how safely u do it and how it impacts on other folk.....:)

well it dont impact other people what kind of sex life i do is really not anyone one else business

[Christopher South]

Anyone else would have gotten a divorce instead of cheating and lying to their spouse who they supposedly love and care about. :rolleyes:

I don't think most people would get a divorce. Every situation is different.

For me my wife is a good person. Was a good mother, etc... but lacked desperately in the sex department. Talking, counseling, arguing, etc... was never able to change her. Should I divorce her just because of a lack of interest in sex? Or should I figure out a way to handle my sexual needs and bisexuality on my own.

I think a lot of guys are in this situation. Good spouse who otherwise can't fill a need for a husband. Do I think it's cheating? Yes. Do I wish I there was some other way? Yes.

[travelmanNW]

I'm a widower, I have no intention of coming out publicly. I enjoy a private lifestyle. My 1st wife I did tell I was bisexual she was understanding at first but became bored with it. Took on a boyfriend divorced me, then humiliated me in public and though the courts. We lived in a small town in Alaska that was hard to take.

So I'm secretive and very private. Discreet

[cornholejoe]

I'm a widower, I have no intention of coming out publicly. I enjoy a private lifestyle. My 1st wife I did tell I was bisexual she was understanding at first but became bored with it. Took on a boyfriend divorced me, then humiliated me in public and though the courts. We lived in a small town in Alaska that was hard to take.

So I'm secretive and very private. Discreet
it dont matter what kind of sex life you enjoy its all ways better to be discreet about it or that is the way i feel and what i do

[avintinus]

How many of guys are leading a secret life like I am? I'm an active bi-sexual but my wife doesn't know.
yup that about sums it up

[Christopher South]

I also think that in some circumstances it isn't a private life but more of a "don't ask, don't tell". My wife has no interest in sex yet she knows I'd like to have sex 2-3 times a week. We haven't been having sex for a while and I'm not complaining about it so while she hasn't been told, I think she's of the mind of "don't ask".

[Wolf_Sr]

Very good article that shades light into men's sexuality. Like almost anything in life sex preference has many shades and can not be contained by labels. I firmly believe mankind will reach a superior level when people can move along all the grades of shade and find the one adjust most, without giving up any other shades they also enjoy.

[cuttin2dachase]

My 1st wife and I were swingers from very early in our marriage. She is the one who coaxed me to try oral sex with men in 4somes and 3somes so she could get off watching or helping. She knew I was hooked after I sucked my very 1st cock and from then on both of us looked forward to seducing other men to join us in bed. We had many fun times together with other men. I told my 2nd wife of my previous swinging sex life and that I had done bi things with wife watching. She was not at all upset, but made it clear she would not ever be interested in swinging. Although I secretly chatted with men and had cyber sex online semi regularly, I didn't cheat on her even though I had many opportunities to do so. We are still technically married, but have been separated over 6 years and live 500 miles apart. She has no idea of the number of men, women and couples I've been with since we split up, and wouldn't care if she did know. She lives with her married boyfriend and is very happy with him and I wish them well. My family and str8 friends have no idea I lead a double life and enjoy sex with men as much as I enjoy sex with women. It is very exciting to me to have this secret side and I can't wait for my next manfun !! I have a hookup date with a hot married man next weekend. We've chatted for several weeks and are both very hot and horny with anticipation. He thinks he will be able to get away from his family for some afternoon evening fun. I have several other prospects as well to supplement my semi-regular fun with 2 other married men.

[pole_smoker]

My 1st wife and I were swingers from very early in our marriage. She is the one who coaxed me to try oral sex with men in 4somes and 3somes so she could get off watching or helping. She knew I was hooked after I sucked my very 1st cock and from then on both of us looked forward to seducing other men to join us in bed. We had many fun times together with other men. I told my 2nd wife of my previous swinging sex life and that I had done bi things with wife watching. She was not at all upset, but made it clear she would not ever be interested in swinging. Although I secretly chatted with men and had cyber sex online semi regularly, I didn't cheat on her even though I had many opportunities to do so. We are still technically married, but have been separated over 6 years and live 500 miles apart. She has no idea of the number of men, women and couples I've been with since we split up, and wouldn't care if she did know. She lives with her married boyfriend and is very happy with him and I wish them well. My family and str8 friends have no idea I lead a double life and enjoy sex with men as much as I enjoy sex with women. It is very exciting to me to have this secret side and I can't wait for my next manfun !! I have a hookup date with a hot married man next weekend. We've chatted for several weeks and are both very hot and horny with anticipation. He thinks he will be able to get away from his family for some afternoon evening fun. I have several other prospects as well to supplement my semi-regular fun with 2 other married men.



there are bisexual men who believe that “nobody can tell they’re bisexual” – they’re wrong. savvy people can tell. the more you’re OUT, and the more you interact with bisexual people the more you realize it’s not about stereotypes at all. it’s much more nuanced.
family can spot family. it’s often easier to spot a closeted bisexual man than a comfortably out bisexual man; the giveaways are obvious to anyone who’s left the Closet far behind. ;) :rolleyes:

[void()]

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Huh. Oddly, I may agree with you on this. Have been around some people at various times what seemed keen to just know. Worked with one guy who would often remove his shirt in the parking lot of the grocer we worked at. He would be physically hot on a hot Summer or Spring day, outside, off the clock. One day he saw me on the lot gathering buggies for return. He smiled while he slipped his shirt off slowly, very much teasing. The next day he asked if I had enjoyed his show. Could not help telling him, "hon, you can take your shirt off any time you like around me." He chuckled.

We spoke and I learned he was indeed very straight. That aside he told me he felt comfortable I was not going to jump his bone/s if he kept on taking his shirt off like he did. Told him any time he wanted test how straight he was to find me. We continued working together a while longer. He was in the meat department and damn if he was not a fine piece himself. He later went on transfer to another store, closer to his family, gal and little daughter. The transfer also saw him attaining a raise and a better position in the store. On one of his visits back at our store he confessed he might want to test his straightness, but we never made any plans. Life seems to get in the way like that.

So, maybe you're on to something with people knowing. I was not aware of putting out any signals. Also, met a couple in a likewise situation. They knew, and again I had not tried to signal anything. Always try to remain another Joe in work environs.