Chances of meeting somebody you know

[idabiho]

Hello group

I've been interested in finding a discreet playmate somewhat close to my area . I've been looking thru CL adds and communicated with a few guys about potentially meeting . I have a paranoia about possibly knowing the people I may encounter and having a very awkward situation . I screen the guys with a few basic questions to get an idea if I may know them.. Like a possible coworker or something . I guess we'd both be looking for the same thing but still find it would be awkward . I recently found a new ad looking for a playmate .. After a few basic questions with one guy things started to sound familiar so I investigated further . To sum it up after the info I gathered I'm about 99% sure this guy is my brother !! I've had my suspicions in the past about his sexuality but didn't give it much thought . I kinda freaked and quit talking to him. I would in no way want my family to know of my desires and he is also very discreet but very careless with the info he gives a total stranger. I can't tell him what I know without giving my own secrets up . He didn't ask much about me and I misdirected him to throw him off in case of the slight chance he knew it could be me .. Now I'm really unsure about continuing my search for a playmate .
Has anyone else ever had the issue of coming across a friend or relative while trying to be discreet ?

[pole_smoker]

Hello group

I've been interested in finding a discreet playmate somewhat close to my area . I've been looking thru CL adds and communicated with a few guys about potentially meeting . I have a paranoia about possibly knowing the people I may encounter and having a very awkward situation . I screen the guys with a few basic questions to get an idea if I may know them.. Like a possible coworker or something . I guess we'd both be looking for the same thing but still find it would be awkward . I recently found a new ad looking for a playmate .. After a few basic questions with one guy things started to sound familiar so I investigated further . To sum it up after the info I gathered I'm about 99% sure this guy is my brother !! I've had my suspicions in the past about his sexuality but didn't give it much thought . I kinda freaked and quit talking to him. I would in no way want my family to know of my desires and he is also very discreet but very careless with the info he gives a total stranger. I can't tell him what I know without giving my own secrets up . He didn't ask much about me and I misdirected him to throw him off in case of the slight chance he knew it could be me .. Now I'm really unsure about continuing my search for a playmate .
Has anyone else ever had the issue of coming across a friend or relative while trying to be discreet ?
Even if you did meet someone who you know, or a family member so what? Stop being such a pathetic coward, and tell the family member or the person in your community that you're bisexual, it's seriously no big deal. :rolleyes:

Nobody cares if you're bisexual or gay now, and if they do you do not want them in your life; but why would they be on Craigslist looking to hook up with a man then?

If you are married or partnered you should not be cheating on your spouse/wife/husband, BF/GF whoever it is.

If that guy who you are corresponding with is your brother he probably knows he's related to you and just who you are, just talk to each other it should not be that big of a deal that you're bisexual and he's bi or gay.

You do not really know if this guy is your brother though so ask for a picture of him, or to talk on the phone.

Or just actually call up your brother or meet up with him and sit down and tell him how you're bisexual.

[void()]

No I've not really had an issue similar. It does sound rather dramatic,
could even be traumatic I suppose.

This is a contributing factor to being reclusive. Not saying you'll
become reclusive. Rather, it is a factor what contributed to me becoming
reclusive.

It is also why I often find myself pining for men in other states,
otherwise some distance away from my location. There is little chance of
meeting someone who could consider visiting with me off-line. One nutty
guy from this site did though. :)

That was and remains a wonderful experience, meeting the guy from off
this site. We still talk at times via instant messaging, email, here.
He understands I am passionate and love unconditionally. Even if he is
involved with someone else, I am glad he is and still love him.

And no I'm not the psychotic stalker type. *chuckles* I still love him
in a very healthy and sane way, if you consider unconditional love sane.
*chuckles* There is no drama or trouble between he and I, we remain very
good friends. :)

Recently, been chatting up with a lovely twenty something guy, in an RPG
me and him play off and on. Think he comprehends that I am gradually
crushing on him. Yet again he is some distance from me, living in
England. Also think he is crushing back on me.

This young man seems to ignite a spark of lust too. As much as there is
the effeminate romance for me there are as well the powerful desires of
sex. This young man has different skin color from me, and for me that
really does not matter.

I have been a lover of a black man before. I don't see colors,
religions, politics or any of that other bullshit. I see the people for
themselves wholly. Besides this, I enjoyed very much, being a lover of a
black man. ;) :)

Some men have great strength, true strength. Yet they are as gentle as
lambs, whilst also being great physical lovers. I digress though.

You may see why I don't have your concerns exactly. I'm kind of
chicken in avoiding the type of situations you describe. Being highly
passionate, I cannot handle drama or a lot of stress. These are dire
vulnerabilities I have and to compensate, I hide somewhat. It really is
not to distance myself from people despite it doing so.

Well, i have rambled enough in this thread.

[biwmtrucker44]

I always worry about that sort of thing with mixed emotions.My son is gay and we had belong to the same gay dating site that he met his partner on, I think I have seen his partners profile on there.
If I run in to some one I know on here that I didn't know was bi or gay then they probably are in the closet and not much of a chance of them saying any thing about me.I think my son knows I am bi even though we have never talked about it.when he was in early teens he saw me on a web cam J/O site I bloked him from that site because of his age

[MNPervert]

Over the years I have run into people I know both male and female. I never led on who I was. However what has happened to me more than once is run into someone that I had a fling with. Thankfully they were cool and discreet acting like it's the first time we met and then thanking me afterwards for not outing them. I told them I was just as guilty for cheating as they were my lips are sealed.

[darkeyes]

If we do anything secretly there is always the chance of dicovery and by way if bumping into one we know.. it happened to me at the end of my 1st marriage.. and once I was at a (lessie) party when I walked into the conservatory and bumped into one of my closest friend's mum in clinch with a girl younger than me.. I never had an inkling about her and had known her since I was 5 or 6. I could see the panic on her face but assured her no1 would ever hear of it from me. Outing people is not my thing. 8 or 9 years later she is still closeted and no way would I ever reveal her secret. Her daughter, my friend is unaware as are her brothers or anyone else I know of.. she was long divorced by the time I found out so it wasn't a case of cheating, except maybe herself..

...and how often in our lives have we bumped in2 or seen people canoodling or snogging peeps that society would consider they shouldn't (not necessarily gay or bi encounters either)? Dunno bout u but quite a few occasions ever since I was at school...

[cornholejoe]

i have met a few people i knew online it worked out great

[sisboy]

Most times they have the same conerns as you.If you meet an aquaintance and get along good and satisfy each other go with it.Life is too short.

[sysper]

discovering ur brother would be pretty creepy. or an ex would be awkward. but a coworker or just someone else u know......why not? as long as it's not ur boss or anything like that i don't really see a problem. plus there probably gonna wanna keep a secret just as much as u. u could be missing out on a chance to be with someone u could be real happy with even if it's for a nite at a time lol.

[pepperjack]

discovering ur brother would be pretty creepy. or an ex would be awkward. but a coworker or just someone else u know......why not? as long as it's not ur boss or anything like that i don't really see a problem. plus there probably gonna wanna keep a secret just as much as u. u could be missing out on a chance to be with someone u could be real happy with even if it's for a nite at a time lol.

Actually, discovering a co-worker happened to me once, in the midst of hooking up on another site. We got to the point of phone conversations when I thought his voice sounded familiar. He backed out at the last minute; frustrating & pissed me off.

Weeks later, there he was, hitting me up again. I decided to try again because he was so apologetic. He was paranoid I wouldn't like him. There ya go sysper, something for you to ponder with all of your fearful indecisiveness.

Anyway, he finally came over one nite & sure enuff, we recognized each other as former co-workers for a major local employer. Turned out to be a relaxed & somewhat erotic encounter ( him displaying his 8" cock just inches from my face but no actual sex. ) The 2nd encounter was pretty hot ! Good porn as a prelude, me going down on him when I saw him getting erect, then a spontaneous move to the bedroom where he climaxed while sucking me.

He left happy, satisfied. Haven't seen him since......" ces't la vie. " :suave:

Have also had a couple of experiences with former bosses.

One was a local gay millionaire who owned a very posh, popular restaurant & offered me a job there, because of ulterior motives. To make a long story short, he came onto me, I rebuffed him, & he made my life a living hell for awhile thereafter.

The 2nd was my last boss whom I suspected of discovering my ad on CL , recognizing my phone number ( he naturally, had it in my personnel file ). Was getting really strong "vibes " from him. Same kind of sexual harassment on the job. See my blog, The Chef & I. A case of mistaken identity because of that ad. Still a mystery to me of how he perceived me as bi & became so brazen in his advances.:rolleyes:

[charles-smythe]

Hello group

I've been interested in finding a discreet playmate somewhat close to my area . I've been looking thru CL adds and communicated with a few guys about potentially meeting . I have a paranoia about possibly knowing the people I may encounter and having a very awkward situation . I screen the guys with a few basic questions to get an idea if I may know them.. Like a possible coworker or something . I guess we'd both be looking for the same thing but still find it would be awkward . I recently found a new ad looking for a playmate .. After a few basic questions with one guy things started to sound familiar so I investigated further . To sum it up after the info I gathered I'm about 99% sure this guy is my brother !! I've had my suspicions in the past about his sexuality but didn't give it much thought . I kinda freaked and quit talking to him. I would in no way want my family to know of my desires and he is also very discreet but very careless with the info he gives a total stranger. I can't tell him what I know without giving my own secrets up . He didn't ask much about me and I misdirected him to throw him off in case of the slight chance he knew it could be me .. Now I'm really unsure about continuing my search for a playmate .
Has anyone else ever had the issue of coming across a friend or relative while trying to be discreet ? …It’ll be as awkward for them as you…you’ve got to just take a chance…

[Visexual]

I would love to discover that a good friend, who I already liked as a person, was also bi and interested in me. I'd have no problem with it at all.

I did run into a guy I knew once. He, and his wife, were teacher friends of my wife. We didn't have much in common other than our bisexuality but it was fun for a few months.

[fredtyg]

For me, running into someone I know can work both ways. If he's someone I find sexually attractive, fine. If not, uh oh! I actually ran into both situations from one Craigslist ad a few years ago.

Posted a Strictly Platonic ad titled something like "Any Bi Married Guys Want to Chat". I wrote no sex required or expected although it was always a possibility later on if things work out.

Aside from the usual flake replies, I got what looked like two good ones, except one guy signed his reply with his real name. I knew him and considered him a friend but he just wasn't my type. He was also- for whatever reason- one of those guys I'd really rather not know about my sexuality. If nothing else, I wouldn't want him hitting on me. After some deliberation, I just ignored his e-mail.

The other guy didn't identify himself right away and we started of with some fun chat. The second day he e-mailed me and told me he knew who I was, also telling me who he was. I was surprised but didn't mind at all. I'd only met him in person once. He was cute, intelligent and a fun guy to be with. We chatted pretty steadily for about a week before it just ground to a halt. I think he might have gone back into closet mode, although I've had some brief e-mails with him on other subjects since then.

I wouldn't have minded getting sexual with him but he lived in a different town- the main obstacle, aside from us both being bottoms.

[Christopher South]

I love the thought of actually knowing a guy and also having sex with him, a friend with benefits type of thing. Being closeted and married it would be a great excuse to get out.

But generally I do the screening thing too. And I'm totally secretive to the point of not using my real name or town when meeting a guy. No phone numbers either.

[SilkyHoseLover]

I think I'd enjoy running across someone I knew and discovering that he was also bisexual, and hope that he would feel the same about me, regardless of whether we had an attraction to one another, or not.

Several years ago, my wife was engaged in 'drunk talk' with the female half of a couple with whom we shared a spanking relationship. They wound up talking about us -- their husbands -- and would up intimating to each other that we both had a fetish for wearing pantyhose and other lingerie. I was a little embarrassed at first, but when I thought about it, I decided that it was pretty cool. This is an aspect of my personality that I have always felt that I had to keep concealed, but I really relished the thought of being able to talk about it openly and joyfully with someone who understands my desires.

As it turns out, the other husband and I did have a brief chat about it shortly thereafter, but he didn't seem to be too keen on having any further discussion beyond that one time.

My feeling is, I am what I am, and I'm a decent person, so I'm happy to talk about what I like with others who share these feelings. Same thing with being bisexual -- you like what you like! There's not a lot of sense in trying to deny or change it.

[cornholejoe]

one time i met a guy who was my cousin we knew each other for years never had a ideal we liked to do bi sex so we got together and did a 69 and fucked each other in the ass only did it the one time but it was fun :impleased

[pepperjack]

68 CE... Suicide of the Roman Emperor Nero, bringing to a close the reign of the Julio-Claudian Emperors. The year of the 4 Emperor's begins with the accession of Galba culiminating in the crowning of Vespasian the following year.

Wrong thread , Dark :smilies15

[darkeyes]

Wrong thread , Dark :smilies15not ne more.. oops... :yikes2:

[pepperjack]

not ne more.. oops... :yikes2:

Too much partying in France got you disoriented? ;):smilies15

[darkeyes]

Too much partying in France got you disoriented? ;):smilies15Just got distracted for a mo and did wee booboo, Pep.. it happens 2 the best of us..

..no partying tonite btw.. not for me.. my turn tomoz!:impleased

[cuttin2dachase]

The last 2 places I lived were rural and out in the country, but within 30 miles of a major city and within 5 miles of a small town. I was surprised at the number of ads on craigslist and other mm sites that were placed by men within 10 miles of me. I could host anytime and was always looking and initiating emails and chats with them. I knew many guys personally or by sight from work and from the several nearby taverns I frequented. I was always aware that any nearby guy I chatted with online might turn out to be someone I knew well or casually or had seen somewhere. I had stopped posting or sending face pics for that reason, because I had been stalked a couple of times by guys who recognized me when I used to send and post face pics. It is creepy to know that someone recognizes me and might out me to friends or family or try to blackmail me. Luckily, nothing ever came of the stalkings. Several times I would be sent a face pic and recognize the guy. Some guys I chatted with would blab personal info that revealed to me who they were. Some even had an email address containing their real name. I never let on that I knew them or knew who they were. I had to make a judgment call as to whether to hook up with them or not based on how well I knew them or how well I thought I could trust them to keep a secret. I got up the nerve several times to go out and meet a few of them who I thought were hot. I had seen them around and not formally met them. I was nervous about it, but as it turned out none of them recognized me and we went to my place and had a great time. There was another guy I met who turned out to be a guy I had worked with and knew casually. I was certain in my own mind before we met that he was not someone I knew. I was surprised and initially shocked when we met face to face for drinks (as was he), because we are both very str8 looking and acting and closeted. We would have never connected otherwise or ever suspected each other as cocksuckers LOL. After a drink or two we laughed about it and said to each other "I won't tell if you won't" and then went back to my place for another fun time. I had more luck with guys I'd never seen who were from the nearby cities, although a few of them I wanted to bring home were spooked out of following me home when I told them I lived off the main road on a dirt road out in the country LOL

I now live in a major metropolitan area and have purposely not made many str8 friends. The only people who recognize me (other than the men I meet) are clerks, waitstaff, bartenders, etc in places I frequently shop or eat or drink or meet men. They don't know my family and I don't know any of my family's friends so I don't have to worry about ever being seen with a guy and having it get back to a str8 friend or family member. In a little over a year I've hooked up with more than twice the number of men that I met in the previous 14 years living alone in the country :)