Urge to suck after 30 years

[lovetocamp]

Hello All,

It has been 30 years since I sucked cock, and lately I have had the urge to do so. Let me explain a little...

I was 10 years old, and I asked my uncle if I could suck his dick; (he is only 4 years older than me) and he said sure. We did this for a 3 to 4 year span, as I only saw him a couple of times a year. Every time we met up, he brought it up and asked me to do it and I did. He really got into it, and once did a strip show in front of me in a river once.

As we both grew older, we did not see each other anymore; I got into high school messed around with the gals, and got married.

I met up with my uncle after 30 years via web; and a phone call. We plan on getting together and catching up. Now, my questions are:

1) Does anyone think he remembers what we did?
2) He is married and so am I; is there a chance we could re-live what we did years ago; I want to, but not sure if he does.
3) How should I ask him if he does not ask me?
4) Should I not even bring it up to him

I know time will tell, but I was looking for some advice from my friends on Bi Sexual.com

[Waylon]

I am sure he remembers.
I think there is a good chance.
Just ask him when you have a private moment.
Go for it.

[Christopher South]

you: "We sure did some strange things when we were younger."
him: "yeah"
you: "ever think of doing them again?"

[pole_smoker]

Hello All,

It has been 30 years since I sucked cock, and lately I have had the urge to do so. Let me explain a little...

I was 10 years old, and I asked my uncle if I could suck his dick; (he is only 4 years older than me) and he said sure. We did this for a 3 to 4 year span, as I only saw him a couple of times a year. Every time we met up, he brought it up and asked me to do it and I did. He really got into it, and once did a strip show in front of me in a river once.

As we both grew older, we did not see each other anymore; I got into high school messed around with the gals, and got married.

I met up with my uncle after 30 years via web; and a phone call. We plan on getting together and catching up. Now, my questions are:

1) Does anyone think he remembers what we did?
2) He is married and so am I; is there a chance we could re-live what we did years ago; I want to, but not sure if he does.
3) How should I ask him if he does not ask me?
4) Should I not even bring it up to him

I know time will tell, but I was looking for some advice from my friends on Bi Sexual.com
That's fucked up, and no you should not have been doing that at that age, and you were taken advantage of and sexually abused.

This argument that it's all about "love", "sexual exploring", etc. is just a cover-up of a deeper issue here. Somewhere down the family line no proper boundaries were given, and sexual abuse happened or is happning. I wouldn't be surprised if most of your family line had some severe sexual abuse going on. So, this isn't about love in his family or exploring of sexuality, but disrespect, power, abuse/sex abuse, and control. Get help, and don't try to seduce your uncle that's sick.

[matutum]

I'm laughing hard-

[pole_smoker]

I'm laughing hard-
That's also disturbing, but you would do well in the Roman Catholic church as would other sick people who think the abuse that happened to the original poster is no big deal. :rolleyes:

[charles-smythe]

Hello All,

It has been 30 years since I sucked cock, and lately I have had the urge to do so. Let me explain a little...

I was 10 years old, and I asked my uncle if I could suck his dick; (he is only 4 years older than me) and he said sure. We did this for a 3 to 4 year span, as I only saw him a couple of times a year. Every time we met up, he brought it up and asked me to do it and I did. He really got into it, and once did a strip show in front of me in a river once.

As we both grew older, we did not see each other anymore; I got into high school messed around with the gals, and got married.

I met up with my uncle after 30 years via web; and a phone call. We plan on getting together and catching up. Now, my questions are:

1) Does anyone think he remembers what we did?
2) He is married and so am I; is there a chance we could re-live what we did years ago; I want to, but not sure if he does.
3) How should I ask him if he does not ask me?
4) Should I not even bring it up to him

I know time will tell, but I was looking for some advice from my friends on Bi Sexual.com …there’s no doubt he remembers…casually let him know that you remember too…then give him an easy opening to ask for a blowjob…who cares how many wives he’s got…they are in the point of marriage where she’s lost interest in sex…

[pole_smoker]

Don't lie and cheat on your wife and have an affair. That's cowardly. Tell her how you are bisexual, and see if she is OK with an open marriage.

Your uncle is creepy and disgusting and it's best if you have no further contact with him at all, or have sex with him again as that's sick and just wrong.

[tenni]

Interesting and I don't think that this is that uncommon between boys 12-16 when they are at the beginning of being horny with little outlets. More than may be thought have had young men around this age at least jerk off with a friend or wipe out their dicks. As long as no one has been forced, there are usually return desire and no abuse is seen. It is when the age difference is great (10 + years) and it is a young boy being seduced by the elder boy with force that scars may be left.

The one thing that is curious is that you as a ten year old hit on your uncle. As a ten year old, how did you know about sucking cock? Had you seen porn? Had some other boy introduced you to dick play?

At any rate, it seems that you both enjoyed in back then. It also is not uncommon for boyhood cock play returns as a desire after decades. Have you been thinking about this or has the return of your uncle entering your life stirred desire?

[Lances_63]

Pole_smoker, I respectfully disagree with your over generalization. I was about 13 and my male cousin was about 16 and we used to hang out. It progressed very slowly to fondling each other but no oral or anal sex. I have the fondest memories of being with him and I still get hard just thinking about it. He finally came out as gay and I am married for almost 30 years. My wife has no idea and she likes him very much. He and I have never repeated what happened so long ago, but I sure would in a heartbeat if the opportunity were presented.

Cheating on my wife? It would be. But I think it would cause her more pain to find out the truth that I have this very hidden desire than to keep a secret. I bet all couples have some sort of secret. Something that they could not or would not tell their spouse. Sometimes we have to lie to protect those we love the most.

[pepperjack]

Don't you know it's completely pointless to disagree with ps respectfully?

[pole_smoker]

Pole_smoker, I respectfully disagree with your over generalization. I was about 13 and my male cousin was about 16 and we used to hang out. It progressed very slowly to fondling each other but no oral or anal sex. I have the fondest memories of being with him and I still get hard just thinking about it. He finally came out as gay and I am married for almost 30 years. My wife has no idea and she likes him very much. He and I have never repeated what happened so long ago, but I sure would in a heartbeat if the opportunity were presented.

Cheating on my wife? It would be. But I think it would cause her more pain to find out the truth that I have this very hidden desire than to keep a secret. I bet all couples have some sort of secret. Something that they could not or would not tell their spouse. Sometimes we have to lie to protect those we love the most.

Typical excuses of a deeply closeted coward, and liar that is in denial that he was sexually abused by his creepy male cousin . If you really actually loved and cared for your wife you would tell her you are bisexual...instead of being a lying closeted coward. :rolleyes:

What happened between you and your cousin was incest , abuse, and fucked up.

No, not all couples keep secrets from each other. My husband and I are both bisexual, have been out to each other and our families for a long time, and neither of us keep secrets from each other since that is something insecure people who should not be in a relationship together or ever marry do. ;) :smilies15

[Lances_63]

Typical excuses of a deeply closeted coward, and liar that is in denial that he was sexually abused by his creepy male cousin . If you really actually loved and cared for your wife you would tell her you are bisexual...instead of being a lying closeted coward. :rolleyes:

What happened between you and your cousin was incest , abuse, and fucked up.

No, not all couples keep secrets from each other. My husband and I are both bisexual, have been out to each other and our families for a long time, and neither of us keep secrets from each other since that is something insecure people who should not be in a relationship together or ever marry do. ;) :smilies15

Maybe some day I can be as smart and honest and enlightened as you. Until that day, I guess I will just have to struggle along being human.

[Lances_63]

Don't you know it's completely pointless to disagree with ps respectfully?

One of us has to show respect. I know it won't be PS.

[pepperjack]

You're too nice to that vicious troll, Lance, a perfect victim. Put him on ignore.

[pepperjack]

One of us has to show respect. I know it won't be PS.

Show respect to those deserving of it.

[jem_is_bi]

Maybe some day I can be as smart and honest and enlightened as you. Until that day, I guess I will just have to struggle along being human.

I recommend you keep your secret to yourself. I see no up-side from causing you wife distress. I have secrets that are mine alone to know. Being able to have secrets is important to my sense of individuality, a part of my life that belongs only to me. You will have to decide for yourself which secrets fit in that category and those that don't.

[Lances_63]

I recommend you keep your secret to yourself. I see no up-side from causing you wife distress. I have secrets that are mine alone to know. Being able to have secrets is important to my sense of individuality, a part of my life that belongs only to me. You will have to decide for yourself which secrets fit in that category and those that don't.

Thank you Jem. I appreciate that!

[pole_smoker]

I recommend you keep your secret to yourself. I see no up-side from causing you wife distress. I have secrets that are mine alone to know. Being able to have secrets is important to my sense of individuality, a part of my life that belongs only to me. You will have to decide for yourself which secrets fit in that category and those that don't.

Typical excuses from someone that condones people lying and cheating on their spouses. :rolleyes:

His wife should know he was sexually abused by his cousin, and has cheated on her with men, and that he's bisexual. This is not the 1950s or 1960s. :rolleyes:

[Lances_63]

Typical excuses from someone that condones people lying and cheating on their spouses. :rolleyes:

His wife should know he was sexually abused by his cousin, and has cheated on her with men, and that he's busexual. This is not the 1950s or 1960s. :rolleyes:

"busexual"? I never had sex with that bus.

I sure pity people who are so fucking self righteous and in such a hurry to point their crooked little finger that they lose sight of humanity.

[pole_smoker]

"busexual"? I never had sex with that bus.

I sure pity people who are so fucking self righteous and in such a hurry to point their crooked little finger that they lose sight of humanity.

That should be bisexual. My tablet keyboard did that.

I feel bad for your wife since you do not love her, and she has been married for decades to a liar and cheater that is deeply closeted about his sexuality as though this is the 1950s or 1960s. :rolleyes:

The people condoning or making up excuses that it is fine for a bisexual man to lie to, and cheat on his husband or wife are just as bad, and are total bottom feeders just like cowardly men that refuse to talk to their spouse who they claim they "love" when these people should never have gotten married since they do not know what love is. :rolleyes:

[Lances_63]

That should be bisexual. My tablet keyboard did that.

I feel bad for your wife since you do not love her, and she has been married for decades to a liar and cheater that is deeply closeted about his sexuality as though this is the 1950s or 1960s. :rolleyes:

The people condoning or making up excuses that it is fine for a bisexual man to lie to, and cheat on his husband or wife are just as bad, and are total bottom feeders just like cowardly men that refuse to talk to their spouse who they claim they "love" when these people should never have gotten married since they do not know what love is. :rolleyes:

Then you should never ever communicate with me again.

[pole_smoker]

Show respect to those deserving of it.

People who are closeted about their sexuality, and who lie, and cheat on their male or female partner, or spouse deserve no respect or pity at all since they are bottom feeders.

[SilkyHoseLover]

pole_smoker proffered this delusional alibi:
"That should be bisexual. My tablet keyboard did that."
Good God! Now the king of moral absolutism has resorted to the ridiculous. When you were a little pervert, Poley, I'll bet your dog had a stomach ache from all that homework he ate, didn't he? :rolleyes:

Anyone with a tablet -- I have an iPad -- TRY to make it replace bisexual with busexual, I dare ya. :rolleyes: In the first place, there is no such word. Is autocorrect going to replace a legitimate word with one that doesn't exist? (only in pole_smoker's world...) And, isn't it curious how the 'i' and the 'u' are next to each other on the keyboard. Hmmmmm...

Lances_63, please don't feed the trolls...;)

Not picking on you, but there are a couple of inconsistent statements in your story:

First, you say:
I was 10 years old, and I asked my uncle if I could suck his dick; (he is only 4 years older than me) and he said sure.

In a subsequent post, you write:
I was about 13 and my male cousin was about 16 and we used to hang out. It progressed very slowly to fondling each other but no oral...

I can overlook the age discrepancy, since this continued over a period of a few years, but ---- no oral sex? What is sucking his cock? This is a little Clintonian, in my view...

[pole_smoker]

To all the cheaters, liars, and bottom feeders or people who excuse this type of behaviour:
I have no sympathy or patience for someone who feels the need to cheat on their partner or spouse like you have. If you're that unhappy then communicate it and try to resolve things. Failing that just leave, get divorced, and stay divorced.

If you cheat I relegate you to someone who has morals, and values on the level of barnyard animal.

If you choose to cheat that's your problem and I retain the right to see you as a inconsiderate douchebag. Don't want to be judged? Then keep your dick and ass in your pants.

You want to treat sex as an animal game and just follow every impulse of your genitals, then you're an animal and sub-human. A fully matured adult can communicate and rectify a situation. If that means enduring some hardship from divorce, break-up, or whatever.. well you made the commitment and so did she, don't blame anyone else but yourself. Cheating is excusing responsibility and you can't justify it. Unless you want to be a barnyard animal in your case. ;)

[Lances_63]

Silky, a couple things:

1. Thank you for appreciating my catching PS in that "busexual" crack.
2. I am going to listen to the advise of those of you here who are advising me to not feed the trolls.
3. It was lovetocamp that sucked his uncle at 10 yrs old. I was 13 when I played with my cousin.

I enjoy this site very much and I feel there are a great many worthwhile people here, with one very obvious exception. I value the opinion of (nearly) every one of you here. Please always feel free to offer advice and support.

[charles-smythe]

I recommend you keep your secret to yourself. I see no up-side from causing you wife distress. I have secrets that are mine alone to know. Being able to have secrets is important to my sense of individuality, a part of my life that belongs only to me. You will have to decide for yourself which secrets fit in that category and those that don't. …I agree…

[SilkyHoseLover]

Hello, Lances_63


3. It was lovetocamp that sucked his uncle at 10 yrs old. I was 13 when I played with my cousin.

Ooops -- my mistake. Very sorry to have confused you two. :oh: I read all the posts through before commenting, but didn't notice the difference in the poster names when I went back to fish out the apparently-conflicting statements. Again, sorry about that...

Glad that you enjoy the site, most users are courteous and respectful, even in disagreement. PS is the obvious exception. He's the self-anointed expert and arbiter of morality around here. (Where's my throw-up pot?)

[pole_smoker]

Hello, Lances_63



Ooops -- my mistake. Very sorry to have confused you two. :oh: I read all the posts through before commenting, but didn't notice the difference in the poster names when I went back to fish out the apparently-conflicting statements. Again, sorry about that...

Glad that you enjoy the site, most users are courteous and respectful, even in disagreement. PS is the obvious exception. He's the self-anointed expert and arbiter of morality around here. (Where's my throw-up pot?)
Nope I'm one of the only sane people here who is not a troll or bottom feeder like you are. :rolleyes:

[SilkyHoseLover]

Ah, I see you still have me on your ignore list, Poley. :rolleyes:

BTW -- you forgot to include 'hater'. You're losing some of your predictability...

[Grub Worm]

Do what you want,and the hell with PS,and whoever. I have thick skin, u can say anything online, I bet he would have a different tone in person. Cyber bullies are just that,no real life skills.

[pole_smoker]

Do what you want,and the hell with PS,and whoever. I have thick skin, u can say anything online, I bet he would have a different tone in person. Cyber bullies are just that,no real life skills.
:rolleyes: If I ever saw you in person I'd still call you a deeply closeted coward, and sick person to your face. But then again I would not even have to say that since you know you are these things. ;)

[cuttin2dachase]

Just put small_poker on ignore like most of the rest of us decent, open-minded site members have already done. I haven't read a word he's written since I put the ig on him a few months ago, however I am forced to read quotes of his rantings posted by other site members in order to get a context. I wish EVERYONE would out him on ignore and not ever even quote him. This thread was started in good faith by lovetocamp to get support and advice from those who are in his position or have been in his position. Instead the thread has been hijacked by small_poker and others who won't and can't resist telling him off and putting him in his place. It's futile because he has no place. Please don't quote me in any replies. It'll just agg him on. He's the kind of person who is best talked about behind his back. He would absolutely hate not being able to read what is being said about him. He craves and basks in the attention he gets. He derives pleasure from being offensive and cruel to others. He delights himself in spewing his hitleresque vitriol and hatred to all who will read his harangues. He belittles others because it makes him feel better about his own pitiful, pathetic, self-loathing self. He frequently calls others trolls or bottom-feeders or uses terms like 'coward' or 'fucked up' or 'insecure'. He is all those things himself. He's a puritanical, and megalomaniacal, sociopath for whom I have the utmost disrespect. He needs help but he is in ultimate denial that there's anything wrong with him. The only thing we should give him is our prayers.

[pole_smoker]

Just put small_poker on ignore like most of the rest of us decent, open-minded site members have already done. I haven't read a word he's written since I put the ig on him a few months ago, however I am forced to read quotes of his rantings posted by other site members in order to get a context. I wish EVERYONE would out him on ignore and not ever even quote him. This thread was started in good faith by lovetocamp to get support and advice from those who are in his position or have been in his position. Instead the thread has been hijacked by small_poker and others who won't and can't resist telling him off and putting him in his place. It's futile because he has no place. Please don't quote me in any replies. It'll just agg him on. He's the kind of person who is best talked about behind his back. He would absolutely hate not being able to read what is being said about him. He craves and basks in the attention he gets. He derives pleasure from being offensive and cruel to others. He delights himself in spewing his hitleresque vitriol and hatred to all who will read his harangues. He belittles others because it makes him feel better about his own pitiful, pathetic, self-loathing self. He frequently calls others trolls or bottom-feeders or uses terms like 'coward' or 'fucked up' or 'insecure'. He is all those things himself. He's a puritanical, and megalomaniacal, sociopath for whom I have the utmost disrespect. He needs help but he is in ultimate denial that there's anything wrong with him. The only thing we should give him is our prayers.
I know you're not reading this; but you're simply only describing yourself when you are calling me a megalomaniac/sociopath, person full of self loathing/puritanical, spewing hatred, etc. But you don't even know me, and never will. You're the true coward/troll/bottom feeder...but that's why you're deeply closeted, divorced twice, and living in a small room in your mom's house. LOL :smilies15 :rolleyes:

Who knew that being against incest and sex abuse of children is being considered 'puritanical' by the haters, trolls, and bottoms feeders here on this site? :rolleyes:

[Oztrich]

There is NO way he has forgotten it. Coming out with something like this would, however, be dangerous. Primarily because it's in the family. Things will have changed a LOT and what once was could likely be not the same now. I am not a moralizer at all, but you're venturing into very risky territory...

[tenni]

I think that what Ostrich states has some validity but I do think that you should discuss this with your uncle privately. It should not be suppressed. Hear his reaction and memory before any discussion of resuming your play with him. As Oztrich states a lot has evolved since then. The rest of the family doesn't have to know anything but a discussion should happen between you.

[pole_smoker]

I think that what Ostrich states has some validity but I do think that you should discuss this with your uncle privately. It should not be suppressed. Hear his reaction and memory before any discussion of resuming your play with him. As Oztrich states a lot has evolved since then. The rest of the family doesn't have to know anything but a discussion should happen between you.
There's no need at all for him to have any contact with his disgusting and creepy uncle that sexually abused him.

He should just cut off all contact and communication with his creepy relative.

I mean seriously WTF cheating and someone lying and staying deeply closeted are all horrible, pathetic, sad, and cowardly but only someone who is sick and fucked in the head would want to cheat on their spouse/wife/partner who they supposedly love with a relative that sexually abused them when they were a kid. :rolleyes:

[Lances_63]

Hello, Lances_63



Ooops -- my mistake. Very sorry to have confused you two. :oh: I read all the posts through before commenting, but didn't notice the difference in the poster names when I went back to fish out the apparently-conflicting statements. Again, sorry about that...

Glad that you enjoy the site, most users are courteous and respectful, even in disagreement. PS is the obvious exception. He's the self-anointed expert and arbiter of morality around here. (Where's my throw-up pot?)

Hey, silky, no problem. I do make mistakes and don't mind be called out on them. Thanks for the apology.